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JOHN  W.   PfllLIP. 

Commodore  United  States  Navy,   the   Illustrious  Com- 
mander of  Battleship  Texas  in  the  Naval  Eagage- 
meiu  at  Santiago  in  which  Cervera's  Spanish 
Fleet  was  destroyed. 

"'What  a  Young  Man  Ought  to  K"Dw'  im- 
presses me  as  a  volume  of  such  serious  import- 
ance and  such  skilful  handling  of  a  delicate 
subject  that  1  have  placed  it  upon  the  reading 
table  of  the  Cob  Dock  Library  in  this  Yard 
(Navy  Yard,  Brooklyn,  New  York),  with  the 
expression  of  the  hope,  written  on  the  fly-leaf, 
that  'many  sailor  men  will  pick  this  book  up 
and  read  it.' " 


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Kn«4I.*  N  I*    M«  ». 


REV.    F.    B.    MEYER.    B.A. 

M.„i.,„„f(hr^.  Church,  VVeMminst.r.  London,  Author  c^ 
Mrae.,  A  Prince  with  God,"  "  Elijah  ;  1  Vied  by 
Fire,"  "The  Bell,  of  I,,' etc..  etc. 
••  The  quest/ons  wiiich  are  dealt  with  in  the  '  Self 
and  Sex  bene.'  of  books  are  always  being  asked 
and  If  the  answer  is  not  forthcoming  from  pure  and 
w.se  l.ps  u  will  be  obtained  through^icioas^a^d  em 

sS  ;fr''%    '  ^S-^f-«  g-'tly  commend  Zs 
seiies  of   manuals,  which   are   written    lucidly   and 
purely,  and  w.ll  afford  the  necessary  information  wtth 
out  pandermg  to  unholy  and  sc.rsual  passion.     There 
has  been,  m  my  judj,'ment,  too  much  reticence  on  the 
whole  of  th.s  subject,  and  nameless  sins  have  ^rigi 
nated  in  ignorance  or  m  the  directions  given  to  young 
I'fe  by  VICIOUS  men.      I  should  like  to  see  a  w-'de  and 
judicious  distribution  of  this  literature  among  Chris- 
tian circles. "  «*""«HJ  v^urw 


VVM«r    KMiwBNr    T'mtym.m   i"  A%«»n«i<  a    M»», 


FRANCIS   E.   CLARK.    D.D. 

Founder  of  the  Younu  People's  Society  of  Christian  En- 

deavor,  and  I'rfsi<lc'nt  of  the  I'nitcd  Society  of 

Christian  Kiidcavor. 

"I  regard  Mr.  Stall's  new  book  enti- 
tled 'What  a  Young  Man  Ought  to 
Know,'  as  of  exceediufr  value  to  everv 
youth  just  entering  upon  manhood.  It  is 
written  reverentl\  but  very  plainly,  and  I 
believe  will  save  a  multitude  of  young 
men  from  evds  unspeakable.  I  shall  give 
it  to  my  own  son,  and  commend  it  to 
other  young  men  as  I  have  opportunity." 


>V,.«T    K«,s«,r     !•►, «    ,,    «,„,.»,„    H«, 


-■■■:' '"J- V-.-  ; 


FREDERICK   ANTHOr.  C   ATKINS. 

Editor  of  -Tlu-  VouriK   Man,"   "The   Young  Woman." 
Ihc    Home    McssenKcr,"  Antt.or  .       •Moral 
Muscle."  "I-irsf  nattles.""A.pi,,aion 
and  Achifvements." 

"I  think-  yon  have  dotic  a  very  difficult  work 
with  sreat  delicacy  and  caro.  Such  hooks  as 
yours  have  lon^  heen  needed,  and  if  they  had 
rippeare.l  sooner  many  a  social  wreck,  whose 
fall  was  due  to  ignorance,  mipht  have  heen 
saved.  V(ni  have  ^iven  young  people  informa- 
tion which  ought  not  t.i  he  hidden  from  them 
hy  any  false  and  foolish  mode^^ty.  information 
which  may  protect  them  from  many  a  hlunder 
and  sin,  and  you  have  given  it  with  purity  of 
thought  and  delicacy  of  expression." 


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Ri:V.  JOHN   CLIFFORD,   M.A..    D.D. 

Min.stcr    of    VVcsthourne   I'ark    (  h..p.;.    ;.,,„.,,  „(    „,, 

t.eneral  'taptut  M.,Kaz.rc,  an.l  c,  duor  .,f  tl>c-  Ke- 

view    of   the     Churches.     Author  of    '  Da.ly 

htrenulh    f.,r  Daily  Living."  "Dawn   of 

Manhood."  etc. 

"What  a   V.i.ng   Man   Ought   to   Know'   is 
certainly   one   of   the    best    hooks    for   dawning 
"•anhood    that    ha.    fallen    nn.     n,y    hands.     It 
yucs  to  the  r.x.ts  of  hiunan  living.     Jt  is  thor- 
""glily   manly,     h   does    not    sh.rk   the  difficidt 
problems  of  l.fc.  and  yet  it  handles  these  prob- 
lems so  as  to  make  the  study  a  help  to  self-re- 
straint and  an  in>piration  to  self-mastery.     Dr 
Stall   has   laid   the   rising  generation    under  an 
immense  obligation." 


Mfm^r   MwiMaMT    l>w,rt.a  i»  Aaaaic*   Ma«( 


THE   RIGHT  REV.  WILLIAM   N.    McVICKAR.    D.D. 

Coadjutor  i'rotestant  Kpiscopai  Hishupof  Rhode 
liland. 


"I  heartily  ciulorse  and  rccommentl 
'What  a  Young  Man  Ought  to  Know.' 
T  bcHeve  that  it  strikes  at  the  very  root 
of  matters,  and  ought  to  be  instrumental 
for  much  good." 


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REV.  HORACE   PORTER. 

Formerly  Aim.cu.c  |-..st..r  w.,h  Dr,     .\l.l„..f   .-.n.l  ll.lli, 
of    I'lyiiKMlth  (  luirch.  Hr.KjIclyn. 

"I   regard  St..ll\   |{,,   k,  „i  tl,,-  Sdf  an. I   S.x 
Series    as    a    (;..,|  sr,„l    to    this   R.rurafi,.,,.      In 
niy    ..piniun    n,,    ..tlur    ..tu-    man    Iias    .l,,,,,.    so 
Krcat   a  sor\  Ja-   to   his    ffllow-.nni.   even    i.i   all 
'•■story,    as    Dr.    Stall    i.     .loing   ihro„«!,     tlu.se 
'•"oks.     They  reach  the  very  foun.latioMs  nf  lif.. 
••n  which  all  character  ,>  l,„ilt.      It  s,o.n.  to  „,. 
that   this   series  of  hooks   f,,r  men   and   women, 
hoys  and  Rirls,  mrst   uork  a   revolntion   in  hn- 
man  kind  if  given  M.fficicntly  wide  distribntion." 


W«4ip   n«iiiB»T    t*«itrt.B  iH  AMaax  a    m*«. 


ROBERT    WLIDENSALL. 

Secrrtary  of    the  Inlcrn.'ituinal    Committrr  N'oung  Mcii'i 
(  hristian  Association. 


"Dr,  Stall's  hooks  aro  pure  poltl.  Tlioy 
ctial)le  yoiini,'-  men  to  lui'k'rstatKl  the 
mystery  of  their  own  i)0(hes,  and  the 
pnrpose  aihl  meaninij^  of  their  deepest 
emotions.  The  aut!ior  is  frank  and  can- 
<h(l — he  tells  the  whole  trnh.  hut  in  a 
pure,  clean  and  ennohlinjj^  wav.  Y.  V. 
C.  A.  Secretaries,  pastors,  teachers  and 
philanthroi)ists  should  all  seek  to  place 
these  hooks  in  the  hands  of  hoy;;  an<^l 
young  men  everywhere." 


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»in,»  IN  Am««„  4   «4y_ 


EDWARD   BROOKS,    LL.D. 
Superintendent  of  i'ublic  Schools.  I.h.ladelphia.  Pa. 
"I  gladly  :ompJy  wuh  your  request  to  express 
«•"  opn.   .  ,pon  the  work  -What  a  Young  Man 

Ought  to  Know,' a  copy  of  which  you  sent  n.e. 

My  first  n.press.,n  is  that  you  have  treated  a 
Jehcate  subject  witli  preat  dehcacy  of  thought 
='"cl  expression,  and  at  the  same  time  have  pre- 
•semed     practical     information    of     inestimable 
value  to  the  youth  of  ti)e  country.     The  lessons 
of  purny  that  the  little  volume  teaches  lie  at  the 
basis   of  personal     character   and   a     healthful 
social  life." 


Wbat  Kmin»,v    T«w>,^..  ,m  A»«.,ca   Hat. 


ETHELBERT  D.  WArtFIELD,  LL.  D. 
President  of  L;fayette  College.  Easton,  Pa. 

"I  have  examined  with  great  interest  and  sat- 
istaction  the  advance  copy  of  your  book,  'What 
a  \oung  Man  Ought  to  Know.'  The  subject  is 
one  oi  the  utmost  personal  and  social  import- 
ance, and  Imherto  has  not  been  treated  so  far 
as  1  am  aware,  m  such  a  way  a.-,  to  merit  the 
comnendation  of  the  Christian  public  The 
l)road  and  pure  spirit  in  which  you  have  ap- 
proached the  subject,  the  thorough  and  systeni- 
a he  way  in  which  you  have  discussed  it,  and 
tlie  high  purpose  which  you  have  indicated  as 

ZClT^Lr'   "'.  T''  ^'"^•"^^   man's    Hfl 

which  shonMh""'  °^^"]f  "''""^^  ^^^"^  ^"d  one 
wnic  1  should  be  cordially  rece  ved  by  all  whn 

are    interested    in    the    development    of     ound 
morality  in  our  cou.ntry. "  ^ 


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FRANK    W.    OBER. 
Editorof  -Men."  the  international  paper  of  the  Y.M.C  A 

carefully  exa,„ine.i";h""£l  „V  cl7  b,u  ,°t 

of  n  wV  •,  ^''^  chapters  on  The  Choice 
time  y^M,;;"^  ,7"  '^^-^-^^^'  "e  especiaUv 
book  he.rtil  /'^■■^^"'■e.  'n  commending  the 
book  heartily  and  unqualifiedly  to  young  men 

the  w  Sed  hlnnH^''-^'^   manhood,  wrecked  bv 
wretchud  blunderings  of  an  ignorant  youth  " 


'^■AT  Kminbnt    T>Bnpi.a   i* 


J.  WILBUR    CHAPMAN,    D.  D. 

The  Eminent  Evangelist;   Pastor  of   Bethany  Prcsby. 
terian  Church.  Philadelphia. 

"I  have  very  carefully  looked  over  your  book 
entitled  'What  a  Young  Boy  Ought  to  Know,' 
and  wish  to  say  thai  1  cannot  understand  how 
you  could  ever  perform  a  heiter  service  than  to 
have  given  this  book  to  tiie  boys  of  our  coun- 
try. I  wish  to  personally  thank  vou  for  what 
you  have  said  in  that  book;  and  I'wish  I  might 
commend  it  to  parents  everywher  .  that  they 
might  place  it  in  the  Hands  of  their  boys.  I 
have  also  had  the  recent  privilege  of  examining 
youi  book  entitled,  'What  a  Young  Man  Ought 
to  Know,'  and  I  bear  willing  testimony  that  I 
btheve  this  book  ought  to  be  in  the  hands  of 
every  young  man  in  this  country.  It  would 
give  us  better  citizens  in  the  future,  and  would 
help  us  to  hve  more  nearly  as  God  would  like 


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WJLLiAM    T.    STEAD. 
^'"""°"<-"-""<-=-.'-o,.J„.,E„.,.„,. 

„l7  '^°"^?'"''''"^  you   and   tl,e   writers 

s  ^h'i:;;  '^'^i  '■■"'""•-"'  "p°"  the  i: ! 

a  verv  ,;«;,?    7'  '"'''"•«'  '"  h^"d"ns 

waV     I    *,""  f?r«  '"  '  ^^O-  delieatf 

erest  o      „^''°'"''''>  "««s^ry  in  the  in- 

able  h,f  '  e"'"'^"o,,s  that  indispen- 

an    o    ll''™;'""  "P°"  ""■  '"O^t  impor- 
tant of  al!  subjects  should  be  accessible 

lu-  T.T""    ^'"'  •™"  "^«  accontpl  shed 
e     '"  ^^°  .^"^■«-'^'-"".v  mt,st  be  the  sub- 
ject of  lasting  satisfaction   to   vou  and 
your  staff."  ■        ^"0 


From  J.  A.  WORDEN,  D.D., 
The  Eminent  Sunday-School  Worker. 

( Unsoiici'td. ) 
•'  Your  hook,  'What  a  Young  Boy  Ought 
to  Know,"  must  have  oeen  given  unto  you  b 
the  Father  in  heaven,  both  in  its  concepti(,n 
and  composition.  The  idea  of  cleansing  the 
heart  and  way  of  the  young  man  by  God's  truth 
in  His  works  as  well  as  in  His  word  is  a  sug- 
gestion of  the  Spirit.  Your  manner  of  eluci- 
dating .  nd  elaborating  these  facts  and  truths 
is  in  the  first  place  faithful,  then  delicate, 
and  avoids  both  coarseness  and  prudishness.' 
May  God  bless  and  use  your  book  which  He 
has  evidently  animated." 


From  EDWARD  W.  BOK 

Kditor  of  the  L.dle.' Home  Journal. 

(Unsoliciitd,) 

x^J^  "   '?/   ■""""  "^  -ngra.ula.i„„ 

a^you  have. old.  Wha.  a  Young  Boy  Ought 

•o  Kn         _.  ,^,j  .,  ^^  directly,  and  in  a  way 

-'ghuly  .nterened  in  this  general  subject,  aj 
I^confes,  .   at  your  boo.  has  appealed  t^  Te 

Other  books  have  told  othe.-  things,  but  you 
have  compassed  the  whole  subject.  Consider 
me  most  recept.ve  to  the  books  which  I  ,ee 
are  go.ng  to  follow  this  one.  You  may  depend 
upon  my  hearty  recommendation  of  the  pr"- 
entbook  wheneve.it  falls  into  my  wavt'oda 


Pfom  EUGENE  H.  PORTER,  M.O. 

Preiident  of  Homeopathic  Medical  Society  of  the  St-te  of 
New  York  ;  Pro(e„or  Materia  Medica.  New  York  Hom- 
eopathic Medical  College  ;  Prcfeisor  Diiea.es  of  Stomach 
and  y  ver.  Metropolitan  Tost-Graduate  School ;  Attend- 
ing Physician.  Laura  Franklin  Hospiul  for  ChUdren. 

"  Vour  boo'c  entitled  '  WTiat  a  Voung  Man  Ought 
to  Know  '  I  examined  with  great  interest,  an<i  Wieve 
It  to  be  a  most  valuable  work.     The  subject  treated  of 
seems  to  me  to  be  well  selected,  and  presented  in  a 
manner  which  could  give  no  possible  offense  even  to 
the  most  critical.     We  should  especially  commend  :he 
volume  for  its  reliability  in  statement  and  as  a  medical 
man  I    highly  indorse  the  medical  teachings  of  the 
book.     It  is  trustworthy  and  sound.     It  is  a  work 
which  should  be  in  the  hands  of  every  young  man. 
^  ou  are  to  be  congratulated  on  the  successful  comple- 
tion  of  your  delicate  task." 


f«m  RALPH  WALDO.  MO, 

Gyn«cologi.t  to  Lebanon  Ho.piul.  New  York  Ci.y  .nd 
Cbainnan  of  u.  Med.cai  Board  ;  In.uuc.or  of  Gyn.col- 
ogy  at  the  Po.t^r.du*te  Medical  School. 

"  I.  ^';^  "*^"  ^''°''^  ^'^  instance  where  .  young 
nu^  has  followed  the  life  of  a  l.berune  and  ha.  not  con 
tracted  one  or  more  varieties  of  venereal  disease  ;  and 
unfortunately  fo;  their  families  later  in  life,  these  dis-' 
eases  are  m  mar.y  in,f    ;es  not  completely  cured,  but 
are  transmitted  to  their  wives,  and  not  infrequently  to 
their  children.     Self-poUuUon  is  most  harmful.     From 
the  above  facU  as  posiUrely  revealed  by  modern  science 
every  mtelligent  parent  is  called  upon  to  teach  their 
boys  and  girls  that  chastity  is  the  only  course  for  them 
to  follow,  especially  as  it  leads  to  good  health  and  in 
no  instance  produces  disease." 


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**Z^*^  *  ^<>»^  Husband  Ought  to  Know.' 
^Wh*t  A  Man  ol  45  Ought  to  Know." 


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By  Mrs.  Mary  tVood-.^Ulni,  M.  Z?., 
And  Vrs.  I^mma  F.  A.  Drake,  M.  D. 
I  Vhat  a  Young  Girl  Ought  to  Know." 
'  Vhat  A  Young  Vomaa  Ought  to  Know." 
Vhat  a  Young  Wife  Ought  to  Know." 
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PURITY  AND  TRUTH 

WHAT    A    YOUNG 

MAN 
OUGHT  TO  KNOW 

BY 

SYLVANUS  STALL,  D.  D. 

Author  of  "  What  a  Young  Boy  Ought  to 
Know,"  "  What  a  Young  Husband  ( Jught 
to  Know,"  What  a  Man  of  45  (  '  ight  to 
Know,"  "Methods  of  Church  Work," 
"  Five-Minute  Object  Sermons  to  Chil- 
dren," "Talks  to  the  King's  Children," 
"  Faces  Toward  the  Lig     ,"  etc. 

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The  Yol'xg  Mkx  who  Should  be 
Pure  and  Strong. 


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CONT'^NTS. 


Preface, 


zzi 


CHAPTER  I. 

EQUIPMENT   FOR    LIFE. 


This  the  grandest  period  of  the  world  in  which 
to  live. — All  departments  of  life  open  to  young 
men  of  brain  and  brawn. — Capacity  and  power 
indispensable  requisites.— The  world  has  always 
worshipe<l  strength.— Physical  development  in- 
creaangiy  cultivated.— The   weak    man   goes 
down  in   life's  fierce  struggle.— The  man  with- 
out nealth  is  handicapped. — The  physical  the 
indispensable     foundation. — Man's      physical 
powers   surpassed    by   the  animals.— Intellec- 
tual and    moral    natures   elevate    min    above 
the  animals.— Highest  culture  in  the  develop- 
ment of  our  threefold   nature. — Injury  to  any 
one  impairs  the  other  two. — Moral  nature  first 
to  suffer  from  vice. — The  intellect  suffers  next. 
-  -No  treatise  complete  that  ignores  the  moral 
or    intellectual. — God    made    the    higher    to 
rule  over  the  lower. — The  lower  nature  must 
be  made  subordinate. —The  moral  and  mtel- 
lectual  must  be  made  to  dominate.— Dr.  Par- 
ker's illustration  of  the  castle. — Not  the  scav- 
engers, but  the   man   in  the  citadel  to  rule. 
— The  physician's  test  of  idiocy. — The  intel- 
lectual and   the  moral   natures  assigned  their 
proper  places. — Enthronement  of  the  moral  and 
mtellectual   saves   and  redeems   from  solitary 
and  social  sins, 21-2& 

CHAPTER  II. 

PfSON.A,L   PURITY. 

"Keep  thyself  pure."— Goo  has  made  no  mis- 
take in  givinj;  us  a  strong  se.xual  nature. — Sex- 

I   ..::    \ 


ftt 


CONTEM\ 


uahty  strongly  marked  in  all  great  men. —The 
mastering'  of  u  strong,'   rxuality  <levelo|)>:  the  ^x^st 
there  IS   in  human  i.    ure—Vour  struijL'le  no 
more  fierce   than  that  of  other  men  —  I  hou- 
fiamls  slaves  to  lust.— Kvil  thouj^hts  will  enter 
the  purest  mind.— The  sin  i.s  in  harlwrin^  them 
— 1  ollution  practiceil  in  the  mind.— Novels  ap- 
jieal    to  the   amative   and    sexual.— The    Ixist 
iHK.ks  for  the  formative  years— Works  of  art  — 
^ude  pictures  pollute  the  imagination.— Purity 
of  -speech  —A   vile   story   may   cling  to    you 
through    life.— Importance   of    pure   bloml  _ 
^^  holesome  food.— (Jod  made  the  hog  to  .serve 
a.s   a    scavenger,    and    not    as    food.— Moral 
purity  dei>ends  upon   a  pure   heart.— Christ's 
exp'anal.on  of  the  new   birth.— The  spiritual 
nature  reaches  out  after  God.— The  sick  in  the 

ho.spitAls  turn  their  faces  toward  the  light 

1  hey  do  not  know  why.— By  a  similar  spiritual 
instinct  all  men  reach  up  after  God.— The  help- 
ful   influence  of  a  pure-minded  woman.— One 
standard  of  virtue  for  both  men  and  women. 
—  1  he  double  standard  a  relic   of  barbarism 
—Intelligence  and  virtue  safer  than  innocenc- 
with  Ignorance.— Charlatans  who  prey  upon  the' 
VICIOUS    and  unfc,tunate.— No     right-minded 
man  will  desire  to  degrade  his  body  or  that  of 
another.  — The  true  man  will  proiect  and  en- 
throne the  virtue  of  women.- Pei>ional  purity 
of    greatest    importance.- Effect    of   conduct 
upou  character— If    you    demand    purity  in 
vour  bride  she  has  an  equal  right  to  demand 
it  in  yoa.— \our  conduct   will  determine  the 
character   of   your   children    that    come   after 


PAGI 


you 


29-48 


CHAPTER  III. 

PHYSICAL   WEAKNESS, 
^tu.iv   your  physical  powers. —Inherited 


ness. — A 


weak- 


ccjuired  weakness.— I niprojier  food.— 


COSTEyTS, 


Eating  at  irregular  hours. — Sleep. — Itscharac 
ter  and  (juaniity  —hirst  hours  of  tlienijjht  the 
best. — Troubled  and  broken  .-Icep. — Sleeping 
«.i'  feathers. — Single  beds  to  be  preferred. — 
I'hysical  weakness  from  .sr'f  ,ciflicted  cau.ses. — 
Self  jH)llution  weakens  the  intellect,  deba.ses 
the  moral,  undermines  the  physical. — Ignor- 
ance the  fruitful  source  of  this  sin. — Duty  of 
parents. — Seeking  development  by  mechanical 
means. — A  continent  life  not  detrimental. — 
Testimony  of  phy.sicians  throughout  Kur.;pe. — 
The  testimony  of  Dr.  Napheys. — Physicians 
of  New  York  city. — No  room  left  for  doubt. — 
— (Jnly  safety  in  immediate  and  complete 
abandonment. — The  sin  and  its  consequences 
inseparable. — Eventual  victory  can  be  secured 
over  passion. — When  medical  aid  should  be 
sought. — The  physician  who  advises  sexual 
intercourse. — Such  a  physician  a  party  to 
an  infamous  crime. — The  young  man  who 
will  resolve  need  not  despai:. — Consult  only 
the  physician  of  moral  character. — Seminal 
emissions,  or  wet  dreams. — Quacks. — Emis- 
sions normal  and  abnormal. — Testimony  of  re- 
liable medical  authority. — How  often  they 
may  occur  without  injury. — The  testimony 
of  Dr.  William  Acton.— The  fallacy  that  the 
sacs  must  be  emptied  because  full. — Emis- 
sions should  be  reduced  to  the  minimum. 

— The  ofhce  of  the  glands. — Like  the  labo- 
ratory in  a  Chemical  establi.shment. — The  en- 
tire   reahsorption    of    all    the   seminal     fluid 

ideal. — Continence    demanded  of  athletes. 

Samson  and  Delilah. — The  cause  of  sexual 
weakness  lies  back  of  the  emission. — The 
physical  .nature  drained  \,y  excessive  secretion. 
— The  cf.ect  of  th«  mind  upxjn  these  glands 
illustrated. — Purity  of  mind  of  primary  import- 
ance. —  Suggestions.  — Cleanliness. — Weekly 
and  daily  bath. — linportance  of  bodily  exer- 
cise— Distinction  between  exercisi  and  recrea- 
tior. — Dumb-bells,    Indian-clubs,     etc. — Im- 


PAOB 


coyTEyTs. 


Ii! 


portanre  of  exercise  in  the  open  nir— I.inuor 
destructiveof  virility— Some  l.ri«'f  rules  — Ab- 
sorhitiK  puqnjsein  life.— Strive  for  eminerK  e 
—Advice  of  Dr.  Acton  — Ahstinence.-The 
evening  meal— Karly  risinjj  — IFow  to  prevent 
lymK  on  the  Luck.— Meilicic^  of  Utile  value  _ 
Imjx)rtanceof  a  helpful  will.— Cauterization  — 
Kxercise  of  the  will  in  arousing  the  patient 
from  lascivious  dream.-=,  .         .         '         49-03 


CHAITKR  IV. 

EVILS   TO    UK    SIIUIJNKI)   AND    CONSEQUENCES   TO 
DRUADEn. 

Fr,r  .some  .sins  the  perpetrator  the  principal  suf- 
ferer.—Social    sins   enlarge   ''  e   circle.— The 
innocept  and  un.su.specting  involved  — Conse- 
cmences  of   .social    vice — Not  visible   to   the 
eye.— rhe  prevalent  ipiiorance  concerninc  dis- 
eases which  affect  those  who  are  puMty  of  un- 
lawful sexual  inte.course  — The  character  and 
conse(|uenccs  of  these  diseases  should  be  made 
known.—  rheirprevn'ence alarming.— A  Chri.s- 
tian  public  should  take  up  aims  in  defence  of 
home.- Patriots  should   stamp  it  out  to  save 
the  nation. -Why  physicians  do  not  acquaint 
their  patients  with   the  nature  of  the  disease. 
—All  forms  of  .enereal  diser.se  are  serious.— 
The  gonorriuia,  or  clap.— Its  course  and  con- 
sequences.—Testimony  of  Dr.  Napheys.— The 
outline   picfire    filled    in.— Chorde-    and    its 
consequences.- Stricture    and    its    horrors  — 
l|ubo.  —  Hemorrliage.— Consumption    of     the 
lesticle.— Danp^t-r   from   cntching  cold.— The 
gleet.  — How   blindness   often    re.sults.- -Rem- 
nants of  the  disensft  may  rem.iin  for  years  — 
How   healthy  l,rides   become  invalid  wives.— 
Ihe  testimony  of  eminent    physicians.- Many 
guilty  husbands  the  author  of  their  own  misery. 
—An  instance  named.  -  What  Dr.    Guernsey 
says.— rhe  terrible  possibilities  and  probabili- 
Ues.— After  seemingly  healed,  gonorrhx-a  often 


DK 


coyTEyTs. 


reappears— lUlaniii^  ami  partial  Iom  of  sexuai 
mcmbtr.— A  spurious  alieititjn  jx>s.sil)le,     .  931-^ 

CIIAITEk  v. 

eVlLS   TO   UK   SHt'NNK.r*   AND   CONSKQUKNCES    TO    H.; 

IiRFADKI). 

(Coniinued.  ) 

Similarity  between    chanrroid    and    ch.-ncre — 

I  heir  (liHcrence  indicated— (hancroid  usually 

a  simple  disease  —Sometimes  it  has  its  horrors. 

—Mental    suflVrioK    and    medical    risk.— The 

first    symptoms.  — |{ulH)es    may   follow.— How 

chancroid   an  1    chancre   are    di.scriminate<l. 

1  he  three  stages  o^  syphilis.— I'rimarv,  secom.- 
nry  and   tertiary   forms.— The  symptoms  and 
horrors  of  each  sta^'e  pointed  out.— Some  dark 
pictures.  — The    destructive    developments    at 
different  peri(Hls.— Can  it  J^e  cureo  —Authori- 
ties differ.— Hoth  sides  .stated.— Hut  few  ca.ses 
are   radically  and    permanently    cured  —May 
return    after  many    years.— Ignorance  of  real 
character   of  .syphilis.— May  a  man  who  has 
had  .syphilis  ever  .safely  marry  —French  special- 
ist says  "Never."- Opinions     f  other  physi- 
cians. —Our  own  advice  adverse  to  such  mar- 
naues.— ITie   effects  upon    wife  and    child.— 
jjow  the  innocent  wife  is  affected  and  ruined 
for  hfe.— 1  he  diseased  child  if  not  Ijom  dead 
IS  a  source  of  contaj^on  to  all  who  touch  it.— 
If  It  lives,  the  disease  handed  down  to  third  and 
fourth  generation.— Prevalence  of  syphilis.— 
Statistics  given.— Efforts  to  "regulate"   vice 
only  spread  venereal  diseases,     .         .         109-134 

CHAPTER  VI. 

EVUS  TO  BE  SHUNNED    AND  CONSEQUENCES    TO    BH 

DREADED. 

(  Continued. ) 

The  results  of  sexual  excess  best  seen  in  our  hos- 
pitals, pnsons  and  insane  asylums.— How 
transmitted  to  the  innocent  and  unsuspecting 


sii 


rnSTEXTK 


rAoa 


\pi 


—  I»r.     Nrtphrys"     opinion.  — Most     (langrrou-i 
I>rri.Hi     for     tr.insmiitin«     ihr     disraic- 1  hr 
I  rcr  (hjjiasslilf.w.r  — (  ,.mmiit)i(nir.|  l.y  drink- 
'"K  tUI'S    towcN,  brushes  nii.I   romhs.  |)y  kiss- 
m(f.  nn.l  ev,M.    l.y  shakinjj   handv  —  I  ht- puMic 
slK.uM  lie  i..(nisr.I.— I).va>r,i    <  attic  wouLI  Ix. 
'luanintinr.l  — Mrn  and  w,mu-n  exf)osr<l   with 
iMipuniiy  — M,Mi    known    to  hav,- >vi.hdis  wel- 
rotne.!  int.)  <lrawinn  rooms  —Ihrir  da;n{hlrr-i 
.•x[K,se<|    _  I'arrnts     pr..f..undly    i^jnorant.  — 
Nyphilis   found  m   all    davsrs  of  sod.-ty  —No 
pTlot  safcf^ruard  —  Much   to   Ix-  dread.-d,  hut 
n<  t   as  trmhlc   as  it   on<  r   was._Hi|ation  of 
sy  >hilis  to  scrofula,  canct-r,  consumption,    etc 
—A  picture   terrible    with   <]irf  posMhilitics  _ 
Knof)unif:enipnt    and    a.ssisian(  r   to  l)e  oirordwl 
to  those  seeking  relief  and  cure  —Hope  of  sai- 
vatiop— Ihe  duty  of  I  Iin^tians.—"  Salvation 
to  the  uttermost. "—rhc    uni  appy  victim   a.s  a 
warning  to  others.— We  dart-  not  l)e  indifferent. 
—  Duty  orphysicians— Danger  from. juacks  — 
n.)mes  of  Help.— Kffects  of  venerea!  .lisea.ses 
iifKin  the  moral  character.  —Importance  of  per- 
.sonal  purity— How  men  lirenk  down  the  har- 
riers which  (iod   has  set   up— p:ven  the  most 
debased  can  rise  to  a  noble  manhood.— Voung 
men  need  manly  strengtti  and  character.— Mis- 
taken   th.nights     concerning    the    marrieil. 

Married   life   will    «»lso  cal!  for   self-control. 

Duty  to  yourself.- Vice  expensive  of  health, 
money,  happiness,  character,  ami  often  of  repu- 
tation.—.\bstain  from  impure  and  unlawful  in- 
dulgence.—For  yvjur  own  sake  —For  the  sake 
of  the  swe.t  girl  you  hope  to  have  as  your  wife. 
— For  the  >ake  of  the  children  whom  you  would 
have  to  be  pure.— uwo  it  to  your  parents  and 

^°^°<1 135-153 

CHAPTER  VII. 

THE    RKPRODUCTIVE   ORGANS— THEIR    PURPOSE    AND 
THEIR    PROSTITUTION. 

God  has  ccferred  upon  man  the  high  and  holy 
function  of  transmitting   life. — Proper  views 


COSTESTS. 


fili 


woalrl  roTTCct  many  virM—Marrijigr  one  of 
the  tfreatcM  sounrs  <»f  man  i  MrHMti^;  an<l  hap- 
|,ine!w.— Object.H  th  it  have  life  havr  rrpriKliic- 
tivejxjwer. — Keprotltictivr,  not  rrradvc,  [towrr 
—  Inlcnflrcl  for  thr  j)rrj>rfuulion  of  life Ani- 
mate ol-ecls  (lividrd  into  three  (lajwcH— In 
lowest  cla.H.H  the  ser<l  matures  on  the  exterior  of 
the  plant. —  The  rr|>ro<iii(ti\      or^jans  of  plants 

often  the  source  of  its  l>eaufy  and   fra^jrance. 

1  he  male  and  fcniaie  rcpnMluc  tive  organs  fre- 
f|U»-ntly  iinite<l  in  |  lants— S.mietinu-s  sepa- 
rate<l,  -The  Mower  in  iti  passion  of  U-nuty 
and  frajfrancc  when  the  seed  is  to  he  fertili/e<l. 

—  -  ITie  flower  illiistrat'-s  hiiin.in  life  and  exjxr. 
ricnce— In  the  next  ^dir,  dass  the  see<l  i» 
developed  within  the  Ixxly  of  the  female, 
passes  out,  and  is  incubate<lo.  hatched  in  a  va- 
riety of  ways.  —  ITie  rea.son  for  this.—  ITicgenn 
or  egK  much  larger  than  in  the  higher  fonns  of 
''f^ — In  ib's  cla-ss  the  male  organ  is  fre<|uently 
anepalive. — In  some  cases  there  is  no  Lxnlily 
contact. —The  human  i)e.ng  the  highest  form  of 
development.- The  cepi  ductive  organ  on  the 
exterior  of  the  txxly  and  fully  exposed.— Mas- 
turbation  passible  only  to  mj.-.  and  monkey. 

—  Instances  among  animals   very  exceptional. 

—  Man  endowed  with  intelligence,  moral  icnse 
and  a  conscience.— Without  the  perfect  human 
hand  man  would  not  rise  above  the  level  of  the 
hca-st. — With  the  human  hand  man  confers 
blessings  and  inHicLs  curses. —  The  sacredness 
of  these  organs.— The  ''anger  from  ignorance 
upon  this  subject,         .         .         .  155164 

CHAPTER  VIII. 

THE  RIGHT  RKI.ATIOM  TO  WOMEN. 
Correctly  understand  the  nature  and  character  of 
women.— Study  human  nature. — We  .should 
have  an  exal.ed  ideal  of  the  character  of  wo- 
men.— A  woman  may  rise  higher  or  sink  lower 
than  a  man. — Avoid  the  man  who  says  that 
women  are  all  of  easy  virtue.— Three  classes 


»JV 


iVsS'TKyTS. 


«n 


of  virinu*  mm  — 'Ilxwr  who  frrqurnt  hfmif%  of 
proilltuliori  —  I  IhMr     ;    «mvm-<|      o|      Mif!iclrnt 
lllr^n^  wild  NU|)|i<)rt  ■  privair  |)r<»»'i(utp        i  h<M« 
who  >r<luic  yoUMK  ^firln.  -  .su.  h  ii  tiinn  <lr%rrvp^ 
to   \<c   hun^j.  —  l)ttiiKrr   «o   y<mrn{  |>frs<.riH  aUcr 
«fi  rrijja«rtnrnt  of  marrinKr  has  Ucri  Joniictl 
'Ihr  rut     and  rpiiiorv  of  ihoM*  who  (Id  wronjj 
—  I  hr  tn\r    fvlly  slatr.l  -   Never   lK-tr«y  cond 
dcntc — Aasotiaie  only  with  the  pure,      .      IO5  17c 

<  HAITI  K   IX. 

MARklACK— A    DIVINK    INSTITin  ION. 

No  man  inu  nfTonl  to  think  or  sjK-iik  hjjhtly  of 
marriage  —I  ht-  ff>c  of  mama+jp  ihp  f,,<-  of  pvc- 
rythinjj  ^'>hk1.  —  Itc^j.i.enitctl  pul)  c  sentiment 
U|)on  thr  Mil.jctt  of  nmrriaRe  —  Kasy  divorce 
and  |M)ly>;amy.  — Mamavje  not  simply  a  civil 
compact —I nstitute.l  hy  (;od._Thc  divine  law 
U}H)n  thr  Milijrrt  of  <liv(>rre.  —  For  ah.'o  hu 
u.an  legislation.— Hie  c^urt  can  adjust  only 
the  civil  relation— Ilie    duty  of  ministers    to 

those    who  have    lK«n    previously  <Uvorce<l. 

Marria^'e  the  only  inslitulion  that  has  come  from 
the  ( Jarden  of  I  .den.  ~( itxl  united  one  man  with 
one  w /.nan. —  Ilie  fact  that  [X)|ygamy  is  men- 
tioned does  not  pive  it    the  sanction  of  (.od's 

Word— 'I'he     Hible    condemns     polyjfamy. 

Three  i.ii|v»tant  events  in  the  life  of  every  per- 
son.—Hirth.marri^e  and  death.- Marriage  and 
death  seal  destiny  as  no  other  events  can  do.— 
Marriage  involves  the  happiness  of  many  anJ 
the  destiny  of  generations  yet  unborn— Mar- 
riage should  he  made  the  subject  of  fre<iuent 
jM-ayer.—I'ray  fjcfore  blinded  by  love,      .     171-178 

CHAPTER  X. 

WHO   SHOULD   NOT   MVRRY. 

For  various  rea.sons  it  is  inexpetlient  for  .some 
persons  to  marry.  — Neither  the  Church  nor 
the  .^tate  has  the  right  to  impose  ceUbacy.— 


cnsTrs-n 


tv 


The  imli*  iunl  Hah  ihr  ntjht  to  .  hnotr  for 
him%fir  —  No  rulr  lan  l>r  Uid  tiowii  ;  it  niu^t 
\>r  rnlirrly  prrv)!^!. — 'Ihosr  having  hrrolitniy 
trndrtH  ir^  to  (.>r)>umpti<>n  nhoild  not  iiiarry.-- 
'Ihr  rrn.vin—  ihr  rr%ultn  whm  mi»ma^{e  it 
<<>iUraitr<l  — Kcw  will  hrlir  r  thry  have  tlie 
•  litrRsr  — l.(N>k  U|.  thr  lumily  rn  or«l  -  I  ho 
saiiK  in  also  tmr  o(  iriMmily  — No  Linn  or  wo. 
man  havinjj  svphili'*  should  he  (irnnittrd  to 
marry  under  any  » ircinistanccji. — The  inno- 
ffnt  thildrrn  must  Ixrar  the  rcsult.i  of  the 
parents'  lun, 179  iSj 

ClIAriKk   XI. 


TIIK   SKIKiTION    OK    A    WIKK. 

Mu<  h   hap{)ine<M  or  misery  wrap|>ed   op   in  thin 
one   iransaction. — No  dchmti- rule  <  nn  l>e  hid 
down  — S)me  general    principles. — \'ou  will 
need  a  wife. —  1  he  weak,  sickly  and  nervous. — 
Vounjj  men  frequently  blinded  l>y  lov  •  and  re- 
jient     later.  —  Injurious     result.s    arising     from 
tight  lacing. — Kc>ull.s  in  s  .ious  displacement.^. 
— Totally   untits   for  the    marriage  relation. — 
Consumption,  tul^rculo"     and  white- swelling. 
— The  connection  l)etween  them. — The  family 
physician    will    not   always   give  rehablcinfor- 
mation. — 'Ilie  family  i>cdigree.  —  Woman  m  the 
physical  sphere,  as  a   clas.s,  has  failed. — Sla- 
very  to    fa.shion.  —  Marriages    iictween   parties 
physically  une<|ual. — Vou  will  need  a  compan- 
ion.— Choose  a  wom-nn  of  inlelligence. — Some 
women  are  **  good,  but  g<xxl   for  nothing."  — 
Select  a  woman  who  will   l)egin  and   continue 
in  hai-mony  with  your  .sympathies  and  ta.stes. — 
Illu.strations. — "Can   two   walk    ti>gether  ex- 
cept they  be  agreed  ?" — Choose  a  woman  who 
V  ill  be  a  gtKxi  housekeeper. — Any  one  l(K)ks 
well   in  silks  and   costly  apparel.  — The  Bible 
picture  ofa  virtuous  and  indu.stnous  woman. — 
If  virtue  and  purity    are  wanting    everything 
else  is  wanting. — God  created  woman  not  only 


IVI 


C0ATA.V7'.S. 


i-Aca 

to  hccomo  .1  V  ifo,  I)ut  ai-;o  a  mother. — No 
lioiiie  witliDUt  I  hildreii  can  ho  jicrfeclly  happy. 
—  I'hcrc  should  he  no  ^^rrat  dispar  v  of  a^e. — 
The  reasons  —  llie  "  t  hanjje  of  ,  fe.  — Ke- 
— Frojuently  unhapp'ness,  and  even  sui- 
.oe. — Child  marria^je. — No  young  man  can 
aJTord  tf)  marr\  simply  for  money. — .\  woman 
is  not  less  wortiiy  Ifciauso  she  hxs  money. — 
Mix  your  Jfeclioiis  witli  brains.  —Marry  your 
e(jual  rather  than  your  inferior  or  superior. — 
Choose  a  wtiman  who  is  devout  ami  godly. — 
Von  will  \>c  largely  what  your  wife  makes  vou. 
— l]e  judicious, 15^5-205 

CIIAl'TKK   XII. 


IMI'ORI  ANCK    OI'    CRKAT    CAUTION. 

Marriage  is  for  life,  and  a  tni.stake  is  irreparable, 
often  fatal.—*  )ne-third  of  all  young  women  are 
uaciualilied  ever  to  become  wives  or  mothers. 
—  I'hj  rea.sons,  false  ideas  of  form,  cruel  and 
destructive  fashion  and  pernicious  eo  ation. — 
The  clothing  of  the  body. — Tendency  to  insan- 
ity.— Sometimes  not  noticed  until  "change  of 
life"  occurs.  —  The  wife  will  dominate  and  rule 
you  in  spite  of  yourself.  —  Powder  and  apparel 
often  mislead. — Obtain  the  opinion  of  some 
di.sintertsted  and  sensible  woman. — Do  not 
despise  a  pretty  face,  but  a  healthy  body  and  a 
loving  heart  are  to  be  preferred. — A  woman 
may  meet  the  ordinary  requirements  of  life, 
but  fail  in  the  great  events  which  try  men'.s 
souls. — Bound  to  a  body  of  death. — Be  warned 
by  the  sad  experiences  of  .such  men  as  Wesley, 
Fei^uson,  Milton,  Ruskin  a  d  Robertson, — 
Most  men  what  their  wives  make  them. — What 
has  been  said  has  been  not  to  discourage  mar- 
riage, but  to  save  from  making  a  fatal  mistake. 
— Thousands  of  men  owe  their  success  to  the 
noble  woman  whom  they  call  wife. — There  are 
many  noble  women,     ....      207-215 


COyTESTS. 


xvU 


CHAPTER  XIII.  """^ 

EARLY   AND    I.ATK   MARRIAOK. 

Many  diflerent  views.— Karly  marriage  to  one 
means  something  entirely  difTerent  to  another. 
—Child  marriage  in   India.— Results  seen   in 

stature,  intellect. — Some  Norwegian  cattle. 

Marriage  in  England.  — The  child  wife  loses 
bloom  and  vigor.— Healthy,  robu.st  children 
not  bom  to  child-parents.  -Marriage  should 
wait  on  maturity.— As  a  rule  the  husband 
should  be  three  years  the  senior  of  his  wife.— 
'l"he  wife  grows  old  more  rapidly  than  the  has- 

band. — Mo.st  noticeable  in  advanced  years. 

Reasons  why  marriage  is  often  wisely  deferred. 

— Dangers  in  the  doctrine  of  early  marriage. 

Nature  and  revelation  teach  that  it  was  clearly 
intended  that  men  and  women  should  marry. 
— The  man  who  declines  to  marry  wrongs 
others. — Late  marriages  have  their  peculiar 
disadvantages.— After  the  age  of  thirty  the 
habits  become  fixed.— Each  must  yield  per- 
:^nal  preferences  for  mutual  benefits.— Proba- 
bilities of  a  happy  marriage  rapidly  decrease 
after  a  man  passes  thirty  year  of  age. — Study 
God's  purposes  and  conform  to  them,     .     21'; -2 26 

CHAPTER  XIV. 

WEDDINGS. 

Customs  differ  greatly. —Entrance  upon  real  life. 
— Start  aright. — Elaborate  dressing  and  ex- 
pensive display.— The  real  purpose  obscured 
and  lost  sight  of,  —  The  Hindoos.  —  The 
preparation  for  display  by  rich  and  poor 
attended  with  its  own  sad  results. — The 
custom  of  giving  wedding  presents. — Pres- 
ents often  selected  for  vain  display  rather 
than  usefulness. — The  presents  often  worth- 
less.— Bridal  tours. — Their  original  inten- 
tion.—  Retirement  and  quiet. — At  present 
it  is  entirely  different.— Question  of  expense. 


xviii 


cosTEyrs. 


— 'I'he  liride  nnd  liridc's  paron's  to  Mame  for 
till-  display  nnd  extravaj'ani  •. —  I  lie  tlfrjjy- 
inan's  iec. — \Vfddiii(.'-  and  mticrals  slutuld 
iitvLT  l>c  exjH,'n.sive. 


TAOm 


-'^7-2J3 


ciiArri  iv  XV. 

IIINDKANCIS     1(1    liK    AVDIDI'.D. 

A  man  "known  ly  tlu-  company  he  keeps." — 
I  (unpanions  mould  cliarai tor. — Many  di-ttr- 
mined  to  have  "af^ood  time." — Wo  hve  Imt 
once,  we  should  tlurcfore  live  wisely. —  Those 
to  he  avoided. — Hie  pro.ane,  ilio  .social 
drinker,  the  lil>ertine  and  the  unbeliever. — 
Solomon's  advice.  —  It  holds  potxl  to-dav  — 
Wasting;  the  evening;  hours. — Sin  busy  in  ,iie 
eveninj,'s. —  The  ni^jlit  lifeof  youii<;  men. — The 
perils  of  the  darkness. — Spt  iid  your  even- 
inj^s  with  pmxl  Uxiks. — Seasonable  hours 
when  calling.  —  Had  bcKiks  and  lewd  pictures. 
— "Light  literature."  —  Frequently  immoral. 
— The  memory  of  obscene  pictures. — Illus- 
tration. —  Amusements.  —  I  )ancing  and  the 
theatre.  —  Statement  of  a  Roman  Catholic 
Prelate. — The  appeal  to  the  sensual  nature. — 
A  frank  ctmfession  by  a  prominent  woman. — 
The  theatre  appeals  to  latent  passion. — The 
debasing  influences  on  young  men. — Here  the 
senMial  hiss  at  virtue  and  holiness  and  applaud 
licentiousness  and  vice.  —  Kxjmsures  and  pos- 
tures.— Debasement  of  the  mind  and  lowering 
of  the  moral  principles. — Card -playing  and 
games  of  chance.  — Gaming  unfits  for  real  life. 
—  The  gambler  made  by  a  process  of  gradual 
development. — Money  exacted  without  giving 
an  equivalent. — Intoxicating  drink. — Famil- 
iarity renders  the  mind  indifferent. — Money 
annually  spent  for  alcoholic  liquors. — Alcohol 
not  a  f(X)tl,  but  an  enemy  to  the  body. — An 
experiment. — Poisonous  drugs  used.—  ihe  ap- 
petite grows  strong  and  the  will  weak. — 
Scenes  at  the  Sunday  Breakfast   Association, 


COSTESTS. 


xiz 


— From  a  physical  as  well  as  a  moral  stand- 
point \)€  Aame.l  ajjainst  intoxicatinjj  drink. — 
*'  No  drunkard  can  inht-rit  the  kingdom  of 
(io<l." — Positions  of  trust   no   longer  open  to 

<lrinking       men.  —  Tobacco.  —  Statistic  s.  

I)warfs  the  Inxiy  and  muscles.  —  Its  numerous 
niinous  effects  stated.  —  Does  no  gfKxl,  does 
much  hann. — taticT. — Tenus  to  intemper- 
ance.— (kkI  made  man  to  rule  over  nature 
and  over  himself. — lie  ma.ster  of  ycurse'.f,    235-26« 

CHAITKR  XVI. 


HKI.I'S   TO    UK    I'SKI). 

The  struggle  for  master>'. — Have  a  purpose  in 
life. — Aim  high.  —  Have  indomitable  persever- 
ance.— Examples  named. — Never  he  a.shamed 
of  honest  industry. — An  industrious  young  man 
frefjuently  outstrips  the  man  known  as  a  genius. 
— Early  rising. — Doing  well  in  little  tilings. — 
The  companionship  of  the  wise  and  good. — 
Thev  awaken  the  intellect   and  improve  one's 
eritire  manhood. — The  companionship  of  pure- 
n.inded,   noble    women. — They  «'xalt    and  in- 
spire.— Seek  to  acquire  all  the  knowledge  pos- 
sibli-. — Conversation,     listening    well.  —  Learn 
to  think. — Good   books.  —  \e\cr  so   cheap  as 
to-day. — Among    authors  we  can   choose  the 
companionship  of  the  greatest  and  best. — The 
daily    newspaper. — Works    of    fiction.  — No 
young  man  can  afford  to  read  fiction  before  25 
years    of    age. — A    vitiatetl    taste    results. — 
Read  only  the  best. — Books  of  wise  counsel. — 
Read   only  as   much   as   you  can   read  thor- 
oughly.— A    college   course   recommei.Jed. — 
•'  Remember    the    Sabiiath    day    to    keep    it 
holy." — Respect    the  Church. — Its   influence 
stated.  —  The     Uible    commended    to     your 
thought. — The  mo:-'   wonderful   book    in  the 
realm  of  literature. — Its  purpose  and  scope. — 
Stronger  after  every  assault.— Of  all  books  this 
the  best,  and  of  all  helps  this  the  greatest. — 


^  . 


xz 


COSTESTS. 


1  like  advantnpe  o*"  the  fonnntivo  years. — Vou 
laniir  '  stand  sti'l.— Value  cvrry  aiil  that  will 
lielp  yovi  onward  in  llie  ri>,'lit  diretlion. —  l  he 
.hanuter  fonned  here  will  »  ontinuc  to  deveh)|) 
thr(>iiL;luiut  all  eternity.-  -Two  suuls  UH)ki^^; 
.  '.  into  eternity,      .      '   .         .         .         .  „/ji.28l 


PREFACE. 


To  no  man  who  is  intelligent  concerning 
the  dangers  wh:ch  skirted  his  boyhoud-path 
and  hung  upon  his  seeps  through  the  years  of 
umolding  manhood,  and  to  no  one  who  is  in 
sympathy  and  in  touch  with  the  aspirations  of 
those  who  are  to-day  vainly  struggling  to  escape 
temptations  and  dangers,  is  any  apology  needed 
for  the  humble  but  serious  effort  we  have  un- 
dertaken in  these  pages. 

Any  book  which  seeks  to  treat  in  a  helpful 
way  the  subjects  proposed  in  this  volume  re- 
quires that  its  author  should  be  profoundly  in 
love  with  men,  and  that  he  should  be  willing  if 
necessary,  to  suffer  the  reproaches  of  those  who 
blush  not  at  the  grossest  sins  which  they  commit 
in  their  ignorance,  but  who  are  ever  readv  to 
lift  their  hands  in  horror  when  attention  is  called 
to  tne  most  sacrod  laws  which  God  has  written 
deep  in  our  physical  nature. 

The  man  whose  book  is  begotten  of  a  love  of 
gam,  and  whose  pages  secretly  foster  or  un- 
wittingly inflame  the  lusts  which  the  author 
professes  to  denounce,  is  devoid  of  the  spirit  of 
genuine  philanthropy.  Nothing  short  of  an  all- 
consummg  love  of  his  fellows,  and  a  willing- 
ness to  sacrifice  and  even  to  suffer  reproach  if 
that   should   be  necessary,  that  God  may  'be 


! 


%\ 


BSS 


PREFACE. 


honored  in  the  effort  to  hft  up  from  vice  and  sin 
those  whom  in  purity  He  h:is  c  tcated  in  His  own 
hkeness  and  image,  is  a  sufficient  quahfication 
for  such  a  task.  No  great  work  can  be  suc- 
cessfully u  Icrtaken  without  money,  but  no 
undertaking  hke  this  can  be  truly  succesbful  that 
is  nndertaken  for  monjy. 

TliP  laws  which  C.nt]  has  ordained  for  the 
right  regulation  of  our  sexual  nature  are  as  sa- 
cred as  those  which  He  has  ordained  for  our 
moral  government,  and.  if  approached  in  the 
right  spirit,  the  study  of  the  one  is  no  less  im- 
portant than  the  other— indeed  the  right  observ- 
ance of  the  moral  law  involves  and  includes  an 
intelligent  understanding  and  a  strict  adhe- 
rence to  the  laws  which  God  has  ordained  for 
the  government  of  our  sexual  nature. 

Under  the  Old  Testament  dispensation  every 
divine  provisif  n  was  made  for  the  intelligent 
regulation  of  the  sexual  system,  both  in  men 
and  women,  and  when  Israel  was  statedly  as- 
sembled for  the  reading  of  the  law  without 
omission  and  without  reserve,  no  one  rose  up  to 
declare  these  divine  utterances  either  immodest 
or  unnecessary,  but  men,  women  and  children 
listened  reverently  while  the  law  was  read 
aloud  to  the  assembled  multitude.  They  were 
nurtured  in  these  divine  precepts  from  child- 
hood, so  that  young  and  old  ahke  might  walk 
in  the  ways  of  understanding.  These  teachings 
have  been  expunged  from  our  catechisms,  but 
God  does  not  on  that  account  justify  either  our 
ignorance  or  our  mock  modesty  upon    these 


PREFACE 


xziii 


subjects,  for  the  violation  of  the  lavs  of  our 
sexual  nature  is  signalized  by  pimishnunt  as 
prompt  and  even  more  severe  than  that  which 
attends   the   ignorance  or   w.lful  violation   of 
other  laws  of  our  being.     Vca.  when  we  look 
upon  the  pale  faces,  glassy  eyes  and  emaciated 
torms  of  boys;  when  we  see  the  unmistakable 
evidences  of  the  lu.ts  and  diseases  which  mean 
death  to  the  moral  character  and  to  the  physical 
and   intellectual   powers  of  our  young  men- 
when  we  hear  the  moans  of  unsus'  ecting  wives 
and  innocent  c  hildren  who  are  the  victims  of 
inconsiderate,  ignorant  and  vicious  men,— I  say 
when   we  comprehend  these  things,  then  we 
must  also  clearly  understand  how  in  this  as  in 
other  matters.  "God  has  ordained  that  every 
one  shall  know  how  to  possess  his  vessel  in 
sanctihcation  and  honor."    Those  who  see  what 
awful  judgments  men  are  bringing  upon  them- 
selves by  their  ignorance  and  sin  will  recognize 
that  the  blush  belongs  to  those  who,  in  culpable 
Ignorance  or  mock  modesty,  are  silent,  rather 
than  to  those  who  speak  out  upon  these  import- 
ant  subjects  in  the  fear  of  God.     For  God  is 
pure,  and  surely  no  law  which  He  has  made  has 
Its  fou  ndation  in  impurity.     If  with  the  contem- 
plation or  study  of  His  laws  we  associate  impure 
thoughts,  the  fault  is  ours,  and  not  His.     God's 
thought  of  our  sexual  nature  is  pure,  and  there 
is  no  sufficient  reason  why  ours  should  not  and 
may  not  also  be  pure.    To  do  this,  we  have  only 
to  think  His  pure  thoughts  after  Him,  in  His 
own  pure  way. 


xxir 


PREFACE. 


As  (mk!  ( rcatcd  Adam,  so  He  inii^ht  sepa- 
rately have  (  rcatcd  every  oilier  bcin^  in  the 
w(.rld,  l)ut  the  ^  rcator  saw  tit  to  crown  man 
with  creative  or  [irocreative  power,  and  no  man 
dare  prostitute  these  sacred  powers  without 
doinjjsacrile^'e  to  himself,  or  hold  this  hi^^hand 
holy  function  of  his  nature  in  disrespect  or  dis- 
honor without  offenn^j  an  insult  to  the  infinite 
wisdom  of  ilim  who  has  thus  made  man  a  co- 
creator  with  Himself. 

We  trust  we  have  been  inspired  by  the  same 
purpose  which  prompted  Rev.  Dr.  John  Todd,  in 
1854,  to  write  the  "Student's  Manual."  But 
when  he  wrote,  public  sentinrient  was  such  that 
in  his  treatment  of  that  portion  of  his  subject 
which  related  to  personal  and  social  purity  he 
felt  it  necessary  to  print  in  Latin  the  wise  coun- 
sel which  every  student  should  have  been  per- 
iritted  to  translate  from  plainest  English  into 
daily  living.  No  one  who  knew  Dr.  Todd  would 
ever  have  thought  of  accusing  him  of  lack- 
ing in  courage,  but  that  was  at  a  time  when  uni- 
versal prudishness  set  up  scarecrows  to  guard 
the  fields  where  Satan  found  in  profound  igno- 
rance a  fruitful  soil  for  rich  harve?ts  of  vice  and 
immorality.  That  was  at  a  tinie  when  the 
many  victims  of  solitary  and  social  vice,  in  their 
weaknesses  and  sore  distresses,  were  abandoned 
by  reputable  physicians  to  a  great  and  greedy 
horde  of  extortioners  and  impostors  who  fol- 
lowed in  the  wake  of  each  generation  in  order 
to  rob  the  heli)less  and  strip  the  si' in.  Indeed, 
forty  years  ago  even  the  ordinary  medical  prac- 


PJiF.F.iCE. 


XXT 


tit.onrr    was   i.ninf„rmccl.  ignorant,    not    only 
'P'- the  subject  of  punty.lnu  upon  the  repro 

iuctue  organs  and  functions,  ar.d  the  inn.enre 
of  many  phys.cans  was  strongly  upon  the  side 
of  viceandimmorahty. 

Hut  we  have  come  upon  different  times.     The 
sandard  of  personal  anu  social  puruy  has  been 

s-.,lyhfted  higher  and  higher  by  Chnst-hk 
men  and  women,  until  now  there  is  scarcely  a 
general  convention  of  Christian  work  >rs  with 
any  cons.derable  program  where  the  subject  of 
puruy  ,n  some  of  its  bearings  is  not  considered 
and  d.scusscd.     Books  and  pamphlets  are  sent 

and"  b  ':  '  W'^  ""'""^  Purit/organization 
and   by  the   Woman's  Christian   Temoerance 
tn.on.  but  by  some  of  the  most  ..fluential  pub- 
l.shmg  houses  in  this  and  other  .  uuntries.    The 
grent  Lndcavor  Conventions  are  addressed  upon 
hese  subjects.      Mothers  gather   in   National 
Congress,  the  educational  and  redemptive  work 
IS  earned  on  by  the  Young  Men's  Christian  As- 
sociation, and  thousands  in  every  section  ofthe 
country  are  variously  enrolled  in  some  form  or 
other  of  the  White  Cross   and    social   purity 
movements.   The  time  has  come  when  men  and 
women  who  fear  God  and  love  their  fellows,  if 
they  have  the  talent  to  redeem  plainness  from 
vulgarity,   will    find    respectful   and    attentive 
listeners  in  every  community. 
_^  The  kind  reception  which  has  been  accorded 
\\  hat  a  \  oung  Boy  Ought  to  Know."  the  first 
volume  in  this  educational  series,  leads  us  to 

nODe    well    for   tKo  ♦K^,..,l-» _.     ,    . 

ii">  piCoCiiicu  iji  iiiese 


XXVI 


PREFACE. 


p.if^cs  to  more  mature  minds.  Prominent  mer\ 
atul  wonu-n  li.ive  stolen  from  busy  lives  the 
necessary  time  to  wiite  lis  words  of  cf)mmen- 
dation  and  «"iicoura};cmcnt,  and  one-third  of 
all  the  orders  rci  eivcd  have  come  from  anx- 
ious mother^  and  sisters — indeed  the  letters  re- 
ceived from  grateful  parents  and  appreciative 
readers  since  publishinjj  the  first  book  have 
been  the  source  of  more  pleasure  than  any 
other  single  event  in  the  author's  life. 

May  He,  without  whose  favor  every  human 
etfort  fails  cf  usefulness,  own  and  bless  these 
pages  to  the  good  of  those  who  are  the  hope  of 
the  nation,  of  the  present  age,  and  of  genera- 
tions yet  unborn. 

Sylvanus  Stali. 

rhiladflphia.  Pa. 


WHA.  A  YOUNG  MAN  OUGHT 
TO  KNOW. 


CHAITER  I. 

EQUIPMENT    FOR    LIFE. 

In  all  the  history  of  the  world  there  never  was 
a  grander  period  in  which  to  live  than  the  pres- 
ent.    Never  before  wns  there  so  much  to  .    n- 
JSter  to  physical  comfort,  to  healthful  recreation 
The  fruits  of  all  climes,  the  products  of  all  na- 
tions, and  ihe  resources  of  the  whole  earth  we-e 
never  before   bid  at  the  feet  of  man  in  such 
abundance  as  now.     Good  books  and  inspiring 
influences  were  never  befor-  so  abundant  as  to- 
day.    Institutions  of  learnin-,  colleges,  univer- 
sities are  all  open  to  rich  and  poor  alike.     The 
same  is  true  also  in  commercial  and  professirnal 
life.     While  crowded  in  their  earlier  beginninjrs 
yet  the  highest,  noblest  and  best  they  have  to 
bestow  were  never  before  offered  in  such  abun- 
dance as  to-day  to  those  who  have  the  physical 
intellectual  and  moral  endowment  for  their  at' 
tamment.     The  Church  and  the  State,  indeed 
all  the  walks  and  departments  of  life,  are  open 

(21  ) 


2i 


^IIA  r  A  vary  (J  u.is  onmr  7»  Avoir 


as  never  hcfo.e  to  yourvj  rn-n  ui  huun  .,n<l 
»)'.i«n.  I.m.a,,,u-,tyand  power  arc  i.vsvvx\u\v^s 
ma.le  the  i^.ll^|)cn^.ll)le  rc-juiMtc.  to  eminence 
or  eveti  siu  i:cs>>. 

The   vvorl.l    has   alwiys  wr>r^hif)i)C(!  sUcw-xh 
The  Kre.itness  of  k.nK<l.)ins  has  oftrn  Urvn  „,.'■ , ,- 
tired  by  the  strenKth  of  their  a.mies.     The  sav- 
age  and    uncivili/cd   tnl,cs  .  h<...^c    the  tallest 
and  most  stalwart  for  their  leailc.s     .ml   kin-s 
I.ven  Said  was  rho.en  Kin- over  Israel  I,e(  ai?se 
he  stor.dhead  and  shoulders  .i;)ovc  all  the   rest 
of  his  fellows.     In  the  Inited  State*  it   is  n<,t 
bi/e  or  physical  prowess,  but  politi.  al  stieni^th— 
strep-th  at  the  poll.-that  commends  the  man 
for  political   prefen..cnt  and    place.      That  the 
value  w,  physical  stren^-th  i..  nevertheless,  be- 
mg  more  and  more  justly  prized  in  this  country 
ismd.catcd  by  the  increasing  amoum  of  time 
given  to  the  athletic  departments  in  ail  our  msti- 
tutions  of  learning,  the  multiplicat..     -f  gymna- 
siums in  connection  with  our  Young  Men's  Chris- 
tian Associations,  and  many  other  institutions. 
It  IS  also  mdicated  in  the  "rowing  favor  with 
which  all  out-door  sports  are  welcomed  and  cul- 
tivated.  and  the  larger  amount  of  time  devoted 
to  croquet,  tennis,  golf.  ball,  bicychng  and  all 
other  forms  of  out-door  recre;ition.     As  a  result. 
men  are  stronger,  have  greater  powers  of  physi^ 
c-il  endurance,  live  longer,  suffer  less  from  sick- 
n.  s.  and  are  able  to  accomplish  more  now  than 
in  any  other  period  in  the  world's  historv.     The 
man  who  enters  the  race  for  success  in  either 
business  or  professional  circles  cannot  afford  to 


T  A   rot  so  Sf.i\  OifiilT  TO  KSOW       aj 

ne^'lr.t  the  <  ultiv.ition  of  his  pluMtal  powers. 
\  ni.iii  without  hi-.ihh  is  h.in(h<M|)|)r(i  in  the 
bcKinninj,'.  A  mm  w:th  .i  wc.ik  ImmIv.  othrr 
thinjjs  bfin^r  c.|i:.il,  l.i-  k-,  il.c  om-hihI  Icvcra^'e 
to.iccomplihh.-i^inuc.ia.tho^c  who  have  greater 
powers  of  crulur.inre. 

\V  hile  the  ph>  sic.il  must  ever  (  on^fitute  in  in- 
dispensable fouiulation,  \et  that  whu  h  (hstin- 
guibhcs  and  crowns  man  is  not  found  in  his  u\  s- 
ical  nature.  Many  of  .lie  animals  are  sf: 
than  man.  Kven  the  ox  surpa-^.rs  hun  in 
:4reiigth.  tlie  birds  rise  above  him  and  surpass 
him  in  ni.i,'ht,  the  eye  of  the  ea-!c  i,  Mipcri.,.  lo 
that  of  mm,  the  I)ce  surpasses  him  in  ituhistry. 
and  even  the  little  ant  has  always  been  to  him* 
an  example  of  tireless  perseverance. 

To  us.  however,  the  noblest  and  grandest 
thing  in  the  world  is  a  young  man  in  all  the  vigor 
and  buoyancy  of  manhood,  and  v  ith  all  the 
promise  of  long  life  and  great  usefi:'  ess  before 
him.  The  young  man  with  broad  shoulders 
and  dee[)  chest,  with  s'-ong  muscles  and  intel- 
lectual forehead— a  veritable  son  of  Cod— is 
to  us  the  grandest  object  in  the  entire  world. 
That  which  elevates  man  and  places  him  next 
to  his  Creator  in  the  sca'e  of  being  is  found  in 
the  factth.it  God  created  man  in  His  own  image. 
Cod  gave  him  irtelligence.  gave  him  a  moral 
sense  and  a  spiritual  nature,  and  these  elevate 
him  immeasurably  above  all  other  creatures  of 
God's  hand.  Withou' these  he  is  not  qualified 
to  rule  over  all  the  lower  forms  of  crcition,  but 
hi3  intellectual   moral  and  spiritual  endowments 


Hi 


24       WHAT  A  YOISG  if  AN  OIGIIT  TO  LWOW 

make  him  the  rightful  lord  of  creation,  and  no 
creature  can  successfully  resist  his  dominion. 

Man's  highest  culture  is  found  in  the  symmet- 
rical development  of  his  threefold  nature— the 
physical,  intellectual  and  spiritual.    Nothing  can 
be  done  which  would  injure  or   impair  any*  one 
of  these  without  injury  to  the  other  two.     To  ne- 
glect the  intellectual  and  moral  nature,  and  de- 
velop only  the  physical,  is  only  productive  of 
pure  brute  force,  while  upon  the  other  hand  any- 
thing which  tends  to  destroy  the  best  develop, 
ment  of  the  physical  man  undermines  and  oft- 
times   overthrows  both  the  Intellect  and  the 
moral  nature.     When  a  boy  gives  himself  up 
to  self-pollution,  or  a  man  yields  to  the  allure- 
ments of  vice,  he  not  only  saps  the  foundation 
of  physical  power,  but  the  very  earliest  symp- 
tom of  his  sad  mistake  and  serious  sin  is  found 
in  his  perverted  moral  sense.     His  moral  nature 
is  the  very  first  to  suffer,  and  the  first  symptom 
of  his  sin  is  insubordinatirn  to  parents,  rebel- 
lion against  God,    hostility  to    the  Bible,   the 
Church,  and   presently  to  everything  that    is 
sacred  and  good.    The  subsequent  effect  is  seen 
in  his  weakened  intellectual  powers,  and  if  the 
individuid  persists  in  a  course  of  excess  and 
sin,  the  eventual  result  is  imbecility,  and  oft- 
times  insanity. 

Therefore  any  treatment  upon  the  subject  of 
sexual  science  which  fails  to  recognize  the  lela- 
tion  of  the  intellectual  and  moral  to  the  highest 
well-being  of  the  physical  nature  must  be^'par- 
tial,  misleading  and  thoroughly  unreliable,  and 


WDATA  YOVNQ  MAN  OUOHT  TO  KNOW.      35 

those  who  fail  to  bring  to  boys  and  men  who 
have  been  brought  under  the  dominion  of  self- 
pollution  and  sin  the  assistance  which  is  to  be 
found  in  the  proper  quickening  of  the  intellec- 
tual  and  moral  nature,  must  fail  of  any  consid- 
erable  success  or  permanent  good.     Our  sexual 
nature  was  given  to  us  for  the  wisest  and  most 
beneficent  purposes,  and  it  is  only  when   per- 
verted  or  when  permitted  to  dominate  over  the 
higher  intellectual  and  moral   natures  that   it 
becomes  a  source  of  evil  instead  of  blessing 
and  good.    God  made  us  to  live  in  our  higher 
moral  and  intellectual  nature.     It  was  never  in- 
tended that    the    lower  should   rule  over  the 
higher.     If  there  is  an  insurrection  in  the  lower 
nature,  the  appeal  must  be  to  the  higher,  to  that 
in  us  which  is  kingly  and  superior. 

That  our  teaching  upon  this  subject  is  correct 
was  beautifully  illustrated  in  a  lecture  delivered 
some  years  ago  before  a  booy  of  theological  stu- 
dents by  the  eminent  Doctor  Parker,  of  New 
York.    In  speaking  of  the  body  he  compared 
the  head  to  the  citadel  of  a  great  castle,  where 
its  lordly  proprietor  looks  out  over  his  vast  do- 
main ;  the  chest,  the  upper  part  of  the  body,  he 
compared  to  the   living-room    of  the  palace, 
where  the  impoitant  affairs  of  the  household 
are  transacted  ;    the  stomach  to    the  kitchen, 
where  that  which  is  to  minister  to  the  sustenance 
and  strength  of  the  body  is  prepared  ;  and  the 
lower  offices  of  the  body  he  compared  to  that 
portion  of  the  house  which  is  set  apart  for  the 
laundry  and  the  duties  of  the  scavenger.     It  ia 


26       WIIA T  A   rO iWO  MAN  O i'UU T  TO  KSO W. 

the  man  in  the  citadel,  and  not  the  scavengers 
in  the  hnvest  departments  of  the  palace,  who 
is  to  rule,  and  yet  this  latter  condition  results 
in  every  human  body  where  the  individual  sur- 
renders his  moral  and  intelleccual  nature  to  the 
domination  and  control  of  the  physical  or 
sexual. 

Our  position  upon  this  matter  is  further  illus- 
trated by  an  incident  which  took  place  in  the 
lecture-room  at  one  of  the  clinics  in  the  medical 
department  of  the  University  of  Maryland  while 
the  writer  was  pastor  of  an  adjoining  church 
in  the  city  of  Baltimore.  One  day  an  anx- 
ious father  came  with  his  son  to  obtain  the 
judgment  ofone  of  the  pro  lessors,  who  was  also 
one  of  the  most  eminent  physicians  of  the  city, 
upon  the  question  of  the  intellectual  capacity  of 
one  of  his  children.  After  discovering  that  the 
child  had  the  sense  of  hearing,  the  father  was 
asked  two  questions  :  "  Does  your  child  recog- 
nize the  value  of  money?"  to  which  the  father 
replied  in  the  negative.  The  other  question 
was  "  Does  your  child  pray.?"  The  father  re- 
plied that  the  child  could  not  pray,  for  he  did 
not  speak.  To  illustrate  his  meaning  the  physi- 
cian said,  "  When  you  have  piayers  at  home, 
or  when  in  Sunday-school  or  church,  does  your 
child  kneel  down,  clasp  his  hands,  raise  his  face 
towards  heaven,  or  in  any  other  way  place  him- 
self in  an  attitude  of  prayer?"  T  reply  was 
in  the  negative.  After  dismissing  the  parent 
with  his  child,  this  eminent  physician  turned  to 
his  class  of  three  hundred  students  and  said : 


WUA T  A  Yo i-ya  M.iy  o djur  to  kwo  w.     27 

"Younj^  gentlemen,  the  absence  of  these  two 
qualities,  the   one   intellectual    and  the  other 
moral,  are  clear  indications  of  idiocy,  and  the 
absence  of  either  one  makes  the  sanity  of  a  child 
a  question  of  grave  doubt.     The  recognition,  in 
children,  of  the  money-v;iIue  you  may  already 
have  observed,  but  it  is  equally  true  that  every 
sane  human  being  born  into  the   world  is  en- 
dowed witti  a  moral  nature,  and  to  pray  is  as 
natural  to  a  child  as  the  desire  for  food."     If 
these  statements  had  been  heard  from  the  pulpit 
they  might  not  have  seemed  authoritative  or 
impressive,  but  coming  from  a  learned  professor 
while  lecturing  to  a  large  class  of  medical  stu- 
dents,  they  assuredly  are  both  weighty  and 
valuable. 

In  the  writing  of  these  pages,  let  it  be  under- 
stood, that  while  we  have  not  set  ourselves  to 
the  preparation   of  a  series  of  moral  homilies, 
yet  to  ignore  the  intellect  or  to  pass  by  the  moral 
nature  without  giving  them  the   consideration 
and  prominence  which   God   has  assigned  to 
them  in  the  constitution   of  man  would  both 
manifest  our  unfitness  to  write  to  young  men 
upon  that  which  relates  to  their  highest  sexual 
and  physical   well-being,  and  would  make  us 
false  to  the  conviction  which  has  steadily  in- 
creased with  our  investigations  of  these  sub- 
jects, as  well  as  make  us  a  traitor  to  God  and 
the  teachings  of  His  Word, 

Let  it,  therefore,  be  clearly  understood  in  the 
beginning  that  the  physical  ruin  of  no  young 
man  can  be  fully  accomplished  until  the  moral 


28       WUAT  A   YOVSa  MAN  OIGUT  TO  KSOW. 

nature  has  been  dethroned  md  debased  and 
the  intellectual  power  has  been  denied  tlie  right 
to  reign  and  rule.  Any  man  who  will  enthrone 
his  moral  nature  and  give  the  sceptre  of  ^;ov. 
ernment  to  the  intellectual  powers  has  taken 
that  precaution  which  will  save  him  from  soli- 
tary and  social  sins,  or,  if  previously  brought 
under  the  dominion  of  these  wicked  practices, 
the  redemption  of  his  body,  the  recovery  of  his 
manhood,  and  his  eventual  salvation  both  for 
time  and  eternity  may  be  regarded  as  reasoiv- 
ably  assured. 


CHAPTER   II. 


PEi;    JNAL    PURITY. 

The  injunction,  ••  Keep  thyself  pure,"  is 
woithy  to  have  been  repeated  to  every  genera- 
tion of  young  men,  since  it  was  written  to 
Timothy  by  the  great  Apostle  more  than  eigh- 
teen hundred  years  ago.  The  young  man 
who  undertakes  to  keep  himself  pure  will  find 
his  task  is  not  to  be  accomplished  without  a 
struTgle.  A  young  man  who  is  brought  into 
the  world  with  a  well-balanced  body  will  find 
that  the  sexual  passions  and  propensities  will 
assert  themselves  with  such  vehemence  and 
vigor  that  if  they  are  not  to  be  permitted  to 
dominate  and  control,  but  are  to  be  kept  under 
and  made  to  occupy  their  appointed  subordinate 
place,  they  will  require  that  he  should  have  set- 
tied  principles,  a  firm  purpose  and  a  strong 
will. 

God  has  made  no  mistake  in  giving  us  a 
strong  sexual  nature.  I  would  not  take  away 
fr  'm  any  young  man,  if  I  could,  his  sexual  in- 
tensity >  rob  him  of  the  most  manly,  healthy 
development  of  his  sexual  nature.  Sexuality 
has  been  strongly  marked  in  all  the  great  men 
who  have  risen  to  eminence  in  all  departments  of 
hfe.  Without  it  man  would  be  mean,  selfish,  sor- 
did and  ungracious  to  his  fellow-men  and  uncivil 

/    or^    \ 
•    ~J    I 


I>   I 


30       1,7/.,  T  A   YorsG  MAS  OiGlIT  TO  K'XOW. 

to  wom.nkind.    Were  it  not  for  this  nature  which 

C.0CI  has  .mphntccl.n  our  bcin,,.  no  man  would 
de-e  to  provKlc  for  the  support  of  another  indi 
v.dual.    or   enter  into  a  relation    whi.  h  wou M 
I'kely  .mpose  upon  him  the  necessity  of  ..ppo 
-.  a  fam,ly  of  dependent  and  growm^ch  - 
dren      No  man  becomes  affable,  .^racious  ad 

onsulerate  to  women  unt.1  he  .rendered  so  by 
the  awakenmff  of  his  sexual  nature  and  the 
qu.cken.n„^  of  that  within  him.  which,  when  he  d 
under  proper  disciphne  and  control,  rende  s 
him  noble  and  unselfish  renders 

him'inthrd''V''"'""^^°"^"^^^--^^ 
h  m  m  tho  development  of  that  which  is  high- 

h^s^^U^^^^^^^  'temascu- 

.ues  either  men  or  animals  to  despoil  them  of 

n7nr;"rV"^""  by  mutilating  o'r  remoWn,! 
any  part  of  their  reproductive  organs     If  a  man 
-  thus  mutilated  when  he  is  yo u'n,  he  becomes 
a  creature  which  is  repellant  to  me^n  and  abhor- 
rent to  women.    His  body  is  without  manliness 
h..s  mind  IS  without  ambition,  his  life  is  without' 
a  purpose,  and  he  walks  the  earth  loathing  him 
self  and  despised  by  all  who  are  normall^o" 

Cod  has  made  no  mistake  in  giving  man  a 
strong  sexual  nature,  but  any  young  man  m"  ! 
.1  fatal  mistake  if  he  allows  the  sexual  to  uomi! 
nate.  to  degrade  and  to  destroy  that  which  is 
h'.^hest  and  noblest  in  his  nature.  Fven  the 
cnort  to  bring  the  sexual  nature  into  subject  on 
>s  a  discipline  which  develops  force  of  character 
and  a  sense  of  manly  strength  and  victory.     If 


WUAT   I   yoiWO  MAy  Oi-GIIT  TO  hWOW.      31 

you  feel  that  the  stru^jjle  is  a  fierce  one  let  me 
say  to  you.  as  Paul  said  to  the  younjj  men  at 
Connth,  "  Ouit  you  like  men  ;  be  strong."     Hut 
if  you  feel  like  most  young  men  are  likely  to 
el.  that  your  struggle  is  more  fierce  th   n  that 
•n  which  others  are  enga^^ed.  then  let  me  say  to 
you  as  this  same  Apostle  said  to  those  voluptu- 
ous Corinthians  more  than  eigUtcen    hundred 
years  ago,  '■  There  hath  no  temptation  taken 
you  but  such  as  is  common  to  man  ;  but  God  is 
faithful,  who  will  not  suffer  you  to  be  tempted 
above  that  ye  are  able,  but  will  with  the  temp- 
tation also  make  a  way  to  escape,  that  ye  may 
be  able  to  bear  it." 

That  the  battle  is  fierce  with  many  is  mani- 
fest  by   the   fact    that    thousands    are    in    the 
vilest  servitude  to  lust.     In  some  senses  they 
may  be  said  to  have  succeeded  in  life,  but  they 
are  in   subjection  to   their  vilest   self.     Alex- 
ander   wept     because    there    were    no     more 
worlds  to  conquer,  while  he  had  not  yet  con 
quered  himself;  Napoleon   vanquished    nearly 
the  whole  of  Europe,  while  in  his  own  charac 
ter  he   was  conquered  by  his  insatiable  ambi- 
tion.     These  men  were  masters  of  millions  of 
others,  but  they  were  not  masters  of  themselves 
Bidel,  the  famous  French  lion-tamer,  who  often 
went  mto  the  cage  face  to  face  with  untamed 
beasts  fresh  from  the  forest,  says:  "  The  brutes 
are  afraid  of  ni,  because  they  see  I  am  not  afraid 
of  them.     To  mastrr  the.e  brutes  I  have  to  be- 
gin by  being  complete  master  of  myself." 
Let  it  be  distinctly  understood  from  the  first 


32       ttllA  T  A   lOi-yg  MAX  OUGHT  TO  h'SOW. 

that  no  nan  who  desires  to  keep  his  body  pure 
and  lus  rc-crd  clean  can  expect  to  succeed  if 
h.^  thoughts,  his  speech.  his.maKinat.on  and  his 
heart  are  Idled  with  corruption  and  cvd.    Whde 
no  man  can  totally  exch.de  cvd  thouuhts  from 
h.s  tiimd.  yet  he  n,akcs  a  ^'rave  mistake  when 
he    harbors  and   fosters   them.     Thoi.^rhts    of 
evd  enter  th.  mind  as  easily  a.  ,  >rms  of  disease 
are  taken  into  our  bodies  with  the  food  we  e  il 
and  are  inhaled  into  the  lun^s  with  the  air  we 
breathe.     Ih.t  in  a  stronj,^  healthy  body,  these 
germs  of  disease  arc  killed  by  the  overmaster- 
ing power  of  the  vital    forces;  but    where  the 
standard  of  vitality   is    not    sufficiently    hi.h 
these  germs  of  disease  find  lodgement  in  conge- 
nial sod  and  engender  in  the  body  the  diseases 
which  beget  death.     No  one  can  evade  or  es- 
(  -pefrom  these  germs  of  disease,  but  they  are 
not  suffered  to  live  and  propagate  in  the  body 
oi  a  healthy  person. 

Or.  -o  illustrate  in  another  way.  weeds  will 
grow  of  themselves  in  any  soil  without  being 
sown.      ,he  fanner  is  not  to   blame   because 
there  are  weeds  in  his  field,  but  he  is  to  blame 
.f  he  allows  the  weeds  to  take  possession  of  the 
field,      rhe  strr  igth  of  their  growth  may  even 
attest  the  richness  of- the  soil,  but  the  farmer 
who  plows  his  field  and  sows  it  with  good  seed 
IS  master  of  the  soil.     When  the  harvest  comes 
•t  w,ll  not  be  an  ingathering  of  weeds,  but  of 
wheat.     The  trouble  is  not  so  much  that  evil  is 
suggested  to  the  mind,  but  that  the  thou-ht  is 
harbored  and  is  permitted  to  remain  sufficrently 


W7/.:  T  A   YOVSQ  ii^y  Oi-OUT  TO  A'AO  w.       33 

Jon.Mo  uelrome  other  ev.l    thou.^hts.  until  lust 
>sconccMv.cl.uhichbrin;,^s  forth  s,n. 

lobe  pure  in  »'ody  and  in  life  one  must  be 
pnre.n  m.nd.  Perhaps  .othin,  contribute! 
more  to  the  detile.nent  o.  the  ,  .,  than  1^ 
rcad.n,.  of  .mpure  books.  The  Society  for  the 
Suppres.on  of  VUe  has   been  able  to  accom 

Pl.sh  much  m  the  destruction  of  Vic  e-en^ender- 

.nKhterature.  but  there  are  hundreds  of  books 
ssued  every  year  by  otherwise  reputable  pub- 

■sh.n^houses.  the  characters  of  which  are  in. 
erestrng  to  the  reader,  only  because  they  ap- 
peal to  h,s  sensual  nature,  and  all  unconsciously 
o  many,  the.r  minds  are  defiled,  their  imaging-' 
^on  polluted,  their  v.rtue  overthrown.  andThe'r 
bod^s  debauched.     There  are  books   that   I.e 
exposed   .n   the  houses  of  respectable  people 
he  .nnuence  of  which  upon  the  life  and  upVn 
he  thought  .s  to  sap  the  vital  forces  of  the  bocly" 
for  the  results  they  effect  are  the  same  in  kind 
as  masturbation  and  self-pollution,  and    from 
wh.cn  the.r  results  differ  only  in  degree      Z 
even  masturbation  and  self-defilement  maybe 
practiced  m   the  mind   while   the  mechanical 
processes  are  not  perpetrated  upon  the  body 
The  physical,   intellectual  and    moral  effects 
however,  are  of  the  same  kind,  even  lacking  bu; 

ndsv  ",'"'••  '^"^^''^PP-'  to  theamftive 
and  sexual  nature  .s  so  universal  in  novels  thit 
.t  might  safely  be  laid  down  as  a  rule  ttt  no 
young  men  or  young  women  should  be  permit- 
tec  to  read  a  novel  before  they  arrive  at  the  age 
oftwemy-hve.     There  are  so  many  good  books 


'u 


m 


34        nilAT  A    roL\\()  MA.\  OriillT  TO  KSOW. 

in  the  world,  and  so  mu.  h   win.  h    need,  to  he 
learned,  that  no  yoiiiiK  man  or  yoiin^j  woman 
ran  afford  to  s.jiMndcr  his  .)r  her  time  and  o|>- 
portiinities  in  rcadin-j  a  novel  until  they  have 
l.iid  a  foundation  broad  and  deep,  iiavc  culti- 
vated a  tahtcfor  that  which  in  tlie  development 
of  character  and  the  acqu.sitiun  of  knowledKc- 
is  indispensable.     If  books  of  thi^  best  tlass  are 
not  read  tirst,  durinj    'he  formative  years,  and  a 
taste    acquired.  the>    will   never   be  read  after 
novel-readinj;  has  once  been   bo;,tin.  and  the 
perverted  taste  has   been  cuhivated  and  devcU 
oped. 

The  writer  ma'-  be  thou^'ht  by  some  t-i  oc- 
cupy extreme  views  upon  this  subject,  bi.t  look- 
in^'  back   over   an   ex[)crience  of   nearly   fifty 
years,  and  a  larj^'c  acquaintance  w  ith  men  in  all 
departments  of  life,  he  thinks  that  lie  can  hon- 
estly say  that  he  has  never  known  an  individ- 
ual,  either  man  or  woman,  whether  in  the  j,'os- 
pel  ministry  or  out  of  it,  who  has  been  given  to 
the  readir.-of  novels,  who  has  not  been  pe-cep- 
tibly  weakened  either   in    his  intellectual  and 
moral   powers,  or   in   both.     While   he   knows 
some  men  who  have  attiinedsomc  prominence 
in  the  pulpit  who  are  given  in  some  degree  to 
novel-reading,  yet  he  does  not  know  one  such 
clerical  novel-reader  who  is  not  far  beneath  his 
opportunity  anu  privilege,  and  below  the  emi- 
nence which  it  would    have  been  possible  for 
him  to   have  attained  if  he  had  fed  his  mind 
upon  fact  instead  of  fancy,  if  he  had  made  the 
real  and  the  actual  the  subjects  of  his  thought 


»•//.<  T  A    YO I  .Su  MA  S  oruilT  TO  K'SO  W.       35 

andjhe  l,a.is  for   h.s  judgments  and  conclu- 

N"t  only   is  the  mind  ,0  \^  Kept   pure    b„t 
tf>e   .maKUMt.cn    must    be    carefully        "nt' 
Turn    away     f,o,n    obscene    pictures   as    yo. 

vould  from  the  most  loathsome  contagion     ihc 
■n   uence  of  an  obscene  p,cture  is  contaminat 
n..and,,seMec.s  are   deceptive  and  des J. 
^e      The   mfluence  of  vicious   putures  often 
'-His  to  dhct  sexual  mdul.ence    phm;,os  the 

-happy  v.ctim  into  a  l,fe  of  vice,  and  .^hn 
drcds  and  thousandsof  cases  terminates  in  dis- 
eases  wh.ch  are    far-reaching   in  the.r  results 
upon  the  inoffensive  and  innocent  as  well  as  in 
hc,r  terrible  physical  and  moral  enec-:;:: 

Ilani.h  from  y„„r  room  an.'  your  possession 
all  .hotographs  and  pic,„r«  whether  know.  , 
works  of  art  or  shielded  under  some  similarly 
dcccpuve  and  euphonious  ,i,le,  b„e  wh.ch  a^ 
ncverlhcless  ■■  nude  and  nas.y,"  and  which  con^ 
seciuen.ly  be^-et  impure  <ho„Kh,s.  poliu.e  "he 
■mapnauon  and  debase  , ha,  wh.ch  is  n,*lest 

;'""  '="""  ""=  '"^hoWer,  i,  ma„crs  no.  whethe 
he  p,c  u,es  are  suspended  from  ,he  walls  of  an 

ar,  ^jallery  „,  g,„,,  (j,^^,^^^^,  ,^^  ^^^^^^^  ^^  _^_^ 

If  you    desire  to  be  pure    in  body  you  must 
a   o  be  pure  ,n  speech.     "  He  not  deceived 

W  il. T "T'^"™'     '"■™P'  SO-^l   manners." 
the  L  "'!,''"*°""if  "f  evil  thouKi.ts  tends  to 

speech  deoases  no,  only  ,he  individual  who  ut- 


h 


36       nilAT  A    YOLSH  HAS  OtDliT  TO  KSOW 

tern  it,   Init  (le^'r.ulc>»  those  into  whose  ears  the 
vile  thoughts  arc  |)o.h.-.|.      I  here  are  tncn  who 
v^ouUl  «'vc  thuuvind,  of  dollars  if  they  had  tiot 
seen  some  obscene  picture  whi.  h  has  sf)  photo- 
Kraphed  itself  upon  the  nnnd   that  it  refuses  to 
be  »    htcated.  or    has    become  animalr.j  .,nd 
qiiirkened  into  an  almost  ever-present  thouKht 
or  d.miin  int    passion.     So  there  arc  those   in 
whose  memory  the  rerolle.  tio..   of  a  vile  story 
lives,   clinKinjr  to  the  very  f.bre  of  their  bein>j. 
refusinK  to  be  banished  from  the  ihouKht  or  ob^ 
)iterated  frorti  the  merrory.    If  you  would  "  F-lee 
youthful  lust  "you  should  also  flee   from  those 
who  are  lustful  in  their  thou^-hts.  their  lives   or 
iheir  speech.     Avoid   and  Hee   from    impurity, 
whether  it  be  of  that  which  is  loathsome  to  the 
eye.  abhorrent  to  the  thought,  or  degrading  to 
the  imp.  :i nation.     Close   your  ears  to  the  cor. 
rupting  influences  of  vile  stories  which  arr;  so 
effeciivcly  plumed  with  wu  and   pointed   with 
fancy  that  they  pierce  and  poison  the  very  soul 
c    'bought  anil  character. 

^e  young  man  who  desires  to  be  pure  in  life 
mu,  also  b  careful  about  the  purity  of  his 
blood.  No.,  an  can  eat  pork,  at  least  to  any 
considerable  amount,  without  perceptibly  pois- 
oning lis  blood.  Numerous  forms  of  skin  dis- 
ease  are  easily  traceable  to  the  eating  of  pork, 
both  fresh  and  cured,  in  the  many  forms  of  sau- 
sage, pudding,  han  and  bacon.  But  some  peo- 
ple say  if  pork  is  not  to  be  eaten,  then  why  was 
it  created  }  The  hog,  like  the  hawk  and  the 
crow,  IS  a  scavenger.     He  was  created  to  eat 


nilA  T  A    rni.y  ,  ,v^.V  OVGlir  10  A'.VOM  .       37 

»h.it  whu  h  15  loathHome,  and  whi<  h.  if  n<.t  dc 
stroyed.  would  cndan^'cr  our  I.ve.  hv  cxpoMnL;  us 
t"  infection  and    leath.     Where  there  are  no  fa- 
ciht.Mfor  the  destruction  of  Ka-baj-e  h,  ^,re.t 
furnac C3  such  as  are  ere.  ted  in  the  subuih,  of 
1-jrye  cities,  swine  may  serve  a  useful  oftkc  in 
the  consumption  of  Karba^-e  gathered  from  large 
areas.      (;arb.i-.    however,     should    be    con- 
Mimed.  and  this  can  easily  be  done  by  burninn 
.n  the  stoves  an  '.  furnaces  in  the  abodes  where 
It  IS  accumulated.     Hut  even  where  swine  are 
kept  to  consume  the  refuse,  there  is  no  reason 
why  the  flesh  of  these  scavengers  should  after- 
wards become  a  form  of  ^ood  for  human  beings. 
The  great  basis,  however,  for  moral  purity  is 
to  be  found  in  the  human  heart.     The  unregen- 
crated  heart  is  utterly  at  enmity  not  only  against 
(^od.  but   against  e-erything   that    is   noblest 
purest  and   most  God-Jike  in   human    nature.' 
Many  do  not  so  regard  it.  but  "  the  heart  "  by 
nature  "  is  deceitful  above  all  things,  and  desper- 
ately  wicked."     It  is  not  only   without  faith  in 
(.od.  but  IS  also  without  faith  in  humanity.     No 
man  has  a  reasonable  basis  for  permanent  per- 
^onal    punty  until  he  has  a  pure    heart.     The 
natural  heart  "is  at  enm.iy  against  God.  is  not 
subject  to   the  law  of  God.  neither  indeed  can 
be.       This  wicked  heart  of  stone  must  he  taken 
out  of  our  flesh,  and  God  must  give  uc  a  r-w 
heart.  "  a    heart  of  flesh.*'     We  must  be  bcm 
of  God.  we  must  have  th.it  regenenttion  of  the 
Holy  ( -.host  of  which  Christ  spake  to  Nicodemus 
when,  in  answer  to  the  inquiry  of  Nicodemus' 


3^       »'hA  TAYO UNG  MAN  0 UGHT  TO  KWO  W. 

••  How  can  a  man  be  born  when  he  is  old  ?" 
Jesus  said,  "  That  which  is  born  of  the  flesh  is 
flesh  ;^  and  that   ^hich   is  born  of  the  Spirit  is 
spirit."     And  when  Nicodemus  desired  to  know 
more  fully  concerning  this  second  birth,  or  this 
rtgencration  by  the  Spirit  of  God— to  him  it 
was  a  myst  ry.     He  did  not  understanc'  spiritual 
matters.      Like  thousands  of  other  honest  in- 
quirers he  was  in  search   of  hgh^-Jesus  said 
to  him.  "  The  wind  bloweth  where  itlisteth,  and 
thou  hearest  the  sound    thereof,  but  canst  not 
tell  whence  it  cometh,  and  whither  it  goeth.    So 
is  every  one  that  is  born  of  the  Spirit." 

Or,  to  express  this  change  in  our  own  lan- 
guage, we  would  say   it   is  like  as    when  you 
look  out   of  the  window  and  you  say  that  the 
wind  is  blowing  from  the  north.      Nov    y.,u 
cannot  see  the  wind,  but  you  can  see  the  effects 
of  the  wind.     You  can  see  the   dust   and  the 
leaves  and  the  straw  which  are  driven  before 
the  wind,  and  therefore  you  say  that  the  wind  is 
blowing  from  the  north,  because  it  is  driving 
the  dust  and  leaves,  and  straw  towards  the 
south.     After  a  time  you  look  out  of  the  win- 
dow,  ana  you  say  that  it  is  south  wind.     How 
do  you  know  that  the  wind  is  blowing  from  the 
3outh  ?    You  cannot  see  the  wind,  but  you  see 
the  effeets  of  the  wind ;  you  see  ;he  straws,  and 
the  leaves  and  the  dust,  that  are  now  driven 
before  it  in  the  opposite  direction  ;  therefore  you 
say  that  the  wind  is  changed.    Just  so  it  is  with 
evpry  one  who  is  born  of  the  Spirit.    You  can- 
not    see  the  Spirit.     He  comes  into  a  man's 


I 


WHAT  A   YOiya  MAS'  OUGHT  TO  KSOW.       39 

heart  and  into  a  man's  life,  and  makes  of  him 
a  new  creature  in  Christ  Jesus.    At  one  time  you 
look  out  upon  his  life  and  conduct,  and  you  see 
that  he  is  worldly  and  selfish,  given   perhaps  to 
lust  and  vice,  and  that  he  hates  God,  that  he 
despises  His  Word,  that  he  avoids  the  Church 
and   all   that  is    good   and   pure,   and  so  ycu 
judge  correctly  from  these  outward  manifesta- 
tions that  the  influen        which   prevail  witliin 
his  heart  are  unrighte.  .s,  that  ne  has  not  been 
born  of  the  Spirit.     But  after  a  tim    you  lock  out 
upon  this  man's  life  a^.u  conduct  again,  and  you 
see  that  there  has  been  wrought  a  great  change. 
Instead   of  hating    spiritual   things,    despising 
God's  message,  and  speaking  contemptuously 
of  the  Church  and  godly  people,  he  now  wor- 
ships God,  reads  His  Word,  attends  regularly 
upon  the  servi.es  of  the  Church,  and  leads  an 
u^iright    Christian    life.      These    changes    are 
named  by  Christ  as  the  evidence  that  that  man 
hac  been  the  subject  of  this    mysterious  and 
transforming  power  of  God.     Now  you  did  not 
see  the  Holy  Spirit  when  He  came  into  this 
man's  heart,  but  you  have   observed  the  out- 
ward results  which  have  been  manifested  in  his 
life ;  therefore  you  say  that  that  man  has  been 
regenerated,  that  he  has  been  born  of  the  Spirit. 
He  might  be  able  to  tell  just  when  that  change 
occurred,  and,  again,  he  might  not  be  able  to 
tell  the  day,  the  month,  or  even  the  year  when 
the  change   occurred.      That    the  change  has 
taken  place  there  is  no  shadow  of  doubt  in  his 
own  mind  or  in  the  minds  of  those  who  know 


40 


WHAT  A  rovyo  MAy  OUOUT  TO  KSOW 


U' 


h.m.     Swch   .s   the  change  of   heart  to  which 

a  t;::""'^"'^°^^'^^  --^f- whence 
say  that  no  man  can  be  permanentlv  pure  in 
hs  thought  and  lif.  without  having  a  pur'e  heart 
as  the  basis  for  that  purity. 

Word'of  r".''^ 'r  "°^  °"ly-ritten  in  the 
Word  of  God.  but  they  are  also  written  deep 
down  .n  our  nature.  The  instinct  of  the  soul  is 
to  reach  out  after  God.  just  the  same  as  t^e 
plant  which  ,s  placed  by  the  window  reaches 
ouc  after  the  light.  It  soon  bends  over  toward 
he  w  dow  and  if  you  turn  the  plant  around  so 
that  ,t  bends  mward  toward  the  room  it  will 

na  ural  '  ^\'^  '""  ""'^  >-°"  ^'"  ^^^  ^^at  the 
natural  reachmg  out  of  the  plant  after  the  sun- 

-ght  has  bent  u  over  again  toward  the  window 

So  you  may  seek  to  turn  your  mind  and  you 

naturanT'""?  ?°''  '"^  ^^^^ -"  ^-^  ou 
nat^urally  toward  the  divine  light  o.  the  Son  of 

If  you  were  a  frequent  visitor  in  the  crowded 
wards  of  some  large  hospital,  and  were  observ- 

ral  V  th^"  "T^  ''"  """^^  '^"'^  how  natu- 
ral y  these  pale  faces,  as  with  a  common  im- 

j«  fj,  •  -•     ^"^  reason  is  written 

^tanding     They  do  so  naturally,  they  do  not 
kno„  .h        So  there  ^s  a  „„iversa!  in'tinct  o 
the  soul  that  turns  the  face  of  e^-ery  sin-sick 
mortal  toward  the  light  of  divine  truth,  toward 
the  Sun  of  R.ghteoosness.     But  how  many  are 


WHA  TAYO  UNO  MAN  0 10 HT  TO  KNO  W.      4 1 

to-day  unhappy  simply  because  in  their  nature 
deeper  down  than  their  understanding,  there  is 
a  longing  and  a  reaching  out  after  God  and 
Heaven  and  .nrred  things,  while  at  the  same 
time,  m  w.cked  rejection  of  their  Saviour,  they 
are  turning  their  faces  away  from  Christ,  the 
hght  of  the  world. 

Next  after  the  grace  of  God.   perhaps  no 
other  earthly  influence  is  more  salutary  and 
helpful  to  the  young  man  who  is  struggling  for 
punty  of  thought  and  life  than  the  influence  of 
a  pure-minded,  noble  and  inspiring  woman. 
The  companionship,  or  even  the  acquaintance 
of  some  women  is    not   helpful  to   a  young 
man  who   is  struggling  for  mastery  over  his 
lower  nature.     Some  women,  although  not  im- 
pure in  their  lives,  are  yet  impure  in  their  hearts 
Amative  by  nature,  voluptuous  in  form,  and 
with  a  predominating  sensuality,  the>'  inspire 
impure  thoughts  and  arouse  the  most'dormant 
sexual  nature.     But  these  conditions  are  not 
found  among  the  majority  of   women.     As  a 
rule,  they  are  by  nature  chaste,  pure-minded 
and  when  their  hearts  are  endued  by  divine 
grace  and  their  lives  are  brought   under  the 
sway  of  refimng  and  religious  influences,  if  they 
are  not  rendered  frivolous  by  society  or  empty- 
headed  by  novel-reading,  their  companionship 
and  acquaintance  is  more  than  likely  to  prove 
helpful  and  inspiring  to  a  yourg  man.    Associa- 
tion  with   women  who  are  pure  in  heart  and 
noble  m  life  is  never  anything  but  inspiring 
and  elevating. 


42     WHAT  A  Yovsa  MAS  oral  IT  Hj  ksow. 


When  a  man  loves  a  woman  who  .,  pure  and 
queenly,  and  when  he  sets  up  f.)r  himself  the 
same  standards  of  moral  and  personal  pur  ^ 
whic!\  he  sets  up  for  her,  he  has  thrown  around 
himself  one  of  the  surest  and  strongest  of  hu- 
man safeguards. 

No  man  can  possibly  make  a  greater  mistake 
than  to  set  up  two  standards  of  virtue,  one  for 
men  and  the  other  for  women.  The  problem 
of  social  purity  will  never  be  solved  so  long  as 
women  condone  in  men  the  sin  whi  h  would 
consign  one  of  their  own  sex  to  the  eternal  ob- 
loquy and  endless  ostracism  which  is  heaped 
upon  a  woman  who  goes  wrong.  The  measure 
which  is  meted  to  women  should  also  be  meted 
to  men.  A  moral  leper,  regardless  of  sex,  de- 
serves to  be  ostracized  and  banished. 

This  deceptive  and  destructive  double-stand- 
ard of  morality  is  a  relic  of  barbarism,  and  its 
history  and  character  need  but  to  be  known  in 
order  to  understand  both  its  injustice  and  its 
ruinous  consequences.  In  her  booklet,  "  Al- 
most a  Woman,'*  Mrs.  Mary  Wood-Allen, 
M.D.,  writes  of  its  origin  as  follows  : 

"  Many,  many  years  ago  men  bought  their 
wives,  or  took  them  by  force  from  others,  so 
they  felt  that  they  ojvned  their  wives.  Of 
course,  each  man  liked  to  feel  that  his  wife 
was  above  reproach,  that  she  really  did  belong 
to  him,  therefore  he  held  any  lack  of  fidelity  as 
a  great  sin  against  himself.  But  he  did  not 
think  that  he  belonged  to  her.  She  had  neither 
bought  nor  captured  him,  so  she  had  no  power 


WHA  TAVO  Uya  J/^l.V  0  UOIIT  TO  KSO  W.      43 

over  him,  except  such  as  she  could  gain  by  her 
fascinations. 

"  Naturally,  he  did  not  care  to  be  bound  by 
the  same  rigid  ideas  to  which  he  held  bcr.    lie 
felt  himself  free  to  do  what  fancy  indicated. 
The  general  level  of  morals  was  low.  so  he  fol- 
lowed the  pleasures   of   sense,   and  the   wife 
could  only  submit,  or  try  to  be  more  fascinat- 
ing to  him  than  any  one  else.     But  if  he  were 
great  and  inlluential  or  handsome,  and  were 
not  bound  by  any  moral  restraints,  there  would 
be  other  women  desirous  of  gaining  his  atten- 
tions and  the  material  comforts  he  might  be 
able  to  give,  and  he  would  quite  willingb  think 
himself  free  to  follow  his  fancy  without  censure. 
In  this  way  has  grown  up  the  double  moral 
standard,  the  pure  woman  holding  herself  to 
the    strictest    morality,    and    men    imagining 
themselves  not  so  sternly  held  to  the  narrow 
path  of  absolute  purity. 

"Women  are  not  now  slaves,  bought  as 
wives  and  rated  for  their  personal  charms 
alone.  They  have  intellectual  power  and 
moral  force  and  social  influence,  and  they  can, 
if  they  will,  create  the  single  moral  standard,' 
that  is  the  one  high  ideal  for  both  men  and 
women." 

In  "What  a  Young  Girl  Ought  to  Know," 
the  same  author  shows  in  a  very  clear  and 
simple  manner  why  the  same  moral  standards 
are  for  both  men  and  women  : 

"  We  are  souls,  living  in  and  expressing  our- 
selves through  bodies,  and  it  is  as  souls  that 


44       WHAT  A  YOVNQ  MAS  OVQHT  TO  KSOW. 


our  condi;'-t  is  to  be  judged.  What  one  soul 
does  is  of  just  as  much  importance  as  what 
any  other  soul  does.  It  is  in  God's  sijjht  no 
less  a  hideous  sin  for  boys  to  swear  or  be  im- 
pure than  for  girls,  for  God  looks  at  us  as  souls. 
He  knows  that  the  body  does  only  what  the 
soul  prompts  it  to  do.  It  is  not  the  body  that 
is  guilty.  The  body  does  not  lie  or  swear.  It 
is  the  soul  that  expresses  itself  through  the  or- 
gans of  speech.  The  body  is  in  itself  not  vile, 
but  the  soul,  tainted  with  vile  thoughts  and  evil 
desires,  moves  the  body  to  do  its  bidding.  The 
body  is  our  home.  Does  the  style  or  house  one 
lives  in  change  the  quality  of  his  deeds  1  Is  it 
any  less  sinful  for  the  person  who  lives  in  a 
gray  house  to  steal  than  for  one  who  livej  in  a 
white  house  ?  We  would  think  it  a  strange  way 
to  judge  of  conduct  to  say,  'Oh,  Mr.  L.  may 
steal  and  lie.  He  lives  in  a  gray  house,  and  it 
is  the  nature  of  people  who  live  in  gray  houses 
to  do  that  way  ;  but  Mr.  A.  ought  not  to  steal 
or  lie  for  he  lives  in  a  white  house,  and  it  is  ex- 
pected that  those  who  live  in  white  houses 
should  be  honest  and  upright.'  We  would 
know  at  once  that  the  i^-ind  or  color  of  the 
house  makes  no  difference,  has  no  effect  on  the 
quality  of  his  conduct. 

"  This  is  just  as  true  in  regard  to  our  bodily 
dwelling.  One  soul  lives  in  the  body  of  a  man, 
another  lives  in  the  body  of  a  woman,  but  both 
are  souls,  and  one  is  just  as  much  responsible 
for  right  conduct  as  the  other.  Therefore  there 
is  no   more    ■.xcuse  for  a  man   doi   ^    wrong 


WHAT  A   YOISQ  MAS  OlOUT  TO  KNOW.      45 


than   for  a  woman   doing  wrong.     (*od's   law 
is  the  bamc  for  both." 

One  of  the  greatest  safeguards  of  a  virtuous 
young  man  is  intelhgence.     Virtue  based  upon 
intelligence    is    always    safer    than    innocence 
based  upon  ignorance.     We  have  not  used  the 
word  "knowledge,"  because  that  might  imply 
that  a  young  man  was  to  obtain  knowledge  by 
experience.    Such  an  acquisition  would  be  both 
expensive  and  ruinous.    Intelligence  can  be  ac- 
quired without  much  expense,  either  of  money 
or  effort,  and  without  any  ruin.     We  think  it 
might  safely  be  said  that  a  large  percentage  of 
/oung  men  who  begin  a  life  of  vice  are  led  into 
it  because  of  ignorance  and  a  desire  for  infor- 
mation.    What   they   have  hea.-d    concerning 
women    has    awakened   their    curiosity ;    vile 
stories  and   corrupting   books   and   suggestive 
pictures  have  quickened  the  imagination,  and, 
conscious  of  profound  ignorance,  they  undertake 
to  secure  by  experience  what  they  have  found 
themselvesunabletoacquire  in  a  proper  manner. 
Many  of  the  books  professing  10  give  information 
and  to  be  helpful  to  young  men  have  been  writ- 
ten by  those  who  are  themselves  corrupt ;   the 
information  imparted  is  false,  the  influence  per- 
verting, and  the  design  of  the  author  is  to  work 
upon  the  imagination  of  his  reader,  and  to  alarm 
many  without  cause,  in  order  to  effect  the  sale 
of  his  nostrums  and  secure  a  large  number  of 
young   men  who  will  suffer  themselves  to  be 
imposed  upon  and  robbed,  to  their  own  discom- 
fiture and  the  enrichment  of  the  author. 


4<i       nil  AT  A   vol  .\(i  M.iy  otaiiT  -JO  h.\OH\ 

There  are  a  ^'oodly  number  of  hooks  whi-^h 
are  well  raU  ulated  to  impart  reliable  informa- 
tion and  render  younj;  men  intelli;,'ent  upon 
this  as  upon  any  other  subject  ;♦  and  no  young 
man  can  come  properly  to  know  his  own  phys- 
ical and  sexual  nature,  and  that  of  womankind, 
Without  being  inspired  with  admiration  and  awe 
at  the  marvellous  manifestations  of  divine  wis- 
dom displayed  in  these  wonderful  and  myste- 


*  The  first  l)ook  in  the  Sf.i.f  and  Skx  Skriks,  en- 
tilied  "  What  a  \oung  Hoy  Ou^ht  to  Know,"  should 
be  read  by  every  young  man  who  would  be  intelligent 
concerning  the  origin  of  life,  and  who  would  under- 
stand tio-is  puqK)se  in  endowing  man  with  reprcnluc- 
tive  organs  and  reproductive  power.     These  several 
books  are  arranged  upon  the  basis  of  an  clucational 
series,  and  the  second  and  subse<iuent  lx>oks  cannot 
be  fully  understood  until  the  earlier  books  in  the  series 
have  been  thoughtfully  read.     The  information  which 
they  contain  is  printed  in  separate  volumes,   so  that 
persons  in  different  periods  of  life  can  have  in  a  sej 
arate  Ixiok  such  information  as  is  suited  to  their  per- 
sonal needs.      I'very  man  -liould  have  the  information 
which  is  contained  in  the  book  to  boys,  but  boys  do 
not  need  the  book  to  young  men  until  some  time  after 
they  have  passed  the  age  of  p.iberty  ;   and  no  young 
man  needs  the  information  in  the  book  to  young  hus- 
bands until  after  he  is  twenty  years  of  age. 

The  Vir  Publishing  Co.  can  also  furnish  lists  of 
tracts,  pamphlets  and  books  issued  by  the  American 
Purity  Alliance,  the  White  ^ross,  the  Woman's  Chris- 
tian Teniperarice  Union  and  others  who  publish  pure 
literature  upon  sexual  questions. 


niLlTA   iOVSa  Jit  AS'  0(0  JIT  TO  A'.VOIJ'.       47 

rioiis  bodies  of  ours,  and  without  havinjjhis  re- 
spect  and  admiration  hei-htcncd  for  every  pure- 
minded  and  n()l)le  woman  to  whom  C.nd  has 
given  hfe  and  being.  Kvery  man  who  knows 
the  real  nature  of  a  pure  woman  will  adore  and 
desire  to  protect  her.  rather  than  be  moved  to 
sexual  pas.ion  l)y  thought  of  her.  and  he  will 
desire  also  to  lift  her  to  a  throne  and  to  crown 
her  with  honor  and  sceptre  her  with  love.  No 
truly  intelligent  man  will  desire  to  debase  a 
pure  woman  with  vile  lust,  to  trample  her  vir- 
tue beneath  his  feet,  and  degrade  her  to  the 
level  of  the  brute. 

The  question  of  personal   purity  is   one  of 
greatest  importance  to  every  young  man.  What 
the  individuals  are.  that  the  state  will  be.     As 
a  patriot  and  as  a  lover  of  humanity  you  owe  it 
to  others  that  you  should  yourself  be  pure.   Vou 
owe  it  to  your  parents,  to  your  business  asso- 
ciates and  to  all  who  respect  and  trust  you,  that 
you  should  be  pure.   The  age  demands  men  who 
are  pure  from  head  to  foot,  from  heart  to  brain. 
But  it  is  important  also  that  you  should  realize 
that  by  your  conduct  you  are  developing  or  de- 
basing character.    What  you  do  is  determining 
what  yo  1  shall  be,  both  in  this  world  and  in 
the  ne.xt.     If.  as  you  should,  you  expect  purity 
in  the  dear,  sweet  girl  whom  you  hope  some 
day  to  claim  as  your  bride,  you  should  remem- 
ber  that  all  you  desire  to  find  in  her  she  has  an 
equal  right  to  expect  and  to  demand  of  you. 
If  she  is  to  be  noble  and  pure,  then  you  should 
also  be  noble  and  pure. 


48       nilAT  A  YOlSO  MAN  OUOUT  TO  KSOW. 


Hut  thcic  is       I.  .1      ther  thin^j  to  he  seriously 
remcinlc  ?*...  \,  you  are  in  your  own  life, 

that  yu'   children  after  you  are  most  likely  to 
become.     If  you  arc  vicious,  you  are  making  it 
easy  for  your  chiklren  to  be  vicious  after  you  ; 
lilt  if  you  are  ]nnc  .i"  |    u^*^'.^'*<\  you   will  be 
makinj^   it  ea;^ier  for  them  to  be  pure  and  up- 
riKht.     If  we  have  ourselves  inherited  bad  ten- 
dencies, we  owe  it  to  those  w  ho  are  to  come  after 
us  that  these  vicious  tendencies  snail  tind  in  us 
such  a  resolute  determination  and  such  an  in- 
vincible purpose  that  the  stren^jth  of  these  ten- 
dencies shall  be  broken,  so  that  the  children  who 
come  after  us  shall  inherit  opportunities  and 
endowments  such  as  we  ourselves  have  never 
enjoyed.    What  the  br.ive  patriot  does  who  dies 
with  his  face  toward  his  country's  foe,  that  let 
us  accomplish  in  our  lives  for  the  children  who 
are  to  bear  our  names  after  us  either  in  re- 
proach or  honor.    Henry  Ward  Beecher  wisely 
said  that  since  so  much  depends  upon  blood, 
every  person  should  exercise  great  caution  in 
the  selection  of  his  grandfather,  and  the  stat#' 
ment  is  suggestive. 


CHAPTER  III, 

PHYSICAL   WEAKNESS 

The  younff  man  who  finds  that  hi,  physical 
power,  .re  weak,  owes  it  to  himself  to  in.piro 
a    once  into   the  cause.      Physical  weakness 
'"a>  be.  and  oftentimes  is.  inherited;  but  even 
.nhcr.te..  weakness  can  .generally  he  measur- 
ably  overcome.     Hy  consultation  w.th  his  fam- 
ly  Phys.c.,m.  and  by  the  readm,^  of  good  hooks 
on  hyg.ene  and  physical  culture,  a  young  man 
'"ay  acquire    an  intelli.^cnt    understanding  of 
J"s  own  physic!  needs,  and  so  modify  his  diet 
and  direct  his  efforts  and  exercise  as  to  effect 
a  great  modification  of  his  inherited  weakness 
and    sometimes    by    care    and    perseverance 
even  to  acquire  a  strong  bodily  vigc      and  en- 
joy  a  long  l.fe  of  uninterrupted  good  health. 
Indeed,  in  an  extended  period  of  close  ol.ser- 
vation    the   writer    has    been    impressed    w.th 
the  fact  that,  of  the  men  who  die  before  thev 
reach   the  age  of   thirty   years,   the   majority 
are  of  those  who  have  been  gifted  by  nature 
with   the    be>t    physical    endowments.      It    is 
often  said  that  it  is  th  •  bc.t   swimmers  who 
are  most  frequently  drowned.     They  venture 
they  take  risks,  they  oftentimes  become  fooN 
hardy,  and  drowning  is  f  equently  the  result. 
ibe  same  is  true  of  young  persons  po-.essed 

4  Ad 


50       WHAT  A   rot  SO  MAS  OIGHT  TO  KSOW. 

of  greatest  physical  endowments.  With  a 
sen^e  of  jjreat  bodily  vi^cr  the/  fail  to  become 
intelli^'ent  upon  the  subject  of  hy^'ienc  and 
heahh,  they  ncj^'lect  to  cultivate  or  even  to  care 
for  their  physical  powers,  they  expose  them- 
selves to  rolds,  become  irregular  m  their  habits, 
ijjnore  and  defy  all  laws  of  health,  and  ( (in-ic 
qnently  oftenest  fill  early  graves.  The  mm 
who  has  a  comparatively  weak  body,  ami 
whose  1  nysical  powers  are  not  much  above  the 
avera^;r  if  he  has  learned  hew  to  take  :  of 
his  health,  and  how  to  develop  hib  p  ')  .ical 
powers,  has  a  fairer  chance  for  lonj^  life  and 
fjood  health  than  the  man  who  has  the  l.irjjest 
natural  endowment,  but  who,  because  of  ignor- 
ance, unknowingly  violates  or  openly  defies  all 
the  laws  of  health. 

Where  physical  weakness  has  not  been  in- 
herited it  has  oftentimes  been  acquired,  and 
sometimes  is  even  self-inflicted.  Too  often  the 
food  is  rich  and  indigestible,  sometimes  it  is  un- 
wholesome, and  not  infrequently  it  is  rendered 
thoroughly  indigestible  by  improper  cooking. 
Three  meals  should  be  taken  daily,  separated 
by  intervals  of  not  less  than  fivt  hours.  The 
hours  for  eating  should  be  observed  with  care- 
ful regularity,  and  no  food  should  be  taken  be- 
tween meals.  If,  within  a  period  of  two  or 
three  hours  alter  eating,  food  ii  taken  into  the 
stomach,  that  which  was  eaten  at  the  previous 
meal,  and  is  well  advanced  in  the  processes  of 
digestion,  is  arrested  in  its  preparation  for  the 
intestines    by   having    fresh    and    undigested 


•»"/^r^ror"-/;,v^>    va^T  to  asow.    j. 
food  poured  into  t  narh   »n  t 

Another  cause  of  physical  weakness  is  often 
found  in  the  rhanrfrr  «-  »k  " 

secured      A  ,  „  '^"^^  °'^  '''^  quantity  of  sleep 

poHer.  arc  not  overworked,  will  jrenerallv  re 
Mu.re   aoout   ei,.ht   hours   of  sleep      The  w  ^c 

Sn     •X'/''^^^'^^'"^'^P^>-^- 
^-ep.w.Ubescns.bleenouK^htotakea.    Fver' 


!■' 


nentimcs  to  e.xhaustin^^  and  even  debas- 
'"^'  ^^"^usement  and  recreation.  Lnles  you 
are  naturally  a  very  lazy  person,  v.:  t/;4 


5  i       wnA  T  A  YO  UNG  MAN  0 1 « IIT  TO  KSO  W. 

likely  to  take  more  sleep  than  your  constitution 
requires  ;  but  always  remember  that  lazily  ly- 
inj;  in  bed  in  the  morning  is  not  sleeping.  It  is 
a  pretty  safe  rule  to  sleep  or  to  remain  in  bed 
only  so  long  as  you  can  sleep  soundly.  At  all 
times  also  remember  that  the  first  hours  of  the 
night  are  more  rich  in  physical  invigorc^tion 
and  healthful  benefits  than  the  hours  after  mid- 
night, and  get  up  promptly  in  the  morning 
when  you  awake. 

Restlessness    or    sleeplessness     during    the 
night  is  always  a  bad  symptom,  whether  the 
individual   be  regarded  either  as   sick  or  well. 
Your  sleep  should  be  sound,  and  not  broken.    It 
should  not  even  be  unduly  disturbed  by  dreams. 
If  you  suffer  from  nightmare,  have  the  sense 
of  falling,  or  have  dreams  in  which  the  events 
are  full  of  pcrple.xity  and   cau?e  great  mental 
anxiety  during  sleep,  ycu  may  be  assured  that 
your  stomach  contains   some   undigested   and 
possibly  indigestible  food,  which  was  eaten  at 
the  evening  meal  or  during  t>>e  day,  and  yoti 
should  carefidly  set  yourself  to  discover  what 
that  article  of  diet  is.     It  is  possible  that  yjur 
stomach  may  be  able  to  digest  meat  ea*en  in 
the  evening    but   there   are    many   stomachs 
which  will  not  digest  meat  taken  at  the  evening 
meal,    and    consequently  it   must    lie  in    the 
stomach,  where  it  will  be  sure  to  set  up   irri- 
tation,   and    cause    discomfon    when    awake 
ana   unrest  when  ycu  atte:  .pt  to  sleep.     The 
stomachs  of  some  people  will  not  digest  fish, 
some  refuse  to  receive  milk  and  appropriate  it. 


v'liAT  A  i'ovya  iiAy  ouuut  to  Kyoiv.     53 


Rich  pastry  is  always  injurious,  and  to  some 
stomachs  fruit  and  especi.dly  bananas  give  sub- 
setjucnt  uneasiness  if  taken  in  the  latter  portion 
of  the  day. 

if  at  any  time  your  sleep  is  troubled  and 
broken,  rest  assured  there  is  always  some  ade- 
quate cause,  and  you  should  lose  no  time  in  de- 
termining what  it  is.  Generally  it  will  be  found 
in  the  character  or  quantity  of  the  food  eaten 
during  the  waking  hours  whicn  preceded. 
Every  young  man  should  learn  to  be  observant 
of  the  effects  of  what  he  eats.  When  you  suffer 
from  headache,  or  feel  weak  or  worthless,  or 
without  animation  or  ambition,  there  is  some 
cause  for  it,  and  you  will  usually  find  that  cause 
by  a  careful  review  of  the  past  twenty-four 
hours,  or  at  least  of  the  forty-eight  which  have 
preceded. 

No  young  man  can  afford  to  sleep  on  feath- 
ers, nor  beneath  them,  either.  The  custom,  in 
the  country,  or  s'eeping  either  on  feathers  or 
under  feather-beds,  while  seeming  very  desir- 
able or  essential  on  account  of  comfort,  because 
of  the  intensely  cold  room  in  which  people 
oftentimes  sleep  in  rural  districts,  is  yet  injurious, 
and  is  carefully  to  be  avoided  by  those  who 
seek  strong  bodies  and  good  physical  powers. 
Much  better  and  more  wholesome  results  can 
be  secured  by  more  sanitary  beds  and  plenty 
of  proper  covering.  Feathers  are  too  heating. 
Even  when  lying  on  the  side  of  the  body  the 
feathers  are  apt  to  press  against  the  back  and 
spine,  and  thus  result  in   unduly  heatin;^-  the 


54     WHAT  A  yousG  mas  ought  to  hWOlV. 


spinal  column,  which  always  tends  to  and  does 
often  produce  physical  and  sexual  weakness. 
A  good  mattress  of  some  sort,  excepting  cotton, 
or  '*ven  z.  hard  bed,  is  much  to  be  preferred. 
No  young  man  who  is  trouljled  with  sexual 
weakness  can  hope  to  attain  entire  relief  so 
long  as  he  sleeps  upon  feathers  or  uses  a  feather- 
bed as  a  covering.  Prefer  a  hard  bed.  The 
amount  of  covering  should  always  be  moderate, 
and  even  a  slightly  insufticient  ain  unt  is  better 
than  overmuch. 

A  single  bed  is  always  to  be  preferred,  both 
for  married  and  unmarried  people.  Where  two 
persons  sleep  in  the  same  bed,  the  one  who  has 
the  stronger  physical  power  is  lii^ely  to  absorb 
the  vital  forces  from  the  weaker  one.  Where 
either  is  aftlicted  with  any  tendency  to  con- 
sumption, has  any  skin  disease,  or  other  mal- 
ady, he  is  likely  to  impart  its  evil  influences,  if 
not  its  actual  contagion,  to  the  individual  who 
shares  his  bed  with  him.  The  sleeping-room 
should  always  be  exposed  to  the  sunlight.  The 
apartment  should  be  thoroughly  ventilated 
during  the  day,  and  there  should  be  an  ample 
supply  of  fresh  air  throughout  the  entire  night. 

As  we  have  already  intimated,  physical 
weakness  may  be  due  to  physical  excess  and  to 
self-inflicted  causes.  At  some  period  during 
childhood  or  subsequent  years  most  young  men 
have  learned,  either  from  their  boy  associates, 
from  some  accidental  cause,  such  as  sliding 
down  a  banister  or  climbing  and  descending 
trees,  or  because  of  an  unnatural  sexual  irrita- 


a  JUT  A   YOISG  MAS  Ol'OUT  TO  KNOW. 


33 


bility,  something  concerning  the  unmanly  and 
debasing  practice  of  self-polUition.  In  our  in- 
stitutions of  learning,  and  even  in  our  colleges 
and  universities,  masturbation  and  self-pollu- 
tion, and  other  forms  of  self-imposed  degrada- 
tion and  defilement,  are  practiced  among  many 
of  the  students,  and  sometimes  even  to  an 
alarming  extent.  The  practice  is  revolting 
and  degrading,  and,  if  continued,  is  ruinous  in 
its  results.  It  weakens  the  intellectual,  debases 
the  moral  and  thoroughly  undermines  the  phys- 
ical man.  The  practice  is  not  only  a  sin  against 
Goa,  '.jut  a  sin  against  all  that  is  high  and  holy 
in  man's  nature,  and  most  thoroughly  destruc- 
tive of  all  the  possibilities  which  coming  years 
havt  in  store  for  the  unhappy  individual. 

The  most  fruitful  source  of  self-pollution  is 
ignorance.  If  parents  were  faithful  in  the  dis- 
charge of  their  duty  to  their  children  in  this 
respect,  the  evil  would  be  generally  corrected. 
The  silence  of  most  parents  is  both  foolish  and 
culpable.  The  person  who  leaves  his  or  her 
child  to  learn  from  vicious  companions  in  an 
unhallowed  way  what  they  should  have  received 
from  the  lips  of  father  or  mother  is  guilty  of 
grave  neglect,  and  loses  the  best  opportunity 
of  a  parent's  "-^  *■)  establish  the  mind  of  i.he 
child  in  purity  a..J  virtue.  Mrs.  Alice  Lee 
Moque,  herself  the  mother  of  three  boys,  in 
writing  in  this  subject  aptly  and  correctly 
says  : 

"  Ignorance  is  a  deadly  sin.  In  this  enlight- 
ened age  we  must  recognize  that  ignorance  is 


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56       WHAT  A   YOLNa  MAS  OUOllT  TO  Kyow. 


not  innocence,  and  reniembcr  that  to  forewarn 
our  boys  is  to  forearm  lliem.  The  truth,  prop- 
erly told,  has  never  yet  harmed  a  child  ;  silence, 
false  shame  anil  mystery  have  corrupted  the 
souls  and  bodies  of  untold  millions." 

We  have  learned  even  of  educated  and  cul- 
tured youny  men  at  the  aj^^e  of  twcnty-tive  autl 
thirty  who,  throu^'h  ij;norance,  have  fallen  into 
this  terrible  vice.  Thousands  of  boys  and  younj; 
men,  who  are  intelli<.;cnt  and  well  informed 
upon  other  subjects,  are  in  total  ij^norance  u})on 
the  nature  and  design  of  their  reiroductive 
organs,  and  fall  into  and  continue  in  this  most 
degrading  and  ruinous  vice  simply  because 
they  are  profoundly  ignorant. 

There  arc  some,  also,  who  in  their  ignorance 
suppose  that  if  the  sexual  member  is  to  develop 
naturally  during  the  growing  years  it  is  neces- 
sary that  physical  excitation  should  be  pro- 
duced by  some  mechanical  means.  This  false 
and  ruinous  idea  comes  from  the  knowledge 
of  the  fact  that  the  muscles  are  strengthened 
and  developed  by  exercise.  But  these  mistaken 
and  deluded  persons  do  not  know  that  by  far 
the  most  important  part  of  the  sexual  member 
is  composed  of  the  great  body  of  nerves  which 
centre  and  radiate  from  the  sexual  system  in  a 
series  of  network  which  is  most  intimately  re- 
lated to  the  nerves  throughout  the  entire  body. 
Now,  instead  of  being  developed  by  this  un- 
natural process,  the  sexual  member  is  itself  im- 
paired, and  if  the  process  is  often  repeated  or 
lonfj  continued  the  result  is  the  dwarfing  and 


\nuTA  yoiyo  j/.j.v  olgjit  to  a-.\>mp.     57 

wasting'  of  the  orj;an  itself  and  the  complete 
shattering,'  of  the  entire  nervous  system.  In 
this  way  a  mistaken  and  Kuiltv  perpetrator  is 
made  to  suffer  the  resuhs  of  the  La  which  was 
committed  in  his  ignorance. 

I'.y    some    strange    and    mistaken    delusion 
not   a  few  men.  and   even    seme    uninformed 
physicians,  have   the   idea  that  a  pure,  conti- 
nent, self-contained  life  is  inconsistent  and  un- 
favorable to  the  best  physical  well-being.     In 
order  that  the  reader  may  understand  the  un- 
scientific character  of  this  absurd  theory,  we 
quote  the  opinions  of  some  of  the  al^Icst'phy- 
sitians.both  throughout  Europe  and  the  United 
States,  .-'ion  this  important  subject. 

Professor  Lionel  S.  Beale  of  King's  College, 
London, says : 

"  It  is  an  entirely  erroneous  and  unfounded 
statement  that  when,  for  various  c.iuses,  mar- 
riage has  not  taken  place,  it  is  necessary  to 
provide  a  substitute  for  physiological  reasons. 
It  cannot  be  too  forcibly  preached  that  the 
strictest  contin-nce  and  purity  agree  alike  with 
physiological  and  mental  as  well  as  with  moral 
laws,  and  that  compliance  with  wishes,  long- 
ings and  passionate  desires  can  be  as  little  jus- 
tified by  the  principles  of  physiology  and  psy- 
chology as  by  those  of  morals  and  religion." 

In  order  that  the  people  might  have  a  reliable 
and  official  answer  to  this  question,  the  Union 
for  the  Advancement  of  Public  Morality  in 
Norway  addressed  a  letter  of  inquiry  to  the 
medical  faculty  in  the  University  of  Christiania 


I.. 


58       WHAT  A   YOUNG  MAS  OUOIIT  TO  K\nH'. 

to  which  the  faculty,  composed  of  some  of  the 
ablest  physicians  in  Northern  Europe,  made 
the  following;  reply  : 

"  In  answer  to  the  letter  of  your  executive 
committee,  the  medical  faculty  has  the  honor  to 
submit  the  following;  declaration  :  The  assertion 
made  recently  by  various  persons,  and  repeated 
in  public  journals  and  at  public  assemblies,  th.it 
a  moral  course  of  life  and  sexual  continence 
are  injurious  to  health,  is  entirely  incorrect 
according  to  our  experience,  which  is  herewith 
unanimously  expressed.  We  know  of  no  dis- 
ease nor  of  any  kind  of  weakness  concerning 
which  we  may  safely  affirm  that  it  might  pro- 
ceed from  a  perfectly  pure  and  moral  life. 

"  According  to  the  unanimous  experience, 
therefore,  not  according  to  the  opinion,  of  these 
approved  physicians,  purity  is  as  little  inju- 
rious to  a  man  as  to  a  woman.  The  Journal 
of  junior  Norwegian  physicians,  who  are  edu- 
cated and  developed  entirely  in  the  spirit  of 
modern  medical  science,  coincided  completely 
and  emphatically  with  this  utterance." 

Professor  August  Forel,  of  Zurich,  Switzer- 
land, and  Baron  von  Krafft-Ebing,  of  the  Uni- 
versity of  Vienna,  Austria,  unite  in  saying: 

"  We  maintain  that  for  a  young  man  up  to 
the  time  of  his  marriage  chastity  is  mo::t  salu- 
tary, not  only  in  an  ethical  and  a^sthetical 
sense,  but  also  from  a  hygienic  standpoint." 

In  perfect  harmony  with  these  European  phy- 
sicians, Dr.  George  H.  Napheys,  in  his  excellent 
book  on  "  The  Transmission  of  Life,"  says  ; 


nilAT  A   roiyo  MAN  ULUllT  TO  KSOW. 


59 


"  We  emphatically  condemn,  as  a  most  per- 
nicious doctrine,  one  calculated  to  work  untold 
evil,  and  to  foster  the  worst  forms  of  vice,  the 
theory  that  any  injury  whatever  arises  from  a 
chaste  celibacy.  The  organs  are  not  weak- 
ened, nor  their  power  lost,  nor  is  there  a  ten- 
dency to  spermatorrhcra,  nor  to  congestions, 
nor  to  an  one  of  those  ills  which  certain  vi- 
cious writers  and  certain  superficial  and  careless 
physicians  have  attributed  to  this  state.  No 
condition  of  life  is  more  thoroughly  consistent 
with  perfect  mental  and  physical  vigor  than  ab- 
solute chastity." 

To  show  the  fallacy  of  such  a  theory,  and  to 
present  the  opinions  of  somv»  of  the  most  learned 
physicians   upon   this   subject,    Mr.  Aaron  M. 
Powell,    the   editor  of  The  Philanthropist  and 
the  President  of  the  American  Purity  Alliance, 
obtained  and  has  published  in  tract  form  the 
views  of  a  large  number  of  some  of  the  most 
prominent  physicians  resident  in  the  vicinity 
of  New  York  City  upon  this  subject.     The  tes- 
timony of  these  physicians  is  in  perfect  accord 
with  the  foregoing  statements,  and  is  also  em- 
phatic and  conclusive.     That  the  reader  may 
have  the  full  text  of  this  valuable  document  we 
present  their  testimony  : 

MEDICAL   DECLARATION   CONCERNING  CHASTITV  • 

In  view  of  the  widespread  suffering,  physical  dis- 
ease, deplorable  hereditary  results,  and  moral  deteri- 
oration, inseparable  from  unchaste  living,  we  the  un- 
dersigned, members  of  the  medical  profession  of  New 


6o       MJIAT  A   YOlSa  MAS  OLGUT  TO  A.N'Mi' 


York  nn<l  vicinity,  unite  in  declaring  it  as  our  opinion 
lluit  chastity, — a  puic,  continriu  litr,  for  Imtlj  scxf<, 
— is  conx)iKUit  with  the  Iwst  cuiiditioiis  of  physical, 
mental  and  moral  health. 

1).  M.  Sr.  JkHN  Roosa,  M.D.,  I.I..I).,  I're-ident 
of  the  New  Vurk  Academy  of  Medicine  ;  I'leMdent 
of  l' e  New  \(>rk  IN .st-l Graduate  Medical  School; 
Surt;ti)n  of  the  Manhatl.ii  I'ye  and  Kar  Hospital. 

Anuki.w  H.  SMnil,  y.ly,  i'liy.->ician  to  the  Pres- 
byterian Hospital,  .Surgeon  to  the  .Mai  hattan  lye  ar.d 
Ear  Hospital,  'Ihroa^  Hepartnuiit. 

v..  I,.  Kkyis,  M.I)  ,  Consulting  Surgeon  to  lielle- 
vue  Hospital,  '!  hfj  Caarity  Hospital,  etc 

[The  whcili  matter,  in  my  opinion  i^  intellectual — 
a  pure  mind  ensiu-es  a  pure  Unly.  —  K.  L.  Ki-YKs.] 

Andrkw  F.  Currikr,  M.D.,  Ovmccoljgist  to  the 
Out  I'aticrit  Pepanment.  Uellevue  Hospital;  A.^-iist- 
ant  Cyna-cologist  to  the  Ski.i  and  Cancer  Hospital. 

Wai^ikR  Mi-.NI)EI.son,  M.').,i,ate  \ssislai.i  .Vt- 
tendant  Physician,  Koosevelt  Hospital,  (Jut- Patient 
Department. 

[I  fully  believe  also  th:  *  the  -ure  of  the  social  evil 
lies  solely  in  the  abolition  of  a  condition  which,  by 
breeding  involuntary  poverty,  constantly  tempts  wo- 
men to  sell  their  chastity  and  men  to  I  uy  it.  '1  he 
abolition  of  jn) verty  is  the  abolition  of  ninety-nine  one- 
bundredlhs  of  ail  prostitalion.— W.  MeNUKLSON, 
M.D.] 

\Vm.  .1.  Thomson,  M.D.,  LL.T^  ,  Professor  Ma- 
tena  Medica  and  Di..cases  of  the  Nervous  Svjtem, 
University  Medical  C.  liege  of  New  Y  rk  ;  Physiaan 
to  the  Roosevelt  and  Beii  vue  Hosphals. 

George  F.  Shrady,  M.D.,  Surgeon  ^o  St. 
Francis  Hospital,  N.  Y.  ;  Consulting  Surgeon  to  the 
New  York  Cancer  Hospital ;  Consulting  Physician- 
in- Chief  to  the   Hospitals  oi  the  Health  Department 


a  If  AT  A  rouya  i/.i.v  orouT  to  a'.voh'.     6i 


of  th-  City  of  N.  V.  ;  and   Kditor  of   TAf  MeJical 

Record. 

HiNKY  DwK.iiT  ('HAriN,  M.D.,  Professor  of  I  )is- 
eascs  of  Children  at  the  New  \'ork  Post  (iraduate 
Medical  School  and  llohpital ;  Attending  Physician 
to  the  I)emiU  1  )isii(  nsary. 

J.  K.  1. A I  HAM,  M.I). 

Nk.wton  M.  Shamir,  M.1>.,  Suri^con  in  (  hief  lo 
the  Ntw  \\>rk  ()rthop;vdic  Dispensary  and  Hospital; 
Consulting  ( )rthopa'dic  Sur^^eon  to  St.  Luke's  and 
Preshytfrian  Hospitals;  Consulting;  Physician  to  the 
New  \(.rk  Iiitinnary  for  \Voinoii  and  Children. 

Koya:.  W.  Amidon,  A.M.,  M.D.,  Profess<ir  of 
Therapeutics,  Woman's  Medical  Colleye  of  tlie  N.  V. 
Inlirniar)-. 

Jam  IS  H.  IUche,  M.D. 

Rom  KT  Aiii;k,  M.D.,  Surgeon  to  Si.  Luke's  Hos- 
pital ;  Sur;;eon  to  the  N.  Y.  Cancer  I  Io-,pital  ;  I'rof.  of 
Sur-rerv.  N.  V.  Post-draduate  Medical  SchrH)l. 

[The  exercise  of  continence  is,  to  the  moral  growth, 
what  gymnastic  e.xercise  is  to  the  physical. — Robert 
AiiBF,  M.D.] 

Edmuno  Cari.i.ion,  M.D. 

Ci.  ^L  EDr.lioill.s,  ^LI).,  Professor  of  Diseases  of 
Women,  New  York  Post-C.raduate  Medical  School; 
Gynac  loj^ist  to  St.  Francis  Hospital;  Consulting 
C.yna-coloi^ist  to  St.  John's  Hospital. 

Edward  M.  Pi.Ai-i.i.r.,  ^LD. 

David  Wk.iisti.r,  M.D.,  Professor  of  Ophthal- 
mology in  the  New  York  Polycl'mic,  and  in  I  >art- 
mnuth  College,  Hanover,  N.  H.  ;  Surgeon  to  the 
Manhattan  Eye  and  Ear  Hospital;  Consulting  Oph- 
thalmic Surgeon  to  the  Hackensack  Hos|,ital,  the 
Hospital  for  the  Ruptured  and  Crippled,  the  House 
of  Mercy,  etc.,  etc. 


62       WHAT  A   YOUSa  MAS  ftVOHT  TO  KSOW. 


I.FWis  IIaikk  K,  MI). 

( I  mf>st  hrortily  «pprove  and  cndcii^«  the  foreffoing 
clrciuruiioii.  J 

A.  I).  kcKKWKi  I  ,  M.I).,  Formerly  Trofrssor  of 
Klfitrt)  ITierapcut.cs,  New  York  I'ost- Graduate  Medi- 
cal .SchiKil. 

Chas.  Mii.nk.,  M.I). 

[It  vpvcs  me  riiuih  pleasure  to  sitm  this  imiKr. — 
C.   M   J 

R.  C.  M.  r.\(;K,  M.l).,  rrolV-vsorof  Ct-ncr.il  Medi- 
cine and  Hi.sea.scs  of  the  Chest  in  thf  Nt-w  NOrk 
Polyclinic;  Physician  to  the  Polyclinic  Hospital,  Con- 
sultinjj  Physician  to  St.  Klizaheth's  Hospital. 

K.  Van  Sanivoori),  MI). 

J,\MK.s  R.  MActiRKCoR,  M.I).,  Surgpon  to  the 
MetrojK)litan  Throat  Hospital,  N.  V.  ;  funncrly  As- 
sistant Physician  to  the  IJutlcr  Hospital  for  the  In- 
sane, Providence,  R.  I. 

[So  far  a.s  my  opinion  may  have  any  weight,  I  will- 
ingly enlist  it  in  the  endeavor  to  (lis|)el  the  mistaken 
notion — or.  rather,  pretext — that,  oiiNideof  tlie  proper 
marital  relation,  there  exists  any  pliysiolo},'ical  need  of 
sexual  indui^jencc. — J.  R.  MAC(iKK(;()K,  M.D.] 

Thomas  R.  Pdoi.ky,  M.I).,  Surpeon- in -Chief, 
New  Amsterdam  Kye  and  Ear  Hospital;  I'ellow  of 
the  N.  V.  Academy  of  Medicine  ;  late  Profes.sor  of 
()phth:ilmoloi;y  in  N.  V.  Polyclinic. 

N.  A.  Mo^iMAN,  M.D 

[Heartily  endorsed.  ] 

Frf.dkkicIv  Pi-tkkson,  M.D.,  Pfi.D.,  Neurolo- 
gi.st  to  Rand.ill's  I  ,lan<l  Ho-pitals  ;  Chief  of  Clinic, 
Nervous  Department,  Vanderbilt  Clinic  College  Physi- 
cians and  Surgeon.s. 

J.  J.  Hri.i.,  M.I).,  .Vttending  Plirsician  to  Nursep 
and  Child's  Hospital 


WHAT  A  yoiwa  mas  oloiit  to  Kyoir.    63 

Thomas  H.  Maniicy.  M  I),  Visiting  Surgpon  to 
Harlem  Hospital;  ('()n^ulting  Surgeon  to  V'orkville 
Inhrmary;  to  Home  for  the  Aged,  Vonkcr^ ;  and 
I)rumgf)ole  Hospital,  Statrn  Island,  New  Vork. 

W.  F.  MirrK.Ni.oRK,  M.I).,  C.mHulting  Ophihal- 
aic  Surgeon  of  St.  Mark's  Hospital,  etc.,  etc. 

Kai  I'll  VVai.do,    M.I).,  Cyna-cologist  to   I.el)nnon 
Hospital,  and  Chairman   of  its    Medical  Hoard.      In 
•tructor  of  (Jyiiitcology  at  the  I'ost-(Jraduate  Medical 
Sch<K)l. 

\V.  K.  Otis,  Attending  Surg^ron  City  Hospital  ;  to 
St.  Mark's  Hospital. 

Lkwis  Uoi.ni.N  Hanos,  M.I).,  Professor  C.enito- 
Urinary  Surgery  in  the  N.  Y.  Post-Ciraduate  Medical 
School;  Consulting  Surgeon  to  St.  Luke's  Hospit.il 
and  to  the  Methwiist  Kpi-,copal  Hospital,  Brooklyn  ; 
Surgeon  to  the  City  Hospital,  N.  V. 

John  H.  Bii.i.in(;s,  M.I).,  Surgeon  to  Metropoli- 
tan Throat  Hospital  ;  Consulting  Laryngologist,  Asto- 
ria Hospital. 

JosKPH  Coi.lJNs,  M.I).,  Visiting  Physician  to  the 
Hospital  for  Nervous  Diseases;  Attending  Physician 
to  St.  Mark's  Hospital;  Instructor  in  Nervous  ami 
Mental  Disea.ses  in  the  N.  V.  Po.st-( Graduate  Medical 
School. 

Simon  Baruch,  M.D.,  Physician  to  the  Minhatt.in 
General  Hospital;  Consulting  Physician  to  tho  Mon- 
tefiore  Home  for  Chronic  Invalids  ;  late  Physician  and 
Surgeon  to  the  N.  V.  Juvenile  .\sylum. 

H.  J.  Boi.DT,  M.D.,  Professor  of  C.ynnccology, 
New  York  Post-Graduate  Medical  School  and  Hos- 
pital ;  Gynivcologist  to  St.  Mark's  Hospital  ;  Gynae- 
cologist to  the  (ierman  Poliklinik  ;  Consulting  GyTi.r;- 
cologiat  to  Beth-Israel  Hospital ;  late  Chairman  of  the 


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Section  of  Disease.-,  of  Woman,  New  York  Academ, 
of  Medicine. 

Ci.KMKNT  CirvKiAvn,  M.D.,  Attending  Surgeon, 
Woman's  Hospital  in  State  of  New  York. 

FPHRAIM  Cl;tti:r,  A.M.,  M.D.,  1856  Ilarv-.  and 
1857  Univ    Penn.  ;  LL.I).,  Iowa;   Professor  Clinical 
Mory^hnlogy  and  Applied  Medicine,  College  of  Physi- 
cians and  Surgeons,  JJoston  ;   Physician  and  Surgeon, 
Heart  K<-(,  Saratoga,  New  York,  etc. 
15.   (■'•.  Cl.AKKK,  M.D. 
[With  pleasure.] 
Ai.vi.N  M.  Woodward,  M.D. 
Paul  F.   Mini,,:,  m.D.,  Professor  of  Gynaecology 
at  the  New  York   Polyclinic,  and  at  Dartmouth  Col- 
lege ;  Gynx-cologist  to  Mount  Sinai  Hospital. 

[I  see  no  reason,  morally  or  socially,  whv  men 
should  not  be  sul)jected  to  the  same  rules  regarding 
cha.stity  as  have  always  governed  and  still  govern 
women.  I  he  observance  of  these  niles,  under  the 
penalty  of  social  ostracism,  would,  I  think,  go  far  to 
anndulate  the  "social  evil."— P.  F.  M.,  M.D. "I 
W.  W.  Robert,  M.D. 

J.  Mount  Bleykr,  M.D.,  F.R.A.M.S.,  Naples; 
Corresponding  Member  to  The  Soci6t6  D'Electrothe- 
ropid,  France ;  Surgeon  N.  Y.  Throat  and  Nose  Hos- 
pital ;  Surgeon  N.  \'.  West  Side  Clinic,  etc. 

[I  find  that  the  sexual  sense  is  as  prone  to  educa- 
tional inHuence  as  any  of  the  other  senses.  The  de- 
veloped appetite  can  be  compared  to  a  gormandizer. 
Who  can  eat,  and  eat,  and  is  never  filled.  All  those 
who  are  continually  appeasing  such  a  sexual  sen.s* 
are  always  m  a  semi-paralytic  condition  in  body  and 
mind.  I  hey  have  not  the  power  to  carry  on  any  train 
ot  thought  in  a  logical  manner.  It  is  my  belief  that 
most  of  the  suicides  are  due  to  these  excessive  nrac- 
Uces  in  both  sexes.  It  is  the  business  of  the  phy.^ician 
to  step  in  as  a  reformer,  and  begin  to  educate,  and  .0 


"""''^  '-<>'■'■■'"'■"' oc-a„T  TO  ^-.von:     i, 

open  the  eves  of  mothenj    f^.K 

regarding  the  eff^cU  o^'sexua?*     ""*^'"'"  ^"^  ^"' 
M.  li.,  M.D.J  ^*'^"'''  o^er-^timulation— J. 

John  a.  Wveth,  M  D    Pmf  - 
Po'yclinic  ;  AKend.;^  Sur^eo:^^^^^^^  ^f"  ^'^^'^ 

Consulting  Surgeon    St   nf   kIu  "  ""^pital ; 

pitals.  etc  .  etc.  "^'^  ""^  ^^^'°"-  Hos- 

Charli.:s    McDoweji     M  n     p    r 
og>,  New  York  Hnm        '   f       '  ^''"^^^^of  Physiol- 
iSspital.  "°'"--P-tb'c  Medical  College  and 

Kur.ENF.H.  Porter.  M.  A     MD      P    r 
teria  Medica,  New  Vnrl  u  '  ^^°^"^ssor  Ma- 

lege;    Profes  or"s  ^t    AT'^f ''^  '^^'^'-' ^■- 
cia.Uu.Krank.nHo^;t;tc^;r"^^^^- 

-ci^P^vert^are  the  deS.^^'rtU::!^^:^ 
Clarence   E.    Beebf.    AM 

Laryngology  and  Rhenor„By'  n'  V     .,'    ^'°''^"" 
Medica]  CoMei-e-  P,„r-         ,  "omoeopalhic 

"logy,  CollcgeTfWv  o°:„'l'^^°'°®'  "'"'  R^en. 

Governing  /„;1^  jj  '  y  "''"^  T"?  "»P"''  College , 

ST.  Ce',„  l::l  I  °P^^;'">-  "»pi.,,  e... 

P^Cice  of  Medicine,  NlfY;,,^,f'"°'  ^''^  »"'' 
»l  College;  Consul  ingPh'^fJ'"""'!'"''-  M«ii- 
?'f  Five  P„i„„  „oJ.  o?C  ;  ^'"'^'"^  "°^- 

Edwin  West    M  n     \f     ^ 
cie.y  and  or  ,he  ;::„?.;    Xl:   *=  ^--y  «». 

rCo„cnm„gi„  ,h^  abov,!     .  """"'P"''''- 

add  ny  name  _E   \V     j;^';"'""™!^,  I  dieerfclly 

of  ct:L°ofr  rir,'  ,r'" "'  '^'  ''-"' 

a-d  Hospital.  ^  "I' W»ra«opa.hic  College 

G-OKCEVVau«W,„ERBUKN,Ph„.r,,„„ 


66     WHAT  A  Yorsa  mas  ovqiit  to  k'xow. 


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It  > 


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Professor  .if  Obstetrics,  Metrojxjlitan  Post-draduate 
Sch(K)l  of  Me<licine;  Kditor  HontiTopalhic  Journal  of 
Obstetrics ;  Soc'y  American  Obstetrical  Society. 

John  Ellis,  M.D.,  Author  of  the  Avoidable 
Causes  of  Diseases ;  Deterioration  of  the  Puritan 
Stock,  etc. 

[I  fully  agree  with  the  above  declaration,  but  I  am 
satisfied  that  the  chief  causes  of  the  social  evil,  and 
especially  of  poverty,  are  the  use  of  iiito-'icating 
drinks  and  riaicotics,  especially  tobacco  an<l  opium, 
and  the  fa.shionable  habits  of  dressing  among  women. 
J.  E.,  M.D.] 

Le  Roy  B.  Sherman,  A.M.,  M.D,  Physician 
West  Side  Homf^opaihic  Dispensary  ;  Assistant  Sur- 
geon, New  York  Ophthalmic  Hospital. 

Thos.  Franklin  Smith,  M.  D.,  Visiting  Physi- 
cian to  Metropolitan  Hospital  ;  Visiting  Physician  to 
Hahnemann  Hospital. 

[I  most  fully  and  heartily  endorse  the  above,  as  I 
am  utterly  opj)osed  to  the  legal  countenancing  in  the 
least  way  of  anything  that  tends  to  unchaste  living  in 
any  particular. — T.  F.  S.,  M.D.] 

Malcolm  Leal,  M.D.,  Prof.  Hygiene,  N.  V.  Ho- 
moeopathic Medical  College  and  Hospital  ;  Associate 
Prof.  Practice,  N.  Y.  Medical  College  and  Hospital 
for  Women,  etc. 

E.  D.  Franklin,  M.D.,  Member  of  X.Y.  County 

Medical  Society  and  N.  Y.  State  Society. 

[I  am  positive,  from  personal  investigation  since  my 
youth,  that  "a  pure  continent  life"  is  essential  to 
the  best  health,  and  that  to  be  strongest  in  mesmeric 
power,  or  influence  over  others,  one  must  have  no 
sexual  indulgence. — E.  D.  P\,  M.D. ] 

Henry  C.  Houghton,  M.D.,  Senior  Surgeon, 
N.  Y.  Ophthalmic  Hospital,  jDx- President  Homceo 
pathic  Medical  Society,  County  New  York. 

[Certainly  ;  it  is  a  sad  comment  on  our  American 


"VMT-.I   y<>,s<JS,.iS-OVOI,TT,>  KS-nW.      6, 

^I-     Iv.     Hoi.I.HRooK       M    D         TV-^f       f    ir       . 

N.wv..M„,..,K-,,„g::;,;:;,::,:''--; 

r.ditor  of  the    Atuf*,,,/  ^f  rr     ■  "'"cn  , 

rnotes   a   higher   social   sta^^  !^M     I      ff ''^"'^' P'°- 
M.D.j  Mate.— M.   l.   IIulhirouk, 

The  Medical  Faculty  of  the  University  of  Christ!- 
-.a^  Norway,  replying  to  an  inquiry  addressed  'o 
them  in  relation  to  Chastity,  say 

.ha','  JcSSiLtX'ir '■  "^  *'''™'  r— 

no  disea«  nor  of  any  weakn,,,  J-?,i  t         t  ''"°"'  °' 

U  ,he  resuU  of  a  p.,^ec"ff;,:!  ^S^i^:  i'.'  ^"^  "' 

Tte  la„er  is  signed  by  eight  members  of  the  faculty 

of  Christiania.  '  '"""'"^  '"  ""^  ^'"""^V 

After  such  united,  clear  and  conclusive  testi 
mony  there  surely  remains  no  room  for  doubt 
upon  th.s  important  question. 

,.,  ™'"=  ^  y°™g  "^n  has  inflicted  physical 
weakness  upon  himself  by  a  course  o/  sexua 
defilement  and  physical  debasement,  hi,  only 


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68       WHAT  A   YOISH  MAS  OlUIlT  TO  KSOW. 


(I 


security  is  in  its  immediate  and  complete  aban- 
donment. This  needs  a  •.horoii^h  and  over- 
mastering^ determination  to  brin^  his  lower 
nature  into  subjection  to  his  hijjher  intellectual 
and  moral  natures,  a  calling  upon  (^lod  for 
forgiveness  for  the  past,  salvation  for  the 
present,  and  grace  and  victory  for  the  fu- 
ture. Any  young  man  who  continues  his 
evil  practice  may  be  sure  that  he  is  steadily 
undermining  his  physical  ;)owers,  destroying 
hii  health,  softening  his  brain,  weakening  his 
intellect,  converting  himself  into  an  imbecile, 
and  preparing  himself  either  for  the  insane 
asylum  or  an  early  place  in  the  cemetery.  If  the 
course  is  persisted  m,  the  results  are  inevitable. 
The  sin  and  its  consetjuences  are  inseparable. 
Well  might  a  young  man  in  vuch  a  condition 
cry  out  and  say,  "  Wherewithal  shall  a  young 
man  cleanse  his  way  ?"  and  the  answer  must 
be  given,  "  By  taking  heed  thereto,  according 
to  Thy  Word."  Such  an  one  needs  to  hear  and 
heed  the  injunction,  "  Abstain  from  fleshly  lusts, 
which  war  against  the  iou 

In  many  instances — and  we  think  we  can 
safely  say  in  most  iiistances — where  there  is 
sufficient  moral  manhood  left  to  desire  to  be 
free  from  this  sinful  and  destructive  practice, 
and  where  a  young  man  will  rise  up  in  the  dig- 
nity of  his  manhood  and  declare  that  he  will 
be  free,  that  he  will  put  the  monster  under  his 
feet,  that  he  will  fight  if  needs  be  until  death 
for  his  victory,  that  he  will  regain  his  physical, 
intellectual  and  moral  powers,  such  a  young 


»UA T  .1  vocya  man  ovqut  to  ksow.     69 

man  has  reasonable  hope  of  success,  and.  with 
the  blessing  of  GocJ.  he  is  s-.ire  to  be  crowned 
with  eventual  ucto.-y  over  his  passions,  and 
may  even  ^.ixn  back,  if  persistent  and  faithful 
throuj,'h  a  course  of  subsequent  yeari,  that 
which  distin^'uishes  the  victor  upon  the  field 
of  battle  and  restore  to  himself  his  regained 
manhood  and  powers. 

In  extreme  cases,  where  a  young  man  is  suf- 
fering severe  physical  effects  or  feels  his  total 
inability  to  make  an  effort  to  subdue  his  pas- 
sions, or  his  physical   powers   are  being  ex- 
hausted by  a  constant  loss  of  seed,  or  sexual 
fluid,  it  may  be  necessary  to  apply  to  a  com- 
petent physician.  But  in  all  such  cases  a  young- 
man  should  be  careful  to  select  a  man  of  expe- 
rience and  good  judgment,  a  man  of  pure  life 
and  Christian  character  and  of  irreproachable 
standi-g  in  the  community.     Carefully  avoid 
men  who  are  without  standing  o-  character, 
and  who  would  advise  illicit  sexual  intercourse 
as  a  substitute  for  self-pollution  and  a  remedy 
for  scxua!  weakness.     Such  a  remedy  always 
rroves  worse  than  the  disease.     The  physical 
condition  is  sure  to  be  aggravated,  one  defile- 
ment is  followed  by  another,  an  additional  deadly 
blow  is  administered  to  the  moral  nature,  and 
the  young  man  who  before  was  at  least'  safe 
from   the  grave  dangers   of  numerous   sexual 
diseases  finds  himself  exposed  to  new  forms  of 
corruption,  and  even  to  syphilis  itself,  which  is 
so  much  to  be  dreaded  because  of  its  loath- 
some character,   its  incurable  nature  and  its 


niiAT  A  rovy</  .v.i.v  niajiT  to  h:so\v. 


te.'rihlc  consequences.  The  unhappy  vktim 
who  follows  such  advire,  instead  of  tindin^'  the 
peace  of  conscience  ami  sexual  repose  whi'h 
he  so  much  needs,  will  find  himself  ilclil)eratcly 
j)luni^ed  into  additional  excesses,  and  his  weak- 
ened se:;>;al  nature  hurried  on  to  a  new  pur- 
j^atory  uf  torment.  The  mind  which  needs 
streni^'thcnin^  will  l)e  weakened,  the  imagina- 
tion which  needs  purifying  will  he  defded,  and 
thus  damnation  is  deliberately  dealt  to  the 
young  man  who  seeks  help  and  healing  at  the 
hands  of  an  incompetent  individual,  who  may 
be  nominally,  but  who  is  not  really  a  physician. 
When  a  physician  advises  illicit  intercourse,  he 
would  only  be  properly  rebuked  if  his  patient 
were  promptly  to  ask  for  an  introduction  to  the 
physician's  own  wife  and  daughter,  and  inq  ire 
when  they  would  be  at  leisure  that  he  night 
meet  them.  The  physician  who  advises  sexual 
indulgence  outside  the  bonds  of  marriage  is 
party  to  the  commission  of  an  infamous  crime, 
and  deserves  the  severest  punishment  pre- 
scribed by  law  for  the  commission  of  such 
outrages. 

While  the  results  of  self-pollution  a  -e  not 
imaginary,  but  real,  yet  an/  young  man  who 
has  the  courage  and  the  strength  of  purpose 
necessary  to  lesolve  to  be  free,  and  who  is 
willing  to  use  the  simple  and  sensible  helps 
and  suggestions  which  are  made  available  to 
him  need  not  despair.  There  is  a  tendency  in 
human  nature  to  imagine  that  we  have  inherited 
all  the  ills  to  which  flesh  is  heir ;  but  even  where 


nii.i  TA  yo(  wo  tu  v  c  in  in  to  kwo  h:     7 1 

a  younK'  man  has  been  guilty  of  this  debasinfj 
and  'Icstructivc  vice  he  should  turn  tr..m  the 
dark  picture  which  is  behind  him.  from  the 
recollections  of  i!,e  filthy  past  to  the  brijjhter 
futuro  and  the  ■..sj.  n.^  pr'..r...cs  of  hope  and 
dehvetance.  These  may  be  his.  if  he  w,!l  ac- 
cept the  advice  of  his  real  friends  and  the  help 
of  hi:,  divine  Maker. 

In  spcakin^j  .f  jhe  reformation  and  the  re- 
gaining' of  lost  powers,  it  is  necessary  for  you, 
first  (  f  ;di.  to  he  honest  with  yourself,  ^nd  to 
institute  a-i  intelligent  inijuiry  into  your  real 
physical  condition.  Do  not  allow  your  imagi- 
nation to  frighten  you,  neither  aliow  yourself  to 
be  selfueceivfd  concerning  acutal  conditions 
by  any  desire  to  cominue  in  a  course  of  sin 
and  ruin. 

If  you  need  the  consultation  and  advice  of  a 
physician  go  t..  your  family  physician,  or    if 
you  prefer,  go  to  some  other  physician  •  but 
always  select  one  whos     moral  character  and 
acknowledged  ability  renders   him  a  suitable 
and  safe  adviser  in  such  a  time  of  need.  Above 
all  things  avoid  quacks.     The  policy  they  pur- 
sue is  to  frijjhten  you,  to  work  upon  your  im- 
agination, and  to  make   such   alarming   and 
unreliable  statements  as  will  induce   you  to 
purchase  their  nostrums  and  subject  yourself 
to  such  a  series  of  humiliations  and  impositions 
as  will  enable  them  to  pilfer  your  purse  and 
without  rendering    you   in   return    an-   value 
received,  but  possibly  leaving  you  in  k  much 
worse  condition  than  they  found  you,  permit 


7i     WHAT  A  yorsti  v  i.v  onuiT  to  ksow 

you  eventually  to  j^o  in  scairh  of  reliable  in- 
formation and  of  a  tnistworthy  physirian.  whom 
you  shoiiUl  have  sou^'ht  at  first. 

At  this  |)(,int  it  is  nc«  essary  also  to  say  some- 
thinjj  upon  the  subject  of  what  is  often  sup- 
posctl,  and  sometimes  reallv  is,  sexual  weak- 
ness, and  which  is  known  to  all  youn^,'  men, 
and  older  ones  also,  who  have  arrived  at  the 
a>,'e  of  puberty,  as  emissions,  or  wet  dreams — 
the  loss  of  semen  or  sexual  fluid  during'  the 
hours  <»f  sleep.  The  tpiatk  will  tell  you  that 
any  and  all  loss  of  semen  is  a  loss  of  manly 
power.  While  this  statement  is  rclati'cly,  it  is 
yet  not  really,  true;  and.  in  the  sense  in  which 
these  quacks  know  that  youn^'  men  will  under- 
stand it  in  connection  with  their  other  mislead- 
ing statements,  it  is  not  true  at  all.  The  young 
man  who  would  secure  the  highest  and  best 
development  of  his  physical  and  intellectual 
powers  will  carefully  seek  to  avoid,  as  far  as 
possible,  all  loss  of  sexual  fluid,  either  in  the 
form  of  emissions,  or  even  in  the  form  of  law- 
ful sexual  intercourse.  But  when  younp  men 
are  made  to  believe  that  any  and  all  emissions 
are  certain  and  unmistakable  indications  of 
coming  imbecility,  the  statement  is  both  pre- 
posteious  and  absurd.  Such  a  statement  is 
wholly  unreliable  and  misleading.  After  years 
of  acquaintance  with  men  in  all  periods  of  life, 
and  after  having  spoken  freely  with  many  upon 
the  subject,  the  writer  is  frank  to  confess  that 
he  has  yet  to  meet  the  first  male  member  of 
the  human  race,  who  has  passed  the  period 


wtrA  T  A  ro ( so  ma s  oiohtiv  k.\o  w     7 j 

of  puberty  and  who  ha-t  attaincci  to  early  man- 
hood.  uh..  has  .,ot  at  some  time  had  such 
emissions,  and  from  whom  an  undue  accumu- 
lation of  r.cxual  fluid  has  not  passed  dunnjf 
hours  of  sleep  in  a  dream  of  a  more  or  less 
amorous  nature. 

\Vc  have  also   carefully  examined   medical 
authorities  upon  tnis  subject,  ind  f^nd  that  all 
reliable  writers  are  a^'reed    that  such    loss  of 
semen,  if  not  OicurrinK'  at  too  frequent  inter 
vals.  is  not  only  quite  general,  but  scemin^'ly 
natural.     The  only  point  to  be  settled  in  this 
question  is  that  in  reference  to  how  often  such 
emissions  may  occur  with  a  person  who  is  in 
a  normal  condition  and  in  good  health.     It  is 
difficult  to  lay  down  any  rule  which  would  be 
absolutely  without  an  exception  ir  all  instances. 
What  might  be  normal  to  cpr  man  might  be 
•innatural  and  exhausting  to  another.     In  ex- 
ceptional  cases,  or  for  a  very  limited  period, 
emissions  might  occur  as  often  as  once  a  week 
without  injury  to  the  individual,  yet  few  men 
can  suffer  emissions  more  frequently  than  once 
in    two   weeks   without   serious   physical    loss. 
The  safe  limit  is  generally  stated  to  lie  within 
a  range  of  from  two  to  six  weeks.     With  per- 
sons in  their  normal  condition,  who  have  {)roper 
food  and  take  sufficient  recreation,  and  whose 
minds  are  properly  engaged  and  whose  time  is 
suitably  occupied,  emissions  are  not  likely  to 
c"cur  oftener  than  once  in  three  or  four  weeks, 
and   sometimes   not   even  in  a  period   of  six 
»veeks.    Where   they  do  not   occur  more  fre- 


!:" 


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74      »»•//>  r  A  yo'  so  mas  oiuiit  to  a  voir. 


I 


Wi 


(,urnil\,  th.in  thi>.  anM  the  \hh')  s-,  kcp!  m  ^'ood 
hc.illli.  ami  otlc-r  i orulitions  arc  iiorin.il,  they 
ncctl  not  l)C  the  <><  <  .iMon  of  any  unthic  anxi-t\, 
I  here  ate  oi  .  aMonal  in-.tant  cs  whe-ri  .ri  m«li- 
\  idiial  may  n<>t  tcci  weakened  or  (U|)Icfcd  dur- 
ing,' the  MK.  (Tchn^;  day*  aftrrha\in^'  suffered 
(i"fn  an  cii.i^Mon;  hut.  a-,  a  K't-''it^ral  rule,  the 
indivulual  !•>  not  only  hkily  to  feci  di-,^;u>.ted 
with  himself,  hut  is  also  likely  to  feci  •  tempo- 
rary enervating'  cffcc  t.  Where  such  etfec  ts  ex- 
tend hcvond  the  period  ot  twenty-four  hours, 
or  leave  a  permanent  scn-^c  of  depletion  and 
weakness,  the  individual  should  seek  medical 
counsel  and  advice. 

To  show  that  our  position  upon  this  subject 
is  correct.  wc(|uotefrom  Doctor  William  Acton, 
who  for  many  years  has  been  rc^'ardcd  as 
the  standard  medical  authority  upon  the  repro- 
ductive oryans  in  childhood,  youth,  adult  a^e. 
and  advanced  life.  In  writing,'  upon  emissions 
Doctor  Acton  says : 

"Circat  alarn;  is  often  expressed  by  patients 
who  suffer  in  this  way  ;  b  t  I  am  enabled  to 
pive  them  much  relief  w  hen  I  mention  that  such 
emissions,  occurring  once  in  every  ten  or  four- 
teen f'ays,  are  in  the  nature  of  a  safety-valve, 
and  are  even  conducive  to  health  in  persons 
who  do  not  take  enouj;h  exercise,  and  live  gen- 
erously. It  would,  however,  he  better  for  the 
adult  to  be  free  cv  en  from  these ;  and  I  feel  con- 
vinced that  in  one  who  has  not  allowed  himself 
to  dwell  on  sexual  thoughts,  but  takes  stronjj 
bodily  exercise,  and  lives  abstemiousiy,  emis- 


>*U.iT  A    YniSQ  MAS  OHiIIT  Tf)  K.\:)H-       75 

•inn,  u.Il  either  not  or,  „r.  or  thc.r  orrurrcnre 
nuv  \.r  looked  for  only  very  rarely.  It  is  only 
when  the  looses  or  evapen  take  plare  repeat- 
c.llv.  a:ten(lc«l  l,y  symptoms  of  prostration, 
with  .,thcr  .11  -onsecpien.^s.  that  the  patient 
should  'cck  incdii  al  advice." 

"ne  of  the  K^catest  fallacies,  however  in  ron- 
ncrtion  u.th   the  suhjen  of  emissions"  is   th,.t 
when  thr  scnien  has  a(  c  umiilatcd.  and  the  sa> 
wln.h   (.od    has   provided   for  its  rctenfon  he- 
come  full,  that  they  must  of  neccssitv  |,e  e.-o- 
ticd  l.y  an  emission,  or  even  ;n  the  case..f  mar- 
ried men  by  sexual  intercourse  with  their  wives. 
Nature  has  provided  us  not  onlv  with  the  sacs 
for  the  retention  of  seminal  fluid,  hut  its  reten- 
tion IS  necessary  in  order  that  this  vitalizinK  and 
hfe-gu  in^'  fluid  mav  be  reabsorbed  into  the  sys- 
tem, .ind  become  the  vitalizing  and  strenKth- 
givin^'  source  of  added  physical  and  intellectual 
power. 

What  we  have  now  said  with  reference  to  the 
general  prevalence  of  emissions  has  been  said 
in  order  that  we  might  be  perfectly  candid  and 
frank  with  young  men.  and  also  that  we  might 
remove  the   possibility  of  their  being  unduly 
alarmed;  that  they  migh:  be  removed  beyond 
the   possibility   of  being  deceived   by   books 
pamphlets  and  circulars  which  are  sent  broad- 
cast over  the  land  by  persons  whose  only  pur- 
pose 13  to  iT.islead.  alarm  and  defraud  those 
who  should  simply  be  made  intelligent  and 
helped  according  to  their  need. 
While  what  we  have  said  is  true,  there  is, 


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upon  the  oth*>r  hand,  no  little  danger  lest  young 
men  might  be  greatly  harmed  should  they  be- 
come wholly  indifferent  to  the  matter  of  emis- 
sions and  the  loss  of  semen.  No  man  can  af- 
ford to  be  entirely  indifierent  to  these  matters. 
Every  man  should,  by  careful  observation,  vig- 
orous physical  exercise,  regular  bathing  and 
judicious  diet,  seek  to  reduce  emissions  to  the 
minimum,  and  in  every  way  seek  to  reabsorb 
and  use  in  his  own  system  the  sexual  fluid 
which  is  so  important  to  his  highest  physical, 
intellectual  and  moral  well-being. 

Every  young  man  will  best  understand  this 
subject  when  he  has  learned  the  nature  and 
office  of  the  glands  which  secrete,  or  take  from 
the  blood,  the  fluid  which,  after  bemg  secreted, 
is  transformed  and  undergoes  such  changes  as 
are  necessaiy  to  convert  it  into  sexual  fluid. 
These  glands  in  the  human  system  are  very 
much  what  the  laboratory  is  in  a  large  chemical 
ebtnblishment.  The  fluid,  which  is  abstracted 
from  the  blood,  in  a  manner  which  we  can 
neither  understand  nor  explain,  is  made  to  un- 
dergo such  chemical  and  vital  changes  that  it 
becomes  entirely  different  from  what  it  was 
when  it  was  absti acted.  After  these  changes 
have  taken  place,  it  is  again  poured  back  into 
the  system  to  supply  such  requisites  as  .ire  ab- 
solutely essential  in  order  that  the  entire  body 
may  be  kept  in  perfect  health.  It  will  be  seen, 
therefore,  that  the  sexual  fluid  is  needed  for 
constant  use  in  the  physical  laboratory  of  the 
body.     It  is  very  possible  that  if  one  could  live 


*^'iiA  TA  ro  i-yo  3IA y  o  i  on t  to  kso  w.     77 

in  that  state  of  mental  pureness  and  at  the  same 
time  care  for  his  body  as  God  has  intended  that 
it  should  be  cared  for.  it  might  be  possible  for  a 
man  with  a  perfecdy  normal  sexual  develop- 
ment to  go  for  periods  of  months,  and  possibly 
for  years,  without  any  loss  of  the  sexual  fluid. 
Such  a  condition  may  not  be  absolutely  ideal, 
but  we  confess  that  in  our  researches  we  have 
never  yet  to  find  such  an  individual,  and  the 
statement  made  by  quacks  that  in  the  closing 
part  ofhis  life  Sir  Isaar  Newton  affirmed  tha*t 
never  in  his  entire  life  had  he  lost  a  single  drop 
of  sexual  fluid  cannot  be  sufficiently  substanti- 
ated to  make  the  statement  creditable  even  in 
this  given  instance. 

The  importance,  however,  of  strugglirg  for 
that  ideal  physical  perfection  is  recognized  by 
all  who  seek    iie  most  perfect  physical  and  in- 
tellectual development.    Whenever  athletes  are 
under  training  for  some  contest  w  hich  will  de- 
mand the  most  perfect  physical  development, 
and  the  best  possible  powers  of  endurance,' 
even  the  married  among  them  are  required  not 
only  to  abstain  from  all  sexual  indulgence,  but 
are  often  also  required  to  leave  their  homes' and 
take  up  their  abode  where,  as  far  as  possible, 
they  chall  be  removed  from  the  sexual  stimulus 
and  excitement  which  comes  from  the  presence 
and  even  from  the  sight  of  women.     The  ex- 
tent to  which  the  loss  of  sexual  fluid  tends  to 
weaken  the  human  system  is  clearly  illustrated 
in  the  Old  Testament  in  the  instance  of  Samson 
and  Delilah.    While  much  of  what  is  meant 


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78       WHAT  A  YOUSQ  MAN  OL'GUT  TO  KSOW 

by  the  statement  that  Samson  was  "  shorn  of  his 
hair,"  research  will  doubtless  make  very  plain 
some  time  in  the  future,  yet  it  is  universally 
a^^rced  that  Samson's  enemies,  with  a  full  knowl- 
edj,e  of  the  weakenin<^  effects  of  excessive 
sexual  indulgence,  used  Delilah,  who  was  a 
harlot,  to  divest  Samson  of  his  strength  so  that 
they  might  conquer  the  giant,  whom  they  could 
not  overcome  by  other  stratagem,  or  by  the 
united  strength  of  many. 

That  the  seminal  ducts  in  which  this  ^lud  is 
retained  naturally  empty  thei  iselves  when  tilled 
to  repletion  is  doubtless  true ;  but  the  false  idea 
which  we  desire  to  correct  goes  upon  the  theory 
that  a  man  is  not  weakened  by  the  loss  of  sex- 
ual fluids  if  the  sacs  have  simply  emptied 
themselves  when  they  were  full.  The  cause  of 
sexual  weakness  lies  back  of  the  emptying  of 
these  seminal  ducts  or  sacs.  The  moment  any 
young  man  stimulates  his  sexual  nature  by  im- 
pure thought,  by  reading  books  which  are  cal- 
culated to  excite  the  sexual  nature,  by  looking 
at  obscene  or  even  nude  pictures,  by  attendance 
upon  the  theatre,  or  participation  in  the  dance, 
by  association  with  those  who  are  lewd  and  who 
tend  to  quicken  his  sexual  passion — I  say  when 
any  young  man  thus  stimulates  his  sexual  na- 
ture he  causes  the  seminal  fluid  to  be  secreted 
more  rapidly  than  nature  has  intended,  and  in 
this  Wov  he  saps  his  physical  and  intellectual 
nature  by  the  unc'ue  excitement  of  the  sexual 
nature  and  the  abnormal  secretion  of  more  than 
the  usual  amount  of  seminal  fluid.     The  cause. 


iiv/.ir.t  }-or.V(y  .v.i.v  oiaiiT  to  ksow. 


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therefore,  of  sexual  weakness  lies  back  oi  the 
emission  itself,  and  is  found  in  the  pollution  of 
the  mind,  the  debasing'  of  the  imagination,  and 
the  abnormal  quickening'  of  the  sexual  nature 
I3y   such   influences    the    physical    nature    is 
drained  in  order  to  suppiy  the  seminal  fl.  id 
which  IS  abstracted  from  the  system  and  is  ac- 
cumulated in  the  sacs  more  rapidly  than  na 
ture  intended  or  can  dispose  of  it  in  the  system 
and  consequently  it  is  ejected  during  sleep  in 
the  form  of  emissions,  or  posi,ibly.  as  soir.e  as- 
sert,  may  pass  otT  unconsciously  and  without 
emotion  while  the  person  is  emptying  the  blad- 
der  of  urine,  or  even  while  the  individual  is 
evacuating  his  bowels.     Let  it  be  distinctly  un^ 
derstood  that  on  account  of  these  results  the 
young  man  who  pollutes  his  mind  or  imagina- 
tion  undermines  hif  moral  nature,  weakens  his 
intellect  and  saps  his  p«hysical  powers. 

What  we  have  said  with  reference  to  the 
secretion  of  the  seminal  fluid  is  very  sin.ply 
illustrated  by  the  action  of  the  mind  upon  the 
secretion  of  the  salivary  glap.ds  and  also  the 
tear  glands.      The  simple  thought  of  eating 
peaches,    or   of    anything   which    is   specially 
agreeable  to  the  taste,  causes  an  instant  flow  of 
saliva  into  the  mouth,     ft  is  not  necessary  that 
peaches  should  really  be  eaten,  but  the  glands 
respond  to  the  simple  thought,  and  the  moment 
you  think  of  eating  peaches  the  saliva  begins 
to  flow  in  increased  abundance  into  the  m.    th. 
The  same  is  also  true  with  reference  to  the 
tear  glands.    Steadily,  hour  by  hour,  the  mod- 


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erate  and  requisite  amount  of  fluid  necessary 
to  wash  and  cleanse  ♦he  eyes  is  steadily  secreted 
and  poured  upon  these  organs  of  vision;  but, 
as  soon  as  the  heart  is  stirred  with  emotions 
of  great  joy,  remorse  or  sorrow,  this  rluid  is 
secreted  in  greatly-enlarged  ([uantities  and 
poured  into  the  eyes,  overflowing  the  cheeks 
in  the  form  of  tears. 

It  is  easy  lO  understand  that  if  the  salivary 
glands  were  to  be  too  frequently  thus  stimulated 
unnaturally  and  to  no  purpose,  as  is  oftentimes 
done  by  those  who  chew  gum  for  several  hours 
and  day  after  day,  the  glands  themselves  are 
exhausted,  and  become  diseased,  the  equilib- 
rium of  the  body  is  disturbed,  and  the  result  is 
uctrimental  to  the  entire  system. 

Now  the  same  thing  is  true  of  the  glands 
which  secrete  the  iemen.  When  the  mind  is 
permitted  to  dw  il  unduly  upon  sexual  subjects 
the  secretions  become  more  rapid  than  is  de- 
signed, the  system  is  drained,  and  more  injury 
is  done  by  che  impure  thought  that  produces 
this  result  than  by  the  dream  which  attends  the 
emptying  of  the  sacs  which  are  flooded  with 
this  vital  fluid  more  rapidly  than  it  can  be  re- 
absorbed for  use  throughout  the  entire  system. 
Thus  it  will  be  seen  that  the  purity  of  the  mind 
is  both  of  primary  and  vital  importance. 

But  we  must  here  make  some  helpful  sugges- 
tions to  those  who  seek  to  avoid  this  form  of 
sexual  weakness,  or  who  desire  to  escape  from 
the  consequences  of  a  polluted  mind  and  a  de- 
graded imagination,  to  those  who  would  master 


^'lUTA   yOi-yo  MAN  OUGI.'T  TO  KSOW,      g, 

What  has  hitherto  been  a  dominant  passion  or 

thT',"  "^T''  '^^^"^^^"-1  -nd  physical  powers 
that  have  been  weakened  or  partially  losL  7  he 
si.JTRe.t,on  made  in  the  second  chapter  .nder 
the  tule  of  "Personal  Purity"  m.st  be  careAdh 
observed  and  rig.dly  followed.     We  also  refer 

ectTn  I    .^r'^^  r  '^^^  ^^'^  "P-  ^h-  ob- 
ject m  I  art  Four  of  the  book  "  What  a  Youn. 

BoyOughttoKnow/'frompageuptorsa 
We  also  make  the  following  suggestions,  which 
wdl  prove  most  valuable  and  helpful  • 

tio^nT'^^T''""''^*""'"''''  °f  thought,  imagina- 
t  on.  and  of  purpose  must  be  reinforced  also  by 

chdd  should  bathe  at  least  once  or  twice  a  week 
In  add.Mon  to  the  ordinary  weekly  bath  there 
should  also  be  added  the  daily  morning  sponge 
or  hand-bath     Any  young  man  who  will'begTn 
in  the  month  of  July  or  August,  when  the  weatLz 
IS  warm,  by  washing  his  entire  body  each  morn- 
ing, by  simply  dipping  a  small  quantity  of  water 
from  the  bowl  or  basin  and  wetting  the  entL^ 
body,  not  omitting  the  eyes.  face,  neck  and 
feet,   and  then   follow  such  ablutions   wUh  a 
thorough  rubbing  with  a  dry  towel,  and  subse- 
quently follow  this  with  a  vigorous  rubbing  of 
the  body  wuh  the  bare  hands,  will  find  suchin- 
vigoranon  and  beneficial  physical  results  that 
he  wdl  doubtless  be  induced  to  continue  the 
habit  throughout  the  entire  year.     If  begun  in 
the  summer,  as  we  have  suggested,  there  is  no 
danger  of  contracting  a  cold,  and  as  the  weather 
gradually  grows  colder  in  the  fall,  no  shock  will 


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come  to  the  system,  and  even  though  the  sleep- 
ing-rt)om  should  be  so  cold  that  ice  would  form 
in  the  pitcher  during  the  night,  the  morning 
bath  will  be  taken  without  a  shudder,  and  the 
invigoration  and  healthy  glow  wliich  will  follow 
will  be  more  than  a  recompense  and  reward  for 
the  resolution,  time  and  effort  which  it  cost. 
The  writer  began  such  baths  when  a  boy,  has 
continued  them  without  interruption  through 
his  entiie  life,  and  conscientiously  believes  that 
they  have  been  of  inestimable  physical  benefit. 
The  man  who  takes  his  regular  morning  hand- 
bath  with  cold  water  is  also  fortified  against 
taking  cold  in  all  periods  of  the  year,  and  will 
be  blessed  ^nd  benefited  in  many  ways  which 
we  cannot  now  stop  to  enumerate. 

Where  emissioDS  occur  at  too  frequent  inter- 
vals it  will  be  found  very  beneficial  to  stand  the 
bowl  upon  the  floor,  and  then,  with  the  body 
placed  in  a  sitting  position  over  it,  the  water 
should  be  dashed  freely  over  the  sexual  or- 
gans each  morning,  and,  if  necessary,  each 
evening. 

Every  young  mar  who  would  remain  pure, 
and  who  desires  V  retain  his  fullest  physical 
powers,  should  conscientiously  avoid  any  un- 
necessary handling  of  his  sexual  organs.  But 
even  with  such  a  thought  in  mind  he  should  not 
neglect  at  his  weekly  bath,  and  sometimes  at 
his  daily  morning  bath,  to  press  the  foreskin 
back  over  the  head  of  the  sexual  nif^mber,  and 
carefully  cleanse  under  the  skin  anv  .iccumu- 
lation  of  smegma,  or  soapy  secretion,  which  if 


«":ta  ro,  so  i,.,s  oiauT  to  ksow.     sj 

left  ..n<IU,„rbe.l  will  se.  „p  an  irri.a.io,,  ,„d 
■h..s  rcn<ler  th<;  sexual  „,ember  sensitive  a^d 
prompt  to  sex„al  irritability.  '' 

I  he  second  in  importance  is  the  matter  of 
phystcal  exercise.     If  the  life  is  sedentary  If 
the  young  man  is  a  student,  a  b„„kkeeper  or 
engaged  ,„  any  en.ploymen.  which  ,„akc;  U 
necessary  for  him  .„  be  in  a  sitting  or  even  i,  a 
stand.ng  posture  during  much  of  the  d"  aL 
wuhou,  sufficient  physical  exercise  to  keepX 
body  ,n  good  health,  he  should  devote  aUea  t 
-o  hours  a  day  to  physical  recreation.     A  di 
mctton  should  always  be  n,.,de  between  ex    - 
CK,e  and  recreation.    The  muscdar  powers  may 

nary  da  ly  duty,  and  that  would  be  exercise- 
but  ,.  m.ght  lack  tha,  element  of  agreeablen  ss 
and  pleasure  which  would  entitle  i,'t„  be  ca  led 
recreation.    The  man  who  has  followed    he 

c.se  as  of  recreation,  and  the  form  of  recrei- 

t.on  whtch  would  be  best  suited  to  his  need 

mtght  not  be  tha,  which  would  be  so  wel   suited 

o  one  who  has  been  spending  his  day  w"th  „ 

•l  theTt  "'  "'  -"""-^'■™°n>   ten   ing 

walk,.H  ,11  \  „  ^  postman  who  has 
talked  all  daywdl  surely  not  need  to  seek 
recreatton  by  an  evening  stroll  through  he 
park.     n...  while  an   hour  or  two  speAwth 

po'.mTnr"V™'"'^'"  ""*  "'«'^'— it  •  e 
postman  s  need.  ,t   might  be  entirely  unsuited 

as  a  recreation  to  the  student,  or  the'awv"  „. 


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84       WHAT  A   YOVSO  MAS  OVOIIT  TO  KSOW. 

even  the  physician  whose  physical  needs  might 
require  something  very  different.* 

Kvcry  young  man,  however,   should   own  a 
set  of  light-weight  dumb-bells,  and  if  tht  height 
of  the  ceiling  and  the  capacity  of  his  room  will 
admit,    also   a   pair  of  light  Indian  clubs.     To 
these  may  be  added  various  kinds  of  exercises, 
health-lifts,  and  even,  in  cases  where  wealth  is 
abundant,  a  well-furnished  private  gymnasium. 
No  young  man,  however,  is  so  poor  that  he  can 
afford  to  be  without  at  least  a  pair  of  dumb- 
bells weighing  two  or  three  pounds  each,  which 
can  be  purchased  at  a  cost  not  exceeding  fifty 
cents.     Learn  how    to    use    your    dumb-bells 
so  as  to  call  into  exercise  all   your  muscular 
powers,  an^^  secure  their  most  healthy  develop- 
ment and  the  best  physical    results  possible. 
Use  your  dumb-bells  freely,  but  do  not  neglect 
to  take  plenty   of  exercise  in    the  open  air. 
When  the  weather  is  pleasant,  and  the  season 
of  the  year  will  permit,  seek  bodHy  vigor  in  the 
use  of  the  bicycle,  exercising  great  care  to  have 
a  sanitary  saddle,  for  many  men  are  p'^w  ac- 
quiring bladder  trouble,   the  prostate  glands 
being  enlarged  to  the  size  of  those  of  old  men, 
and  in  extreme  cases  some  i*re  even  suffering 
from  sexual  impotency. 

It  is  necessary,  therefore,  that  great  care 
should  be  exercised  in  selecting  a  proper  sad- 
dle.    In  the  winter  skatmg  and  sledding,  and 

*  See  •'\\'hat  a  Young  Boy  Ought  to  Know," 
p.ige  140  to  end  of  chapter. 


wuAT  A  yovyu  MAy  ovoiit  to  k.sow.     85 

at  other  periods  croquet,  lawn-tennis,  jjolf.  foot- 
b.illand  other  forms  of  recreation  will  be  found 
of  great  value.  Physical  exercise  will  do  for 
your  body  what  intelicntual  traininjj  will  do  for 
your  mind.  It  will  educate  and  stren^hen  it, 
and  you  will  thus  be  fortified  more  successfully 
to  resist  both  sickness  and  .sexual  passion. 

It  is  scarcely  necessary  that  we  should  say 
anything  about  the  injurious  etTects  of  licjuors 
of  all  kinds  upon  the  reproductive  organs.     It 
is  well  known  ihat  drur.kards  and  tipplers  are 
early  robbed  of   sexual   power.     The  ancient 
proverb  says  ''  Venus  is  drowned  in   Bacchus." 
Shakespeare    aptly    displays    his     marvellous 
range  of  information  in  the  play  of  Macbeth, 
where  the   porter  says  to  Macdufif.  "  Drinking 
provokes  the  desire,  but  it  takes  away  the  per- 
formance; it  makes  him.  and  it  mars  him;  it 
sets  him  on,  and  it  takes  him  off;   it  persuades 
him,  and  it  disheartens  him,"  etc.     Manliness 
and  virile  power  in  their  best  development  are 
impossible  to  those  who  use  liquor  of  any  kind, 
in  any  quantity. 

Here  are  a  few  brief  rules,  which  cannot  help 
but  be  s  jgestive: 

1.  Bathe,  or  at  least  wash  youi  entire  body, 
twice  each  week. 

2.  Eat  light  suppers,  avoiding  meat. 

3.  Never  eat  poor  victuals  to  save  them 

4.  Totally  abstain  from  the  use  of  all  liquor 
and  iubacco. 

5.  Coffee  and  tea,  if  used  at  all,  .-hould  be 
used  in  the  greatest  moderation. 


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6.  Never  take  exrrs-,ivcly  hot  or  cold  drinkn. 

7.  Do  not  cat  nork  when  other  nicat>>  ran  b« 
obtained. 

8.  r.at  slowly,  and  masticate  your  food  thor- 
oughly. 

9.  I  at  throe  times  euch  day,  and  take  noih- 
in^'  betwc'Mi  nieaK. 

10.  Have  your  meals  at  regular  hours,  and  ;it 
least  five  hours  apart. 

11.  See  to  it  carefully  that  the  bowels  move 
regularly  each  morning. 

12.  Sleep  in  a  cpiiet  place  and  in  a  single  bed. 

13.  Retire  early,  and  sleep  as  long  as  you  can 
sleep  Soundly. 

14.  Keep  your  room  well  ventilated,  especially 
your  sleeping-room. 

15.  Exercise  at  least  two  hours  each  day  in 
the  open  air. 

16.  Keep  the  feet  warm  and  dry,  and  through- 
out the  entire  year  wear  woolen  under-garments. 

Every   young   man  who   desires  to   remain 
strong,  o-  to  regain  his   physical,  intellectual 
and  moral  powers,  should  have  an  absorbing 
purpose  in  life.     Live  with  an  aim,  and  let  that 
aim  be  high.     The  man  who  aims  at  the  -un 
will  shoot  higher  than  the  man  who  aims  at  the 
earth.     If  you  do  not  build  a  few  castles  in  the 
air.  you  never  will  own  any  that  are  built  on 
the  earth.     Devote  yourself  with  untiring  dili- 
gence to  some  department  of  work.     Determi  ne 
what  is  to  be  your  life-purpose,  and  devote  your- 
self absorbingly  to  its  attainment.     Do  not  be 
coiiteiiled  with    mediocrity.     Rise     above    the 


*IUTA  roc.vo  inxoroiiT  .n  ,-.vor.     8, 

>     >""   »UI     th,„  .|,v„,e    y„,„„|f   ,„   ,^ 

be  no  q„cM,on  ,„  r..,.ard  ,„  ,„,„  f„„„,  .^  ^^" 

■on;  y„„M,fcw.l.l«  worth  s„„K.,|.:.,K.T„d 
.you   lay  all   yo„r  phy.cU.  in,.l,cc,'al  and 

e<lKe.  w.alth  and  mtlucnre,  upon  <hc  alur  of 
con,ocra„on   ,o   your  Mak.r.    you    may  ho^i 

>ery  over  your  lower  nature,  but  that  which  will 
crown   you  „i,h  ^.^^  ^^^  "  -  » 

'h.s  world,  but  also  in  the  world  to  come 

That  the  -eader  may  have  the  benefit  of  what 
one  o    the  ablest  and  best  writers  upon  thU 
w th  s        V"  "P"' '"  "■°^' -h°  »-  'o"  Jfed 
able  f  ,T"     T"'"'"'  "'  1"°"  "■'"  consider 
able  fulness  from  Dr  William  Acton  in  his  book 

Zs-  Iny^^T"'  °^'>'»"'"  '^^-  Acton 
Mys.  In  s  rong,  robust  young  men  the  surgeon 
need  not  take  much  notice  of  emissions  r-.o!™ 
on  once  a  week,  but  to  recommend  the  pa  „t 
o  avo.d  suppers,  to  abstain  from  tea,  coffee  and 

nst"d°oft ',°  "'r,'--  "  ^P-S  mattresses 
■nstead  of  feather-beds,  and  sleep  with  only  a 
moderate  quantity  of  clothin..  ' 

at-ter'  dim"""'"''  ■"*■  ''"'•"'°'  •»  ''"'"'  "O  fluid 
a ner  amucr  supposing  that  meal  to  be  taken 

at  s,x   or  seven   o'clock.     This,   and    reguhr 

evac.,at,on  of  the  bladder  a.  bedtime  togft 

oTn   a    tl'"  ""  ""  ™  '"'  ">"■=  ™er  a 
olten  as  the  pat,ent  wakes  in  the  nigh;.  w,l| 


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88     wuAT  A  yoiS'j  if  Ay  viuiir  to  aaoit 

»in^,'ul.»rly  a»^i^t  the  fre.iltncnt.  A  vcty  littia 
rtiml  will  he  luM'.cicnl  tt)  relieve  any  ^;rc.it  ll»ir»C 
that  may  <)<  cur  in  the  evening',  but  the  rule 
ihouUI  he.  avoid  drinkinjj  after  ci^ht  o'l  lock. 

"  The  sufferer   should  l)c  told  that  emission 
usually  takes  plat  e  in  heavy  sleepers,  and  the 
l)est  way  of  preventin^j  thii  intense  d:owsine«»s 
in  the  morninji  is  not  to  load  the  stomach  over 
ni^^ht  with  all  sorts  of  indigestible  and  mist  el- 
laneous  food.     Care  should  be  taken  in  regard 
to  the  quantity  as  well  as  quality,  and  I  should 
rather  say  to  such  persons.  Like  your  principal 
meal  in  the  middle  of  the  day.  and  let   your 
evening  meal  be  light.     I  do  not  advise  a  man 
to  go  hungry  to  bed.  but  1  am  convinced,  if  a 
patient  will  judiciously  attend  to   his  diet,  and 
in   this   respect   exercise   self-control,  he  may, 
without  much  assistance  from  his  medical  ad- 
viser, ward  off  frequent  emissions.    If.  however, 
a  young  man  will  persist  in  gorging  himself 
with  what  to  his  delicate  stomach  is  an  indi- 
gestible meal,  he  must    not   expect   that   any 
means  a  surgeon  has  at  his  disposal  will  avail 
to  preve'it  these  losses. 

*•  Let  me  further  remark,  that  if  a  man  is  dis- 
posed to  emissions  he  should  it  How  himself 
to  fall  into  n  second  sleep,  but  t  ...  rise  eai'v. 
In  following  out  this  plan  t  r  '.,  nj  difficulty 
if  the  patient  goes  to  bed  at  a  reasonable  hoi'". 
No  doubt  can  exist  that  emissions  most  fre- 
quently take  place  in  the  second  sleep;  and  it 
is  equally  certain  that  although  a  man  wakes 
tlioroughly  refreshed  from    his  first    sleep,   he 


'»//.4;  A  rorsa  mas  nrouT  to  ksow. 


89 


may  an.e.  after  hav.n^;  taken  a  second  ci.,.e 
t hor.M.^jhly  proHtrate.1.      An    rarlv  call,  or    an 
al.irm-clo<k.  may  cure  nuinv  a  patient    hcttc- 
than  all  the  preparation,  in  the  pharmac  op.ria 
At   hrst  these  early   hours  may  d.v.K'rec  u.th 
him.  but  they  soon  be.  ome  as  natural  as   hie 
one,  were,  and  the  patient  feels  a  d!  •nci.nation 
to  lie  m  bed  ec.ual  to  his  „|d  disinclination  to  get 
..p  early.     Of  course.  lar^'c  number^  of  patients 
«.ll  tell    you  that  .K^y  feel  so  fatigued  in  the 
mor-   n^rthat  they  cannot  pet  up.    If  more  sleep 
»s   re.,uired-should   be  the  answer-let   it  be 
taken  in  daytime. 

"I  believe  this  preciuti.  <  of  keep!  .-theblad- 
cJcr  empty  at  night  to  be  more  important  than 
almost  anything  else  in  the  simpler  cases,  and 
that  It  will  be  usually  successful.  I  have  known 
an  enema  (injection)  of  a  half-pint  of  cold  water 
used  at  ocdtime.  to  work  well  where  other 
means  have  not  produced  satisfactory  results. 

"  Tying  a  towel   around  the  waist   so  as  to 
bring  a  hard  knot  opposite  the  spine  will   by 
preventing  the  patient  from  lying  on  his  back 
often  prevent  emissions  at  night.* 

"  I  find  thai  there  are  patren's  (and  very  in- 
tcl  igenl  ones)  who  have  had  the  greatest  diffi- 
culty  m  surmounting  the  disposition  the  brain 
has  to  summon  up  and  apparently  revel  in  las 
civious  images.    Such  persons  are  not  generally 

•  An  effective  and  .a.isfactory  device.  -J  prevent  lying  on 
Pa!"u    S.  A      ^'"^"^'  '°^^°""'  ^"''"^  "'«''  Philadelphia, 


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90     WHA  r  A  ro iwa  jiax  0  ugiit  to  kxo  w. 

stronj,'-mindcd  in  anything;  ;  they  express  a  wish, 
but  have  not  the  courage  to  employ  the  energy 
which  the  medical  man  tells  them  they  must  use 
to  carry  out  their  purpose.  And,  most  unfortu- 
nately  for  such  persons,  these  frequent  emis- 
sions  react  rn  the  system,  and  render  them  less 
and  less  capable  of  exerting  proper  self-con- 
trol. 

"  Too  many  patients  are  under  the  impression 
that  all  their  ailments  may  be  removed  by  a 
dose  of  physic,  and  disrelish  the  notion  that  it 
behooves  them  to   exert  themselves,  or  to  do 
anything   except   take  the  draught.     For  such 
persons  medical  skill  can  do  nothing,  and  the 
patient  can  expect  to  gain  no  relief.     Cauteri- 
zation  may,  indeed,  remove   morbid  irrita'  dity 
from  the  urethra,  and  in  cases  where  the  emis- 
sions arise  from  this  local  cause  there  is  reason 
to  hope  that  the  reflex  action  on  the  cord  or  on 
the  brain  may  cease.    If  the  patient  will  co-ope- 
rate  with  the  surgeon,  much  benefit  will  result 
from  the  united  action  ;  but  the  operation  alone 
is  not  sufficient.     Constant  supervision  will  be 
required,  and  if  this  is  omitted,  relapses  are  sure 
to  follow. 

"  In  the  more  intractable  cases  of  seminal 
emissions  I  should  be  disposed,  at  least  with 
people  of  any  strength  of  mind,  to  attempt  the 
following  plan,  which  Tissot  recommended  as 
far  back  as  1790.  This  author  says,  that  since 
to  break  the  habit  is  the  first  object,  it  is  well  to 
go  to  the  root  of  it  at  once,  and  accordingly  rec- 
ommends the  following  plan.     1  have  met  with 


^n.i  T  A  roryo  max  ought  to  ksow.    9, 

one  instance  in  which  its  manful  adopuon  was 
attcmlcd    wah    perfect    success.     'An    It.lnn 
gentleman  of  very  hi^.h  station  and  char      e^ 
consuted  n.e  for  ,uite  a  deferent  affecttn   b 
n  order  to  put  me  in   possession  of  all  facts  in 

nistorv        He   had    been   inconveniexiced   five 
tX?nf  "Tv  ^-^-n^emissions.  which  to 

a  ly  unnerved  h,m.     He  determined  resolutely 
that  the  very  instant  the  image  of  a  woman  or 
any  hb.dmous  idea  presented  itself  to  his  im 
agmafon  he  would  awake,  and.  to  insure  h     dt 
mg  so.  dwelt  m  his  thoughts  on  his  resolution  t 
a  long  fme  before  going  to  sleep.    The  rem! 
edy.  apphed  by  a  vigo.ous  will,  had  the  mo" 
happy  results     The  idea,  the  remembrancTof 
us  bemg  a   danger,  and  the  determination  to 
wake,  closely  un.ted  the  evening  before   we  e 

m  time;  and  th,s  ^.iterated  precaution  repeated 
dunngsomeevemngsabsolutelycuredthe'^^^^^^^ 

Every  young  man  will  do  well  to  follow  these 
suggestions  closely,  and  we  know  of  ho  e 
2^ose  fixed  moral  principles  are  so  estabi  shed 
and  pronounced  that  they  are  able  to  awake 
from  an  amorous  dream  as  soon  as  the  scenes 

Ui,ch  the  -  would  not  feel  free  to  allow  to  them- 
selves dunnc-  their  waking  moments.  When  a 
young  man  deliberately  and  absolutelv  deter! 
m-nes  that  he  would  under  no  circum'stances 
whatsoeverbecomeapartyto  either  vicious  o 


92     WHAT  A  roiya  max  oiqiit  to  ksow. 

criminal  sexual  intimacy,  he  is  in  position  to 
school  the  mind  to  discover  the  deception  about 
to  be  practiced  upon  the  body,  and  by  the  aid 
of  the  will  to  arouse  the  sleeper  to  consciousness 
and  safety.  With  young  men  of  high  morol 
stan('  rds  and  strong  will,  this  method  is  most 
salutary  and  satisfactory. 


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CHAPTER   IV. 

EVILS   TO    liE    SHUNNED   AND    CONSEQUENCES 
TO    1!E    DREADED. 

Every  young  man  is  exposed  to  the  sad  con- 
sequences of  the  errors  and  the  sins  which  he 
commits.     In    some  instances    the    individual 
hmiself   IS  the  greatest  sufferer.     The  crnse 
quences   of  his  sin   faU  chiefly  upon  his  own 
ftead.  Others  may  not  even  know  of  his  wrone- 
domg;  and  yet.  while   "None  of  u.  liveth   to 
himself,  and  no  one  dieth   to  himself."   and 
while  no  man  can  do  a  single  act  that  is  with- 
out Its  influence  for  gcod  or  evil  imon  others 
there  are  some  acts,  the  effects  of  which  are 
measurably  limited  in  their  influence,  after  hav- 
ing fallen  first  upon  the  doer  of  them.    Such  is 
largely  the  case  with  solitary  vice,  or  self-poHu- 
tion.     The  perpetrator  is  himself  the  first  and 
greatest  sufferer.     When    he  suffers,  others  in 
closest  relation  to  him  also  suffer,  even  though 
they  may  not  be  aware  of  the  occasion  of  their 
suffenng.    When  disease  affects  one  part  of  ihe 
body,  all  other  parts  of  the  body,  because  of 
their  intimate  relation  and  mutual  dependence 
suffer,  and  the  entire  body  seems  and  is  really 
sick  from  sympathy,  for  "  Whether  one  member 
suffer,  all  the  members  suffer  with  it ;  or  one 

(93) 


94     n-iiAT  A  yoiy<i  .v.i.v  oraiiT  to  hwoiv. 


!p. ' 


mt-mber  be  honorcrl,  all  the  members  rejoice 
with  it."  So  it  is  in  the  family,  the  'vickedness 
and  sin  of  unc.  is  the  sorrow  and  Mifferin"  of 
all. 

Hut  there  are  some  sins  which  are  doubly  to 
be  dreaded,  not  only  because  of  the  terrible  re- 
sults and  complete  destruction  with  which  they 
visit  the  perpetrator,  but  because  they  are  sins 
which  aie  social.  Their  perpetration  requires 
the  presence  and  participation  of  a  second  per- 
son. The  circle  of  serious  consequences  is  .hus 
widen'id.  Two  persons  sin  ;  two  families  or  so- 
cial circles  are  invaded,  and  both  must  suffer 
the  sad  co.isequences.  The  pure,  the  innocent, 
the  unsuspecting,  the  helpless,  are  involved.' 
Parents,  brothers  and  sisters,  relatives  and 
friends,  and  sometimes  whole  communities  are 
plunged  into  suffering,  sorrow  and  shame. 

But  in  the  mafter  of  social  sin  the  sad  conse- 
quences are  not  bounded  even  by  these  limits. 
In  some  cases,  and  they  are  by  no  means  few, 
as  any  intelligent  physician  can  testify,  diseases 
are  communicated  which  are  next  to  ineradica- 
ble, which  invade  every  part  and  every  tissue 
of  the  body  with  a  disease  that  is  as  loathsome 
and  as  contagious  as  leprosy  itself.     It  is  trans- 
mitted   from   the   guilty  father  to  his  innocent 
and  helpless  offspring  from  the  moment  of  con- 
ception.    It  is  communicated  to  the  unsuspect- 
ing wife,  and  often  to  nurses,   attendants,  and 
even  to  friends  through,  the  ordinary  ' --'"tact  of 
daily  life.     The  victims  ot  this  terrii        disease 
c  ntaminate  with  dire  possibilities  almost  every- 


HJIATA    yoiy(;  MASOIGIIT 


TO  KSO  \y. 


95 


hl'i    ^  touch    exposing  all  who  come  after 
S  ■  '''  «^;-'^ter-closcts.  combs.  brt> shes. 

^n  ^  ^V";  '""^  '^''""  '"  '^"^  "^e  of  ordinary 

kn.ves  and  forks,  which  may  not  have  bee^ 
cleansed  m  water  sufficiently  hc:t  to  kUl  the 
ijerms  that  remain  everywhere  after  these 
diseased  persons  themselves  have  gone  on  their 
way. 

If  these  dangers  were  visible  to  the  ordinary 

their   fearful   consequences    within    prescribed 
Ws;  but  such  is  not  the  case.     AH  signs  of 
disease  may  disappear  from  the  person  for  ten 
wenty.  or  even  forty  years,  and  then  suddei.ly.' 
almost  m  a  day.  over^vhelm  the  entire  body  of 
the  unhappy  victim  with  sores  that  make  him 
an  astonishment  to  the  beholder.     Like  Mount 
Summa.  with  its  vast  sides  covered  with  verdure 
and  vineya.ds.   with  the  inhabitants  of  busy 
aties  that  lay  at  its  base,  after  ages  of  repose 
bursting  forth  in  an  hour,  and  amidst  lightning 
and  earthquake  and  mid-day  darkness,  buryinf 
Pompei.  and  Herculaneum  and  the  inhabitants 
of  a  vast  plain  in  a  ruin  that  after  eighteen  cen- 
tunes  still  apprJs  the  entire  world 

That  outside  of  the  medical  profession  there 
>s  general  and  almost  profound  ignorance  con- 
cerning the  prevalence,  character  and  sad 
consequences  of  the  disease^  which  afflict 
those  who  are  given  to  illicit  and  unlawful  sex- 
ual  indulgence,  there  can  be  no  doubt  Fven 
those  who  have  themselves  suffered  from  some 
one  or  more  forms  of  venereal  disease  are  often 


90       WHAT  A   yOLNO  MAy  Oi'UIJT  TO  h-yoW. 


as  totally  i^'norant  of  the  real  character  of  the 
malady    s   those  who  do  not  knov  anything  of 
its  existence.     After  the  first  manifestations  of 
the  disease  have  disappeared  they  regard  them- 
selves as  wholly  cured,  and  the  subsequent  re- 
sults which  they  suffer  in  the  after  months  and 
years  are  never  associated  in  their  minds  v.ith 
the  original  ?nd  only  cause.     It  is  not  too  much 
to  say   that  if  the  public  were  more  ful'.y  ac- 
quainted  with  thechaiacter  and  consequences 
of  these  diseases,  thousands  of  men  would  be 
annually  saved   from    moral  and  physical  cor- 
ruption,  ana  thousands  upon  thousands  of  the 
innocent  who  are  unknowingly  inoculated  with 
the  disease  might  be  saved  from  the  contagion 
which  is  poisoning  the  very  fountains  of  human 
life  and  being.     There  are  good  men  and  wo- 
men, some   of  whom   even  in  their  own   per- 
sons   suffer    the    effects    of    these    diseases 
which  have  been  transmitted   for  a  generation 
or  two,  who  would  raise  their  voices  against  the 
imparting  of  any  information  upon  this  subject 
to  the  general  public.     An  intelligent  physician, 
who  has  given  much  time  and  study  to  the  con- 
sideration of  this  subject,  in  writing  says:  "In 
the  great  cities  it  is  fearfully  prevalent,  including 
both  sexes  and  all  grades  of  society.    We  do 
not  doubt  that  more  than  twenty-five  per  cent, 
of  the  whole  population  is  more  or  less  tainted 
with   it,   and   the  greater  number  innocently. 
Nor  is  it  at  all  confined  to  the  indigent  and  de- 
graded.   It  holds  j  ust  as  firm .  though  concealed 
and  held  in  check,  in  the  fashionable  clubs  and 


^'11 A  TAYO  ISO  AlAy  0  CO  JIT  TO  A.,0  W.        97 
Stately  mansions  of  the  opulent  as  in  the  alleys 

and  oack  slums  of  the  dregs  of  our  population 
No  man    no  woman,  ue  care  not  what  us  posU 

t>onorh,sl,f..naybe.  issecurefromuslo'th. 
some  touch.  '  'o*«n. 

These  .|„cslio„,  are  of  vilal  interest  to  the 
pubhc  an.l  ,f  we  would  save  our  youn,-  n,e„ 
from  the  s,„s  which  some  people  condone  bu" 
«h,ch  a  just  God  judges  and  punishes,  at^d  if 
we  would  save  .he  purity  of  unsuspecting  wive 
and   bnng  ,n,o  the  world  a  holy  and  healthy 
offspnnj;,  „      „  te  necessary  thac  an  intelligen' 
Chns  .an  publ.c  should  take  up  arms,  not  only 
n  defe  ce  of  our  own  homes,  but  in  order  that" 
a-  loyal  ..nd  patriotic  citizens,  as  far  as  possible 

a7resT?hi^T\?'  ""'^  '™'"'"'  -""^e  and 
arrest  this  terr.ble  curse,  which  threatens  the 

deh.emen.  and  overthrow,  no,  simply  of  the 
ind.v,dual,  but  of  the  nation  itself 

That   some,   so-called   physicia.s,   may   the 

sTtoi„?h'"""""'"  "P°"  =>  dis'easeland 
suffcnng  humanity,  they  do  no,  desire  to  do 

S  t'hf      T   7"'"    ^^^"^•'"  "'-  patient^ 
with  the  natural  results  of  venerea,  diseases 

Among  the  physicians  of  ,he  better  class  there 
a  e  those  who  are  ,00  busy  in  their  practice  to 
allow  of  the  t.me  necessary  to  explain  these 
.h.ngs  ,0  ,he,r  patients,  while  others  fear  the 
<.epress,ng  effects  which  the  information  would 
ha>e  upon  the  minds  of  those  who  have  con- 
tracted these  diseases,  and  who  are  already 
under  treatment.  But  after  these  individuals 
have  been  cured  of  the  external  appearances 


g8       WUA  T  A   ro  r.VO  MAIf  O  VQIIT  TO  A'.VO  W. 


of  disease,  they  often  disappear  fio;n  the  list 
of  the  doctor's  patients  and  go  out  into  the 
world,  either  to  contaminate  others  or  to  con- 
tract even  a  worse  disease.  On  these  and  m  iny 
other  accounts  there  is  a  general  lack  of  intel- 
ligence, and  it  is  necessary  that  in  th's  treat- 
ment we  should  speak  plainly,  so  that  if  possi- 
ble we  may  save  the  >oung  from  this  leprosy 
of  lust. 

What  we  have  to  say  is  not  the  rer.ult  of  a 
slight  acquaintance  with  the  diseases  to  which 
we  shall  refer  F'or  twenty-seven  years  we  havp. 
beert  acquainted  with  some  persons  who  have 
suffered  from  these  fearful  dis^-ases,  and  it  was 
through  them  that  our  attention  was  first  called 
to  a  thoughtful  consideration  and  study  of  their 
terrible  efTerts.  At  different  times  we  have 
visited  the  venereal  wards  of  some  of  our  largest 
hospitals  in  this  country,  and  in  order  that  we 
might  be  guided  by  reliable  medical  authority 
:;i  preparing  for  the  writing  of  this  chapter,  we 
have  given  the  subject  such  an  amount  of  care- 
ful reading  and  investigation  as  would  enable 
us  to  speak  accurately,  and  also  to  merit  the 
endorsement  and  commendation  of  such  emi- 
nent practitioners  and  professors  ab  might  be 
necessary  in  order  to  give  our  statements  weight 
and  authority.  For  the  sake  of  brevity,  and 
that  our  pages  might  be  understood  by  all,  we 
have  quoted  the  language  of  such  reliable 
medical  authorities  as  have  expressed  in  an 
intelligible  way  the  information  which  we  seek 
*o  communicate. 


^'"■^rAvoryoM^yoranTTOK'yon'.     99 

No  form  of  venereal  disease  m  ly  |,c  sa.d  to 
be  s.mple.  f„r  all  are  at  times  attei-d  w  t^the 
n^-t  senous  and  fatal  consequences.  That 
however,  from  which  the  patient  oftent  me; 
escapes  w.thout  subsequent  consequences  7a 
enous  character  ..  known  by  the  Ldica  p  o 

«^h     cla^'Th'^^•^•^ 
tne  clap.         fhere  are  men    who  say  thev 

would  as  soon  have  the  gonorrhc^a  as  a  b.'cl 

dtln  "  r  ''''•  '"'  ^^^'^  declarafon  only 
d^closes  their  profound  i.^norpnce  of  the  re.^ 
character  of  a  disease  which  is  oftentimes  veTy 

rehearse  a  d.sgustmK  catalogue  of  symptoms 
wh.ch  would  be  of  no  value  except  to^heTd.' 

on  of  the      h"'  "'  "''  ''''''  '"^  ^^^  '■"^— 
.on  of  the  ordmary  mdiv.dual.  in  plain  terms 

the    general    course  of  this  d.sease  and  T^ 

consequences  w!   ■;».  frequently  follow 

In  h.s  book  entitled  -  Transmission  of  Life  " 

Dr.  George    H.  Napheys.  in  speaking  of  this 

'ualnn'."';.;  "''   "^^  '""^'  about 'life-long 
col    ''"n  ^^'/""''^S^  f'-^m  the  bladder  be 
come     mfl.med  and  contracted.     That  organ 
tse  f  IS  very  apt  to  partake  of  the  inflammatfon 
and  become  .rritable  and  sensUive.     Sperm"' 
torrhoea  and  impotence,  with  all  their  misery' 
nay  follow,  and  the  whole  economy  may  pi  ! 
takeofthemfection.    An  eruption  of  theX 
and   an   obstmate  form   of   rheumatism,   both 
-holly   mtractable   to   ordinary   remedied   are 

in^agme.    Not  mfrequently  these  troublesome 


til 
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loo    WHAT  A  yor  .\u  mas  oiaiir  m  Ksn\% 

chronic,  rheumatic  romplaints  \.  Inch  annoy 
men  in  mitldlc  and  adv.wu  rcl  life  are  the  iate 
castij^ations  which  nature  i^  jntliiung  fur  early 
trans^'rcshion." 

Such  a  picture  as  this  whirh  Dr.  Naphcys 
with  a  few  strc)ke->  of  his  pen  ^'ivcs  of  the  <  har- 
actcr  and  results  of  the  disease  is  not  cah  ulated 
to  comfort  the  mind  of  its  unfortunate  possessor 
with  any  assurance  that  he  has  contracted  a 
disease  that  is  no  worse  than  a  bad  cold.  Hut 
when  we  till  in  this  hare  outline  with  some  other 
delineations  which  belong  to  the  picture,  it  be- 
comes truer  to  life  and  nit^re  terrible  to  look 
upon 

Another  troublesome  accompaniment  of  a  se- 
vere attack  of  j,'onorrluL'a  is  an  oft-repeated  and 
sometimes  cjuite  continuous  and  painful  erec- 
tion of  the  sexual  member,  which  is  known 
to  medical  men  as  chordee.  This  inflimcd 
condition  of  the  entire  organ,  and  especially 
of  the  urethra,  or  the  canal  through  which  the 
urine  passes  after  leaving  the  bladder,  produces 
an  irritation  which  causes  the  less  affected  parts 
of  the  sexual  member  to  set  up  an  erection  in 
which  the  diseased  portions  take  no  part,  and 
the  result  is  a  distorting,  stretching  and  lactrat- 
inir  of  the  delicate  linings  of  the  urinary  canal, 
resulting  at  the  time  in  intense  suffering,  which 
may  even  continue  for  days,  and  for  a  consid- 
erable period  not  allow  its  victim  a  single  nigh^ 
of  undisturbed  rest. 

Uncomfortable  and  i)ainful  as  this  condition 
may  be  in  itself,  it  is  generally  only   the  fore- 


» //•  T  A  yoi.yo  MAX  oiuiiT  to  ksqw.    ioi 

rtinner  of  worse  thing,  to  f„llow.     This  Urcrat- 
mK'  of  the  urethra,  or  urinary  ,anal.  results  in  a 
contraction    of   .he  si,e   of   ,hc   urethra,    and 
>r  tne  results  centralize,   the   pissa^c   is  likely 
lo   close  entirely,   and  the  p.u.cnt  sulier  from 
«hat    IS    called    stricture.      Stricture    may   be 
successfully  reduced  either  temporarily  or  per 
manently.  or   it    may  refuse  to    yield   to  local 
treatment,  and  the  passage  close  entirely   leav- 
ing  the  sufferer  no  natural  means  of  emptying 
the    l.ladder     md   in  conse<,uence   necessitate 
a  surgical  op.  ation  extending  up  iato  the  blad- 
dci.  so  that  the  urine  may  for  a  j^jnod  of  days 
or  weeks  ho  removed  by  artificial  means,  while 
the  local  di.-T^culty  is  being  treated  and  relieved 
Such  conditions  are  not  at  all  uncommon,  but 
are  frequently  i^ct.  even  by  physicians  of  limited 
practice.     Sonu  of  the  more  aggravated  ca^es 
of  this  cl  iss.  which  we  have  ourselves  witnessed 
in  Che  wards  of  our  large  city  hospitals,  art  too 
excruciating  and   terrible   to   narrate  in  these 
pages. 

Then  there  is  also  the  painful  swelling  of  the 
glands  which  are  located  in  the  groin,  or  that 
portion  of  the  Lody  directly  in  front  of  the  hip- 
joint,  at  the  junction  of  the  thigh  with  the  abdo- 
men.     These  swellings,  or  buboes,  as  they  are 
technically  called,  may  be  only  perceptible  to 
the  touch,  or  they  may  become  as  large  as  wal- 
:nits.  occasioning  much  pain  and  alarm,  and  not 
infre(i..ently  even  form  large  abscesses,  and  rail 
for  surgical  treatment. 
Hemorrhage,  or  bleeding,   during  the  acute 


loj    WHAT  A  yov.\<i  MAS  oioiir  TO  A'.vor. 


I 


•t.T'^  of  j,'onorrh(r;i  is  likely  to  occur  as  the 
re  .iilt  of  <  ho'tU'f,  or  involiint.iry  etrction,  arul 
thin  may  bc<  onic  serious,  l)ccausc  of  c\'  cssive 
loss  of  blood  and  the  relaxing  etfe*  ts  wlui  h 
are  likely  to  he  expericn<  eti  by  the  p.uient. 

Nor  is  this  all.  l.asily  in  the  realm  of  the 
possible,  the  individual  who  in  his  i^noraiuo 
Siiys  that  he  would  as  'ocn,  or  sf)oner,  have  the 
^onorrhdM  than  t-  otha<  ho  or  a  bad  cold,  ha  i 
also  to  confront  the  possibility  of  an  ;.crom- 
paniinent  known  as  cpydidymitis.  If  his  phy- 
sirian  has  an  »  nsucccssful  tussle  with  this  ph;:se 
of  the  disease,  the  patient  will  have  an  expe- 
rience that  will  not  be  without  serious  pain,  and 
if  he  is  of  scrofulous  constitution  he  is  likely  to 
be  call:;d  upon  to  endure  a  wastin^j  known  as 
"consumption  of  the  testicle,"  which  usually 
ends  in  the  total  destruction  of  that  important 
member. 

If  the  attack  is  severe,  and  if  nejjlected  in 
the  bc^'inning,  or  improperly  treated,  or  a  cold 
is  contracted  and  locates  >n  the  disease^ 
parts,  impotency  may  follow,  or  the  sease 
may  protract  itself  into  a  chronic  state,  and 
continue  in  a  somewhat  modified  character 
durinj,'the  remainder  of  one's  life  in  the  form 
of  gleet,  concerning  which  a  medical  authority 
before  us  sa^s:  "  P"  what  we  will,  a  gleet  is 
often  unmanageab'  •,  ^rd  no  man  who  suffers 
from  gonorrhoea  sho^id  ever  allow  it  to  degen- 
erate into  this  form,  either  from  neglect  or  from 
improper  treatment." 

In   estimating  the  risks  which  are  encoun- 


nit  AT  A   Vorsa  MAS  OtmiT  Tn  k.\()W.    103 

tereil  in  contract-    ^  thin  fearful  ili^canc.  the  in- 
(Iivulual  wh<»  |)rt•frr^  it  to  a  i  uUl  i.r  the  tooth- 
a«  he  may  aho  l»e  <  oinfortecl  by  the  informa- 
iion  that  if.  n    tnyin^'  with  thi-*  lll^ca^c  which 
he  rcyjards     s  v»  trifling;,  he  •.houltl  chan<  e  to 
tran-ifer  some  of  the   virus  from  the  afTected 
sexual  part  to  his  cyt-.  or  to  leave  thi^  invisible 
e\  il  on  a  towt-l    whii  h  some  one  i<»  to  u^e  after 
him,  or  communicates  this  di>ca>,c  to  his  \ncg- 
want   wife,  and  she  should  fail  to  he  entirely 
cured  before  the  birth  of  her  <  hiM.  in  either  of 
thcc  events  a  ( ase  of  total  blindness  may  fol- 
low.    Indeed,  bliiulncss  frequently  follows  as  a 
result.     Ofleniinics  younj;  men  who  have  con- 
tracted Konorrhcta,  and  after  careful  »-      -ncnt 
think   themselves   entirely  cured,     ctain       m- 
nants  of  the  disease,  the  presence  of  which  can 
only  bcdi'coveicd  l)y  a  careful  microscopical 
examination.       In    writing   of  such    cases    an 
cminenl     ".erman  physician    says:  "  In  count- 
less  cases    it   dc:,troys    the  happiness   of  the 
family.     How   often   do   specialist  i    in  female 
diseases  see   youn^'  wives,  after  the   first   few 
weeks  of  marria^'c.  sickly  and  in  failing,'  heaUh, 
whom   they    formerly    knew  as  bloominjj,  en- 
ergetic girls."    Another  physician  says:  "This 
disease  has  a  power  of  infection   which  is  re- 
markably obstinate.     It  is  an  cvery-day  expe- 
rience that  men  who  contracted  the  clap  five  or 
ten  years  ago,  or  even  longer,  and  who  counted 
themselves  as  cured,  have  infected  their  young 
wives  soon  after  marriage." 
There  is  no  lack  of  authority  upon  this  point, 


1 04     WlIA TAVO LAO  MA S  O f  GUT  TO  AWO If 

and  the  saddest  feature  is  that  in  such  a  large 
pcrccnta^'e  of  cases  the  condition  of  the  youny 
wife  is  not  tempora  y,  but  permanent.  Man> 
iin  unhappy  husband  has  gone  to  his  phvsician 
and  bemoaned  the  (ondition  of  his  invaUdwife. 
hide  dreaming  that  he  is  himself  the  author  of 
his  own  unhappiness  and  his  wife's  misery— 
never  for  one  moment  supposing  that  but  for  his 
folly  and  his  sin  his  wife  would  still  be  the  bloom- 
ing  woman  she  once  was.  Under  such  circum- 
stances it  ill  becomes  a  guilty  man  to  cast  re- 
proach upon  the  innocent  and  unsuspecting 
woman  who  is  bearmg  by  far  the  heavier  bur- 
den of  the  two. 

A  single  illustration  from  the  practice  of  Dr. 
Lowdenhardt  will  s  jffice  :  "  J.  B.  contracted  gon- 
orrhoea in  the  fall  of  f  1ie  year.     Discharge  la^sted 
for  six  weeks,  and  the  .1  almost  ceased.     Drank 
champagne  during  the  Christmas  holidays,  and 
the  discharge  reappeared,  continued   for  sev- 
eral months,  and  then  became  scarcely  more 
than  a  slight  secretion.     This  kept  up,  some- 
times slightly  worse,    sometimes  disappearing 
altogether,  for  eighteen  months,  when  he  mar- 
r.ed.     Two  months  after  marriage  his  wife  had 
an  attack  of  acute  ovaritis  and  pelvic  peritoni- 
tis, and   came   near   losing   her  life,  and  did 
finally  lose  hci   ovaries.     This  man's  urethral 
secretion  was  examined  by  me  and  found  to 
contain  gonococci  in  large  numbers."     Thus  by 
the  unlawful   sexual  intercourse  of  their  hus- 
bands,  before  or   during    marriage,    countless 
wives  are  made  unhappy,  are  defrauded  of 


nJlA TAVO lyo  MAN  0 1'GHT  TO  KWO H'.     1 05 

all  hopes  and  possibilities  of  becomin^r  happy 
mothers,  are  robbecl  of  the  joy  of  livin<;.  are 
ruined  in  their  health  and  oppressed  with'^paiu 
and  low  spirits,  all  because  of  the  ignorance, 
vice  and  folly  of  their  husbands. 

Dr.   H.  N.  Guernsey,  in   his  excellent  little 
book,   "Plain   Talks   on    Avoided    Subjects," 
says :    "  W..en    gonorrha^a   is    contracted,   al- 
though frequently   suppressed  by  local   treat- 
ment in  the  lorm  of  injections,  it  is  never  per- 
fectly cured  thereby.     No;  the  hidden  poison 
runs  on  for  a  lifetime,  producing  strictures,  dy- 
suria,  gleet,  and   kindred  diseases  ;   finally,  in 
old  men,  a  horrible  prostatis  results,  from  which 
the  balance  of  one's  life  is  rendered  miserable 
indeed.     If  inflammation  of  the  lungs  super- 
venes  there  is  ofte».  a  transmission  of  the  virus 
to  these  vital   organs,  causing  what  is  termed 
'  plastic  pneumonia,'  where  one  lobule  after  an- 
other  becomes  gradually  sealed  up,  till  nearly 
the  whole  of  both  lungs  becomes  impervious  to 
air,  and  death  results  from  asphyxia." 

When  we  come  to  sum  up  the  total  of  these 
possibilities  and  probabilities,  and  add  to  the 
pain  the  financial  expense,  the  personal  degra- 
dation, possible  humiliation  because  of  expo- 
sure in  this  world  and  of  eventual  exposure 
and  divine  punishment  in  the  world  to  come, 
we  are  willing  to  leave  the  intelligent  reader  to 
judge  whether  a  pleasing  sensation  w>  ich  lasts 
but  for  a  moment  is  an  adequate  return  for 
what  not  a  few,  but  thousands  upon  thousands, 
are  this  moment  suffering  both  as  to  the  imme- 


•fli 


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io6  WHAT  A  roiwa  max  olout  to  ksow. 


■^^ 


diate  and  subsequent  results,  some  for  a  tern. 
poral  j)eriod,  ind  others  for  an  unending  eter- 
nity. 

There  are  three  forms  of  venereal  disease  com- 
mon amon^'  those  who  defy  the  laws  of  ("lOd  and 
man,  and  expose  themselves  to  the  immediate 
judgments  which  God  visits  upon  those  who 
transgress  moral  restraints,  social  rights,  and 
physical  laws.  The  most  common,  gonorrhoea, 
or  clap,  usually  appears  about  ten  to  fifteen 
days  after  the  criminal  relation,  and  while  it 
may  not  be  attended  with  serious  results,  and 
may  be  permanently  he.  .d  after  a  few  weeks, 
yet  it  may,  and  often  is,  attended  with  one  or 
more  of  the  sad  results  we  have  indicated,  or 
may  seemingly  be  healed,  and  then  reappear  at 
intervals,  or  it  may  differ  from  anything  we 
have  described,  because  the  disease,  instead  of 
attacking  the  urethra,  may  engraft  and  conceal 
itself  under  the  prepuce,  or  foreskin,  and  pro- 
duce a  form  of  external  gonorrhoea  known  as 
balanitis.  The  parts  may  become  so  swollen, 
that  in  order  to  reach  and  treat  the  hidden  ul- 
ceration the  use  of  the  knife  may  become  neces- 
sary, gangrene  is  possible,  and  physicians  fa- 
miliar with  the  disease  tell  us  that  wh«.  not 
promptly  or  properly  treated,  the  unhappy  vic- 
tim may  even  suffer  the  loss  of  a  portion  of  his 
sexual  member.  While  gonorrhoea  is  local  in 
its  manifestation,  and  when  thoroughly  cured 
does  not  leave  any  permanent  constitutional 
effects,  and  is  not  transmitted  to  his  offspring, 
yet  it  is  by  no  means  the  simple  and  indifferent 


WHAT  A   YOVSa  MAS  OVOIIT  TO  K^OW.    1 07 

matter  which  many  wayward  and  wicked 
tfansgressors  would  gladly  ha.e  the  innocent 
and  unsuspecting  believe  it  to  be. 

Medical  records  and  journals  are  generally 
agreed  that  it  \%  possible  for  pure  and  unoffend- 
ing marrie  1  people  to  suffer  from  an  affection 
which  closely  resembles  gonorrhoea.  This  is 
caused  by  an  nrrid  discharge  from  the  female 
parts,  or  may  be  developed  at  the  time  of  the 
monthly  sickness  of  the  wife.  Physicians  of 
unquestioned  ability  and  honor  declare  this  to 
be  a  fact,  and  assert  that  it  is  important  that  this 
should  be  known,  as  ignorance  of  this  fact  has 
led  to  unjust  suspicions  an^l  cruel  accusations, 
resulting  in  the  disruption  of  families  and  the 
suffering  of  untold  misery. 


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CHAPTER  V. 

EVILS    TO    BE   SHUNNED    AVD    CONSEQUENCES 

TO    BE    DREADED. 

Continued. 

The  two  other  chief  forms  of  venereal  dis- 
ease  are    chancroid    and   chancre,  the   latter 
being  the  primary  lesion  or  sere  of  syphilis. 
In  their  first  appearance  they  are,  at  least  to 
the  unpractised,  quite  alike.     The  first,  how- 
ever, is  purely  local,  external,  does  not  poison 
the  blood,  appears  from   three  to  nine   days 
after  inocilation,  generally  yields  quite  readily 
to  treatment,  leaves   no  permanent   constitu- 
tional effects,  and  after  being  cured  is  not  trans- 
mitted to  the  offspring. 

With  the  chancre,  or  syphilis,  it  is  different. 
The  firs,  positive  evidence  of  the  disease  does 
not  make  its  appearance  until  at  the  end  of 
from  three  to  six  weeks ;  and  wnen  the  chancre  or 
first  sore  appears,  although  it  be  discovered  when 
no  larger  than  the  head  of  a  pin,  the  system  is 
already  thoroughly  contaminated,  and  though 
this  first  visible  symptom  should  be  cauterized 
and  destroyed,  the  entire  body  is  already  af- 
fected, and  the  results  are  inevitable. 

When  compared  with  the  '  orrors  of  chancre, 
or  syphilis,  chancroid  is  regarded  as  a  simple 
disease,  but  it  is  not  without  its  oun  peculiar 


M> 


;!' 


no   WHAT  A  yoLWo  j/^a  onaiT  to  ksow. 

horrors,  not  the  least  c.l  which  is  the  fact  that 
only  a  physician  who  is  familiar  with  these  two 
diseases  can  at  first  tell  which  is  which,  and  the 
mental  agony  through  which  an  individual 
^iasses  while  this  question  is  being  definitely 
determined  has  often  been  sufficient  to  render 
its  unhappy  victim  a  raving  maniac,  or  to  lead 
to  immediate  suicide;  the  wretched  mortal, 
closing  his  eyes  to  the  awful  judgments  of  the 
world  to  come,  rushes  unsummoned  into  the 
presence  of  the  great  Judge,  seeking  thus  to 
escape  the  awful  temporal  judgments  and 
physical  ruin  which  he  has  pulled  down  upon 
his  own  head.  If  the  physican  is  unskilled, 
mistakes  the  chancroid  for  a  chancre,  and 
begins  a  course  of  mercur.al  treatment,  he  may 
salivate  his  patient,  who  will  suffer  afterwards 
with  mercurial  diseases,  which  may  be  thought 
to  be  the  symptoms  of  secondary  syphilis. 

The  venereal  ulcer,  which  attends  chancroid, 
may  make  its  first  appearance  as  early  as  the 
second  or  third  day,  but  may  be  retarded  in 
its  appearance,  or  it  may  not  be  observed  for 
several  days,  or  even  for  a  couple  of  weeks. 
It  may  be  very  small,  exist  unnoticed,  occasion 
little  or  no  inconvenience  for  a  time,  or  an 
alarming  ulcer  may  form  rapidly.  There  may 
be  a  simple  ulcer  or  chancroid  upon  the  sexual 
member,  or  several  chancroids  may  appear 
upon  the  same  person,  at  the  same  time,  in  the 
same  vicinity,  or  upon  different  portions  of  the 
body. 

These  chancroids  may  also  be  attended  with 


niU TAYO VSa  MAN  0 tVHT  TO  KSO W.    1 1 1 

buboes,  or  a  swelling  of  the  lymphatic  glands 
•n  the  groin,  and  the.c  may  gather  and  break 
or  reciuire  to  he  lanced  and  treated  the  same  as 
m  similar  trouble  in  the  instance  of  gonorrhoea 
.     or  as  in  syphilis  itself;    for  bubo  is  likely  to' 
attend  alike  all  three  of  these  diseases,  the  only 
difference  being  that  in  cases  of  gonorrhoea  and 
chancroid  the  virus  is  not  absorbed   into  the 
system,  as  in  the  case  of  chancre,  or  syphilis. 

There  are  a  few  differences  by  which  the 
physician  distinguishes  between  chancroid  and 
chancre,  or  syph.iis.     The  chancroid  usually 
appears  in  a  few  days,  the  chancre  in  a  few 
weeks.    The  chancroid,  in  external  appearance 
IS  qu.te  like  the  chancre,  but  the  latter  has  an 
indurated  or  hard  base,  somewhat  like  the  core 
of  a  large  boil,  while  the  chancroid  is  an  ulcer 
with  a  soft  base  ;  and  it  is  upon  this  difference  be. 
tween  the  lesion  or  ulcer  with  the  soft  base  or 
the  hard  base  that  enables  the  physician  to  dis- 
criminate between  the  chancroid,  the  counter- 
feit syphilis,  and  the  chancre  or  genuine  syphi- 
lis.    The  chancroid  may  be.  and  often  is    a 
larger  and  more  inflamed  ulcer,  but  it  does  not 
become  constitutional,  and  yields  readily  to  local 
treatment,  while  the  chancre  does  not  make  its 
appearance  at  all  until  the  system  is  permeated 
and  the  contamination  has  been  effected    When 
the  chancroid  and  its  bubo,  or  swelled  gland  in 
the  groin,  if  that  follows,  are  thoroughly  healed 
the  consequences  ..re  over,  but  when  the  chancre 
IS  healed,  the  terrible  results  of  syphilis  are  but 
just  begun.     The  appearance  of  the  chancre  or 


I; 


i 

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J' 


1 1 2    niiA  T  A  ro  vyo  man  o  ugut  to  kso  w. 


11': 


ulcer  in  syphilis  is  only  an  announcement  that 
the  poison  is  in  the  system,  and  that  the  second- 
ary effects  may  be  confidently  looked  for,  and 
modify  these  by  treatment  if  you  may,  but  un- 
less spcctlily  arrested  in  its  course,  the  tertiary, 
or  third,  staj^c  of  the  disease  will  l)e  reached  ; 
and  the  peculiar  terror  of  this  disease  is  that 
each  stage  is  more  destructive  and  more  to  be 
feared  than  that  which  preceded  it. 

In  order  that  the  reader  may  get  an  intelli- 
gent idea  of  this  most  terrible  of  all  the  diseases 
which  afflict  humanity,  it  will  be  important  to 
fix  clearly  in  the  mmd  the  fact  that  syphilis  has 
three  distinct  and  clearly-defined  stages— the 
primary,  secondary,  and  tertiary. 

The  primary  stage  is  recognized  by  the  ap- 
peaiance  of  the  indurated  or  hard  chancre,  or 
ulcer,  which  usually  begins  as  a  pimple,  and 
after  several  days  develops  into  an  inflamed 
open  ulcer,  or  chancre,  having  a  red  circle. 
These  sores  may  be  attended  by  the  swelled 
grom  or  buboes,  and  after  a  few  weeks  both 
may  yield  to  tieatmcnt  and  disappear,  but  this 
is  the  source  of  no  intelligent  comfort,  for  the 
serious  trouble  has  only  begun. 

The  secondary  .symptoms  which  follow, 
manifest  themselves  in  a  virulent  attack  ot  vhe 
disease  upon  the  skin  and  mucous  membrane. 
The  secondary  stage  is  reached  at  the  end  of  a 
few  weeks,  usually  three  or  four,  or  it  may  re- 
main dormant  for  that  many  months.  The  at- 
tack now  is  upon  the  skin.  Rashes,  eruptions 
and  sores  appear  upon  the  body.    The  glands 


-nflame  a.ul  K'athcr.     Shallou-  „Ircrs  form  upon 

t'>|-' to,,MK-.an.lj,,.t  hack  ofthc.  lips  on  the  in- 
M^lc  (.f  the.  MH.uth.     The  throat    ulcerate,   ca- 
tarrh lays  held  c.f  the  rm.ccus  c  hainhers  c.f  the 
head;  the  stomach,  the  liver,  and  the  internal 
organs   may  he  attacked.     The  hair  is  apt  to 
onsen  and  fall  out.  the  spirit  bee  omes  depressed 
he  brain  may  be  involved,  and  imbecility   epi- 
lepsy  and    insanity    may    foljou-.     These'  are 
some  of  the  terrors  and  horrors  of  the  second- 
ary  sta-e.     The  next  is  still  worse. 

In  the  tertiary  stage  the  disease  leaves  the 
outer  surfaces  and  attacks  the  bones.    The  early 
-^vrnptom  IS  a  severe  pain  like  rheumatism,  not 
at  the  joints,  but  between  them,  especially  be- 
t^veen  the  knee  and  the  ankle  and  on  the  head 
1  he  pair  ,s  se       c  at  night,  and  its  victim  often 
wa.ks  the  tloor.  unable  to  lie  down  or  sleep 
The  oones  become  brittle,  and  nature  loses  her 
power  to  heal.     The  nose  is  liable  to  be  eaten 
away,  and,  piece  by  piece.  th.o.-.H  g.eat  sores 
in  the  flesh,  the  bones  slough  and  pass  out  or 
they  may  weaken  and  break  by  a  sudden  strain. 
Dr.  Napheys  tells  of  a  young  man  who  in  at- 
tempting to  pull  off  his  boot  snapped  nis  thigh- 
bone at  the  hip-joint,  and  for  nearly  two  years 
was  laid  upon  his  bed,  from  which  he  was  only 
relieved  by  death.     We  have  ourselves   seen 
similar   sad   results,  and   anyone   visiting  the 
Medical  Museum  of  Anatomy  in  Washington 
1).  C     can  there  see  a  human  skull,  the  top  of 
which  was  eaten  through  by  this  dreadful  foe  and 
scourge  of  mankind       ^     


8 


Dr.  Hollick  says:  "No 


i 


114    ii7/.i  r  .1  vorsd  MAS'  ormiT  to  hSOW. 

person  wlio  has  once  had  ch.in<ic  cm  ever  he 
perfectly  safe  from  tlic  terril)le  ((iii>e(juen(  es  nf 
tertiary  syniptoins,  unless  he  has  uiulcrj^ona 
ihc  most  th()r()ii^,'h  ami  a|)propriate  treatment, 
and  at  the  proper  time.  1  ki\e\v  one  pentle- 
man  in  whom  tertiary  syphilis  ')r()ke  out  in  the 
mouth  and  throat  ei^jht  yeais  a  ter  he  had  be- 
come, as  he  thou^dit,  perfectly  well." 

This  is  the  thseasc  com  erninj;  which  an  emi- 
nent professoi  in  oneof  our  lar^'esl  mcilical  col- 
leges in  this  country,  in  one  of  the  clinics,  when 
examining  and  prescribing  for  persons  who  had 
skin  diseases,  and  when  a  man  with  a  syphi- 
litic sore  was  before  the  class,  saitl  to  his  stu- 
dents: "('.entlemen,  I  would  not  have  that 
sore  on  my  body  for  the  entire  continent  of 
North  America." 

A  physician,  who  is  "  personal  acquaintance 
of  the  writer,  related  to  us  how  a  young  man, 
vho  had  contracted  this  disease,  came  to 
him  for  consultation  and  treatment.  In  ord'-r 
that  he  might  understand  the  import.mce  of 
taking  his  medicine  regularly  and  faithfully  for 
a  period  of  at  least  two  years,  and  in  order  thiit 
he  might  be  induced  to  use  proper  precaution 
to  prevent  the  transmission  of  the  disease  to 
<nhers,  either  by  unlawful  or  ordinary  contact, 
the  doctor  was  communic  iting  to  his  patient 
the  nature  of  his  disease,  and  some  of  the  ter- 
rible consccpiences  that  might  be  expected, 
when  the  young  man  looked  up  into  his  face  and 
said;  "Well,  tioctor,  if  that  is  so,  then  I  might 
as  well  be  dead."     "  Yes,"  said  the  doctor,  "  so 


m/ATA  )or.\o  .VA\  nvunr  to  kxom-    115 

far  as  cither   y,,,,  or  the  rc^t   u{  ,hc  wo.Klarr 
cone .  Tuil.  ;  ,,u  nii^'ht  .in  well  l)c  Mcitl/" 

Thcsf.  t^uly.  arc  very  dark  |.,.  tu  -s.  hut  they 
arc  tnie  ...  hfe.  N„t  that  all  th..t  we  have 
"v..-.itc(l  <.„ne  to  i,as.  i:,  ca.  h  particular  cx- 
pcT.cncc,  l.ut  they  do  <  omc  true  in  some  in- 
sMnres.  and  are  posMhIe  in  all,  unlc.s  ih.-  dis- 
ease IS  arrestee!  by  prompt  and  successful  treit- 
ment. 

1  hat  what  we  have  said  is  true  will  .ippc;;-  if 
wc  condense  from  a  volume  before  us  upon  this 
subject  the  ordinary  course  of  this  disease  It 
may  be  well  to  do  this,  for  (;(,d  visits  this  dis- 
ease  not  only  as  a  punishment  upon  the  guilty 
bi't  as  a  terriblo  warnintj  and  restraint  to  the 
tempted. 

A  j.erson  who  has  been  exposed  to  the  infec- 
tion of  this   disease  seldom,   if  ever,  escapes 
and  the  hrstsore  or  chancre,  one  or  more   may 
appear  after  two  or  four  weeks,  o    may  delay 
its  appearance  for  even  six  weeks. 

About  two  months  after  the  first  chancre  a 
rash    makes   its  appearance.     This   oftentimes 
locates  OP  the  forehead  along  the  ed-e  of  the 
hiir.  or  on  the  scalp,  or  it  may  locate  upon  any 
portion  of  the  body,  or  nearly  or  quite  cover  the 
entire  surface  of  the  body.     At  f  rst  the  pimples 
are  an  mflamed  red.  then  vellovish.  and   lat- 
terly, copper-colored.     When  the  scab,  or  scale 
which  forms  above  them  falls  off,  it  leaves  a 
small,   shiny,  copper-colored  spot.     This  cop- 
per-colored spot  marks  a  man  as  diseased  with 
syphilis,  and  by  it,  during  this  stage  ^f  the  dis- 


i  a 


ifc 

i 


ii6    M//.t  r  .1  yorsu  M.is'ofdiiT  to  kxow. 

f.isc.  Ik*  m.iy  he  rrroj^ni/c<l  \>\  all  uho  »rc  f.i- 
tnili.ir  \itl»  tin*  si^^ns  with  ulu'h  (..'<l  luitki 
•he  iivluitlii.il  who  h.i-.  (onti.utctl  t'.u^  li).ith- 
»umc  «li^«*.isc. 

Sypli'litir  sores  soon  after  att.u  k  the  i.ose, 
mouth,  t(>ti;,'iic  aiul  throat.  Ihcic  sores  n\ay 
also  cxtcml  to  the  outer  surfaec  near  the  nose 
anilniouth.  or  ni.iy  .ippe.ir  aroiitul  the  nail->,  on 
the  .inns,  .md  on  the  upper  p.irt  of  the  thi^;hs, 
and  on  the  sexual  })arts.  Thcsi  sores  are  hi^'hly 
»nfe<  tious,  and  at  this  sta^;e  of  the  disease  the 
ror.'amin.ition  is  left  on  drinkinj^  cups,  knives, 
'ork>^,  di>hcs,  towcN,  etc.,  ami  the  innocent  are 
very  frc(piently  contaminated,  and  doomctl  to 
•uffer  all  the  terrible  manifestations  of  this 
dreadful  disease. 

About  the  cml  <if  the  third  month  a  -cc- 
ond  inst.ilment  '  f  eruptions  make  their  ap- 
pc.iranc  c,  '.isually  .m.Kkin^'  the  face,  b.uk, 
h.inds.md  feet.  When  the  scaler  f.ill,  there  is 
a^ain  left  another  series  of  copper-colored 
spots. 

About  the  end  of  six  months  a  new  series  of 
dan^'ers  arc  encountered  in  the  form  of  inflam- 
mation of  the  eyes.  This  form  of  syphilis  is 
often  met  with  in  the  hospitals,  and  the  safety 
of  the  eyes  calls  for  prompt  and  judicious  treat- 
ment. Unless  properly  protected  and  correctly 
treated,  blindness  is  the  result. 

About  this  sai  letime  the  periosteum,  or  thin 
covering'  in  w  Inch  the  bones  of  the  body  are  en- 
cased, is  liable  to  be  attacked.    This  intlamm.i- 
lon    is   very  p.unful,    .md   liard   lumps,  called 


»IIAT  A    Vol  S<i  MAS  (iliillT  H>  h\0\\:     117 

nodes,  form  (Icrp  iHulcr  tlic  sk.n.  Thry  11  Mi.illy 
lottic  <.n  the  arm-,,  or  on  the  Ick's  iK-twc-n  the 
knee  and  the  ankle.  'I  iic  swelling;  c.it«n  l)e- 
Cnine«  hardened  and  remaitiH  pernuincntly, 
cither  hK)sc,  or  attached  to  tlic  trae  hone. 
When  these  nodes  form  on  tlic  inside  of  tlu- 
skull,  as  is  sometimes  the  rase,  they  press  upon 
the  brain  ami  cause  ronvuKions,  and  eventual 
dralh. 

At  the  end  of  a  year  p  Hcsiiy  swelling'  of  the 
tcsti(  les  is  usually  looked  for.  This  is  a  ticw 
form  (;f  trtaihlc  and  dan-t  -s  it  exposes  the 
sufferer  to  the  possible  loss  of  the  funi  tioii.  or 
use  of  those  members,  or  it  may  tle^'enerate  into 
.1  condition  rcsemblin),'  cancer,  or  it  may  termi- 
nate in  one  of  several  v^ays.  or.  for  almost  ar 
indefinite  period,  refuse  to  terminate  at  all. 

If  the  disease  is  not  arrested  and  the  system 
cleansed,  at  the  end  <>    about  the  secomi  year  a 
new  form  of  the  disease  known  as  rupiamay  be 
expec  ted.     The  word  rupia  comes  from  a  I..itin 
word  meaning'  a  ro(  k,  and  is  so  called  because 
the  body  is  covered  with  hui,'e  scal)s  resembling 
a  roc  k.     These  begin  with  a  little  scab  formed 
over  a  small  sore  resembling  a  blister.     Hencath 
these  s(  abs  the  ulcer  eats  deeper  and   spreads 
brradcr,  all  the  while  exuding  a  scrum  which 
dries  from  bencala  in  layers,  each  broader  than 
that  next  above,  and  thus  the  scabs  or  scales 
grow  broader  or  higher  until  their  appearance 
suggests  the  resemblance  or  propriety  of  calling 
thcin   "  rupia,"  or  a  rock.     These  great  sores 
appear  upon  the  arms  and  legs   and  we  have 


I  1 8     TI7/.1  T  A   YOVSG  MAS  OUOIIT  TO  A'.VOR'. 


seen  them  sufficiently  nmncrous  and  lorj^e  to 
^M\e  the  patient  a  very  horrible  a[)pearance. 
We  have  also  seen  them  quite  completely  cover 
the  back  with  smaller  sores,  anil  have  known 
persons  to  remain  in  the  hospital  an  entire 
year  before  these  sores  have  disappeared. 

At  the  end  of  three  to  five  years,  or  a  much 
longer  period,  tubercular  deposits  are  likely  to 
form  in  the  mouth,  throat,  nose,  and  on  the 
tongue.  At  first  they  appear  as  hard  lumps  or 
tumors,  and  then  develop  into  ulcers  of  a  very 
destructive  character.  They  eat  away  the  pal- 
ate, nostrils,  and  bones  of  the  nose.  These  ulcers 
in  their  appearance  and  r  >sult  greatly  resemble 
and  are  often  mistaken  for  cancer.  People  with 
the  nose  thus  eaten  away  are  not  infrequently 
met  with  upon  the  streets  in  our  large  cities, 
and  we  have  often  seen  them  even  in  small 
towns  and  villages. 

From  four  to  six  years  after  the  appearance 
of  the  chancre,  gummy  tumors  are  liable  to  ap- 
pear. They  are  much  like  the  preceding. 
Hard,  movable  lumps,  from  the  size  of  a  pea  to 
that  of  a  hen's  egg,  form  under  the  skin  in  any 
part  of  the  body.  For  months  they  may  remain 
unchanged,  and  occasion  no  pain,  but  finally 
they  attach  themselves,  ulcerate,  and  when 
opened  disclose  a  condition  that  looks  as  though 
the  underlying  tissues  had  all  been  undermined, 
and  a  large  and  destructive  ulcer  develops  in  a 
surprisingly  shcrt  period  of  time.  Generally, 
destruction  of  the  bone  follows,  and  the  terti- 
ary stage,  with  its  much-to-be-dreaded  results, 


(vi/A  T  A  ro cya  .v,, y  q i-hht  to  K-yo  w.    119 

is  upon  tlie  poor  victim,  uun  all  its  pains  and 
terrors. 

If  the  sufferer  is  not  thorout,My  cured  at 
the  end  of  twenty,  or  even  forty  vrars.  r'c  at 
a  much  earlier  period,  as  the  case  m'xy  be 
the  bones  may  be  attacked,  and  the  nose  the 
upper  portion  of  the  skull,  the  spine,  or  the  ikr-e 
bones  of  the  arms  and  \cg^  may  yield  to  disin- 
tegration and  decay.  These  may  slou-h  off  and 
pass  out  throufjh  great  sores,  and  afflict  with 
untold  pain  and  horror  their  unhappy  victim. 

Not  all  the  results  we  have  indicated  always 
happen  in  any  one  case,  nor  are  the  periods 
of  time  indicated  to  be  relied  upon  in  all  in- 
stances.   The  secondary  symptoms,  because  of 
treatment  and  the  physical  conditions  of  the 
indivulual.  may  be  so  slight  as  to  be  almost 
unnoticed,  and  the  tertiary,  or  third  stage,  may 
steal  m  upoi  its  unsuspecting  victim  without 
previous  warning.    The  differen-.  stages  may  be 
separated  by  defined  periods  of  relief,  or  they 
may  follow  closely,  or  even  overlap  each  other 
The  first  chancre  may  heal,  and  nothing  more 
may  be  see->  of  the  disease  for  eight  or  ten 
years,  or  even  longer,  and  then  it  may  suddenly 
reappear  with  all  the  horrors  of  the  secondary 
or  tertiary  form.     Nothmg  can   be  definitely 
foretold,  save  that  syphilis  has  an  infinite  vari- 
ation  and   modification,  and  never  lacks  for 
some  new  form  with  which  to  surprise  both  the 
patient  and  the  physician.     At  times  it  fights 
m  an  open  field,  then  flanks  its  enemy,  lies  in 
ambush  for  a  new  surprise,  or,    -emingly  van- 


m 


i 


m 


1 20   M-jiAT  A  yoiyo  MAy  oraiiT  to  ksow 

quished,  retreats  to  gather  strength  for  a  new 
attack,  or  forms  an  alliance  with  some  ordinary 
physical  foe,  rendering  fatal  a  bruise,  a  fever, 
or  even  a  bad  cold. 

We  have  seen  these  things  with  our  own 
eyes,  we  have  learned  them  from  the  lips  of  the 
ablest  medical  authorities,  and  the  picture  is 
not  overdrawn.  To  recognize  the  full  charac- 
ter and  effects  of  syphilis,  you  would  have  to 
conipel  the  world  to  throw  open  the  doors  of 
all  its  hospitals,  and  expose  to  view  the  moral 
lepers,  whose  flesh  and  bones  reek  with  rotten- 
ness and  death,  and,  as  yon  pass  from  ward  to 
ward,  it  would  be  necessary  to  require  your 
attendant  to  call  diseases  by  their  real  names, 
and  tell  you  the  true  relations  of  the  many 
aches  and  ills  to  this  one  terrible  disease  of 
diseases  which  visits  its  judgments  upon  the 
children  of  its  unhappy  victim  to  the  third  and 
fourth  generations ;  to  throv/  open  the  doors 
of  the  insane  asylums,  to  show  you  the  large 
number  of  their  unhappy  victims  who  have  been 
thrust  in  here  from  among  the  primary  and  sec- 
ondary sufferers  of  syphilis ;  to  throw  open  the 
doors  of  the  sepulchres  and  show  you  the  slain ; 
to  throw  open  the  gates  of  the  lost  world  and 
show  you  the  doomed,  and  let  you  listen  to  the 
wails  of  the  millions  who  have  been  slain  for 
all  eternity  by  this  awful  sin  of  lust  and  dis- 
ease. "  Truly  the  wi^ ,  ' — not  only  the  end,  but 
also  the  way — "  of  the  transgressor  is  hard." 

We  have  found  no  pleasure  in  dwelling  thus 
in  detail  upon  this  dreadful  disease.     If  your 


WIIA  T  A  roi-yo  MAN  OUQIIT  TO  A'AOH',     121 

nature  shrinks  from  the  contemplation,  so  does 
ours.     Hut  the  fri.^htful  spread  of  this  disease 
's  largely  due  to  the  almost  universal  and  pro- 
tound  Ignorance  upon  the  subject.     The  protec 
tiop  of  society  demands  that  the  nature  and 
results  of  this  scourge  of  humanity  should  be 
kno^vn  and  recognized.   We  quarantine  against 
yellow  fever  and  cholera,  nnd  shall  society  not 
be  protected  against  this  disease,  which  .s  far 
more  destructive  of  human  life  and  happiness 
than  yellow  fever  and  cholera  combined  >    God 
put  a  mark  upon  Cain,  and  he  puts  a  mark 
lipon  those  who  have  syphilis ;  and  it  has  for 
years    been  a  serious    question    in   our  mind 
whether,   for  the   protection  of  the  pure    the 
government  should  not  brand  upon  the  'fore- 
head those  who  have  this  disease,  so  that  they 
could  always  be  recognized,  and  thus  the  un- 
contaminated  might  be  apprised  and  put  upon 
heir  guard.     A  leper  is  excluded  from  associa- 
lon  with  the  pure,  while  syphilis,  which  is  no 
less    contagious    or    terrible.  ,s    permitted    to 
spread  both  by  illicit  sexual  indulgence  and  by 
ordmary  contact. 

But  there  are  still  a  few  important  questions 
that  demand  to  be  considered  in  this  connec- 
tion.    An  important  question  often  asked  is 
'Can  it  be  cured  ?"     Upon  this  question  there 
IS  among  medical  men  a  diversity  of  opinion. 
Oftentimes  the  chancroid  is  mistaken  by  the 
physician  of  limited  practice  for  the  genuine 
chancre,  and   because  of  its   early  disappear- 
ance he  IS  awarded    by  the  patient,  and  sin- 


f  • 


1 2 2     WIIA  T  A   YO LNQ  M. IX  01 V 11 T  TO  kWO H'. 


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cerely  accepts,  the  credit  of  havin>j  perma- 
nently cured  a  chancre  or  a  case  of  (genuine 
syphilis.  In  other  cases,  where  the  lesion  or 
ulcer  is  one  of  genuine  syphilitic  ori^Mn  :\nd 
character,  and  where  the  jihysician  is  success- 
ful in  hrinj^in^'  the  secondary  sym[)tonis  to  hay, 
the  patient  removes  from  the  neighborhood  or 
disappears,  and  if,  in  after  years,  the  disease 
returns,  the  physician  may  never  learn  of  it. 
And  even  if  the  patient  does  not  remove  ar.d 
the  symptom^  subsequently  return,  the  patient 
may  accept  that  fact  as  evidence  of  incompe- 
tency upon  the  part  of  the  physician  who  failed, 
as  he  thinks,  in  his  first  efforts  to  cure  the  di-.- 
ease,  and  upon  that  account  seek  medical  aid 
elsewhere,  while,  at  the  same  time,  the  first 
physician  may  mistakingly  regard  the  cure  as 
having  been  radical  and  permanent,  and  may 
so  record  it  in  his  journal. 

Dr.  Guernsey,  the  author  of  "  Plain  Talks  on 
Avoided  Subjects,"  may  be  regarded  as  a  fair 
sample  of  those  who  believe  that  the  disease 
can  be  thoroughly  eradicated.  In  his  book  he 
says:  "An  experience  of  nearly  forty  years  of 
the  treatment  of  these  cases,  in  both  sexes,  has 
given  me  the  power  to  know  whereof  I  speak ; 
and  I  do  declare  that  a  very  large  percentage 
of  these  cases  can  be  cured  in  a  safe  manner, 
and  so  perfectly  cured,  too,  that  there  will  be 
no  danger  of  transmitting  the  infection  to  the 
offspring.  I  by  no  means  stand  alone  in  this 
statement ;  many  other  physicians,  after  long 
years  of  experience,  assert  the  same  truth." 


fni.lT  A   VOUSO  MAS  OUGHT  TO 


h'SOW.     I 


2i 


^_  The  author  o    an  old  medical  work,  entitled 
rem    1     ?   '     '"'°^'"    ^^>'^^    "'nnumerable 

»'   .t  i^  chthcult  to  say  when  it  is  really  cured 
Indeed,   some   very   wise  men   have  doubted 
-hether  .t  is  ever  radically  removed.     What- 
ever .hame  may  be  felt   by  the   unhappy  pi 
t.ent.  .f  there  be  a  proper  regard  for  Hfe' to  fay 

noth,.,  of  the  interest  of  society,  the  best  ac- 
cessible  phys.aan  will   be  consulted,  and  his 

counsels  most  carefully  adhered  to- 

dJuU    n"'^^''  "^  '''""'  "^^^'^^^  ^"thority  un- 

treatment  ,s  be^u.n  at  once  and  continued  un- 

mterruptedly  and    faithfully    for    a  period    of 
some  ,,,,  ,,  ^,^^^  ^^^^^   ^  ^^^.^^^  ^P       cl    of 

is  d  u'bT  ""  ''  '^'^^^'-  '"''^'^  ^h.s  theory 
s  doubtless  correct,  medical  authorities  at  the 
same  time  agree  that  in  a  very  large  proportion 
of  cases  such  radical  and  permanent'cures  Ire 
no   effected,  and  for  n.anifest  reasons 

easf  anTK  "'  '''  "'^  ''"^"'^^^^  °"f  ^he  dis- 
ease, and   because  the    contaminated   person 
may  find  no  very  serious  difficulty  wit)     he  pri" 
mary  lesion  or  sore,  or  because  of  s.     ne  or 
poverty,  or  not  knowing  to  what  physician  to 
hshed'^  7"y  ^-^es  become  thoroughly  estab- 
lished and    obstmate    before    medical  aid    is 
sought.      Others,  having  so  often   heard    the 
matter  spoken  of  by  their  companions  in  jest 
thmk   hghtly  of  the  disease,  and  unless  thei^ 
mmds  are  d.sabused  by  the  physician,  they  are 
likelyto  neglect  their  medicine,  or.    pon' the 


124     WUAT  A  YOiyO  MAX  OIUUT  TO  KSOW. 


I' 


first  disappearance  of  the  symptoms,  discontinue 
the  treatment  altogether,  and  never  truly 
awaken  to  the  gravity  of  the  situation  until  it  is 
too  late  ever  thoroughly  to  eradicate  the  dis- 
ease. We  do  not  think  any  eminent  pliysician 
would  be  willing,  even  under  the  most  fa- 
vorable circumstances,  to  promise  a  radical 
cure  inside  of  two  years,  and  even  at  the 
end  of  twice  that  period  he  would  not  be 
willing  to  accept  a  liberal  sum  of  money 
and  receive  into  his  own  system  the  germs 
of  syphilis  which  might  still  remain  in  the 
system  of  his  patient,  nor  would  he  for  the 
world  be  wilhng  to  give  his  own  pure  daugh- 
ter in  marriage  to  such  a  man,  however  thor- 
oughly his  physical  renovation  or  moral  refor- 
mation might  seem  to  be. 

Another  question  often  asked  is:  "Maya 
man  who  has  had  syphilis  ever  safely  marry  ?" 
To  this  question  an  eminent  French  specialist 
docs  not  hesitate  to  reply,  "  Never." 

In  the  book.  "  The  Family  Doctor,"  to  which 
we  have  already  referred,  the  author  says: 
'•As  we  write  we  have  before  the  vivid  eye  of 
our  memory  a  series  of  facts  which  might 
almost  make  your  ears  tingle.  A  young  man 
connected  with  a  family  o<"  the  highest  respect- 
ability early  in  life  indulged  in  the  sin  which 
brought  on  syphilis.  Much  labor  and  expense 
led,  as  it  was  believed,  to  a  full  cure,  and  after 
a  few  years  he  married  a  most  estimable  lady 
of  health  and  beauty,  entered  an  honorable 
profession,  and  by  his  piety  and  benevolence 


^HA TA  ro Vyo  MAS  OVQUT  TO  KSO W.     \ 25 

rose  to  high  esteem  in  the  community.  The  mid- 
dle period  of  life  arrived,  his  wealth  increased, 
and  a  large  and  beautiful  family  of  children 
surrounded  him.  Disease  attacked  him.  and 
physicians  at  length  were  -  jmpelkd  to  tell  him 
that  he  suffered  from  an  uneradicated  and  in- 
curable disease  arising  from  the  sins  of  youth. 
In  a  state  of  (  hagrin  and  grief  which  the  pen 
cannot  describe,  he  soon  after  ended  the  mourn- 
ful tragedy  by  death." 

Dr.  Hollick.  on  this  subject,  says  :  "  People 
have  been  assured  that  they  might  safely 
marry,  and  have  found  afterwards  that  they 
were  still  diseased,  and.  still  worse,  that  they 
were  diseasing  others.  The  despair  of  a  man 
who  discovers  that  his  single  youthful  impru- 
dence is  entailing  disease  on  his  offspring  may 
be  better  imagined  than  described ;  and  such 
discoveries  are  often  made." 

Dr.  Napheys.  in  his  volume  on  "  The  Trans- 
mission of  Life,"  thinks  that  with  unmistakable 
evidence  of  a  radical  cure  a  man  may  subse- 
quently marry.   While,  however,  impressing  the 
importance  of  great  caution,  he   says:    "We 
doubt  if  any  man  having  once  had  decided  in- 
fection can  positively  say  that  he  has  entirely 
recovered    from    iv.     We    know  a  respectable 
physician   who,  when    commencing    practice 
contracted  syphilis  on  the  finger  in  attending 
tlie  confinement  of  a  diseased  woman.     It  be- 
came   conbt.tutional,    but    by  active  treatment 
he  apparently  completely  cured  it.      He  mar- 
'Jed,  an.,  has  four,  to  all  appearances,  healthy 


I[  ^■ 


I 


i 


t.' 


^ 


126     WHAT  A  YOVSO  MAS  OUGHT  TO  hWOW. 

children.  Fourteen  years  after  all  symptoms 
had  disappeared,  on  an  occasion  when  hi^  j,'en- 
eral  health  was  lowered  by  loss  of  rest  and 
anxiety,  the  disease  broke  out  anew.  There  is 
not  a  doubt  but  that  durin)^'  the  whole  of  that 
period  it  hail  been  lurking;  in  his  blood." 

Our  own  advice  on  this  subject  is  averse  to 
such  marria^'es,  and  as  a  clergyman,  if  asked  to 
oiticiate  at   a   weddin^j  where  we  knew    that 
either  of  the  parties   had   previously   suffered 
from  this  disease,  we  wouid  refuse  to  officiate  or 
consent  in  any  manner  to  be  a  party  to  such  a 
contract,  and  for  the  following;  reasons:     Mar- 
riage is  too  sacred  an  institution,  and  the  fear- 
ful consequences  which  such  a  disease  is  more 
than  likely  to  transmit  to  an  innocent  wife,  and 
because  of  the  diseased    bodies  and  physical 
sufferings  which  is  to  be  forced  upon  helpless 
children,  who,  if  they  are  to  be  brought  into  the 
world  at  all,  have  a  legitimate  right  to  demand 
of  ministers  of  the  gospel,  if  indeed  of  no  one 
else,  that  they  shall  be  protected  against  having 
tlisease,  suffering  and  death  thrust  upon  them 
V  ithout  the  privilege  of  choice  or  the  power  to 
decline.     These  interests    are  too   momentous 
and  sacred  to  allow  of  being  regarded  as  offset 
by  the  consideration  of  the  personal  comfort  or 
convenience  of  one  who  should  rather  desire  at 
the  cost  of  his  own  life  to  protect  the  innocent,  the 
unsuspecting  and  the  helpless  from  the  wretched- 
ness that  he  is  most  likely  to  bequeath  to  them. 
If  such  partief,  desire  to  marry  they  will  never  be 
able  to  secure  our  sanction  to  the  contract, 


nilATA   rOLXO  VAX  OUOIIT  TO  KSOW.    1 27 

Another  important  ((uestion  to  be  consiilered 
in  connection  with  the  marria^'e  of  men  pre- 
viously diseased,   but    subsequently    only    par- 

upon  the  wife  and  the 


tialiy  cured,  is  the  f'"'"Tt 
children,  if  t'lere  t      .ild  be 
says:  "  The  father  maybe  so  f; 


any.     Dr.  Hollick 


;^r  well  that  he 
w.Il  not  disease  the  mother  by  connection  but 
he  will  heyct  a  child  diseased  throu^-h  the 
semen,  and  this  child  will  infect  its  own  mother 
before  its  birth." 

The  same  author  says:  "The  poison  by 
syphilis  docs  not  reside  in  the  sores  only,  but 
infects  the  blood  of  the  patient.  If  blood  be 
taken  from  the  man  who  has  syphilis,  and  in- 
oculated into  another  man,  it  will  K'ive  him 
syphilis,  the  same  as  if  he  had  been  inoculated 
with  matter  from  the  chancre." 

Dr.  Napheys,  in  speaking  of  the  ulcers  which 
form  in  the  mouth,  says  :  "  The  discharge  from 
them  IS  a  poison,  ai.d  can  convey  the  disease  and 
so  can  a  drop  of  blood  from  the  infected  person." 
Dr.  Hollick  also  says:  "It  is  not  positively 
known  whether  the  semen  itself  from  a  man 
who  has  syphilis  will  give  it  to  the  woman  with 
whom  he  cohabits.     That  is.  suppose  he  con- 
tracts syphilis  and  is  cured  so  far  that  there  is 
no  sore  from  which  the  woman  can  be  infected, 
may  she  be  so  from  the  semen  ?    There  is  good 
reason  to  suppose  she  may,  in  the  same  way 
that   she  would    be   from  the   man's   blood." 
The  same  author  also  says  :   "  Most  usually  the 
child  inherits  syphilis  from  its  mother,  who  may 
contract  it  from  the  father  without  beincr  aware 


us    WHAT  A  rot  so  a  Ay  ovout  to  ksow. 


h    • 


i:ii. 


of  what  is  the  matter.  Hut  the  (  hild  may  also 
he  atlci  tcU  from  the  fatht-r  thmuj^h  the  semen, 
whi<h  may  undoubtedly  he  (ontammated  by 
syphdis.  In  all  probability  the  disease  atferts 
the  seminal  animah  ul.i-,  making'  them  feeble 
and  imperfe<t,  m)  that,  if  they  impre^^'nate,  the 
resulting'  offspring;  will  l)e  feeble  and  imper- 
fe(  t  also.  rrol)ably  this  is  one  reason  why 
women  when  imprejjnateii  by  syphilitic  men, 
are  so  apt  to  miscarry.  The  embryo  has 
not  hfe  enou>,'h  to  retain  itself  in  the  womb. 
Through  how  many  ^'cnerations  syphilis  may 
run  l)efnre  it  becomes  extint  t  we  do  not  know, 
but  V  -th  each  remove  it  seems  to  become  more 
modified  and  lighter,  till  at  last  it  probably 
merges  into  some  ordinary  form  of  disease, 
especially  scrofula. 

"  It  has  long  been  observed  that  aliortion 
(miscarriage)  is  very  frequent  in  those  mothers 
who  suffer  from  constitutional  syphilis,  on  ac- 
count of  the  disea->ed  condition  of  the  child.  .\ 
large  proportion  of  the  children  themselves  also 
die,  even  when  they  present  no  indication  of 
infection  at  their  birth.  .  .  .  Hut  nearly  all  that 
I  have  known  to  live  have  been  scrofulous  or 
scorbutic' 

Dr.  Xapheys  says  :  "  It  is  possible  for  a  man 
in  whose  constitution  the  taint  of  disease  exists, 
but  is  latent,  to  have  perfectly  sound  offspring. 
But  if  he  has  any  symptom  of  the  disease  in 
any  stage,  it  is  probable,  nay,  almost  certain, 
that  his  children  will  show  the  effects  of  it, 
although  their  mother  remains  healthy. 


^ 


*'nATA  rorsn  jr.i.v ovgut  to  lsow.   „, 

"  Much  more  Kmcrally.  the  mother  takes  the 
disease  c-.hcrf, on.  the  father  or  fnun  the  ,m 
born  ..hi.  in  uh...  „..,,  ,.„,,   ,,,  ^^^^^ 
t.unt     IU.t  unle..  she  <loc.  so  Ja-fore  the  seventh 
month  of  hc-rprc^nan.y  shew.:.     ,,  ape 

"When  |,„th  mother  ami  fathc  •  Jisplav  .,n- 
^J|.Mvo<.  s„ns  of  the  d.scase,  the  <asi  of  the 
chhl.s.!cspe,ate.  There  .s  hardly  any  hope' 
o»  Its  bein^'  born  sound. 

"  When  such  a  rhd.i  is  horn  it  is  a  dan^ero„s 
sour,  eot.nfection  for  all  around  .t.     Th^r    ' 
>vho   ap,h.s  it  to   her   breast,  the  friend   who 
»^'-es  ,t.  the  attendants  who  handle  it  are  in 

jmm.nent  danger  of  bein.Mn  turn  v.ctim^  of  the 
loathsome  disease. 

"The  only   person   who  can   nur.c  or  even 

thTt  tt   r  •'  'V^'"^  ^'"-"^  "'^ '"f-ntile  syph.l.s 
hat  the  d.sease  .s  most  ea.ily  co.nmunLated. 

of  I  r.  Co  les.  a  well-known  I.^lish  sur^e'n! 

The  read.ness  w.th  which  syph.lis  in  infant 

can   be   commun.cated   by  contact  cannot   be 

exceeded    by    any    other   disease    with    w  „ch 

ton   adds       A   common   mode  by   which   the 
bem^  /.../  by  the  girl  that  carries  it.  or  bj- 

^s   It   not   tune   that  the  public  received  sop.e 
-n.n,  about  it?    Are  we  to  shut  our  mouO;! 

9 


i| 


ii 


•  JO     WHAT  A   rOVyO  mas  OIVHT  to  kS(fW. 


u    > 


and  sfc  these  jicrih  to  piiMic  health  nourly  in- 
crcisin^,  .uul  viy  nothing;,  do  nothing'  ? 

"  Let  ;.iu  h  a  <  hdd  hy  c. ireful  attention  an<l 
sound  hy^jicne  survive  to  adult  life,  and  he- 
come,  in  turn,  the  father  or  mother  (»f  a  fam- 
ily, even  then  unrelenting,'  nature  may  not  be 
satisfied.  'I  here  are  undouhteilly  cases  on 
record  wheie  the  diiCM-,e  was  handetl  down,  in 
spite  of  every  <  arc  and  stru  t  virtue,  to  the  /Aird 
j,'eneration,  an<l  perhaps  to  ihe/our/Zt. 

"  It  appears  in  multiplied  forms  of  disease. 
'  W'c  are  compelled  to  (ont  hide,' says  Dr.  Uar- 
ton,  humminj^  up  the  many  ()l)servations  on  the 
transmission  of  syphdis,  'that  a  very  consider- 
able portion  of  those  chronic  disca  >cs  of  the 
eyes,  skin,  fjlands,  and  bones,  to  which  the  epi- 
thet scrofulous  has  been  applied,  are  '■'•ally  the 
results  of  inherited  syj)hilis.' 

"And  all  this  misery,  all  th'^se  curses  long 
drawn  out,  th'!se  consequences  so  dire  to  inno- 
cent ^generations,  ihe  penalty  of  one  moment 
of  illicit  pleasure,  the  vcn^'eance  of  a  violated 
law,  which  knows  justice,  but  no  mercy  !" 

Dr.  Guernsey  bears  testimony  to  the  same 
ihin^'.  He  says:  "Young  men  marrying  with 
the  slightest  taint  of  this  poison  in  the  blood 
will  surely  transmit  the  disease  to  their  chil- 
dren. Thousands  of  abortions  (miscarriages) 
transpire  every  year  from  this  cause  alone,  the 
poison  being  so  destructive  as  to  kill  the  child 
in  utero  before  it  is  matured  for  birth;  and, 
even  if  the  child  ])e  bom  alive,  i*  is  likely  to 
break  down  with  the  most  loathsome  disorders 


^n   r  A  roryu  a^y 


01  JUT  TO  A-.VOI 


....    ,1,  iK.yoH\     , J, 

'"•    IioIIk  k    sa\s  •     "  'II 
<!•■<■-"„>,  in  ..II  r,„„',l,  *>l''"l''i'-    infant 

f"    "'mc  limi  ■■    •i|,„  ■  ■    ,'"'  '«i"m  to 

•■AHnM,na,.^e,         r;,rr'''':;''^''">-■ 
never  show  it.  cvcrnf   „....  '     "''  >*"' 

f"r.un.„cly   urcmsunccl     , '  l  '  "''  " 

«ar.U  become,  .he  vie   m      r    r  " "  """■ 

tlevel()r,ed      Still   K       ^*^'^'"' "'"  remain  un- 

«m,  am  may      ■''::;■"•'''":•"''■'■  •'•'»)- 
feneration,  in  whi"h  ,"  '""'"".""'  "'  ""  "<^^' 

The  same  author  also  savs  •  ••  tk 

in/an,,b„rnsvphiluicarr     ;,X^:::;"-"^ 
^ith,  esneriallv  if  »K  .      ^  "'^"<^^"t  to  dea 

•i-chiir  ••'::'"•'■" -■-w.,„nu,,e 

fa«e   a  heah,rwe.-n    ::',''"''''  "^■''' •"'■'■ 
become  di.ea.:,|  Tm.^^e  c'S"  ,""=  "?"" 

-e.„„,.:,;:;tt;'n::;jp'-'.^'K.ca.e 

not  injure  the  child."  "'  ''""^'* 

I  oiinT  nvn    -11- 1     1 

-ent  to  ;,";h  ,; :;  ■;  "  ""■""■^  ">  ^n"-  .he  ex. 


t1 


i 


iT,2     WliA  T  A   YO  ly  MAX  0  UGUT  TO  KSO IV. 


i  t 


'  ? 


i:    'i 


an  infected  person,  and  escape  or  free  them- 
selves from  the  <,'crms  before  they  ha\e  affected 
the  system.  Something  of  the  prevalence  of 
disease  and  the  effects  of  intemperance  and  ex- 
cessive sexual  indulgence  may  be  judged  from 
the  fact  that  the  average  duration  of  life  of 
those  women  who  give  themselves  up  to  a  life 
of  public  prostitution  in  our  large  cities  is  only 
from  four  to  six  years. 

We  know  of  no  reliable  records  which  show 
the  prevalence  of  this  disease  among  women 
who  lead  lives  of  prostitution  in  our  American 
cities,  but  in  many  of  the  cities  of  Europe  where 
its  suppression  has  been  attempted  by  various 
forms   of  stated    medical  examination   of  the 
women,  by  requiring  all  prostitutes  to  live  in 
some  designated  portion  of  .hese  cities,  and 
various  other  efforts,  reliable  statistics  become 
available.     We  have  before  us  an  unpublished 
manuscript  trauslaticm  of  a  German  book  on 
"  The  Hygiene  of  Chastity,"  by  Dr.  T.  G.  Kor- 
nig,  of  Berlin.     In  his  book  Dr.  Kornig  pre- 
sents the  resi'lts  which  show  beyond  question 
that  all  effons  to  rv.gulate  vice  in  the  European 
cities  have  invariably  increased  the  prevalence 
'.nd  spread  of  venereal  diseases,  and  that  where 
a  fair  and  faithful  eiTort  is  made  to  suppress  the 
evil  the  pr,esence  of  these  diseases  shows  a  very 
considerable  decrease  in  the  number  of  persons 
applying  at  the  hospitals  and  to  the  physicians 
for  treatment. 

Gleaning  from  these  pages,  we  find  that  in 
Kiev,   in   Russia,  and   Copenhagen,  in   Den- 


n-iiAT  A  roiwo  MAS  ova  JIT  to  h\on'.   133 
mark,  amon^'  the  registered  prostitutes, 


cent, 
men 


of  them  were  i 


eith 


43  per 
n  condition  to  transfer  to 


er  soft  chancre  or  syphilis.     A 


niony 
■'  controlled  prostitutes  "  the  proportion  was  51 
per  cent,,  and  in  "  tolerated  houses  "  as  high  as 
66  per  cent.,  with  tne  chances  for  syphilis^and 
soft  chancre  in  the  proportion  of  si.x  to  one. 
The  reports  from  other  European  cities  where 
reliable  'sties  arc  available  do  not  differ 
materiallj    .om  these  figures. 

Upon  the  subject     '  inspection  anc  ,jrotec- 
tion,    Dr.  Guernsey.   ;a   "  Plain  Talks,"  says: 
"There  is  no  safety  among  impure  or   loose 
women,  whether  in  private  homes  or  in  the  very 
best  regulated  houses  of  ill-fame ;  even  in  Paris, 
where,  after  women  have  been  carefully  exam- 
ined  and    pronounced    free    from   any  infect- 
ing condition,  the  f^rsc  man  who  visits  one  of 
them  often  carries  awiy  a  deadly  enemy  in  his 
blood  which  had  lurked  in  concealment  beyond 
the  keen  eye  of  the  inspector.     A  young  man 
or  a  man  at  any  age,  is  m  far  greater  dange 
amidst  company  of  this  stamp  than   he  wou'l 
be  with  a  clear  conscience  and  pure  character 
in  the   midst   of  the   w  ildcst  forest  full  of  all 
manner  of  poisonous  serpents  and  wild  beasf^ 
of  every   description.      A   knowledge    of   the 
above  facts  should  be  enough  to  chill  the  first 
impulse  and  to  make  any  n.an  who  respects  his 
own   well-being  turn   away  and  flee  from  the 
destruction  that  awaits  him." 

In  confirmation  of  the  above  statement,  Dr. 
Hollick  also  says  :  "  The  actual  existence  of  the 


134     WHAT  A    YOVSG  ifAy  OUGHT  TO  KXOW 

infecting  chancre  cannot  be  disputed,  though  it 
is  sometimes  invi-.ble.  Thus  a  man  may  have 
a  chancre  in  the  urinary  passage  unknown  to 


..v-v-i.  ti  iCiiiaic   Willi   vviiuiil  nc 


associates  without  being  aware  of  it.  In  fact, 
he  may  be  firmly  convinced  that  he  has  no 
suv-h  disease,  and  on  examining  him  no  trace 
of  it  may  be  seen.  In  the  same  way  a  female 
may  have  one  in  the  vagina,  or  neck  of  the 
womb,  which  may  be  totally  overlooked,  even 
during  a  surgical  examination.  ...  It  should 
be  remembered  that  the  virus  may  be  separated 
from  the  body  for  several  days  and  yet  retain  its 
power.  Even  if  dried,  it  only  requires  to  be 
made  moist  again." 


CHAPTER  Vr. 

EVILS   TO    RE   SHUNNED    AND    CONSEQUENCES 

TO    HE    DREADED. 

Continued. 

The  extent  to  which  sexual  excess  and  dis- 
-•ase  affect  the  human  family  is  understood  bv 
those  who  study  the  results  of  this  disease  as 
they  are  seen  in  the  young,  manifested  in  all 
grades  of  domestic  life,  and  as  found  in  their 
fullest  fruitage  in   our  hospitals,  prisons,  and 
insane  asylums.    Dr.  Guernsey  says :  "A  search 
in  any  insane  asylum  will  show  that  a  very 
large  proportion  of  patients  are  made  up  from 
those  who  masturbate  or  who  have   syphilis 
Stamp  out  these  two  evils,  or  rather  curses,  of 
the  human  race,  and  the  supply  that  feeds  our 
insane  asylums,   aye,  and   our  penitentiaries, 
too.  will  become  vastly  lessened.     Think  of  it ' 
So  many  of  the  inhabitants  of  our  prisons,  asv- 
lums,  and  our  poor-houses  are  composed  of 
men  and  women  who  have  offended  against 
nature's   laws   by  violating  their  own   sexual 
nature.     Add  to  this  summary  the  list  of  bro- 
ken-hearted, deflowered  virgins  and  unwe^ded 
mothers,  and  you  have  the  picture  complete  " 

The  contagious  nature  of  this  disease,  and 
the  extent  to  which  it  affects  the  innocent  and 
unsuspecting  by  means  of  ordinary  contact,  can 


136     nilAT  A    YOiSG  iiAX  OlUUT  TO  hWOH. 


scarcely  ho  credited  liy  those  who  have  nevei 
given  special  attention  and  ccj'^sideration  to 
this  subject.  The  iJo.ird  of  Su^iC  Charities  of 
Massachusetts,  in  one  of  their  annual  reports, 
in  speaking  of  the  results  of  syphilis,  savs: 
"With  slow,  painless,  insidious,  resistless 
march,  it  penetrates  into  the  very  marrow  of 
the  bones,  and  poisons  the  fountain  of  life  be- 
yond purification.  All  may  look  fair  without, 
and  feel  fair  within,  but  the  taint  is  there,  and 
it  affects  the  offspring.  The  effects  of  this  dis- 
order in  corrupting  the  human  stock,  and  pre- 
disposing offspring  to  disease,  are  more  deadly 
than  is  usually  believed." 

Concerning  the  poison  and  ravages  of  this 
disease,  Dr.  Napheys  says:  "A  masked  pesti- 
lence, a  subtle  infection,  is  stealing  upon  the 
health  of  the  nation,  poisoning  its  blood  and 
shortening  its  life,  spreading  from  husband  to 
wife,  from  parent  to  offspring,  from  nurse  to 
infant,  working  slowly,  but  with  a  fatal  and 
inexorable  certainty.  This  pestilence  is  the 
specific  contagion  of  diseases  which  arise  from 
impure  intercourse.  Were  this  its  only  source, 
and  did  it  stay  its  ravages  with  the  guilty  par- 
ties, we  might  say  it  is  a  just  penalty,  and  calls 
for  litde  sympathy.  But  this  is  not  so.  By  the 
inscrutable  law  of  God,  which  decrees  that  the 
sins  of  the  father  shall  be  visited  upon  the  chil- 
dren, even  unto  the  third  and  fourth  generation, 
these  diseases  work  attainder  of  blood,  bec(  ie 
hereditary,  and  blight  the  offspring.  They  pass 
from  the  guilty  to  the  innocent  by  lawful  inter 


n-HAFA   roiwa  MAX  or;. JIT  to  KWOW.    Ij-/ 

course,  by  vaccination,  by  circumcision  bv 
nurs.n-,  by  utensils,  even  by  a  kiss.  Hundreds 
of  examples  arc-  recorded  in  medical  literature 
where  the  infection  has  spread  by  just  such 
means.  Not  a  sin^^e  physician  of  experience 
who  has  not  witnessed  wife  and  childicn  pois- 
oned  by  the  husband's  infidelity." 

One  of  the  most  dangerous  periods  for  trans- 
mittmji  the  disease  by  ordinary  contact  is  dur- 
ing the  secondary  sta-e.   when   nasal  catarrh 
and  sore  mouth  make  their  appearance      In 
speaking  of  the  intlamed  mouth,  which   may 
exist  m  an  innocent  and  unsuspecting  person 
or  be  the  inheritance  of  a  gui'ty  transgressor 
who   may    never  have   been   apprised   of  the 
nature  of  the  disease,  and  in   his   ignorp      • 
may  unwittingly   expose  others  to   the       aie 
dire  consequences,  the  author  whom  we  have 
just  quoted  gives  an  instance  which  must  have 
been  of  this  character.     "  An  instance  is   re- 
cently reported  in  a  French  medical  journal  of  a 
glassblower  who  was  suffering  from  such  ulcera- 
tion.    As  is  usual,  in  all  respects  he  appeared 
in  good  health,  and  was  received  into  a  manu- 
factory.    In  these  establishments  the  workmen 
are  accustomed  to  pass  rapidly  from  mouth  to 
m  ^uth  the  tube  through  which  the  glass  is  blown. 
He  had  been  there  only  a  few  weeks  when  the 
physician  to  the  factory  was  applied  to  for  '  sore 
mouths,'  and  found  with  horror  that  this  sin-le 
diseased  man  had  infected,  in  the  process  "of 
blowing  bottles,  nine  others." 
Persons  in  this  stage  of  disease  contaminate 


i.|ii 


•  .5^     II7/.1  T  A    yo I  .Ml  MA S  O LUIIT  TO  KSO »'. 


ji 


others  not  only  by  sexual  contact,  Init  several 
instances  have  come  even  to  our  own  knowl- 
etli/e  where  pure,  innocent  girls  have  been  in- 
oculated upon  the  (  heek  or  mouth  by  a  kiss. 
I'.vcn  when  these  secondary  sores  are  compara- 
tively harmless  in  appearance,  and  are  sup- 
posed by  the  uninformed  to  be  only  common 
eruptions  of  the  skin,  they  may  be  and  are 
often  communicated  by  the  use  of  drinkinj;- 
cups,  pipes,  towels,  brushes,  combs,  etc.,  and 
even,  when  the  skin  is  broken  or  a  sore  exists, 
by  shakinj,'  hands.  When  it  is  received  into 
the  system  the  disease  always  be},-ins  with  the 
primary  staj^e,  and,  unless  arrested,  goes  in 
regular  order  through  primary,  secondary,  and 
tertiary  stages.  It  never  begmr,  with  the  sec- 
ondary or  tertiary  stage,  but  always  at  the  be- 
ginning with  the  primary  sore. 

The  public  need  to  be  informed  of  the  nature 
of  this  dreadful  disease.  Public  sentiment 
needs  to  be  aroused  until  it  shall  stand  as  the 
mighty  dykes  that  restrain  the  sea  from  engulf- 
ing the  nation.  It  is  a  terrible  contagion  that 
is  destroying  multitudes  of  men  and  women. 
It  is  invading  the  homes  of  the  innocent  and 
unsuspecting,  and  even  threatens  the  life  of  the 
nation  itself. 

If  such  a  disease  existed  among  the  cattle  of 
the  field,  the  health  officials  of  the  State  would 
lose  no  time  in  stamping  it  out.  Every  herd 
would  oe  inspected  and  e\ery  diseased  animal 
would  be  killed  and  its  loathsome  body  burned 
or  buried  so  deep  that  th  ?  vultures  could  neither 


«IUTA  ror.svM.,.y„r.;„TroK.yow.   ,„ 

oll.ir  licliU.     N„e  even  the  hide  would  l,e  al- 

..wed   ,0   be  tanned  f„r  s„,e.|eather.  an  ,  the 

por,»  „f   every   civilised    nation    „„„„    ,,„," 

™"'f,  '.'=  ^''''«'  -'l  'l"ara„t.ned  .',ai„!, 
possible  imp.irtation. 

And  yet  how  is  i,  in  human  society  ?    In  their 
'-found   tgnorance  of  the  real   danger,  a,Vd 
.omble  consequences  of  this  loathsome  con  , 

:iho,r::T"''='""'^"'°''^-f-'^- 

w  .  ,o,  ^   pprehens.on.     Physicians  quite  ,.e„er- 
al    keep   he,r  pat.ents  in  profound  ignorance 

ties ofth"  •"""":'"''  ""'  ''•-g""- Possibi  i! 
t.es  of  the  d^ease,  the  innocent  and  unsuspectinir 
a^e  exposed  to  the  contagion  in  a  mul.it'u  "^ 
«a ys  and  even  tntellijent  fathers  and  mothers 
.0  h  r^ '7  '"f  drawing-rooms,  introduce 
to  thetr  friends,  and  permit  and  encourage  their 
daughters  to  receive  the  attentions  of  men 
whom  they  know  to  be  immoral,  and  wC 

ess'thaT^^'T""  '°''^"'-  -=  -'Wng 

ness  and  r  T'       """'"'  """^  P^^^'"'  "'"^- 
ne  s  and  contagion.    We  protect  the  cattle  of 

our  fields  against  dangerous  and   destructive 

contagion  and  leave  our  young  men  and  yo  ng 

wotnen,  our  sons  and  our  daughters    exposed 

whl  h  "o'n'd'  "'  '"'t  ""^"'"'--  -"-n  "1 
profound  ,/"'""  ^'''  ^'"diously left, hem  in 
profound  Ignorance.  Talk  about  the  heartless 
people  WHO  blindfold  the  defenceless  horTetl 
s tands  before  the  infuriated  bull  that  is  to  gore 
him  to  death  in  the  Spanish  arena-  talk  of  the 
heathen  rites  of  the  ancient  Amm;ni  '  ^h  „ 


I40     WHAT  A    YOlMi  HAS  Ol  <iJlT  ID  K.^OW 


h  t 


centuries  a_i,'o,  they  cast  their  rhihhcu  into  the 
arms  of  ihiir  bra/.cn  ^'od  to  he  itin  ncil  to  d'.'ath 
in  the  j)rcsenceof  a  v.ist  nuiltitudc,  wlulc  drums 
and  shouts  drowned  theories  and  dyin^  a^u)nies 
from  falhnj;  upon  the  ears  of  parents  who 
howcil  in  profound  reverence  at  tlie  slirinc  of 
prcvaihn^  customs ;  talk  about  the  i^'norant 
heathen  mother  who  steals  silently  aloiv^'  the 
(".anj^es  that  she  may  rast  her  innocent,  helpless 
babe  to  the  ravenous  crocodiles — summon  from 
darkest  heathenisms  their  crudest  sacrilues, 
their  most  superstitious  and  most  excruciating 
immolations,  and  they  do  not  match  the  con- 
duct of  the  deliberate,  deluded  and  determined 
boys  and  men  who  cast  themselves  to  be 
crushed  beneath  the  Ju^'^'ernaut  of  lust,  disease 
and  death,  as  its  gory  wheels  roll  from  ocean  to 
ocean,  grinding  to  death  the  young  men  and 
young  rtomcn  whose  ignorance  makes  these 
scenes  possible  in  the  rising  dawn  of  the  twen- 
tieth century. 

It  would  be  a  partial  relief  i'  \.e  could  believe 
that  tl^e  presence  and  power  of  this  fearful 
scourge  of  humanity  was  found  only  among  de- 
graded outcasts,  and  in  the  slums  of  great 
cities  ;  l)ut  jch  is  not  the  case.  It  knows  no 
distinction  of  sex,  class,  color,  race  or  condi- 
tion. It  is  found  In  all  grades  of  society.  Dr. 
Napheys  truthfully  says :  "Its  hold  is  just  as 
firm,  though  concealed  and  held  in  check,  in 
the  fashionable  clubs  and  stately  mansions  of 
the  opulent  as  in  the  alleys  and  back  slums  of 
the  diegs  oi'  our  population.     No  man,  no  wo- 


<VI{Ar  A    YOVSG  MAS  OVaflT  TO  K\0\V 


141 


man,  we  care  not  wliat  his  po-,iti(jn  or  his  life 
may  bf,  is  secure  from  its  loathsome  totuh." 

\irtiie  and   honor,  m  )rahty  and  relij;ion,  or 
even  a  blameless  life— not  one  or  all  of  these 
combined  constitute  a  perfect  safeguard.     One 
of  the  worst  outbreak:,  of  secondary  syphilis  we 
have  ever  witnessed  appeared  upon  the  body 
of  a  younj;  man  who  was  at  work  in  a  factoiy 
where  canned  fruits  were  prepared  and  packed 
in  large  cpiantities.     It  may  lurk  in  the  servant 
who  prepares  the  food  in  your  kitchen,  or  be 
left  upon  the  lips  of  your  nurse  by  the  man  who 
visits  her,  and  she  in  turn  may  transfer  it  with  a 
kiss  to  your  babe  in  the  carriage  or  in  the  era 
die.    In  innumerable  ways  it  may  find  entrance 
into  the  homes  of  the  purest  people  who  live. 

Not  only  may  it  thus  find  its  way  into  the 
family  to-day.  but  who  can  tell  the  extent  to 
which  it  has  tainted  the  blood  of  all  mankind 
during  the  sweep  of  the  centuries,  and  espe- 
cially since  it  broke  out  anew  and  with  special 
virulence  and  power  in  or  about  the  year  fifteen 
hundred,  when  it  then  spread  with  such  won- 
derful rapidity.  Thanks  to  a  merciful  God  and 
to  the  progress  of  medical  science,  much  as  it 
is  still  to  be  dreaded,  it  is  not  to-day  as  terrible 
as  it  once  was. 

How  thoroughly  it  has  permeated  society 
any  one  may  judge  from  the  prevalence  of 
s.rofula  in  all  its  forms,  and  cancer,  and  of 
tuberculosis,  better  known  as  consumption 
Alien  it  appears  in  the  lungs,  or  when  it  at- 
^-acks  the  lymphatic  glands  and  the  bones,  and 


142   WHAT  A  yor.ya  ma.\  oi  out  to  ksow. 


\\    t 


«p^';       in  a    form    known   z^  uhifc-swellinff. 
Ti'.  I  mere  is  a  vital  connection  between  syphi- 
lis in  the  parent  and  scrofula,  cancer,  consump- 
tion and   kindred    diseases  in  the  descendant 
can  he.  and  is,  demonstrated  in  the  aj)pcaran(  e 
of  thi-M    \.i^-sr    1,1  the  descendants  of  syphi- 
litic pai^.its.      \n  the  minds  of  some  mcdKal 
men  there  is  but  little,  if  any,  doubt  that  the 
presence  of  these  diseases  always  in.lirates  that 
somewhere,  thr'«e  (>••  four  or  e\  tn  several  ^'cn- 
erations  bac  k,  this  terrible  scour^'e.  recoyni/ed 
or  unrecognised,   visited   some  ^niilty  or  inno- 
cent ancestor  and  poisoned  the  fountains  of  life 
and  beinj(.      One  of  the  authorities  frequently 
quoted  in  this  chapter  says:   "It  is  true  they 
cannot   transmit  to  them  (their  offspring)  the 
syphilis  itself,  but  they  are  a|)t  to  ^\\c  them  im- 
perfect organization,  and  a  direct  tendency  to 
certain    forms  of  constitutional  disease,   espe- 
cially scrofula  and  cancer  !     In  fact,  many  per- 
sons think  that  these  terrible  diseases  first  origi- 
nated in  this  way,  from  syphilis,  and  if  so  they 
may  be  regarded,   in  one  sense,   as  a  further 
stage,   still  more  removed    from    the    primary 
one." 

While  the  germ  of  tuberculosis  is  ditferent 
from  the  germ  of  syphilis,  yet  the  presence  of 
syphilis  in  the  parent  may,  and  doubtless  does, 
render  the  physical  condition  such  in  his  de- 
scendants that  the  germs  of  consumption, 
which  are  so  universally  disseminated,  find  in 
such  constitutions  the  conditions  requisite  to 
their   reception,    propagation,   and    destructive 


hJlAT  A    Vol. Mi  MAS-  Ol  OUT 


TO  A.\7)l|       i^j 


rt-suhs.     If  thi,  be  a  correct  statement  of  the 
ca^f.    then    the    tubercular    troubl 


evolved   fr 


otn    s 


>I)ljiht 


cs    are    not 


leave  the  descend 
such  a  physical  condit 


ic   con  litions,  but  often 
inls  of  syphditic  parents  in 


ion  as  rentiers  them  un- 


e  to  re.ist  or  escape  the  attacks  of  tubercular 


ab! 

Kcrms.  Whatever  may  be  the  correct  theory' 
the  fact  remains  that  scrofula,  cane  er.  and  con' 
sumption  are  found  in  the  wake  of  parents  who 
have  been  afflicted  with  syphilis,  and  in  whom 
the  disease  still  lurks-cornered,  but  not  cast 
out.  scotched,  but  not  killed. 

Whether  this  disease  is  studied  in  its  pri- 
mary, secondary,  or  tertiary  f„rm.  whether  in 
the  body  of  its  erring  or  innocent  victims  or  of 
their  descendants,  it  presents  a  picture  terrible 
with  dire  possibilities,  and  we  are  compellea 
with  Alexander  Pope,  in  his  "  Kssay  on  Man 
to  cry  out—  ' 

"  Vice  is  a  monstp-    -f  :,o  frightful  mien, 
A  \  to  l.e  hated.       xls  hut  to  he  seen  ; 
Vet  seen  tcx,  oft,  familiar  with  her  facj, 
We  first  endure,  then  pi,y,  then  embrace." 

There  is  yet  one  important  inquiry  to  be 
answered  before  we  bring  this  chapter  to  a 
close,  and  that  is  the  question  of  the  encourage- 
ment and  assistance  to  be  afforded  its  victims 
in  seckin>r  and  securing  relief  and  cure. 

We  kiiow  that  the  pen-picture  which  we  have 
drawn  is  dark,  but  it  is  true  to  facts  and  life  We 
have  desi-cd  th.it  a  knowledge  of  the  facts  may 
be  made  the  means  of  warning,  dissuading  and 


#1 


14}    tin.ir  A  yo;  .Mi  j/.i.v  dIi.ht  lo  KMtw. 


iavin,'  thf  pure  who  aic  trm[)tc(l  to  ^tcp  aside 
int..  the  p.iths  of  \  K  c.  lUit  as  a  minister  (.  the 
(iospil.  ue  UMiil.l  Ik-  the  last  to  withhold  fnin 
the  erring  .uul  Mrdd  a  siii-lc  ray  of  hope  or 
encourau'enu-iu  \shi<h  ri-htly  helon^'  to  them; 
nay.  rather,  when  a  man  is  clothed  w'th  the 
divine  commission,  "(^jyc  into  all  the  world 
.i:.d  pre.u  li  the  <  lospel  to  every  creature," 
he  is  not  only  authori/ed,  hut  enjoined,  to 
declare  pardon  and  peat  e  to  ,dl  who  truly 
rej>ent  and  sincerely  accept  n- d  follow  Christ. 
<Iothe<l  with  this  comn.is  .,  had  I'eter  or 
Jnl»n,  or  a:iy  of  the  disciples,  tne  evening  after 
the  Crucifixion,  met  in  the  streets  of  Jcp.-  detn 
the  soldiers  who  nailed  the  Saviour  to  the 
cross,  or  the  nne  who  {)ierced  FJis  Of)in^'  side, 
even  thou^'h  their  h  inds  were  yet  red  with  His 
blood,  they  not  only  ////;'•///,  but  hey  very  proo- 
erly  sIioul,{,  have  preached  to  them  a  full  and 
free  salvation.  So.  also,  as  faithful  and  true  dis- 
ciples  of  the  Master  must  all  Christians  come 
with  h(;pe  and  salvation,  even  to  this  class  of 
sinful  men  ami  women. 

In  these  pa^'es  wc  have  addressed  ourself  to 
the  work  of  savinj;  the  pure  who  are  tempted, 
but  we  cannot  be  blind  or  indifferent  to  the  con- 
dition ami  cry  of  those  who  have  not  enjoyed  the 
advantaj,'cs  of  such  warnin;,'  and  Tielp,  and  who 
have  <;one  wron;,'  and  are  in  distress,  and  are 
also  likely  in  their  ruin  to  involve  the  pure  and 
unoffendin.L,',  not  only  in  this  present  time,  but 
tor  i^cncrations  to  come.  In  these  pa^^^es  we  have 
c'jught  to  warn  and  bave  those  who  are  tempted 


♦17/ 


yOLWU  MA.V  OLVltr  rn  KS 


oil" 


plarid 


th 


•atcrs  of  tlie  l.ikc  and 


itX 


c    not   (l.in^'croiis   look 
where   tf.c    l.f-irwiiru 


to    r 

ture 

of 

a  n  1 1 

lets 

fatal  j)liin;^'e  of  the  K 

P"(irt  lor  tl)o-,c  above  the   Kali 

«lare  not  cvriisc  lis  from  the  oh! 


M5 


vcn- 


a-  .10  siiKKCstive  induation  of  th 


"";,'  » iirrcnt 
i^    iruitiii^ 


I'  re^ist- 


t   of  the   Rapids  or  the  fearful  arul 


litit 


to  those  l)flow  tl>'_'  I'aljv 
letv   for  th 


>i..  anxiety  and 
•  may  not  ami 
i).:ation  uc  owe 


nav 


r.ither.  our  atix- 


o^e  a 


K)vc  the   Falls    should    rati 
qn.rken  our  sense  of  ol,li^rati„„  t„  ,|,„se  I.el 


RT 


the  {-all 


s,  and  we  feel  sure  tl 


ow 


n[)p.-ehension  of  Christian  d 
nuist.andwill.  in,  hide  also  th 


c  correc  t  and  full 


rowing'  class.     To  tl 


iity  and  ohlij^ratj,,^ 
IS  sinning'  and  sor- 


pathy 


lose  who  look  without 


or  pity  upon  this  sinnit 


s\  in- 


d  buffc 


rin; 


i 


class  .loes  not  jesus  even  now  say  :   ■•  Suppose 
ye  that  these  (iahlcans  were  sinners  above  all 
the  ( .ahleans,  l>crause  they  sufTcred  such  thin-^s  > 
I  tc  1  you.  Nay  :   bt.t.  except  ye  repent,  vc  shall 
all   likewise  perish."     Jesus  died  for  these,  a, 
for  all  sinful  men.     His  (iospel  invitation  is  to 
W  hosover  wdl."  for  «  He  is  able  to  save  them 
to  ihcufh-n,w/  that  come  untoCiod  bv  Him 
seeing  He  ever  liveth  to  n^akc  .ntercessiun  fu. 
them. 

'ihere  are  those-and  they  are  not  a  few- 
•^hc■  would  leave  the  untortunatc  victims  of 
venereal  disease  to  suffer  the  unalleviated  fury 
of  an  awftd  plague,  that  they  might  serve  as  a 
warning  to  others  who  <lefy  the  laws  of  virtue 
and  punty  established  i,,  inrinite  wisdom  for  the 
good  and  blessiny  of  mankind.     Hut  when  ..e 

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T46     WHAT  A   Vol-   u  MAN  O'-GIIT  TO  SyOIV. 


remember  the  spirit  o^  the  Master,  'vhen  we  re- 
memoer  how  this  multiform  contaj^Mon  pene- 
trates society,  when  we  remember  how  for 
generations  it  has  poisoned  and  contaminated 
the  foMiitains  and  streams  of  life  and  bcinj^, 
when  we  think  of  the  terrible  results  which 
must  sweep  on  to  generations  yet  unborn,  we 
cannot  be  indifferent  to  the  mighty  interests  of 
every  pure  person  in  the  removal  of  this  plague 
and  the  physical  and  moral  purificatit,n  of  so- 
ciety. 

Many  physicians  do  not  care  to  treat  vene- 
real diseases  at  any  price,  and  the  victims  of 
these  diseases,  unless  hardened  in  sin,  shrink 
from  approaching  their  regular  family  physi- 
cian, and  because  the  great  mass  of  them  pre- 
fer to  torsult  some  distant  and  unknown  ad- 
viser they  fall  easy  victims  to  a  vast  horde  ot 
quacks,  who  prey  u{)on  this  unfortunate  class. 
Large  sums  of  money  are  extorted,  and  often- 
times, after  the  loss  of  months  of  valuable  time 
and  when  the  pu'-se  is  empty  the  wretched  vic- 
tim is  left  to  find  his  way  as  best  he  can  to  the 
free  dispensary  or  charity  ward  of  some  large 
city  hospital.  Reputable  and  competent  physi- 
cians, philanthropists,  ministCiS  of  the  Gospel, 
aud  the  Christian  public  goierally,  owe  a  debt 
of  duty,  if  not  of  obligation,  to  this  unfortunate 
class,  V  hose  afflictions  are  so  liable  to  be  passed 
on  to  the  innocent,  or  handed  down  to  succeed- 
ing generations. 

Personally  we  believe  in  doing  even   more 
for  this  suffering  class.    We  believe  in  the  es- 


tablishment  of  Homes  nf  u^\ 

'-^l-y  recognized  by  physici.L  thl  T""' 

and  deception  souch    ,„  L  """^'taent 

"ho  belong  ,0  .he' h ;:,?::«;;"  '^>-."'°- 

vicious,  discloses  a  mor-Tl  conHv  "'"""»"/ 
ins  and  serious  as  .h"v  phy"  f  ^nd!?  '"''"': 
no  ,rea,n,e„.  of  ,l,e  indivWa    X  h-' .^"^ 

i=rc:rj-rdr,frt"'^' 

beyond  the  proving  of  thl  ''""^^^'"^  '-^^  'y^ng 
hosDi^iI   V../.K  the  physician  and  the 

nospual.  yet  the  protection  of  the  Dure  nnH     f 


148     WHAT  A   YOUSG  MAS  OUGHT  TO  kWOW. 

lepers,  raise  the  dead,  cast  out  devils ;  freely  ye 
have  received,  freely  give." 

hi  concludin;,^  this  chapter  we  desire  to  urge 
upon  all  young  men  the  importance  of  personal 
purity. 

In  the  Ijcginning,  dispossess  your  mind  of  the 
last  vestige  of  the  idea  that  continence  is  either 
impossible  or  injurious.  Whjn  m.en  have 
broken  down  alUhe  natural,  physical  and  moral 
barriers  which  God  in  ni^  infinite  wisdom  has 
set  up  ;  when  a  man  has  trampled  upon  natural 
modesty,  has  broken  down  his  moral  sense  by 
criminal  relations,  has  inflamed  his  sexual  pas- 
sions by  repeated  indulgence,  has  polluted  his 
imagination,  cornipted  his  thought,  and  de- 
based his  entire  nature,  of  course  he  is  going  to 
have  a  fierce  struggle ;  when  men  drug  them- 
selves with  tobacco,  stimulate  themselves  with 
wine  and  strong  drink,  and  when,  instead  ot 
reading  books  that  bring  the  mind  into  sympa- 
thy with  worthy  thought  and  inspiring  ambition, 
people  prefer  books  that  arouse  lascivious  de- 
sires ;  when  they  persist  in  exciting  their  sexual 
passions  by  the  close  and  immodest  contact  of 
the  roimd-dance,  or  deliberately  seek  the  com- 
pany and  the  companionship  of  the  impure  and 
the  vicious — of  course  such  persons  will  find  it 
difficult  to  hold  themselves  in  check,  or  to  live 
within  the  bounds  ordained  of  God  and  ap- 
pro^/ed  of  well-informed  and  pure-minded  men 
and  women.  But  e  -en  where  such  a  person 
will  turn  to  the  pursuit  of  a  reasonable  and  ra- 
tional course,  where  he  will  live  hygienically 


WHAT  A   yoiwa  MAX  VVnilT  TO  K-XOn-     149 


and  rise  up  in  the  majesty  of 
he  can  be  free  from  both  sol 


and  li 


a  noble  manhood, 
itary  andsoc-      vjce 


new 


a  continent,  he 

o  the  fallen,  God  has  made  possible  a 
)f  purity  and  uprightness,  and  to  those 
who  are  just  coming  under  the  full  sway  of  sex- 
ual consciousness,  in  all  its  strength,  it  is  also 
possible,  for  the  Author  of  our  physical  beii.<r  is 
also  the  author  of  the  moral  law,  and  physical 
necessity  and  the  requirements  of  the  mural 
code  are  in  perfect  harmony  and  accord. 

Every  young  man  needs  that  form  of  manly 
strength  and  character  which  can  in  no  other 
way  so  well  be  acquired  as  in  the  struggle  to 
subdue  and  master  his  sexual  propensities  and 
to  live  a  chaste  and  continent  life.     It  is  a  great 
mistake  to  think  that  young  unmarried  men  are 
the  only  ones  who  have  anything  to  endure  in 
this  directum.      Young  men   appear   to   think 
that  when  they  are  married  the  struggle  will  be 
ended,  because  then  the  sexual  passion  can  be 
fully  gratified.     The   young   man  who  schools 
himself  to  such  a  thought  is  unfitdng  himself 
ever  to  become  a  husband  and  father.     If  the 
young  woman  whom  he  makes  the  wife  of  his 
b  )som   is  not   previously  troubled    with    some 
fc.nn  of  female  or  nervous  disease,  as  ar  ' 
-ne-third  of  ail  young  women  are.   beca.    .,  uf 
rich,  unwholesome  food,  supporting  the  weight 
of  their  dresses  and  skirts  from  the  hipc  \^. 
stead  of  the  shoulders,  nove.-reading,  and  the 
keeping  of  late  hours— we  say  thac  if  his  future 
wife  13  not  sexually  infirm  before  h-   marries 


m 


■i  1^ 

^  .ii 


150     WHAT  A   YOrsa  MAS  OUGHT  TO  K SOW. 


M 


her,  the  unrestrained  indulgence  of  his  sexual 
passions    would  speedily  render  her   so.     The 
life  of  the  married,  no  less  than  that  of  the  un- 
married, calls  for  self-denial  and  self-control, 
and  the  man  who  has  not  gotten  control  of  his 
sexual  passions  before  he  is  married  is  not  pre- 
pared, nor  is  he  even  fit,  for  that  most  sacred  re- 
lation.    There  are  not  only  periods  of  days,  but 
often  of  weeks,  sometimes  of  months,  and  in 
some  instances  even  of  years,  when  a  husband 
must  recognize  tlie  rights  of  his  wife,  the  pro- 
tection of  her  health,  or  the  well-being  of  her 
children,    and    be   manly  enough  and    strong 
enough    to    deny   himself    indulgence    which 
might  be  proper  under  other  circumstances. 

Another  reason  for  social  purity  upon  your 
part  is  found  in  the  duty  you  owe  to  yourself. 
You  owe  it  to  yourself,  upon  the  low,  sordid 
ground  of  selfishness,  to  withhold  yourself  from 
the  dangers  to  disease  which  we  have  detailed 
in  this  chapter. 

Vice  is  always  expensive  of  health,  money, 
happiness,  character,  and  often  of  reputation. 
Where  a  man  is  honorably  connected,  wealthy, 
influential  or  respected,  he  is  often  led  by 
some  decoy  into  a  trap,  and  when  his  name 
is  learned  from  his  clothing,  from  papers  in 
his  pockets,  or  by  some  other  means,  he  Is 
tracked  to  his  office  or  to  his  home,  and, 
under  a  threat  of  revelation  and  exposure, 
blackmail  is  levied  and  often  continuea  for 
years.  In  this  wav  hundreds  in  ever\  larije 
rity  suffer  for  long  periods  the  most  excruciat- 


fi-iUTA  rocs-o  .1M  V  o'onr  to  Kxoiy 


'5' 


ing 
tant 


mental 
xtortio 


ak'onies,  as  well  as  the 


ns  of  money,  by  villains  wh 


most  cxorbi- 


o  th 


^.'''\'  >'"'iins  wno  tlius 

prey  upon  those  who  step  aside  from  the  path 


of  virtue  and  h 


lono'^ 


Vo 


re 


spect,  to  your  inte-rity  and   I 
moral  ch 


u  owe  It  to  your  self, 
lonor,  to  your 


laracti  ^    _^^^ 

to  the  accomphshmem  c.f 'youriJ^:riirnur: 
pose,  to  your  bodily  strcn;^nh  and  mental  vi^or 
to  your  purity  and  peace,  to  abstain  from  Im^ 
pure  and  unlawful  sexual  indulgence 

Vou   owe  it  as  a  dut>-.  also,  to  the  pure  and 
spotless  character  of  the  woman  whom  ^•ou  hone 
^ome  day  to  make  your  wife.     A  ^  oung  man 
naturally  desires  and  reasonably  demands  chas 
tityin  the  young  woman  whom  he  chooses  as 
his  wife;   but  has  she  not  an  equal   ri-ht  to 
expect  and  dema  .d  that  the  same  purit^'v  and 
honor  which  you  seek  in  her  shou!  :  be  found 
also  in  your  own  character  and  life  ?     If  vou 
knew  her  to  yield  the  flower  of  her  virginity  to 
another,  you  would  turn  frouT  her  in   disgust  • 
and  by  what  right,  then,  dare  any  youn^  man 
yield  his  own  body  to  lust,  and  then  turn  and 
demand  of  a  young  woman  what  he  does  no^ 
recognize  or  possess  in  himself?    If  harlotrv  is 
heinous  in   the  young  woman   you   covet  V.;r 
your  bride,  or  in  your  sister,  it  is  equally  so  in 
you.     If  unfaithfulness  is  heinous  in  the  wife  it 
13  equally  so  in  the  husband.    God  did  not  make 
one  law  for  woman  and  another  for  man      He 
has  made  but  one  law,  and  bv  that  law  both 
must  be  judged. 

It  is  also  a  duty  that  you  owe  to  your  children. 


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152     WHAT  A    YOiSO  MAS'  OldllT  TO  h\0**. 


What  you  are  in  your  character  and  in  your  hfe, 
that  they  will  become.  The  influences  which 
are  to  mold  and  fashion  their  character  and  life 
are  present  with  yo--  now.  Parental  influences 
arc  potential,  and  start  a  generation  or  two  lie 
fore  children  are  born.  You  owe  it  to  them  that 
there  should  be  no  taint  in  their  blood,  n(^ 
shadow  of  dishonor  resting  upon  the  home  in 
which  they  are  born,  and  that  no  fire  of  passion 
and  no  flame  of  unquenchable  lust  shall  be 
kindled  in  their  veins  by  parents  who  owe  to 
them  an  inheritance  of  virtue,  honesty,  and 
honor. 

The  preservation  of  your  purity  and  honoi 
you  owe  to  the  parents  who  have  nurtured  your 
early  years,  watched  over  you  in  sickness,  pro- 
vided  you  with  food,  clothing,  and  shelter;  who 
have  coveted  for  ;.  ju  every  advantage  of  edu- 
cation and  culture;  who  have  directed  your 
tliought,  guarded  your  steps,  prayed  and  wept 
over  you,  and  to  whom  the  knowledge  of  your 
vice  and  sin  would  deal  a  blow  that  would  sad- 
den their  lives  and  hasten  them  on  to  early 
graves. 

You  owe  it  to  God  who  created  you  for 
a  life  of  purity  and  blessing  upon  this  earth, 
and  for  a  life  of  endless  glory  and  joy  in  the 
world  to  come.  He  has  endowed  you  with  in- 
telligence that  you  might  know  the  truth,  a 
conscience  that  warrs  you  against  evil  and 
reproves  you  for  disobedience  and  sin.  He 
has  redeemed  you  from  sin  and  its  conse- 
quences by  the  death  of  His  Son.     He  offers 


WHAT  A    roiSG  MAN  OroIIT  TO  KSOW.     153 

to  lift  you  up  and  crown  you  a  son  of  God  and 
an  heir  of  everlasting,'  glory.  He  promises  never 
to  leave  nor  to  forsake  you,  and  assures  you  that 
His  grace,  which  has  been  sufficient  to  main- 
tain in  purity  and  honor  millions  of  others  shall 
be  sufficient  for  you  at  all  times.  You  most  as- 
suredly owe  it  to  your  God.  to  the  pure  and  good 
>n  this  world,  and  to  all  that  is  s.cred  and  hoK 
.n  the  next,  to  live  a  life  of  purity  in  all  things 


III 


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CHAPTER  vrr. 

AND  TIIEIK  PRosTrru-noN. 

tl  It  of.     ""' .'''^^'^''  '^""<^tion  and  office  tlnn 
t'-U  of  transmittintj  life      tHp  ,?.        .    i 

"'"ch  .ncn  so  of,c„'h„M  „.i^,'    '^;["  "    >  "'" 

tl'an  bcaslly  manner  in  whiclwh  "'"'^ 

f..nc.i„n,  are  pros.i,      ^     V„:;"f  "'"l! 

He  did  Adam  and  Eve.    Hemth  h,     T' " 
anv  one  of  an  ;„<;    •  ^'"'S"' "^^e adopted 

(  I ; ::  ^ 


UN 


15''      nil.lT  A    H>l  Sn  .l/.l  \   uldJlT  TO  hWOW. 


II   : 


wi^c^t  and  i)c  t  t<>  cihImw  man  with  icprodiu. 
tivc  j)'>\\ fi,  i.rul  to  mak<' the  divine  institution 
of  niartia};e  the  roriier-sttjiic  ot  dcmu'^tK  h.ippi- 
ncss  and  the  foundation  of  (  ivd  ^"^  i^rnnient. 
Marriage  i>  the  en<hitinj,'  hasi-,  of  this  most  sa- 
rred  relation,  and  one  «>f  the  ^'reate^t  sources  of 
man's  blessing  anil  happiness. 

The  study  of  the  rcprochu  ti\e  s\  -.tern  ii. 
j'l  ints,  fishes,  reptiles,  hirds,  aiumal-.  .ind  man 
is  one  cf  intense  interest.  It-.  thou^^Iuful  i_on- 
templation  inspires  awe  and  revereiu  e.  In  the 
openin;;  ch.ipters  of  the  first  volume  of  this 
series,  entitled  "What  a  Voun^'  Hoy  ()u;,'ht  to 
Know,"  we  have  treated  this  entire  suliject  at 
some  len^Mh.  and  while  the  lan^'ua^'e  used  there 
is  de-i;,'neil  to  be  very  plain  and  intclli^nhle,  so 
that  it  can  be  readily  understood  by  boys  of 
ei^'ht  and  ten  years  of  a^'e,  yet  the  subject  is  of 
suih  intense  interest  that  there  is  not  one  man 
in  a  thousand  to  whom  the  information  im- 
partcil  in  those  pa^'es  will  not  be  entirely  new, 
and  the  many  letters  received  from  eminent  men 
and  women  indicate  the  interest  it  is  to  educated 
and  cultivated  adults,  as  veil  as  to  boys.  On 
account  of  lack  of  space  ue  are  compelled  to 
refer  the  reader  to  that  volume,  w  here  he  will 
find  this  subject  treated  at  greater  len^nh  and 
with  more  fulness.  There  are  however,  some 
phases  of  this  subject  which  more  properly  be- 
long to  the  consideration  of  older  persons,  and 
on  that  account  it  deserves  an  additional  and 
somewhat    lift'eient  treatment  in  this  place. 

When  (iod  created  the  universe,  from  all  m 


4'iiAT  A  yorso  MAS  ovuiiT  TO  Awon- 


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animate  ohjccts,  such  as  the 


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'•iiMtams.  nn  ks.  and  the  hkc.  He  withheld 


power   to    reprodurc    oth*- 


sun,  moon,  stars. 


the 


He   reserved  to 


Himself  the  bole  power  to  destroy  these  U(,rl(i 


o 


rto  create  others,  as  in    His  infinite  wiMlom 
mi^'ht  seem  ^'ood.     To  all  ol.jects  that  have  Ii(e 
such  as  i)lants.  trees,  ti.hcs,  reptiles,  bird.,  anii 
mals   and    man.   Cod    has  ^ivcn    reproductive- 
power,  and  an  endowment  of  su,  h  instincts  or 
intelligence  as  woidd  be  necessary  to  exercise 
the.e  functions  aright.      Reproductive  power  i. 
not    power  to  create,  else  plants  miK'ht  cre.ite 
bu-ds.  and  fishes  mi^'ht  create  animals,  and  thus 
introduce  disorder  and  confusion  intf.  the  har- 
mony and  beauty  which  in  infinite  wisdom  ( iod 
has  instituted.     In  the  creation  (k)d  endowed 
each  with  the  power  to  produce  seed  after  its 
own  kind.     The  power  which   He  ^ave  them 
was   not    creative,  but     reproductive    power- 
power  to  produce  seeds  from  which  should  be 
raised  up  the  youn^  of  plants,  and  animals  to 
take  the  places  of  the  parent  life  which  was  to 
continue  only  for  a  time,  and  then  die  and  pass 
away.    By  this  means  life  was  to  be  perpetuated 
upon  the  earth,  passing  from  parent  to  child, 
year  after  year,  and  generati.>n  after  i,'eneration,' 
until  the  end  of  time. 

Now  if  we  take  animate  objects,  all  of  which 
have  reproductive  power,  we  can  readily  divide 
them  into  three  classes.  First,  plants  which  do 
not  have  ner^•es  or  any  of  the  five  senses,  and 
which  i)roduce  seeds  which  are  fertilized  by  the 
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158    WHAT  A   YOUNO  MAX  OVOHT  TO  KNOW. 

which  is  on  the  exterior  of  the  plant,  and  from 
which  the  seeds  generally  fall  upon  the  ground 
and  are  quickened  into  life  by  moisture  and 
warmth,  and  thus  the  life  of  the  plant  is  per- 
petuated.    The  reproductive  organs  of  plants 
are  found  in  the  blossom  or  {lower  which  con- 
stitutes its  beauty,  and  is  also  the  source  of  its 
fragrance.     In  many  flowers  the  male  and  the 
female  organs  of  reproduction  are  united,  while 
in  others  the  male  flower  may  grow  by  the  side 
of  the  female  flower,  or  on  an  adjoining  branch, 
or  stalk,  while  in  other  instances  the  plants 
which  bear  the  male  flowers  are  entirely  sepa- 
rated from  those  which  bear  the  female  flowers, 
and  the  pollen  necessary  to  fertilize  the  seeds  in 
the  pod,  or  womb,  of  the  female  flower  is  blown 
by  the  wind,  or  is  carried  by  the  bees  and  in- 
sects which  are  engaged  in  the  gathering  of 
honey. 

The  mdividual  who  is  sufficiently  intelligent 
to  learn  the  lessons  which  the  flower  teaches 
tv'hile  in  its  passion  of  beauty  which  attends  it 
at  the  period  when  the  seeds  are  to  be  fertilized, 
and  when  the  flower  is  most  beautiful  and  fra- 
grant, and  then  observes  and  understands  the 
lessons  which  it  again  teaches,  as  its  beauty 
fades,  its  fragrance  vanishes,  but  the  hidden 
and  undeveloped  life  has  been  quickened  and 
remains  to  perpetuate  the  life  which  shall 
spring  up  in  the  plants  which  are  to  come  after 
It,  cuch  a  person  has  learned  the  lessons  which 
illustrate  in  beautiful  outlines  the  unfolding, 
the  beauty,  and  the  fading  of  human  life. 


>rBATA  rovya  mai,  ovbht  to  lsow.  ,5, 
Were  it  not  for  this  means  of  peroetuatinn  ,» 

laT"!,''''  -"'d  perish  fromThTre  „f".h" 
ea«h,  and  ,t  would  require  only  a  few  months 

.rera"d"ar;o  """'T"^  ""'"""''  "'-'-^ 
tree  and  all  fonns  of  grain  would  have  ner 

wasfe'  'anV'f  """'f  '"'''  """"^  "  '^-" 
waste,  and  all  animal  and  human  life  would 

consequently  peHsh   because   „f    dea„h  and 

fully  Illustrated  in  the  study  of  the  flowe.s   s 

a  so  fo„^,„  the  fishes,  reptiles,  insects  and 
tords.  When  we  come  to  this  second  class  we 
discover  some  differences,  however,  which  are 
suggesttve  and  interesting.    I„  „os  plants  the 

SoT?nd''7'"r  P""  which  is'upon  he 
exteror  and  when  the  seeds  are  ripe  the  pod 
usually  butsts  and  its  contents  either  Ll  .0  'he 
ground,  or.  as  m  the  case  of  thistles,  are  borne 
by  the  wmd  to  some  distant  field.    When  we 
sudy  the  orders  of  life  which  are  next  high" 
han  the  plants,  we  find  that  the  seed  is  retained 
.nfte  mside  of  the  body  of  the  parent  ftmale 
In  some  instances,  and  perhaps  in  most  the 
^ffh':  f  ""r ^•':"«  «  ^""  --ins  in  the  body 

a  .  -  whi^h  :■    '' """  ''"'"'^  ""'^"  of  'he  male' 
afte.  which  it  passes  out  of  the  body  to  be  in 

"rw'atf'''"^"'""'"^-'--'- 
When  we  come  to  the  next  higher  order  of 

r/rret"'  ';'  ;'^^  ^'^^^^  the^ammals  th 
and  \TT    "f ''^  '^^  ^°^>^  °^  ^he  female, 
and  after  being  fertilized  by  the  bodily  con- 


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l6o     WHAT  A   rOiXO  ifA.W  OVOHT  TO  KSOW. 

tact  of  the  male,  it  continues  in  the  body  of 
the  female  until  it  has  passed  through  a 
period  of  ^cwth  and  dev(  .pment  and  is 
fitted  to  pass  o.  .  into  the  world  to  begin 
its  own  separate  and  individual  life.  The  rea- 
son for  this  difference  is  easily  understood  when 
we  remember  that  as  we  ascend  in  the  scale  of 
being  the  animals  are  exposed  to  a  larger  series 
of  dangers,  and  because  of  the  higher  sphere 
they  occupy  they  are  required  to  meet  an  en- 
larged round  of  dutieo  and  obligations.  That 
these  dangers  may  be  guarded  against,  and 
these  duties  discharged,  it  is  necessary  that  the 
individual  animal  should  be  enabled  to  pass 
from  place  to  place,  to  escape  danger  or  dis- 
charge duty,  while  at  the  same  time  the  growing 
life  should  be  protected  from  destruction  and 
also  from  injury.  To  secure  these  ends  it  was 
therefore  ordained  that  the  germ  of  developing 
life  should  be  retained  within  the  body  of  the 
parent  mother. 

It  might  also  be  interesting  to  note  that  where 
the  tgg  after  being  fertilized  is  covered  with  a 
shell  and  then  passes  into  the  outer  world  to  be 
hatched,  the  germ  or  egg  is  much  larger  than 
in  the  case  of  the  higher  forms  of  life,  where  the 
germ  is  oftentimes  so  minute  as  to  require  the 
aid  of  a  microscope  to  render  it  visible  to  the 
human  eye.  The  reason  for  this  is  that  the 
growing  germ  must  be  provided  with  nourish- 
ment sufficient  within  the  shell  to  sustain  life 
until  the  developing  body  is  matured  and  the 
shell  has  been  broken,  so  that  the  infant  creat- 


'fl'ATA  yOUXOUAXOVnilTTO  L-SCV.  >(,, 
;:re  can  either  he  fed  by  the  parent-  or  obtiin 
■••s  own  nourishment  as  (;„d  hL  directed 

When  wc  study  the  reproductive  or.-.ns  i„ 
he  three  forms  of  hfe  to  which  w.  ha  e  r  ? 
fejred,  we  ,5  „d  that  there  are  some  marvellous 
d  n-erences  tue  study  of  which  are  full  of  inter! 
esling  and  suj;gestiie  lessons.  !n  the  lowest 
fornts   of  life  the   reproductive  organs  „rthe 

emale  are  on  the  exterior,  while  i„^hehUer 
vhese  organs  arc  found  in  the  interior.     wSen 
however,  we  study  the  male  organs  of  repro-' 
di.ct,on,  we  ,5nd  that  whde  in  the  plant Xy 
•-re  qu.te  like  those  of  the  female  plant    b  ,^ 

Z7::t  *° "'  "^'■^  ""■'  "'^^^  "«■  find 

that  the  male  organs,  instead  of  having  a  de- 
velopment  which  might  be  called  positne,  the 

female.    In  some  of  these  forms,  especially 
among  the  fishes,  the  male  and  female  neve^ 
come  mto  bodily  contact  in  the  .act  of  fertilizing 
•he  seed.     In  the  large  majority  of  instances 
however  ,h,s  is  not  the  case.    When  you  cot^e 
to  an.mals.  the  male  organ  is  a  positive.    ItTs 
however,  contained  within  the  bcdy,  from  which 
It  does  not  pass  except  in  the  exercise  of  the 

"ncaTe";?"^""-     ^^  ''"  ^^"^'l '-«''"  '■> 
he  scale  the  male  organ  is  partially  upon  the 

extertor  of  the  body.bu,  alw  ys  sheaLS.    The 
reproducuve  organs  of  the  male   .re  not  t,p„„ 
the  extenor  of  the  body  and  fully  exposed  until 
we  come  to  the  highest  form  of  develooment 
*hich  IS  found  in  man. 
'^•e  have  referred  to  this  matter  in  order  to 

II 


— Sf 


162    yriAT  A  roiya  mas  ouoiit  to  a  .vow* 


;2f    i- 


I 
I 
I , 

1 1  (I 


1:    f 


rail  attention  lo  the  f.irt  that  sexual  dcj^radation 
in  the  form  of  ma  .turb.ition,  or  self-pollution,  is 
merhanically  ahno^-t  practically  impossible  to 
all  the  lower  forms  of  animal  life. 

As  we  have  never  seen  this  subject  alluded 
to  by  other  writers,  we  have  made  a  c.ueful 
investigation  of  the  subject,  and  find  that  all 
forms  of  masturbation  are  mv-'chanically  and 
physically  almost  absolutely  impossil)le  to  all 
animals  except  man  and  the  monkey.  Mas- 
turbation amon;5  animals  is  so  exceptional  and 
rare  that  of  those  who  have  spent  their  entire 
lives  among  animals  of  various  kinds,  there  are 
only  exceptional  individuals  who  have  ever 
seen  an  animal  masturbate  himself.  There  are 
occasional  instances  of  this  kind,  but  they  are 
wholly  exceptional,  seem  to  have  been  learned 
by  accident,  and  are  accomplished  with  the 
utmost  difficulty.  And  even  where  father  ani- 
mals have  witnessed  the  act,  they  do  not  at- 
tempt it  by  imitation.  It  will  be  seen  from  this 
that  self-pollution  in  man  does  not  arise  from 
any  natural  necessity;  indeed,  it  is  so  far  a 
violation  of  nature  that  no  human  being  will 
begin  the  practice  of  this  vice  until  he  is  taught 
by  some  degraded  companion,  or  learns  it  be- 
cause of  some  unnatural  and  unfortunate  cir- 
cumstance. 

The  fact  that  God  has  placed  the  reproduc- 
tive organs  of  man  upon  the  exterior  of  his  body 
is  an  indication  of  the  exaltation  to  which  He 
has  lifted  man.  He  has  endowed  him  with  in. 
telligence,  with  a  moral  sense,  and  with  a  con- 


'^'^i^TA   yoVyOifAyoiGlITTOKSOW.    103 

science     These  elevate  man   infinitely  above 
every  other  creature. 

Hui  it  is  not  alone  because  the  reproductive 
organs  are  upon   the  exterior  of  the  body  i' 
mun.  but  God  has  also  blessed  man  with  a 
Phy..cal  endowment  which  He  has  conferred 
upon  no  other  creature.     The  beneficent  Cre.- 
tor  has  g.ven  to  man  a  hand.     Without  our 
hand,  .t  would  be  impossible  for  us  to  make 
doth.ng   to  build  houses,  to  compound  med! 
ernes    to  cultivate  the  f.elds.  to  prepare  our 
food  to  mvent  devise,  construct,  or  to  do  any 
of  the  thousands  of  things  which  are  so  essen^ 
t.al  to  our  elevation  and  comfort,  to  say  nothing 
of  our  existence.     Without  the  perfect  human 
^and  man   could  not  overcome  the  physica" 
djfficult.es  by  which  he  is  surrounded  or    ^ 
above  the  level  of  the  beast 
Jut  with  the  hand  man  not  only  constructs 
and  confers  blessings,  but  he  destroys,  and  in- 

h!^    ^r' w"f  °"'^  "P""  °^^^^^'  but  also  upon 
h  rnself.     Without  the  hand  it  would  be  impos- 
sible for  man  to  wage  war.  to  destroy  his  fe'low- 
man  upon  the  field  of  battle,  to  commit  murder 
to  prostitute  and  pollute  his  own  body  or  to 
overpower  and  compel  woman  to  yield  to  his 
lustful  passions.    The  human  female  is  the  only 
Jemale  that  cannot  successfully  resist  the  male 
or  can  be  made  the  subject  of  a  rape. 

The  facts  which  we  have  n  -med  in  this  chap, 
er.  It  seems  to  us.  are  design,     by  the  Creator  to 
each  usthesacrednessof  the  reproductive  func- 
tion, and  to  manifest  to  us  the  confidence  which 


i 


164     WJIAT  A   yOLyu  Ji.l.V  OIUIIT  TO  K.\u»r. 


f^*sm 


He  has  reposed  in  man  l)y  endowitij;  Iiim  with 
capacities  and  powers  which  arc*  inhnitcl-  above 
those  conferred  upon  any  other  creature.  Hut 
the  ^'reater  the  exaltation  and  honor,  the  ;^'rcater 
the  fall  and  the  ruin,  if  these  faculties  a)e  pros- 
tituted and  these  powers  perverted  from  the 
purpose  which  (lod  has  had  in  conferring,'  them. 
God  has  crea'cd  man  in  His  own  moral  like- 
ness and  image,  and  has  designed  that  lie 
should  be  pure  and  holy.  \'irtue  and  pusity 
are  easily  j)ossible  to  any  individual  who  v\ill 
avoid  the  inthiences  which  so  often  degriale  a-id 
will  u-ic  the  aids  w  lifch  God  has  designed  should 
be  helpful  in  safeguarding  and  sa\  ing  mankind. 
The  great  difficulty  is  that  huncheds  and 
thousands  daily  go  wrong,  fall  into  sin  and 
into  physical,  temporal  and  eternal  ruin,  sim- 
ply because  they  grope  in  the  darkness  of  pro- 
found ignnra.ice.  It  is  with  a  desire  to  impart 
knowledge,  to  ennirage  thoughtfulness,  and 
inspire  to  personal  i.unty,  that  we  have  imder- 
taken  in  this  chapter  to  ii!rect  the  minds  of 
young  men  to  these  phases  of  this  interesting 
subject. 


CHAI'TKR  VIII. 


! 

\ 


RIGHT    RELATION    To    WOMEN. 

In  order  that  a  yoiinj,'  man  may  sustain  a 
proper  relation  to  woman,  it  is  necessary  that 
he  should  correctly  understand  the  nature  and 
character  of  woman.  Tliousands  of  people  think 
they  understand  something,'  about  human  nature, 
when  they  have  only  the  perverted  ideas  which 
are  created  in   the  mind    by  reading   novels. 
Whether  such  characters  :ire  pure  or  impure.' 
moral  or  immoral,  they  are  ideal  characters,' 
and    not    real    characters.     The    only  proper 
study  of  man  is  man.    The  only  way  to  arr.ve 
at  the  correct  knowledge  of  human  nature  is 
by  a  study  of  human  nature.     There  are  many 
jriddy.  silly,  empty-headed   girls  and  women, 
but  they  by  no  means  all  belong  to  that  class! 
There  are  some  who   are  deficient   in   moral 
character,  in  integrity  and   purity  of  life,  but 
such  constitute  a  somewhat  small  proportion. 

In  order  that  a  young  man  may  sustain  a 
right  relation  to  woman,  he  should  have  an 
exalted  Meal  of  the  character  of  woman.  He 
should  know  and  appreciate  the  fact  that  the 
great  majority  of  women  are  unapproachable 
and  irreproachable.  The  woman  who  aspires 
rises  higher  than  man.  and  the  woman  who 
desires  may  descend  to  such  depths  of  moral 
degradation    as    are    not     possible    to    man. 


•-i"^-.-.  ( 


i 


I66     WHAT  A    YOrsa  MAS  OVOliT  TO  KSOW. 

VNHien  a  m.ip  tells  you  th.it  uonion  arc  all  of 
easy  virtue,  and  tli.it  none  of  them  ran  he 
trusted,  you  should  avoid  him  as  you  would 
one  with  a  loathsome  < onta^^'ion.  Such  a  man, 
unless  he  simply  retkv  ts  the  opinions  of  others, 
is  always  vuiou ,,  licentious,  thorou^jhly  cor- 
nipt,  both  in  his  mind  and  life,  and  oftentimes 
both  his  flesh  and  his  bones  are  reekinj;  with 
moral  and  physical  rottenness. 

There  are  three  classes  of  vicious  men  whose 
vices  and  crimes  entitle  them  to  a  perj)etual 
place  in  the  penitentiary.  They  are  more  dan- 
gerous than  thieves  and  robbers.  The  man 
who  robs:  a  bank,  or  the  burglar  who  enters 
your  house  at  night,  is  guilty  of  a  petty  crime 
when  compared  with  the  vicious  man  who  de- 
spoils young  women  of  their  virtue,  who  robs 
husbands  of  the  affections  of  their  wives,  or 
who  walks  among  men  a  moral  leper,  spread- 
ing disease  and  de.ith  along  life's  entire  journey. 
The  first  class  of  vicious  men  are  those  who 
give  themselves  up  to  a  life  of  vice,  and  who 
ft-equent  houses  of  prostitution  in  order  to  secure 
the  gratification  of  their  lustful  passions  with 
women  who  are  as  degraded  and  polluted  as 
themselves.  These  men  may  undertake,  and 
for  a  time  successfully  run  the  gantlet  of  dis- 
ease, but  the  same  result,  with  only  rare  excep- 
tions, eventually  comes  to  them  all. 

Another  class  of  vicious  men,  fearing  conta- 
gion and  disease,  if  resident  in  a  large  city  and 
possessed  of  sufificient  means,  support  a  private 
prostitute.    While  such  a  man  in  some  measure 


?  vip    "'■"        ■^*  - 


'¥, 


•^r^ 


protects  himself  from  the  pn.h.ihil.tv  of  disease 
yet  :.c  is  smc  to  suffer  pcrprt.ial  tormci.t  from' 
the  fact  th.it  he  is  <  onstantly  liable  fo  exposure. 
He  has  an  ever-present  consciousness  that  such 
a  woman,  if  her  ex     tin^  demands  arc  not  com- 
phcd  with.  „r  if  an^'crcd  by  any  cause,  may  at 
any  t.mc  di,<  lose  his  course  of  i;fe  to  his  family, 
to  the  so(  ial  or  hu.incss  world  with  which  he 
stands  connected,  or.  if  he  were  to  deny    her 
exacting  and  incrcasin-r  demands  for  money 
nii-ht  levy  blackmail  upon  him  and  thus  ruin 
hiin    f.nancially.      Such    mm.    while  escaping 
one  risk,  assume  another,  which,  if  a  man  has 
one  spark  of  manhood  or  of  conscience,  will 
convert  his  life  into  a  proI(jn},'ed  torment. 

The  third  class  consists  of  those  who  are  not 
able  to  support  a  private  prostitute,  and  who 
are  restrained  by  the  fear  of  disease  from  going 
with  bad  women  promiscuously,  and  who  un- 
dertake to  secure  tlie  gratification  of  their  sen- 
sual passion  by  seducing  innocent  young  girls. 
The  man  who  despoils  a  pure  girl  of  her  honor,' 
and   robs  her  of  her  virtue,  in   a   single  act.' 
for  a  momentary  gratification,  deposes  her  from' 
a  place  in  the  estimation  of  society  which  can 
never  be  regained,  and  pollutes  her  thought, 
and  sends  her  headlong  in  a  path  of  ruin  and 
vice.— such  a  man  deserves  no  less  to  be  hung 
than  the  man  who  deliberately,  or  in  a  moment 
of  anger  or  passion,  takes  the  hfe  of  his  fellow- 
man. 

While  none  of  these  three  paths  of  vice  may 
attract  to  their  ruin   i!,c  large  class  of  young 


I6«     HllAT  A    rot  \a   W.J.V  "tailT  TO  hSOW 

men.  \ct  there  i-,  another  tenijx.ition  to  \vhi(  h 
even    the    j.iircM   an.l    lK•^t    arc    expo^cil.    aruj 
M^fty  is  best  stciiri-d  l>y  an   intclh-enl  iindcr- 
tlanilinK'   of  the   dan^'cr.   an.l    hy    an   al)ulin^' 
moral    purjxjse.    J<revl.Ml^ly    t-.rnu-.l.    nc\cr   to 
yield  to  Mi<  h  A  scdiK  tivc  and  mi. fid  temptation. 
\Vc   refer   to   the   dan},"«r   to  whic  h   a   pure- 
minded    yoiin^'   man    and    yoiin^r   woman   are 
v\posed  iliirin^'  a  twriod  of  <(.mtship.  and  cs- 
pe(  lally  after  an  en^'a^cment  of  marriage  has 
been  formetl.     N(.   youn^'  man  who  is  vsitlw.ut 
a  stronjj  moral  purpose,  or  who  lacks  th.;  strict- 
est re^'ard  for  the  proprieties  of  speech  and  .  .m- 
dtii  t.  may  be  esteemed  as  siifticiently  safe  from 
a  rourse  of  condiK  t  which  is  alike  dis^,'raceful 
and  immoral,  and  likely  to  brin^'  rcf)roach  and 
dis^,'race  upon  both  parties  c onrcrned. 

If  you    were  capable  of  such   a  crime  how 
couid  you  expect  a  woman  to  respe*  t  and  love 
lierown  seducer,  even  HioukIi  he  should  sub- 
setiuenlly  marry  her  and  thus  be. ome  her  hus- 
band ?     How  could  you  in  the  after  years,  with- 
out profound  rc-ret,  look  int(.  the  faces  of  your 
children  and  remember  that  you  werethe  crimi- 
nal despoiler  of  their  mother's  virtue  ?    Remem- 
ber that  by  yr.jr  own  act  you  breakdown  the 
sense  of  '.onoi  and  integrity  wiiich  in  the  after 
years  should  be  the  seal  and  security  of  your 
wife's  puriiy  and  fidelity.     How  shall   you  be 
able  to  trust  one  whom  you  have  yourself  taught 
to  be  untrue  and   unfaithful  to  her  sex.  to  hcr- 
seK.  to  her  parents,  to  her  friends,  and  to  her 
God?      Think   of  the   probable  disclosure  of 


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ntlA  T  A   rot  so  MA .V  O l  out  to  K.\0  W     1 69 

only  A  few  months  •  „f  ,he  humiliation,  of  the 
shame,  and  „f  the  scIf-loathmK' !     Th-nk  of  the 
sorrow  whu  h  for  a  momentary  K-ratih.  atmn   of 
your  histful  nature  you  are  bnnK'mK'  ahl^c  upon 
your  parents  and  upon  her  parents,  upon  your 
brothers  and  sisters  and  upon  her  brothers  an.l 
Sisters,  upon   your  relatives.  yo„r  associates  m 
business,   all    your  a.quamtan(  cs.    and    „p„n 
mcr.  AS  a  class  whose  honor  you  sully  anM  de- 
fare.     Think  of  her  friends,  companions  and 
ar-uiamtan.  c-s.  and  ask  yourself  what  you  would 
feel  like  mHictin^;  upon  one  who  should  thus 
debase  and  dis^-race  your  own  sister,  or  even  a 
relative  or  friend  !     To  say  'I.t  least,  how  can 
you  expect  afterwards  to  have  the  respc   t  and 
esteem  of  those  whom  you  have  dis^'iaced  ? 

That    >ou  are  not   severely  rebuked,  or  re- 
sisted, or  even  if  consent  was  indicated  by  pas- 
siviiy.  remember  that  y..u  are  nevertheless  the 
criminal  betrayer  of  one  whose  confidence  you 
have  K'ained.   but   whr.se  respect  you  delihcr- 
atelv  sacrifice,  and  whose  name  and  reputation 
you  sully,  and  whose  character  you  senoui.ly 
mar.     Even   though   she   should  by  her  own 
consent  prove  herself  as  debased  and  dej,^raded 
as    I'otiphar's   wife,   your  own  sense  of  honor 
and  manhood  should  enable  you  to  say   like 
Joseph  :  •'  How  can  I  do  this  great  wickedness, 
and  sin  against  Cod  ?"     I  lee  from  such  a  wo- 
man.    To  make  her  you:   wife  would  be  delib- 
erately to  bli<;ht  your  life,  to  blast  your  happi- 
ness, and  render  impossible  the  happiness  and 
blessmg  that  would  likely  and  reasonably  be 


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170     WHAT  A   YOlSO  MAy  OUOllT  TO  KNOW. 

yours  if  married  to  a  pure-minded  and  v    t.ious 
Woman. 

No  man  who  has  in  him  the  spirit  of  true 
manhood  can  betray  the  confident.e  reposed  in 
him  by  a  pure-minded,  confiding  woman  with- 
out a  subsc(iuent  sense  of  shame  and  dishonor 
which  time  will  not  obliterate,  but  which  will 
surely  detpen  into  remorse  as  the  coming  years 
advance. 

Associate  only  with  the  pure.    Be  careful  to 

maintain  a  strictly  proper  relation,  and  at  all 

times  avoid  familiarity.     Be  suspicious  of  the 

woman  who  receives  promiscuous  attentions. 

"  Where  the  carcass  is,  there  will  the  eagles  be 

gathered  together.'      If  your  life  is  impure  you 

may  rest  assured  that  as  truly  as  there  is  a  God 

in  Heaven  conscience  will  lash  you  relentlessly, 

and  even  in  this  world  you  will  suffer  remorse 

and   mental  torment.      The  beginning  which 

leads  to  such  a  result  is  paved  v/ith  little  but 

improper  familiarities  of  speech  and  conduct, 

and  only  the  young  man  and  young  woman 

who  carefully   and  conscientiously  avoid  the 

beginnings  are  likely  to  escape  the  end. 


CHAPTER  IX. 


MARRIAGE — A    DIVINE    INSTITUriO  '. 

No  man  ran  afford  to  think  or  to  speak  lightly 
of  marriage.     The  most  sacred  interests  of  this 
world  and  of  the  next  are  wrapped  up  in  this 
relation.    The  foe  of  marriage  is  the  foe  of  man, 
of  the  tender  relation  of  husband  and  wife,  of 
parent  and  child,  of  brothers  and  sisters  ;  he  is 
the  enemy  of  the  home,  of  the  nation,  of  the 
Church,  of  man's  greatest  earthly  blessings,  and 
of  man's  brightest  hopes  of  everlasting  happi- 
ness in  the  world  to  come.     And  vet,  strange  to 
say,  the  subject  of  marriage  can   scarcely  be 
mentioned,  even  in  the  presence  of  intelligent 
people,  without  provoking  a  smile.    Upon  the 
subject  of  marriage  there  is  a  degenerated  pub- 
lic sentiment,  due,  doubtless,  in  a  large  measure 
to  the  almost  universal  custom  of  novel-read- 
ing, to  the  presence  of  practical  prostitution  of 
a  large  class  of  married  women  who  refuse  to 
become  mothers,  because  of  simultaneous  po- 
lygamy in  Utah  and  the  consecutive  polygamy 
made  possible  in  so  many  of  the  other  States  by 
easy  divorce.     It  is  due  also  to  the  destructive 
doctrine  of  free  love,  which  is   only   another 
nnme  for  free  and  unbridled  lust,  and  to  the 
mistaken  idea  which  grows  up  because  of  the 
prevalent  practice  of  the  coi-rts  in  granting 


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172     WIIATAVO  Uyo  MA  .V  0  UGHT  TO  KXO  W. 

Civil  divorces,  causing  the  people  falsely  to  sup- 
pose  that  marriage  is  simply  a  civil  contract. 

Marriage  is  not  simply  a  compact  entered 
into  by  a  man  ar.d  a  woman.     It  is  not  a  social 
partnership,  nor  yet  an  alliance  for  convenience 
to  be  dissolved  at  pleasure.     Marriage  was  in- 
stituted by  God  himself.     Its  foundations  were 
securely  laid,  and  its  principles  are  as   fixed 
and  enduring  as  the  human  race  itself.    If  man 
had  instituted  marriage  he  might  enact   laws 
which  would  modify  or  even  annul  the  relation. 
Bur  marriage  was  instituted  by   God  himself 
when  as  yet  there  was  but  one  man  .-ind  one 
woman  upon  the  earth,  and  it  not  only  ante- 
dates human  legislation,  but  is  above  all  human 
legislation.     It  was  ordained  of  God  and  has 
been,  made  indissoluble  by  any  Court  or  for  any 
cause  whatsoever,  save  for  the  sin:jle  cause  of 
adultery. 

The  divine  law  upon  this    subject  is  very 
plain,  and  is  found  in  the  Gospel :  "  Whosoever 
shall  put  away  his  wife,  saving  for  the  cause  of 
fornication,   causeth  her  to  commit  adultery; 
and  whosoever  shall  marry  her  that  is  divorced 
committeth  adultery."  (Matthew  5  :  32.)   "Who- 
soever shall  put  away  his  wife,  except  it  be  for 
fornication,  and  shall  marry  another,  commit- 
teth adultery :  and  whoso  marrieth  her  which  is 
put  away  doth   commit   adultery."     (Matthew 
19  ••  9-)     "Whosoever  putteth    away  his   wife, 
and  marrieth    another,  committeth' adultery  I 
whosoever  marrieth  her  that  is  put  away  from 
her    husband    committeth     adultery."    (Luke 


.  I  I 


WIIA  T  A  YO  UNO  MA.S  01  OUT  TO  LWO  »'.      1 73 

16  :  18.)  "  Whosoever  shall  put  away  his  wife, 
and  wiarry  another,  committeth  adultery.  If  a 
woman  shall  p.it  away  her  husband,  and  be 
married  to  another,  she  committeth  adultery." 
(Mark  10:  11,  12.)  Not  only  are  these  words 
very  plain,  but  there  is  also  in  the  same  connec- 
tion :he  added  injunction:  "What  therefore 
God  hath  joined  together,  let  no  man  put  asun- 
der." (Matthew  19:  6,  and  Mark  10:  9.)  Mar 
riage  may  be  dissolve  d  by  the  death  of  one  of 
the  contracting  parties,  for  the  Scriptu.es  say  : 
"The  wife  is  bound  by  the  law  as  long  as  her 
husband  liveth ;  but  if  her  husband  be  dead, 
she  is  at  liberty  to  be  married  to  whom  she 
will."  (Corinthians  7:  39.)  Death  may  dis- 
solve the  marriage  and  give  to  one  of  the  parties 
the  right  to  marry,  but  the  Courts  never,  except 
for  adultery. 

It  must  be  plain  from  these  clear  and  explicit 
declarations  of  God's  Word  that  marriage  is  an 
institution  above  human  legislation,  and  it 
ought  universally  to  be  understood  that  while 
the  Courts  undertake  to  grant  what  is  nominally 
called  a  divorce,  yet  it  is  merely  a  civil  and  not 
a  really  legal  proceeding.  The  Court  simply 
undertakes  to  adjust  the  matter  of  the  civil  re- 
lation, so  far  as  it  affects  the  question  of  prop- 
erty, the  annuity  for  the  wife,  and  the  support 
of  the  children— it  simply  regulates  the  out- 
ward relations  of  life,  but  no  intelligent  lawyer 
or  judge  will  affirm  that  their  action  can  in  any 
wa_  ifiect  the  real  question  of  marriage,  wliich 
lies  back  of  all  the^e  civil  relations 


1 74     nil  A  T  A  YOVNO  MA  S  0 1  GUT  TO  L'XO  W. 

The  man  who  puts  away  his  wife,  or  the  wife 
who  puts  away   her   husband,  for  any  other 
cause  than  that  of  adultery,  and  marries  a-in 
IS  himself  or  herself  guilty  of  violating  the  ai- 
vmelaw.  and  is  therefore  also  gu>Itv  of  adul- 
tery.   It  is  also  universally  agreed  by  all  learned 
statesmen  and  theologians  that  when  a  divorce 
IS  granted  because  of  the  adultery  of  either  the 
husband  or  the  wife,  the  innocent  party  is   at 
liberty  to  marry  again,  but  that  the  guilty  party 
both  by  divine  and   human  obligation  is   de- 
prived of  the  privilege  of  marrying  again,  so 
long  as  the  other,  the  innocent  party,  lives. 

No  minister,  who  understands  his  duty  iothis 
divine  institution,  will  be  guilty  of  performing  a 
marn.;ge  ceremony  in  which  either  one  or  the 
other  of  the  contracting  parties  has  been  pre- 
viously divorced  because  he  or  she  was  found 
gu.lty  of  the  act  of  adultery.     Nor  will  he  be 
guilty  of  marrying  either  a  man  or  a  woman 
who  for  any  cause  whatsoever,  save  that  of  for- 
nication, has  put  away  his  or  her  former  part- 
ner, and  who  by  remarriage  to  another  party 
becomes  guilty  of  adultery.    While  such  an  act 
might  not  be  punishable  in  the  civil  courts,  it 
would  yet  be  a  crime  in  the  sight  of  God.  akd 
the  officiating  minister  would  be  a  party  to  it. 
Few  ministers  will  consent  to  perform  a  mar- 
nage  ceremony  in  which  one  of  the  contracting 
parties  has  been  divorced,  unless  they  are  well 
acquainted  with  the  person,  and  the  circum- 
stances are  well  known,  and  the  innocence  and 
nght  of  the  contracting  party  is  established  be- 


WJIA  TA  ro  UNO  MAN  0  UOHT  TO  KXO  W.    1 75 

yond  doubt.  Where  stringers  apply  to  a  minister 
and  he  knows  that  one  of  the  parties  has  been 
divorced,— and  no  minister  should  ever  marry 
two  people  without  inquiring'  whether  either 
has  been  previously  married,  and  whether 
divorced.— unless  he  is  willing  to  investigate 
carefully  and  thoroughly,  which  few  ministers 
have  either  the  time  or  the  inclination  to  do, 
consequently,  the  only  safe  course  to  pursue  is, 
to  decline  to  many  all  divorced  persons. 

Marriage  is  not  only  a  divine  institution,  but 
':  the  only  one  instituted  in  the  Garden  of 
Eden  which  has  come  down  with  its  continuous 
line  of  blessings  to  the  present  time.  God 
officiated  at  the  marriage  of  the  first  man  and 
the  first  woman.  The  first  miracle  wrought 
by  our  Saviour  was  at  a  ma  ri age  feast  in  Cana 
of  Galilee,  and  the  first  event  in  the  next  dis- 
pensation will  be  the  marriage  of  the  Lamb  to 
the  Church,  the  bride  of  Christ. 

In  instituting  this  relation  God  united  one 
man  with  one  woman,  and  not  one  man  with 
many  -vomen.  God  said:  "For  this  cause 
shall  a  man  leave  father  and  mother  and  shall 
cleave  to  his  wife"  (not  wives),  "and  they 
twain  shall  be  one  flesh  "  (these  two,  not  sev- 
eral). "Wherefore  they  are  no  more  twain, 
but  one  flesh."     (Matthew  19 :  5,6.) 

In  the  account  in  Genesis,  when  God  found 
that  the  solitary  condition  of  Adam  was  not 
conducive  to  his  highest  well-being.  He  said: 
"  It  is  not  good  that  man  should  be  alone;  I 
will  make  an  helpmeet  for  him."  (Genesis  2:  18.) 


176     WHAT  A    yOlWO  MAS  OIGUT  TO  hWOfl'. 

If  there  was  ever  a  time  when  it  would  have 
been  either  ri^ht  or  expcdier.t  for  a  man  to  have 
had  more  than  one  wife,  it  surely  would  have 
been  in  the  very  beginning',  when  the  entire 
world  was  to  be  peopled.  And  yet  God  created 
simply  a  helpmeet,  not  helpmeets,  for  Adarn. 
If  the  theories  of  wicked  and  licentious  men 
wcie  correct,  instead  of  taking;  out  one  of 
Adam's  ribs,  Cod  would  have  removed  everv 
rib  in  Adam's  body,  and  have  created  a  plu- 
rality of  wives  for  him. 

Lamech  was  the  first  pojyf^amist  mentioned 
in  the  Bible;  but  the  fact  that  polygamy  is 
mentioned  does  not  give  it  the  sanction  of 
God's  Word,  any  more  than  when  an  American 
historian  who  records  the  fact  of  the  presence 
of  polygamy  in  Utah  thereby  gives  to  the  facts 
which  he  records  his  own  personal  sanction  or 
that  of  our  government.  He  simply  records 
the  fact,  a.id  that  is  all  that  God's  Word  has 
done  in  recording  the  historical  fact  that  in 
some  instances  polygamy  existed  in  the  earlier 
periods  of  the  world. 

The  Bible  condemns  polygamy,  and  explicit- 
ly says :  Neither  shall  man  take  one  wife  unto 
another.  (Uviticus,  18.)  And  Paul  makes 
a  clear  and  unmistakable  announcement  to 
all  nations  when  he  says  :  "  Let  every  man  have 
his  own  wife,  and  every  woman  her  own  hus- 
band." The  children  of  Israel  were  forty  years 
in  the  wilderness,  and  yet  among  this  nearly 
four  millions  of  people  there  was  only  one  case 
of  pol  -amy.     Lamech   was   a   self-confessed 


(TlIA  T  A   YOlSa  MAS  OlGUT  TO  KSOW.     177 

.nurderer.  nnd  wherever  you  find  a  polvgamist 
'11  the  n.ble,  whether  it  was  David  or  Solomon 
you  find  a  man  who  was  up  to  his  neck  and 
ears  in  tmuhle.     When  Adam  was  started.  Cod 
started  him  atiK'ht.     And  if  j,  had  been  'riL-ht 
that  Adam  .houid  have  had  a  phirahty  of  wives 
(.od  would   have  given  him  mor.    than   one! 
U  hen  the  whole  human  rare  was  destroyed  by 
the  Flood,  and  the  world  was  subsequently  to 
be  re- peopled  from  the  family  of  Noah   then 
surely,  if  poly^-amy  had  5>een  right,  each  man 
sa%cd  m  the  ark  would  have  been  fully  justified 
in  taking  with  him  a  dozen  wives.     We  find 
however,  that  Noah  and  his  wife.  h,s  three  sons 
and  their  wives,  just  eight  persons,  were  saved 
in  the  ark. 

If  there  were  no  written  law  upon  this  subject 
the  mere  fact  that  the  number  of  males  and 
females  born  into  the  world  is  nearly  exactly 
equal  would  be  a  sufficient  indication  of  divine 
purpose  upon  this  subject.  Because  of  the  larger 
number  of  men    among   th-  immigrants  who 
come  to  this  country,  the  male  population  of 
the  United  States  is  even  in  excess  of  that  of 
the  female    population,   although   the  greater 
hazard  to  which  men  are  exposed  on  the  sea 
in   the  mines,  on  the  railroads,  in  the  army' 
,and  in  various  other  ways,  constantlv  tends  to 
make  the  death-rate  greater  among  men  than 
among  women. 

In  each  life  there  are  two  imponant  events 
and  in  many  three— the  day  of  one's  birth,  the 
day  of  one's  marriage,  and  the  day  of  one's 

12 


178   WHAT  A  rovsa  mas  ovqiit  to  Ksnw. 

death.  The  day  of  one's  birth  is  surely  a  very 
important  event,  but  the  day  of  his  marriage 
and  the  day  of  his  death  seal  his  destiny  as  no 
other  eveiUs  could  possibly  do.  Marriage  not 
only  involves  the  happiness  of  tho^e  who  enter 
into  this  sacred  contract,  but,  at  least  to  some 
extent,  it  affects  the  happiness  and  comfort  nf  a 
large  circle  of  relatives,  and  involves  the  hap- 
piness and  destiny  of  a  generation  yet  unborn. 
As  marriage  is  a  divine  institution,  no  young 
man  or  young  woman  should  enter  into  this 
relation  without  seeking  divine  wisdom  and 
guidance.  The  subject  of  marriage  should  be 
made  a  subject  of  frecjuent  prayer.  If  you  are 
not  to  make  a  mistake,  you  should  not  first 
form  your  alliance  and  then  go  to  Ciod  and 
ask  for  His  sanction,  but  you  should  begin  to 
pray  very  early,  lest  you  mistake  your  infatua- 
tion for  the  voice  of  God,  or  your  inflamed 
amativeness  for  the  leadings  of  divine  Provi- 
dence. Pray  while  your  eyes  are  still  open,  for 
Cupid  blinds  many,  and  then  suffers  them  to  be 
led  to  their  ruin  by  lust. 


ffr 


CHAPTER  X. 

WHO   SHOULD    NOT    MARRY. 

Many  persons,  in    .rdcr  that  they  may  pro- 
vule  fc.r  a^ed  parents,  c  vre  for  dependent  ones 
or  accomphsh  some  undertaking  of  spe.  .al  diffi! 
culty,  rema.r.  unmarried,  and  lead  a  liCe  of  con- 
sent celibacy.     Wh.le  all  persons  of  mature 
;fe  a  e  entitled  to  marry,  yet  any  one  may  de. 
tn  T  '^"''"[^^'^*^  '^'''  P'-'^i'^'Ke.   Some  may  prefer 
to  devote  the.r  lives  to  such  pursuits  as  render 
marriage  inexpedient.     On  account  of  the  ..er- 
secutions  to  which  the  Christians  were  subjected 
at  the  time  uhen  Paul  wrote,  he  advised  celi- 
bacy for  those  who  would  devote  themselves  to 
missionary  work,  in  order  that  they  mijrht  be 
unincumbered  in    their    flight    from   place   to 
Fl..ce.     But  even  then  he  declared  that  all  had 
the  nght  to  marry.     Neither  the  Church  nor  the 
State  has  the  nght  to  impose  cel.hacy.  but  an  in- 
dividual  has  a  perfect  right  to  choose  that  s^ate 
for  himself,  if  he  is  influenced  in  his  choice  by  a 
de.i-e  thus  to  bless  the  condition  of  hi.  fellow- 
men   or  to  devote  himself  to  the  glorv  of  God 

There  are.  however,  some  other  'conditions 
and  circumstances  which  should  influence  a 
man  m  determining  this  important  question 

family,  should  assume  that  obligation.     Young 

(  ^79  ) 


I. So    MiiAT  A  yorsiiMASori.iniiKSow. 


men  without  rtliK.ition  ami  without  occupation 
should  hy  no  inc.wi-i  think  of  ru^hln^,'  into  .i  ic- 
hition  which  in»|toscs  moral  antl  tin.inc  lal  obli- 
j,'at.«)ns  which  he  i>.  not  able  to  dischar  ;l'. 
Where  a  man  ha^  a  moilcrite  in. onic,  and  de- 
sires to  marry,  it  is  a  su!)|cct  for  the  two  persons 
nto-^t  interested  to  detciminc  whether  the 
amount  is  sufficient  for  their  maintenance  and 
support.  Ihe  amount  which  is  squandered  hy 
some  individuals,  and  wilfully  wasted  l;y  others, 
would  he  sufficient  to  supj)orf  a  family  of  eco- 
nomical and  fru^'al  haljits  in  easy  comfort. 
iWhat  mi^jht  he  wholly  inade<iuate  for  some 
might  !)c  a  rich  abundance  for  others.  No  mle 
can  be  laid  down  for  persons  m  different  situa- 
tions in  life.  r.ach  must  determine  this  matter 
for  themselves. 

The  statement  is  often  made  in  medical  jour- 
nals and  elsewhere  that  persons  who  have  he- 
reditary tendencies  to  consumption  should  not 
marry.  The  precarious  condition  f)f  their 
health,  the  uncertainty  of  their  ability  to  pro- 
vide a  •jupport  for  their  family,  the  certainty 
that  their  children  will  inherit  weak  constitu- 
tions, be  weak  and  sickly  and  die  early,  and 
many  otiier  arguments  are  advanced  as  sulti- 
cient  reasons  why  those  wno  have  inherited 
con;,umptive  tendencies  should  not  mpTy.  Dut 
as  the  nervous  system  and  also  the  sexual  sys- 
tem of  consumptives  is  often  even  more  keen 
and  sensitive  than  would  be  the  case  if  they 
were  in  good  health,  such  arguments  go  for 
naught   when   the  man  or  woman  either  can 


II; 


»  //.I  r  A  yoi  .\a  max  okuit  to  ksow.    i8i 

fin.l  .omc  one  uhr,  is  uHlinK  to  hr  .mitcd  with 
»"in  „r  her  in  marriage,  and  thu  reason  i» 
silenred  hy  a  keen  sexual  desire. 

Tl.e  reasons   uhc  h  wc  have  already  siated 
arcK«HKl  reasoi.s.  !,utthcyd<,  not  usually  prove 
cffertiv..  ,n  deterring'  Nurh  persons  fn.m  marry- 
'HK.     Fn  a  ministry  of  twenty  years  and  more 
wc  have  been  very  ol.s<Tv.,nt  of  results  in  the 
cases   of   those  whom    we  have  married  who 
showed    ronsumj.tivc  tendencies.     In  the  rase 
of  men    wc  h.Nc   noticed    that   their   physical 
^trenKth  is  not  ccp.al  to  the  Krcat  drain  on  the 
vital  forces  caused  l,y  sexual  i   -en  ourse      As 
a  coasc.|ucnce  the  physical  forces  arc^raduallv 
tmdermined.  and  after  beKettin^'  one.  two  or 
more   sickly    children    the  husha.id   generally 
(lies  and  leaves  his  wife  an  inheritance  of  dis- 
eased children  to  be  nursed  and  watched  over 
and  kept,  and  they  usually  arc  such  children  as 
are  unlikely  ever  to  contribute  cither  to  her  com- 
fort, happiness  or  support. 

The  sam^  \s  true  of  a  man  who  marries  a  girl 
from  a   family   where   there   are   consumptive 
tendencies.     Few  such  women  survive  the  ex- 
haustin-  effects  of  bcarin-  more  than  one  or 
two  children,  and  the  husband,  after  spending 
two  or  three,  or  possibly  f„ur  vcars.  in  nursing 
a  weak  and  sickly  wife,   is  left  t(,  care  for  a 
Kroup  of  sickly  children,   who   owe    Mie;,    un- 
happy being  to  his  lack  cf  wisdom  and  his  Aiil- 
ine  to  exercise  good  judgment  in  the  choice  of 
a  healthy  wife. 

No  man  or  woman  who  has  a  predisposition 


—if-    ] 


iKi    nv/.ir  A  yoi so  ma\  oioiit  to  ksow. 


3f; 


' ;  -' 


to  (  nriHiimptinn  t  ^r\  alford  nthrr  to  marr\  or 
indiil^T  in  >r\ii.il  ititrr<  mirsi*.  The  a<  t  of  i  o- 
h.iltitiiK:  tn.ikc«»  Mich  l.ir^c  «lcin.iiuli  upon  the 
vii.il  .mil  physical  forrc-*,  th.U  only  those  who 
ate  in  thr  hcs'  of  phy^i'  al  health  anil  who  are 
endowed  witfi  a  strong,'  <  onsfitiition.  (  m  endure 
th"  drain  whi.  h  is  Mire  to  l)rin)^'  weakness  and 
evcntii  d  «l«Mth  to  th')sc  wht)  arc  already  weak 
and  disr.istd. 

It  ii  one  of  the  symptoms  of  ronsnmption 
that  those  who  are  altlu  ted  witli  it  will  .eldoni 
believe  that  they  have  the  tliseasc.  A  phv^i- 
iian  cniiUi  scarcely  be  expected  tf)  speak  can- 
didly upon  this  subject  to  one  who  contemplates 
marriage,  but  any  one  may  look  up  the  record 
of  his  or  her  <.wn  family,  of  parents,  ami  espe- 
cially of  their  ^'randparents.  of  uncles  and  aunts, 
and  if  they  find  that  members  ol  their  family 
have  died  with  consumi)tion,  they  may  rest 
assured  that  there  is  a  tain*  of  it.  either  to  a 
greater  or  ,css  ext-nt,  in  their  own  system.  A 
careful  study  of  the  whole  subjct,  and  a  thor- 
O'lgh  knowledge  of  one's  own  physical  needs, 
a  carefully-reK'iilatcd  diet,  and  the  observance 
of  hygienic  laws,  and  the  use  of  the  best  means 
calculated  to  d»"clop  the  ph\  ^ical  powers,  are 
always  .mportant  and  valuable  in  such  in- 
stances. 

What  is  true  of  consi  mptir.n  is  also  true  of 
insanity.  Kach  one  should  determine  for  him- 
self, by  a  careful  inquiry  into  '  iie  family  record, 
whether  there  are  taints  of  in  ,anity,  and.  if  so, 
he  should  be  governed  by  the  exercise  of  the 


M-// 1  /•  i  yory,.  n.w  nioiiT  in  avow 


iJ»j 


mo.t  .  ...oful  wl^(lom  in  ihc  m.itt.T  of  marriajjc 
This  Mil,,c«  t  i>  itnporum.  an.l  v)  vHally  atfcrts 
the  intrrcM.  ..f  thr  jKirtK-  .  on,  crnc.l  that  the 
titmoM  care  and  juUi.  lou  ...cs  should  he  ex- 
crri>cd. 

N«>   man   or  wom.in  vvh<.    has   the   taint  of 
svphihs,  as  wc  h..\e  already  shown,  should  he 
|.«'rmitto(l  t  .  marry  und»  r   any  <  luumstances. 
Ihc  f.ica  that  a  nun  has   hccn   "injudicious" 
an.l  that   he  has  hccn      unfortunate"  in  con- 
tra, t.,.^-  .11. case,  an.l       ,>  i^r  "  arK'umcnts."  are 
without  ava.l  when  uc^/.^d  aj,Mins'  the  awful 
rnmc  ol  hnnKm^'  into  the  world  a  Kcncration 
"f  innoccn'   and   immortal   beings  who  mu.t. 
without  the  slightest  possibility  of  escape   hear 
the  results  of  the  parents  sin.     In  the  light  of 
the  facts  already  given  in  these  pages,  surely 
no   man  whose   blood   has  been   tainted  with 
syphilis  should  ever  think  of  committing  fur- 
ther  sin    by   plun-ing    innocent   and    helpless 
women   and   children   into  phvsir  xj    torments 
from   which   he  should    rather    desire   to   help 
them  to  escape.     And   even   when   looked  at 
from  a  purely  selfish  standpoint,  marriage  can 
only  bring  new  and  added  horrors  to  the  per- 
son in  whose  body  this  terrible  disease  will,  in 
all  human  probability.  lurk  as  long  as  life  lasts. 


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CHAPTER   XI. 

THE    SELECTION    OF   A    WIFE. 

MORK  happiness  or  misery  is  wrapped  up  in 
this  one  transaction  tlian  in  any  other  upon 
which  a  man  is  permitted  t.,  exercise  his  judg- 
mert.     The  frogs  in  ^sop's  fable  had  a  great 
fondness  for  water,  but  th^y  were  not  disposed 
to  leap  into  the  well,  because  they  could  not 
get  out  again.     But  when  we  see  the  h.iste  with 
which  many  young  people  rush  into  ill-advised 
marriages,  it  looks  as  though   they  had  less 
sense  than  the  frogs.     The  man  who  does  not 
marry  makes  a  mistake  which   is   only   sur- 
passed in  its  serious  results  by  the  conduct  of 
the  man  who  marries  a  woman  who  is  only 
calculated  to  make  his  life  miserable  and  his 
existence  a  burden. 

When  you  are  married  there  are  several 
essential  qualities  you  will  need  to  find  in 
your  wife.  If  you  have  married  a  toy  or  a 
fool,  you  may  get  along  for  a  few  weeks  or 
months,  or,  at  most,  for  a  few  years ;  but  you 
may  rest  assured  that  misery  will  not  fail  to 
find  you.  No  definite  rules  can  be  laid  down 
which  can  be  followed  with  the  positive  assur- 
ance of  satisfactory  results.  Some  general 
principles,  however,  may  be  stated,  the  wisdom 
of  which  must  be  apparent  to  any  thoughtful 


( 


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iS6    wiiiTA  roryo  max  ovght  to  rwow 

pe-son.  and  by  the  i^norin-  of  whirh  any 
young  man  will  be  sure  to  reap  sad  conse- 
quences. 

In  the  first  place  you  will  need  a  •  •    •      No 
woman  who  is  weak  and  sickly  ani  .ous  is 

fitted  to  be  a  wife,  and  much  less  a  mo.her.     A 
niarria-e  in  which  the  sexual  element  must  be 
wholly  eliminated  can  never  be  a  happy  irar- 
ria-e.     No  man  with   strong   physical    powers 
should  expect  a  wife  to  yield  herself  to  his  un- 
bridled and  unrestrained  sexual  passion.     Rea- 
son and  love  must  regulate  the  marriage  rela- 
tion, but  love,  or  even  graceful  indifference  is 
quite  impossible  where  either  the  husband  or 
the  wife  is  iuipotent.  or  the  wife,  because  of 
physical  weakness  or  some  one  of  the  numer- 
ous  diseases  peculiar  to  women,  is   rendered 
incapable  of  sustaining  the  marriage  relation. 
Such  a  woman   can  only  yield  to  the  sexual 
desires  of  her  husband  at  the  expense  of  her 
health   and   comfort,  and,  in   some  instances 
even   at   the  cost  of  her  life.     The   marriage 
relation    renders    her   unfit   for   her   numerous 
household  duties  and  responsibilities.     She  be- 
comes irritable  in  temper,  uncompanionable  in 
spirit ;  and  the  woman  who,  if  she  were  well  and 
strong,  might  be  a  true  helpmeet,  becomes  only 
"a  help  to  eat  meat,"  a  constant  source  of  ex- 
pense and  care  to  her  husband,  and  a  burden  to 
herself     Such    a  woman   cannot   become  the 
moth-^r  of  strong  and  healthy  children,  bear  her 
part  of  life's  burdens,  or  be  an  inspiration  to  her 
husband ;  but,  instead,  must  impose  upon  him  the 


I    i 


n'lr.tTA  rorxG  .v.^.v  ought  to  R\on\   187 

duties  of  a  nurse,  convert  his  home  into  a  hos- 
pital, and  by  marria-e  render  herself  miserable 
and  all  who  arc  about  her  unhappy. 

At  limes,   while   under   the   infatuation  a  id 
blindin-  influences  of  courtship,  a  youn-r  mm 
who  fully  realizes  the  physical  infirmities'of  the 
youn-  woman  with  whon.  he  is  keepinjr  com- 
pany wdl  excuse  all  her  aches  and  ill"    and 
unucr  the  delusion  that  it  will  be  a  pleasure  to 
nurse  her  in  her  sickness  and  minister  to  her 
many    infirmities,    deliberately    decides    upon 
marriage.     If   you    are    in    love   with    such   a 
young  woman,  you  cannot   possibly  be  more 
cruel  to  her  than  to  marry  Ler.     Let  her  con- 
dition appeal  to  your  -mercy,  and  if  vou  love 
her,  and  desire  to  support  her,  well  and  good 
But  never  marry  her. 

As  the  result  of  tight-lacing-and  when  we  say 
tight  we  do  not  mean  such  an  extreme  drawin<r 
of  the  corset-strings  as  results  in  reducing  the 
size  of  the  waist  to  an  undue  extent— but  -ve 
mean  that  which  is  ordinarilv  indulged  in  bv 
almost  all  women,  and  which  tends  to  the  same 
resuk  m  every  instance,  although,  on  account 
of  an    inheritance  of   strong   physical   powers 
and  inherent  good  health,  a  small  percenta-e 
of  women  are  enabled  to  escape  its  dire  con- 
sequences.    Instead  of  suspending  the  wei-ht 
of  their  skirts  and  clothing  from  the  shoulders 
a^  they  should  be,  the  corset,  which  is  already 
too  tight,  is  made  to  carry  the  weight  of  all  their 
suspended  clothing,  thus  pressing  not  only  in- 
ward,  but  also   steadily   downward,  upon  the 


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1 88     H7/.J  TA   VO!  WG  MA y  ()  [  OJIT  TO  KXO  H  . 

abdomen  and  that  v.hich  is  the  most  sensitive 
and  delicate  or-an  which  Cod  has  placed  .  - 
lowthewai.t.     That,  which  at  first  is  only  ;     '^ 

comfort,  because  of  prolon^-ed  pressure,  becomes 
an  irritation,  and,  when  continued  l)ecomes  an 
intlammation.and  finally  a  :hronic  or  incurable 
disease.  The  womb,  which  Cod  has  meant  to 
stand  upright,  or  nearly  so,  ,s  pressed  out  .,f 
position,  oftentimes  f.dls  either  backward  or 
forward,  producing  such  a  displacement  .f  the 
internal  sexual  organs  as  to  render  its  victim 
wholly  unfit  for  the  marriage  relation,  convert- 
ing an  act  which  at  least  should  not  be  dis- 
agreeable to  her.  Into  one  of  -tual  discomfort, 
and  oftentimes  of  positive  misery. 

Those  women,  who  are  pale  and  ner^■ous,  who 
are  without  a  natural  appetite,  unable  to  do  any 
active  work,  or  enjoy  any  vigorous  recreation 
without  being  constantly  out  of  breath,  who  are 
faint  and  weak,  always  complaining  of  pain  in 
their  back,  and  many  other  symptoms  which 
are  inseparably  connected  with  female   weak- 
ness, are  not  partially,  but  totallv   unfitted  foi- 
the  marriage  relation,  and  the  man  who  mar- 
ries such  a  woman  not  only  makes  her  miser- 
able, but  himself  also,   and  after  a  {e^v  year^ 
awakens  to  the  fact  that  he  has  made  the  great- 
est mistake  of  his  life. 

What  has  been  said  in  the  chapter  under  the 
title  "  Who  Should  Not  Marry,-  uoon  the  sub- 
ject of  consumption,  needs  in  this  connection 
be   somewhat  enlarged  upon.     When  cf  n- 
sumption  is  sjwken  of,  many  people  think  only 


nif.iTA  yoiwa  MA.\  or  OUT  to  know.   1S9 

of    that   disease  which  atta.  ks  the   hm-s    and 
after   months  of  coiighin-  and  u.stinj,'  fmaliy 
rcMilts  in  death.     lU.t  this  same  (Uscasc.  under 
the  -cneral   name  of  tiihcrcidosis.  attacks   not 
onK  the  hin-s,  Imt  als..  the  hones  and  t'^e  Ivm- 
phatic  -lands.     When  it  attacks  the  hones  it  is 
oftentimes  known  l)y  the  name  of  white-swcll- 
in-.     Sometimes  it  attacks  the  knee.  when,  in 
.-ome  <  i^es,  temporary  rehef  is  secured  hv  am- 
putating the  le-      P.ut  pe.haps  more  frequently 
It  attacks  tlie  hip-joint,  and  is  known  as  hip-dis- 
ease, or  wnite-swellin-.     Sometimes  it  attacks 
the  spinal  column,  and  results  in  curvature  of 
the  spine,  while  in  other  instances  it  attacks  the 
bones  in   other  portions  of  the  body,  causin- 
pain  and  a  diseased  condition  which  results  in 
a  gradual  wasting  and  destruction  of  the  bone, 
sometimes  in  such  a  way  as  to  allow  of  tempo- 
rary  relief  by   local   treatment,   and   at   other 
times  resulting  in  great  suffering  and  eventual 
death.     While  this  form  of  disease  is  not  recog- 
nized by  the  uninformed  as  the  same  disease  as 
consumption,  yet  by  medical  authorities  it  is  .11 
one  and  the  same,  and  known  as  tuberculosis. 

Tuberculosis  alsc  attacks  the  lymphatic 
glands,  results  in  enlargement  and  swelling, 
develo{)s  in  various  forms  which  are  oftf-n  treated 
surgically  and  in  other  ways,  sometimes  afford- 
ing relief,  and  in  other  instances  resultin-  in 
eventual  death.  The  disease,  however,  is"  all 
the  same,  whether  it  affects  the  lungs,  or  the 
bones,  or  the  lymphatic  gland  ..  It  is  a  terrible 
mheritance  to  bequeath  to  one's  cliild.en.  and 


^1 


'vm 


i9o   niiAT  A  roiyo  jiAy  oloiit  to  Kyow 


\\  ' 


h 


if  born  with  it   the  helpless  offspring' cannot  es- 
cape from  it.     The  youn<;  man  who  knowingly 
enters  into  an  alliance  for  hfc  with  one  who  has 
this  disease  hirking  in  h';r  system  will   he  sure 
to   fiiui   it   a   matter  of  the   jjravcst   moment. 
Abraham  Lincoln  said  that  every  man  who  con- 
tcmpl  itcs  marria^'e  ought  to  stand  over  the  fam- 
ily  physician   with  a  club  and  compel   him  to 
tell  the  truth  in  reference  to  the  chosen  partner 
of  his  life,  if  there  was  no  other  way  of  gcttin;^ 
the  information  out  of  him.     As    professional 
knowledge   is   a   professional   secret,  a  young 
man  could  scarcely  evpect  to  obtain  any  reli- 
able  information   from   a   physician   who   has 
been   the  regular  attendant  of   the  woman's 
family.     The  life  insurance  companies  do  not 
depend  for  their  information  upon  the  family 
physician,   but   upon    the   family  record.      If 
parents  or  grandparents,   brothers   or    sisters, 
uncles   or  aunts  have  been  affected  with  any 
form  of  tubercular    disease,   a    life    insur:Lnce 
company  will  know  that  that  same  disease  is 
liable  to  manifest  itself  at  any  time  in  all  the 
descendants  of  that  line.     Every  family  has  a 
pedigree,  an^  if  that  pedigree  can  be  honestly 
known  the  conclusions  may   be  regarded  as 
reasonably  safe.     The  young  woman  herself,  or 
even  her  parents,  however,  would  not  be  the 
reliable  authorities  to  whom  to  go  for  informa- 
tion in  a  matter  in  which  they  are  personally  so 
much  concerned,  {or  they  would  be  very  liable 
to  suppress  some  facts  and  distort  others. 
The  physical  condition  n{  woman  is  greatly 


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HJIATA   yoiSU  MAN  OlUUT  TO  KSOW.     I91 

to  be  deplored.     Civilization  has  placed  her  in 
an  enlarK'cd  intellectual  realm.     liut  up  to  the 
present,  m  the  physical  sphere,  as  a  class   she 
has    wholly    failed.     At    war,    at  work,  or   at 
play,  the  white  n  m  is  superior  to  the  sava-e 
and  culture  has  continually  improved  his  c<m- 
dition.     Hut  with  woman  the  rule  is  reversed 
Her  squaw  sister  will  endure  effort,  exposure 
and  hardship  which  would  k  d  the  white  wo- 
man.    Education,  which  has  resulted  in  devel- 
opmg  and  strengthening  the  physical  nature  of 
man,  because  of  folly,  fashion  and  food,  has 
been  perverted  so  as  to  render  woman  weaker 
and  weaker.     Civilization   has  aroused  man  to 
a   realization   of  his  noblest  powers.     He  has 
thrown  away  his  feathers  and  paint  and  the 
pretences  of  the    savage ;   while    womankind 
have  been  industrious    in    gathering    up    the 
feathers,  tne  paint   and   the  pretences    of  life 
and  has  enthron-1  them,  sayng:  "These  be 
thy  gods,  O  Israel  r     From  this  idolatrv.  from 
this  self-mf,icted  slavery  to  fashion,  from  these 
enervatmg  and  destructive  influences,  woman 
should  and   must  eventually   be   free.      Both 
among  beasts  and   birds  the  male  is  always 
more  notably  attired,  but  among  mankind  the 
unnatural  and  debasing  influences  of  the  oppo- 
site  are  everywhere  manifest. 

Sometimes,  even  where  a  woman  is  endowed 
with  fair  physical  powers  and  would  make  a 
helpful  and  congenial  companion  if  she  were 
equally  mated,  yet  in  her  ignorance  she  con- 
sents to  marry  a  man  of  great  amative  powers 


Iy2     lUlAT  A    yoi  yo  UAy  OiOIir  TO  KSOnr 


i  ♦ 


hi 


I     t. 


^t 


anil  insatiable  sexual  nature— a  man  with  thick 
neck,  ilecp  rhc^t.  with  almost  unliinitcil  phs  st- 
eal enduranrc— a  man  who  does  not  know  that 
he  has  a  sin-Ie  nerve  in  his  entire  body,  and 
one  who  (iimot  appreciate  the  fad  that  any 
other  person  has  any.  Such  a  union  cannot  he 
tlie  source  of  anythin^j  hut  misery  for  both 
parties  in  the  compact. 

The  same  result  is  inevitable  when  a  man 
who  is  weak  or  of  frail  constitution,  and  without 
powers  of  endurance,  marries  a  wo»nan  of  stron'» 
physical  powers,  dominant  sexual  nature, 
whose  sexual  longings  could  not  besatisfieil  ex- 
cept by  a  man  who  is  eipially  strong  and  of 
like  tendencies  ;  such  a  union  becomes  unsatis- 
factory, ar.d  oftentimes  results  in  alienation 
and  estrangement,  and  sometimes  in  unfaith- 
fulness to  the  marnage  vow. 

Vou  will  need  not  only  a  wife,  but  you  wi! 
need  also  a  companion.  In  such  an  alKance 
you  should  seek  intelligence.  A  woman  who 
is  ignorant  and  stupid,  or  one  -'ho  has  simply 
learned  to  drum  on  the  piano,  to  paint  a  few 
horrible  pictures,  and  do  a  litde  embroidery, 
cannot  properly  be  regarded  as  one  suited  for 
this  important  relation  of  life.  There  is  also  a 
large  class  of  young  women  who  deserve  to  be 
regarded  as  intelligent,  whcie  deportment  is 
irreproachable,  who  are  at  ease  in  good  societv, 
and  who  are  sometimes  even  pious,  but  after 
all,  who  are  devoid  of  those  higher  and  nobler 
characteristics  which  would  qualify  them  for 
companionship  with  a  man  of  intelligence,  and 


t^'ii.iTA  roisa  MAS  oirniT  TO  KS'ow.    ,93 
who  has    a    real   ^sork    ,0   accomplish    in    I.fe 

Wofth.s..assarecvcnasprett>asthe 
flower,    as  pure  as  the  snow,  as  sweet  as  th! 

^'cntlc  breath  ofsprin,.- educated- and  rehne<l 
»-t.-"-tcr  all.  of  no  earthly  use  either  to  then': 
selves  or  to  any..- e  else.     As  wives  and  help- 
meets tu^  can  never  he  anything,  but  wonh- 

as.   Jass  w.ll  Innld  club-tiouscs  as  refuges  for 

m-y,f  called  upon  to  reason  with  a  your  J 
man  who  was  about  to  take  upon  h.mself  such 
an  .ncu:  .hrance  for  life,  we  might  not  be  able 
to  formulate  what  to  him  wouhi  seem  a  vahd 
argument  against  h.s  alliance,  but  if  forced  to 
speak  accurately  we  could  scarcely  say  any- 
h.ng  more  than  that  they  are.  "  Good,  but  good 
for    noth.ng.-     They  are  mere  negat.ve  char- 

real  hfe  they  arc  not  likely  to  undertake  any- 
t^h'^ng  that  ,s  noble  or  worthy  of  true  woman- 

In  the  choice  of  a  wife  you  should  be  careful 
to  select  one  who  would  be  sure  to  begin  and 
contmue  in  harmony  with  your  sympathies  ana 
tastes.   ,n   order    that    you    may  be    mutual), 
happy,   helpful  and  harmonious.      A   woman 
should   not  simply  consent    to  her  husband's 
condmon  and  circumstances,  but  should  enter 
mo  h.s  hfc-purpose  with  such  enthusiasm  as 
w-11  help  him  to  make  the  very  best  of  all  his 
opportunities.    The  farmer  should  never  marry 
a  woman  who  hates  the  country,  nor  should  the 
man  whose  d    acs  require  him  to  live  in  a  large 


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194     WUAT  A   rOtSG  MAS  OlUItT  TO  KSOW 

city  choose  as  his  life  partner  one  who  cannot 
endure  bnck  walls,  pavea  sltccts.  or  the  bustle 
and  noise  of  a  \!,rc-Ai  city.     I'rofcssion.il  mtn 
often  make  very  serious  mistakes.    They  many 
women  only  to  d' scover  afterwards  that  they 
have  no  symp.itliy  with  them  in  their  ^Tcat  hfc- 
work.     As  the  years  con\c  and  ^  )  oftentimes,  a 
distatc  is  developed,  and  even  an  aversion,  for 
the  chosen   i)rofession   of  the  husl)and.      The 
woman    who   fuints    at   the   si^'ht  of  blood,  or 
shrinks  from  the  aches  and    infinnilics  of  the 
sufterinj;  people  anion^;  whom  he.   hush     d  iS 
to  spend  his  life,  is  thorou-hly  unfitted  to  be 
the  wife  of  a  physi*  ian.  much  L'ss  to  be  a  help- 
ful and  inspiriP':  companion.     <  »r   if  the  hus- 
band is  ever  ♦.<    apply  himself  to   his   chosen 
work  with  the  devotion  which   is  neces^uiy  to 
secure  professional  eminence,  or  even  pc  uni- 
ary   competency,  how  can   his   wife  be   other 
than   lonely,   dissatisfied,  and    even  positively 
unhappy  ? 

Often  unhappiness  and  misery  await  the 
minister  who  chooses  one  who  has  no  under- 
standing of  the  self-denials  which  are  insepa- 
rab'y  connected  with  the  pastoral  office —one 
who  has  no  sympathy  for  the  distressed  and  de- 
^-raded.  no  interest  in  a  religious  life  and  Chris- 
tian experience.  How  can  such  a  woman  ever 
hope  to  be  happy  or  contented  herself,  or  to  be 
succes.ful  in  anything,  except  in  an  effort  to 
make  her  husband  miserable,  to  insure  his  fail- 
ure, and,  possibly,  effect  his  riiin.  When  two 
persons  of  dissimilar  tastes  and  purposes  are 


nn.iT  A  yors'u  vi.y  nrniiT  to  ks-ow.    ,,,5 

yoke:  together  f„r  l,fc.  how  cm  there  ever  »>e 
anythiriK  other  th.m  a  constant  ronil.rt  of  in- 
tcrcst,,  and  a  con^c.l.icnt  unhapp.ncss  >  ••  Can 
two  walk  together,  ex.  opt  they  he  a^-rrcd  >'    " 

One  of  the  r.-.,w.sitcs  which  yo„  w.ll   need  to 
r.nd  ,„  a  Miitablc  w.fc  will  he  that  of  a  (.(m>o 
"o-  s..KK.:,.KK.      Home  .houl.l    afford    her     , 
sphere  sunr.cirnt  for  the  exercise  of  her  Krande.'t 
aml.mons.      It  ^s   not  eno-.^^h  that  she  sh.,  dd 
know  what  is  orderly  and  iuKood  keeping' when 
she  sees  .t.  hut  her  taste,  ^ool  jud^Mnent  andir.- 
dustrv   should    secure   these    essentials  in    her 
own  home.    Circumstances  may  he  such  that  it 
may  not    he  necessary  for  her  t<,   ^.,    into  the 
kitchen  .n   order  to  do  the   necessa^^  service 
there,  hut  she  should  he  compct.MU  to  .   ,  even 
that  in  times  of  extremity,  for  some  day  the 
Sickness  of  servants   or  reverses   in   business 
may   possibly   render   even  this    unavoidable 
IJut  sho  should  by  all  means  be  competent  to 
direct  wisely,  md  should  be  so  bu.ied  with  im- 
portant household  duties  and  cares  as  that  she 
should  not  be  idle,  for  an  idh  woman  is  an  up- 
happy   voman.    Cod  has  aciiu  ted  our  physical 
constitution  to  labor,  and   ^^o„  1  health  is  not 
possible  to  those  who  will  not  .all  their  physi- 
cal powers  into  active  ex*^  .ise.     Women  who 
are  constantly  seeking  "     ^rsion  and  entertain- 
ment, who  arc  absorbed  by  the  empty  and  ex- 
acting  demands   of  what   is  called  "society" 
who  are  extravagant  in  dress,  and   who  hon- 
estly contribute  nothing,  either  of  happiness  or 
comfort,  to  the  sum   of  the  world's  good,  are 


i 


ifjo    M".«  r  A  roisa  has  m  out  to  a  \'»ir 


r 

a 


re.illy  i«ll»-.s.  iiul  arc  pr.\i  tn  .illy  worthlr^s  as 
hrlprnccts.  Any  woman  <  l.iil  :.i  silki  anil  ^c.il 
arul  costly  ai'().'-rfl  <  an  look  plfis.mt  ami  smile 
attraitivcly  on  t  hestnut  Street  or  !■  ifth  A»c- 
nuc;  l)ut.  y<Min^  man,  the  woman  yoi'  want  t  > 
live  with  you  in  your  home  is  one  who  i  .;n  he 
a^'rccihle  and  helpful  in  the  miilst  of  every  ilas' 
burtlcns  and  self-tlenials — one  who  ran  mana^'e 
wisely  anil  well  with  much,  or,  if  n''<csi,a.y.  can 
live  < onlcntetUy  anil  happily  on  little,  fiarm;.; 
and  trv,^tin^;  (iod  and  ^'ivin^^  herself  in  loving 
devolioi;  to  her  husband  and  famdy. 

Perhaps  nowhere  in  'h'!  entire  round  of  liter- 
ature is  there  a  photo^'raph  of  a  more  he.iutiful, 
virtuous  aiul  industrious  woman  than  that  r)und 
in  the  thirty-tirsi  chapter  of  IVoverbs.  and  it 
deserves  a  place  in  the  thou;;ht  and  mind  of 
cve.y  youn^'  man.  that  he  may  have  a  standard 
of  female  excellem  e  : 

A  virtuous  woman  who  ran  tind  ? 

Yor  h'-r  price  is  far  j'bovo  rulnes. 

The  heart  of  her  husbanu  trustcth  in  her, 

And  he  shall  have  no  lack  of  giiin. 

She  docth  him  K""<^1  «'^"*^1  '^"^  ^^'^^ 

All  the  days  of  lier  life. 

She  scekcth  wool  and  tla.x. 

And  worketh  wiUin<^ly  with  her  hands. 

She  is  like  the  merchant-ships  ; 

She  brin^eth  her  food  from  afar. 

She  riscth  also  while  it  is  vet  nij^ht. 

And  givcth  meat  to  her  household. 

And  their  task  to  her  maidens. 

She  considereth  a  field,  and  buyeth  it: 


Pi    1 


i 


T 


nii.i  T  .<  vol  .\()  MAS  oianr  to  aaoik    197 

With  the  fiuit  of  hrr  hantis  ^hc   planteth  .» 
vincN.ird. 
She  ^'inlcth  hrr  loins  with  strcn^'th, 
And  in.ikfth  <>tr{)n^  her  .irm>.. 
She  pcrtcivctli  tl.af  tirrnR-  liand 


isc  is  t)rofit- 


able 


llcrlarnp  ^'-xth  nr)t  (uit  l>y  ni^'ht. 
She  layct!>  htr  l>and->  (..  tlic-  di->la(r, 
And  hiT  harcK  hold  the  ^jjindle. 
She  sprcailcth  out  htr  hand  to  the  poor; 
Nea,    ^hc   ica<hcth    lottli    licr   hands    to    the 
needy. 

She  is  not  afraid  of  the  now  for  her  house- 
hold ; 

h  or  all  her  household  arc  clothe<l  with  srarJet. 
he  niakcth  for  herself  carpets  of  tapestry  ; 

Her  clothinjj  is  fine  hnrn  and  purple. 

Her  husband  iskr.'i\  n  in  the  ^''^tes, 

When  he  sitteti.  among  the  ciders  of  the 
land. 

She  makcth  linen  ,;  n  Monts  and  selleth  them  ; 
And  dclivcrth  ),Mrdlc    unto  the  merchant. 
Strength  anti  dignity  arc  her  clothing  ; 
And  she  laugheth  at  the  time  to  come. 
She  opcneth  her  mouth  with  wisdom  : 


And  the  law  of  kindncs 


s  is  on  her  tongue. 


She  looketh  well  to  the  wavs  of  her  1 


hold. 


louse- 


And  eatcth  not  the  l)read  of  idleness. 
Her  children  rise  up.  ar.d  call  her  blessed; 
Her  husband  a/.w,  ..nd  I.e  pn^iseth  her,  say- 


t/ti;'  : 


Many  daughters  have  done  virtuously, 


igS     H'lLlT  A   VOiyG  MAS  OUGHT  TO  KSOW 


h  < 


I' 


Iiut  thou  exccUest  them  all. 

Favuur  is  dctoitfnl,  and  l)caiity  is  vain  : 

Ih/f  a  woman  that  fcareth  the  Lord,  she 
shall  l)c  ;)rai.se(l. 

(live  her  (jf  the  fiiiit  of  her  hands  ; 

And  let  her  works  praise  her  in  tlie  ^ates. 

The  woman  whom  you  want  should  be  [)ure 
m  her  person,  pure  in  her  thiju;^!:!,  j)ure  in  her 
life,  pure  in  her  heart.  If  virtue  and  purity  are 
wantinj^,  everythin^^  else  is  w■anti^^^  Let  the 
suspicion  (;f  impurity  rest  upon  a  woman,  or 
let  the  thought  of  a  wife  wander  beyond  her 
own  home  and  her  own  husband,  and  the  rul)y 
tt  sullied,  the  jewel  is  gone,  and  tliat  forever, 
and  brightness  goes  out  from  the  home  which 
is  left  in  unutterable  darkness. 

The  woman  who  is  to  be  your  life-partner 
should  not  only  be  qualified  to  become  your 
v.ife  and  companion,  but  should  also  be  willin.: 
to  become  the  mother  of  a  respectable-sized 
family,  and  find  in  her  children  her  joy  and 
comfort,  and  in  their  care  and  training  the 
highest  inspiration  of  her  life.  In  these  days, 
when  so  many  women  enter  the  marriage  rela- 
tion for  the  purpose  of  practically  leading  a  life 
of  legalized  prostitution,  and,  with  the  sanction 
of  the  law,  shield  themselves  from  the  odium 
and  reproach  which  justly  belong  to  the  licen- 
tious life  they  live,  it  becomes  important  that, 
in  the  selection  of  a  wife,  a  young  man  should 
give  some  consideration  to  this  subject. 

While  the  proprieties  of  life  render  it  im- 
proper for  him  to  converse  with  young  women 


IVIUT  A    yO!\G  MAX  OrailT  TO  hWOW. 


199 


-ipon  this  subject,  yet,  from  their  tondness  or 
aversion  to  children,  their  devotion  to  domestic 
life,  or  the  all-absorbing'  manner  in  which  they 
give  themselves  up  to  the  em[)ty,  trifling,  and 
unsatisfactory  things  of  life,  one  may  form  at 
least  some  idea  as  to  what  would  be  probable 
in  this  matter.    ( ^od  created  woman  not  only  to 
become  a  wife,  but  also  a  mother.     Her  health, 
her  happiness,  and  all  that  is  most  worth  hav- 
ing, are  only  to  be  secured  by  her  (  onformity 
to  this  divine  purpose.     The  woman  who  rriters 
the  marriage  state  simply  desiring  to  obtam  the 
social  place  or  sexual  pleasure  which  it  affords, 
and  is  not  willing  to  assume  its  duties  and  obli- 
gations, prostitutes   her   most   exalted   endow- 
ments, and  shuts  the  door  of  her  home  against 
the  entrance  of  the  angels  of  life  and  blessing. 
No  home  that  is  without  children  can  be  per- 
fectly happy  ;  and  barrenness,  whether  natural 
or  enforced,  is  sure  to  bring  regret,  and,  pos- 
sibly, even  eventual  estrangement. 

It  is  also  important  that  there  should  be  no 
undue  disparity  of  age.  People  who  are  not 
acquainted  with  the  laws  of  their  own  nature 
are  not  likely  to  appreciate  the  importance  of 
this  injunction.  As  a  rule,  women  develop 
and  mature  about  three  years  earlier  than 
men,  and,  other  things  being  equal,  there 
should  usually  be  about  that  difference  in 
their  ages.  Occasionally  there  are  girls  who 
develop  the  characteristic  of  womanhood  at 
the  early  age  of  thirteen  or  fourteen,  and 
whose  outward  manifestations  of  physical  de- 


If 


200     H7/.jr.l    rUl^O  MA.\  OrW'T  TO  h'.\oi\ 


\t 


velopment  are  far  in  achance  of  their  years, 
but  a  tot)  eariy  maturity  is  a  very  oatl  physical 
indication.  Karly  maturity  means  early  decay, 
and  where  at  all  abnormal  is  an  indication  of 
disease.  If  you  ;;o  into  a  peach  orchard  early 
in  tiie  season,  whiln  the  ^reat  ma'.s  of  the  fruit 
is  yet  unripe,  you  may  discover  an  occasional 
peach  which  seems  further  advanced  and  more 
mature  than  the  rest.  Its  external  appearance 
may  be  promising;  and  invitinj;,  but  when  you 
come  to  examine  such  fruit  you  find  that  it  is 
wormy  and  diseased.  The  fruit  which  is  matur- 
ing naturally  and  normally  may  be  more  tardy^ 
simply  because  '.  is  more  healthy. 

The  reason  why  there  should  be  no  great 
disparity  of  years  will  appear  when  we  say  that 
usually  between  the  age  of  forty-five  and  fifty 
a  woman  arrives  at  what  is  known  as  the  period 
of  her  "  change  of  Mfe."     Then  her  monthly 
periods  gradually  modify ,  and  after  some  months 
or  a  few  years  entirely  disappear,  and  the  sexual 
nature  receives  a  great  modification.     It  is  then 
that  a  woman  passes  the  old  age  of  her  youth 
a  nd  enters  upon  the  youth  of  her  old  age.    In  this 
modified  stage  of  hfe  the  woman  no  longer  de- 
.  sit    -,.  or  at  least  no  longer  seeks,  the  sexual  rela- 
tion with  her  h     band,  and  if  he  is  much  younger 
than  his  wife,  and  his  sexual  nature  is  yet  ardent, 
estrangement,  and  even  unfaithfulness,  not  in- 
frequently occurs,  and  in  almost  every  consid- 
erable community  some  instances  ma_,  be  found 
where  the  unhap-nness  becomts  so  great  that 
suicide  and  even  murder  are  known  to  result 


H 


nJiAT  A  roL-ytj  .v.i.v  on; jit  to  hyoir.   201 

If  the  man  is  miK  h  older  than  the  woman, 
and  he  passes  the  modified  period  of  :iis  hfe,' 
whKh    usually    or-.:;s  between    forty-five   and 
fifty,   while  she  retains  her  sexual  activity  m 
marked  vi<,'or,  frequent  intercourse  is  likely  to 
result  in  physical  weakness,  the  brain  is  liable 
to    become   impoverished   and  the   mind    en- 
feebled, and  even  softening  of  the  brain  m.n 
follow  as  a  natural  result.     If,  however,  a  hus- 
band who  is  much  older  than  his  wife  becomes 
conscious  of  the  waning  of  his  sexual  powers 
and  abstains— as  he  should— from  the   sexual 
relation  in  order  to  preserve  his  physical  and 
m.-ntal  strength  and  to  retain  his  virile  powers 
the  wife  is  likely  to  seek  the  innoce   ^  attentions 
and     ivors  of  younger  men,  and  on  this  ac- 
count often  awakens  jealousy  s     .  even  unjust 
suspicions.     Because  of  increasing  sexual  dis- 
parity, unhappiness.  or  even  misery  is  liable  to 
result.     Before  marriage  nnd  while  in  love,  or 
v.hile  the  sexual  powers  of  both  are  vigorous  and 
active,  they  may  reason  that  in  case  of  event- 
ual  sexual  disparity  either  would   have  judg- 
ment enough  to  recognize  the  situation  and  gov- 
ern himself  or  herself  accordingly  ;   but  after  a 
lapse  of  years,  when  modified  mental  and  phys- 
ical  conditions  have  come,  the  results  which 
have  been  the  inheritance  of  others  similarly 
situated  are  likely  also  '.o  be  realized  in  their 
own  sad  experience. 

Every  community  also  affords  illustrations  of 
misery  and  some  of  murder  which  are  the  result 
of  the  marriage  of  mere  children,  or  because 


m 


'ii' 


202    WHAT  A  yoiyn  ma.\  ought  to  ksow. 


l\ 


\\ 


of  the  iinion  of  the  innocent  and  unsuspecting 
with  those  who  have  been  notoriously  vicious 
and  corrupt.  The  sentiments  which  may  pre- 
dominate durinj;  the  earher  years  of  wedded 
life  will  be  quite  sure  t )  yield  to  a  sterner  sense 
later  on. 

No  other  single  transaction  in  life  enables  a 
man  so  easily  and  satisfiictorily  to  determine 
the  future  financial  and  social  condition  of  his 
iamily  as  marriage.  With  regard  to  the  finan- 
cial question,  no  young  man  can  afford  to 
marry  simply  for  money.  Into  a  surer  servi- 
tude and  into  a  more  unqualified  wretchedness 
it  would  be  difficult  for  one  to  plunge  himself. 
"  Better  is  a  dinner  of  herbs,  where  love  is,  than 
a  stalled  ox,  and  hatred  therewith."  Prefei 
poverty  and  blessedness  to  money  and  misery 
Be  willing,  if  necessary,  to  start  plainly  and 
work  for  larger  possibilities  further  on.  While 
we  would  make  this  advice  emphatic,  we  would 
at  the  same  time  most  heartily  condemn  the 
marriage  of  those  who  pay  the  preacher  the  last 
dollar  and  then  ctart  penniless.  You  cannot 
buy  meat,  purchase  carpets,  or  pay  grocery  bills 
with  sentiment.  These  will  require  money — 
cold  cash. 

Let  your  love  be  intelligent ;  mix  your  affec- 
tions with  brains.  Do  not  plume  your  fancy  so 
that  you  will  only  find  an  empty  pocket  and  au 
empty  pate.  It  is  just  as  legitimate  for  a  man  to 
seek  a  woman  of  intelligence,  health  and  wealth, 
as  one  who  is  without  anv  of  these  three.  We 
have  always  admired  the  sentiment  of  a  college 


«'//.! r  ^  yoi-yo  MAy  oioiir  to  ksow.   20., 

classmate  who  said  :  ••  I  do  not  believe  in  mar- 
ry.n;;  for  money  ;  but  if  I  loved  a  girl,  and  she 
happened  to  have  some  money.  I  would  neve 
go  back  on  her  on  that  account  " 

The  question  of  a  home  and  the  means  to 
purchase  and  maintain  it  are  as  worthy  of  con- 

Other    things    bemg   equal,  a    young   woman 
-ho  happens  to  have  some  money  I   surely 
no    ess  worthy  of  your  love  and  affection     n 
that  account.     He  careful,    however,   lest   the 
financial  consideration  should  blind  you  to  the 
absence  of  other  qualities  which  are  absolutely 
ndispensaUe  for  happiness  in  the  marriage  re- 
^t.on.     Money  may  save  from   cark.ng'care 
may  secure  comfort  and  enable  you  to  live  in 
affluence  ;  but  wealth,  unless  earned  by  hones" 
.ndust^,  almost  universally  results  in'corrod 
ng  and  corrupting  the  character,  rather  than 
m  brightening  and  strengthening    it.     Money 
and  happiness  are  by  no  means  related.    Pven 
the  word  miser  means  miserable.     A  man'with 
his  millions  may  be  his  own  unpaid  clerk      Re 
member  that  you  can   wear  but  one  suit  !f 
clothes  at  a  time,  eat  but  three  meals  a  day  and 
s  eep  ,n  but  one  bed  at  a  time,     ^'erv  few  men 
are  rich  and  restful  ;  more  are  rich  and  restless 
Paul  says  '.Godliness  with  contentment  is  great 

It  is  important  that  a  husband    and    wife 
hou  d  no.  be  unec.a.,y  yoked  together  in  any 
:„el-    "IT:!!" .!:>-'■  -'--  '"an  you^ 


I 


•nferior  or  superior.    Where  there  is   a 


^'reat 


204    H7/.ir.i  ro lya  max  ok.iit  to  ksow. 


r 


disparity,  cither  sorially.  intellectually,  finan. 
cially.  leli^'ioii^Iy.  or  in  any  other  respect,  dis- 
appointment and  unhappiness  ate  likely  to  be 
the  result.  Ilsen  the  niarria^'c  of  Christians 
who  have  l)een  brought  up  under  the  intUienre 
of  different  branches  of  the  C  hurc  h  i:,  often  dis- 
membered as  the  result  of  differences  in  reli},'ious 
training  and  experience. 

If  you  desire  your  home  to  afford  a  foretaste 
of  heaven,  you  can  only  reasonably  hope  for 
such  a  result  when  the  woman  who  bee  omes 
your  wife  is  devout  and  godly.  The  best  that 
is  in  human  nature  is  never  called  into  e.\er- 
cise  where  the  mo.al  and  religious  nature  is 
dwarfed  or  atrophied.  Character  never  finds 
its  best  development  until  the  physical,  intellec- 
tual and  moral  are  alike  developed  into  a  well- 
rounded  symmetry.  The  best  husband  who 
ever  lived  has  always  had  enough  weaknesses 
to  call  into  largest  exercise  the  patient  endur- 
ance and  Christian  charity  of  the  best  woman 
who  ever  lived.  What  the  husband  is,  what  he 
hopes  to  be,  is  only  possible  when  he  has  the 
sympathy  and  assistance  of  a  godly  wife. 
Ahab  was  what  Jezebel  made  him,  and  you  will 
Hkely  be  largely  what  your  wife  makes  you. 

Not  only  will  her  religious  character  modify 
your  own  life,  but  her  thought  and  her  life  must 
mould  or  mar  the  thought  and  the  life  of  your 
children.  If  she  lacks  in  moral  character,  your 
children  will  suffer  a  loss  that  cannot  be  sup- 
plied them  in  any  other  way,  and  if  her  influ- 
ence should  be  exercised  against  spiritual  inter- 


nuAT  A  roiyo  j/.i.v  onuiT  to  k'^om:  205 

csts,  no  opposing'  intliience  can  fully  counteract 
the  sad  results. 

If  you  arc  careful  in  the  purchase  of  a  horse, 
which  ycu  may  dispose  of  if  not  found  satis- 
factory,  much  more  should  you  be  judicious 
and  call  your  caution  into  fullest  exercise  in  the 
selection  of  one  who  is  to  be  your  life-partner, 
and  <'rom  whom  you  can  only  be  separated  by 
death.     Take  time.     He  judicious.     (;o  slowly. 
If  you  rush  into  marriay;c  with  h.iste,  you  will 
likely  spend  the  rest  of  your  life  in  a  perpetual 
penance.     Don't  fall  in  love.    A  man  only  falls 
when  he  is  helpless.     Keep  your  affections,  and 
your  judgment,    and    yourself  well    in    hand. 
Keep  your  feet  under  you.     Take  in  the  whole 
situation,  and  when  you  find  yourself  in  love  be 
sure  you  did  not  fall  in.     A  Russian  proverb 
says  :  "  Measure  your  cloth  ten  times,  for  you 
can  cut  it  only  once."     Be  careful  lest  the  skele- 
ton of  horror  steal  into  yc       'ife  and  enthrone 
itself  where   God   designed  that  an  angel   of 
peace  and  ulessing  should  preside. 

If  you  want  to  be  happy  in  your  home,  have 
the  peace  of  God  in  your  own  heart  also.  Trust 
Him  to  direct  your  steps  in  this  matter,  as  in 
every  other  important  matter  in  life.  Ask  God 
to  direct  your  steps  as  he  directed  the  steps  of 
Isaac  and  Rebekah,  of  Jacob  and  Rachel. 
"  Commit  thy  ways  unto  him  and  he  will  di- 
rect thy  steps,"  for  "  The  steps  of  a  good  man 
are  ordered  of  the  Lord." 


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CHAI'TKF<  XII. 


IMPORTANCE    OK    (.REAT    CAUTION. 

TnK  man  who  m.ikes  a  mistake  in  the  selec- 
tion of  a  wife,  makes  one  of  the  m-.st  K'rievous 
blunders  that  is  possibli-  to  hmi  in  hfe.     Mar- 
riage is  for  life,  "  For  1-ctter  or  for  worse,  until 
death  do  you  part."  and  a  mistake  here  is  ir- 
reparable, often  fatal.     In  a  matter  of  marriaj^e, 
more  than  in  any  other,  the  jud-ment  is  likely 
to  be  warped  by  sentiment  or  swayed  by  pas- 
sion.    If  a  young  man  does  not  deceive  him- 
self, decc,.tions  are  likely  to  be  practiced  upon 
him.     Many  people  who  could   be  (horoughly 
relied  upon  for  honest  dealings  in  a  business 
transaction,  seem  to  think  it  no  wrong  to  dis- 
semble and  deceive  a  young  man  concerning 
the  moral,  mental,  physical,  or  financial  condi- 
tion of  a  daughter,   sister,  or  intimate  female 
acquaintance.     Perhaps  it  is  not  putting  it  too 
strongly  when    we   say  that    one-third  of  the 
great  mass   of  young  women  are   unqualified 
ever  to  become  wives  or  mothers,  because  of 
false  education  and  inherited  or  acquired  in- 
firmities.    From  one-half  to  two-thirds  of  ^11 
our  married  women  suffer  from  some  form  of 
womb  trouble.      Young  girls,  who  are   wholly 
ignorant  of  the  delicate  texture  of  their  sexual 
organism,  and  without  dreaming  of  the  serious 
consequences   which   are    to    follow,   contract 

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Mll.iT  A   yniMi  .v.l.v  (tnillT  TO  won; 


fhcir  w.ii^ts.  and  tluis(  rowd  tin*  r ontcnts  of  the 
rntiic  .il.domm.il  ( .uity  liclow  what  :-,  a  natural 
|>..>iti,  n.      I!y  tlii>.  mcaii^  tlu- wi.inl)  i<,f()r<ct!oiit 
(.f  it,  <lcsi-ru-(l   pla.  c,  and,  wlu-n   the?  stra:      is 
r.intiniicd.   iiniation  and  wckncs-,  - 'suh   in  a 
rhronir  ((indition.  whi.  h  i\u'v  '  'v  dr\  i-I-.ps  .i(tcr 
niania^^c  into  the  vt-ry  prc\  alcnt    •  f.dhn-  of  the 
^^  ■ml),"  ca..sint.r  a  tlra.i,',i,Mnr  or  l)rarin,--(lo\vn 
-vnsation    in    tlic   lourr  part  ..f  the  abdomen, 
p.iin  in  the  liac!.,  n-Muhni-ss  of  the  lower  iiinl)-,, 
and  a  -cnct.il    disconitort  and    misery,   whi<  h 
must  often  he  shared  for  years  hvall  who  dwell 
under  the  s.uiic  roof  with  its  unfortunate  an.l 
unhappy  vidim.      Co  a  woman   thus   aftlirted 
life  is  a  hurdcvi  and   mani.\i,'e  a  curse,  rather 
than   a  hlessin.v;.      False  ideas  of  form,   cruel 
and  destructive  fashion,  and  {)erni(  ious  cdur a- 
tion  accomplish  this  terril.le  ruin  of  human  life 
and  human  happiness,     lure,  or  even  allevia- 
tion of  discomfort  and  sutf■erin^^  are  doubtful 
and  difficult,  and  the  man  who  marries  a  woman 
with  a  compressed  waist  may  reasonably  expert 
a  sufficient  inheritance  of  misery  to  last  all  the 
rest  of  his  natural  life.     The  man  who  marries 
such   a    worn  in,    instead  of  obuiinin;;   a  help- 
meet, imposes  upon  himself  a  burden.     He  may 
be  i-norant  of  it  at  the  time,  brt  he  will  be  sure 
to  know  it  later  on.     In   clothin;,^   the  body  we 
rhould  seek  comfort  and  concealment;  but  if 
judged  by  the  ^Mrmcnts  that  are  so  often  seen, 
we    mi-ht   rij^htly    suppos-_   that   clothin-   was 
made  so  as  to  secure  discomfort  and  disclosure. 
Any  style  of  clothinj  that  violates  the  sense  of 


mi.i  r  .i  i  or  so  ma\  ntaur  to  ksow    ro<) 

modesty,  or  the  laws  of  health,  is  tu.t   simply 
uiircMM,n.i!>lf,  l)ut  ahsohitcly  wu  keil. 

While  |)liysi(al  weakness   amoii;,'  women   is 
cx«  eedin-ly  more  prevalent  than  mental  weak- 
ness, yet  the  «|iiestion  of  mental  ^^-c•n^;th  is  otic 
of  Kreat  importanc  e.     in  many  •ust.inces  where 
thereare  inheritt-,!  tendenc-s  to  ins;inity.  whi(  h 
may  n  >t  l)e  very  pp-noimt  ed.  yet.  if  they  do  p  ,t 
show  themselves  at  other  tm»es,  they  arc  likely 
to  .ippc  r  at  the  monthly  period  of  female  su  k- 
ncss,  or  in  times  of  protrartetl  illness  or  death 
in  the  family,  or  when  financial  reverses  come, 
or  when  ( ares  and  anxieties  weij;h  with  such 
pressure  as  to  tax  the  endurance  of  those  who 
have  inherited  the  strongest  physi.  al  and  men- 
tal powers.     Where  it  exists,  and  is  not  mini- 
fcsted  at  such   times  or  during  the  period  of 
child-l>carin}r,  it   is  more  than   likely         come 
out  dearly  Ixjtween  the  a^^^es  of  forty  .         hftv, 
when  a  "  chanj,'e  of  life  "  occurs  with  women.'  ' 
If  a  woman  is  deceitful,  untruthful,  untidy,  a 
pad-about,  a  j;f>ssi{).  extravagant,  a  sloven  in 
dress   or   housekeeping,    contrary   and    mean- 
tempered,  contemptuous,  or  has  other  charac- 
teristics  which    make    her    an     incompatible 
companion,    t'lcse     traits     of     character     had 
better  be  discovered   and   recognized   in   due 
time.     If  in  moral  principle  she  is  lax  or  irre- 
ligious, she  will  set  up  under  your  roof  a  little 
heathenism  in  the  mids'    f  a  surrounding  Chris- 
tian civilization.     If  she  is  always  contrary  and 
obstinate,  she  will  oppose  your  most   carefully 
leveloped  plans  and  wisest  judgments.     She 

14 


III  'i 


2IO    HiiATA   ynt  sa  MAS  omtir  To  kSoW. 

will  n|)p()^c  you  in  every  I)ll^in('^s  urnlcttakin^j, 
wlictluT  ri,;lit  cir  v.rnn;^;.  .mil  re  i^f  you  in  the 
government  .uul  tlis<  ifiliiie  of  yoiir  i  luUlrcn  ; 
antl,  however  ni.ii  h  you  may  rciMrt  the  aliNcnoe 
of  that  h.irniony  between  parenl .  without  whi-  h 
children  « annot  l)c  proprrly  e<hi<  atc«l  a:vl 
trained,  yet,  in  spite  of  vour  lic-.t  effoit-,,  you 
\m11  jjartially  or  wholly  fail  in  the  htin;,'inj;  u|) 
of  the  sons  and  ilau^^hlers  who  should  he  the 
joy  anil  romfoit  of  your  declining;  years. 

To  reap  the  cvntual  results  of  a  distrarteil 
family  recpures  oidy  that  the  husband  ."nd  wife 
should  make  diver^'cnt  a  ins  and  ambitions  the 
occasion  of  frcipient  strife  in  the  presence  of 
their  children.  Inless  you  and  your  wife  shouUl 
pi  ovc  to  be  ditfcrent  from  all  the  rest  of  humanity, 
she  will  dou-.inate  and  rule  over  you  in  spite  of 

)ursclf,  .nd  you  may  as  well  reco^'nize  that 
l.K  t  .inil  count  upon  it  from  the  very  beyin- 
ninjj.  If  she  is  sweet  and  gentle,  devoted  and 
loving,  she  will  hold  and  sway  and  rule  you  by 
her  loving'  devotion  and  wcnnanly  wor  'i,  and 
if  she  is  <lcvoid  of  these  good  (piahties,  she 
will  nc\erthclfss  rule  you,  'nit  in  sucli  a  spirit 
that  you  will  be  sure  to  recognize  the  fact  that, 
while  you  are  being  driven  contrary  to  you. 
wihh  and  judgment,  you  arc  yet  rom[)clled  to 
follow  her  dictation  and  dirertion,  or  arc  forced 
to  sacriiice  llv."  respect  in  wliich  ycu  and  your 
family  arc  held  in  the  community,  and  by  con- 
tention and  strife  either  liismembcr  your  family 
or  be  compcllcil  to  ilwcH  in  wliat  is  practically 
a  purgatory  upon  earth. 


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o'HilT  Tn  h\<)\r 


211 

'!>  I-^Ml.-r.  ,,.urf.an.I.,,,,MrcI.  somru.mcn 

wl.u.u,..l..wM.|  ..f.lur.utcr  pr.i.„.c..,.a-.MrK 

''^•'••l.'.oM    uhui.  .,nen   s.rvc.    ...   I.e^uilc  an.l 

ni..lfM|   tLcimautinu-,  and  unHu.pn  ,in'     I,,  t 

even  tlu.  more  d.s.  crnm^-  an.l  j.ulu  .,.„.  ..r..'  ,|.„ 

often   nu.Ukcn   rrspc  t...^'  the  he.,  th,   .hspcsi- 

tion    .  h.,r.,r,cr.  and  Kcncral   ,  a,,.,,  a       .,  ih-.r 

f«.r  u»w,m  an  adm.ratuM,  ha.  been  avvakene.l  ,„ 

t  H-.r  thon.ht  an.l  fan,  y.     It  .s  often  well  t„  .erure 

t'"-  "I'lr.K.nof.nme  disinterested  an<l  sensible 

w...n.u,.  who  ,s  well  a,  .,„ainte,l  u  „h  the  Jamiiv 
fnstory  and  ns  ho  ,s  aNo  famd.ar  w.ti,  any  e. .  en- 
truu.e.  and  ,h  ,  Mliarities  of  the  vounK'  '-voman 
hcr.elf.     S.Mh    acquaintances    are    not    alwavs 
ea^   t<,  find.   an.l.    t.nle  >s  wh.,!|y  d.s.ntcrestcl 
and  Mupart^d.  the  op.n.un  expresse.l  woul.l  be 
nmlead.ng  and  unsafe.     The  judgment  of  your 
"wn   sister  m  the  matter  might  be  valuable  cr 
the  .mpart.al  ju.lgment  of  s..me  man  of  middle 
..»e.  who  .s   not   blind    t.,    love,   might    prove 
s.gni.uant  and  suggestive.     Ut   your  advisers 
be  few  an.l  carefully  chosen. 

Do  not  .Icspisc  a  pretty  face  when  seeking  a 
'•-mpanion  for  life.     Hut  good  health,  an  ami- 
able disposition,  religious  culture,  a  knowlch-e 
of  the  practical  every-day  duties   of  l,fe,  and 
^iich  education   and  training   as   w.U   tend   to 
assure  unity  of  purpose  and  an  earnest  co-oiie- 
r.it.on  m  your  chosen  l.f,,.-work.  are  much  to  be 
!"cferrcd.     The  essential  requisites  in  a  com- 
panion,  which  are  nec-^sary  t.    insure  hn  .pi. 
ness  and  a  life  of  .levo      n.  are  to  be  found  in 
strength  of  character,  a   aealthy  bo.ly,  a  judi- 


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212     WHAT  A   YOl'NG  MAN  OUGHT  TO  K'^OW. 


IN 


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cious  head,  a  loving  heart,  and  these  all  brought 
into  attune  with  a  high  and  holy  life-purpose. 

A  woman  whose  powers  are  even  a  little  be- 
low the  average  may  answer  for  a  period,  and 
may  meet  the  requirements  of  ordinary  life, 
but  she  will  be  sure  to  fail  you  in  the  great 
events,  in  the  struggles  and  trials  and  adversi- 
ties which  are  sure  to  come,  and  which  try 
men's  -ouls.  The  man  who  has  such  a  wife  is 
very  much  like  the  man  in  the  Scripture  who 
had  a  house  which  was  built  upon  sand  ;  while 
the  days  were  pleasant  and  the  sun  was  shining, 
the  air  balmy,  and  it  was  more  pleasant  to  live 
out  of  doors  than  in  the  house,  he  was  quite  as 
well  situated  as  his  neighbor,  whose  house  was 
built  upon  a  rock.  While  he  had  no  need  for  a 
house,  he  bad  one  which  was  seemingly  good. 
But  in  the  day  when  a  house  was  most  needed, 
when  "the  rains  descended  and  the  floods 
came,  and  the  winds  blew  and  beat  upon  xhat 
house"— ill  the  very  hour  when  the  storm  and 
tempest  cams  upon  that  man's  head,  and  he 
most  needed  a  place  of  shelter,  he  was  home- 
less and  houseless.  Re  wise.  Be  judicious. 
Remember  that  marriage  is  not  for  a  day,  or 
year ;  not  simply  for  the  periods  of  prosperity, 
but  for  life,  ibr  the  times  of  adversity,  when  in 
the  darkness  you  will  need  somebody  to  stand 
by  you,  that  each  may  be  to  the  other  an  inspi- 
ration, a  help,  and  a  stay. 

In  the  inflicting  of  punishment  in  the  olden 
time  it  was  the  custom  in  some  countries  to 
chain  a  prisoner  face  to  face,  in  actual  contact 


WHAT  A  rouya  max  ought  to  k^ 


OH'.    213 


with  a  dead  body.     For  d 


ays  and  even  weeks 


he  was  compelled  to  breathe  its  foul  od 


look  into  a  face  of  dec 


01s.  to 


effort  of  his  ow 
self  f:om  tht 


ay  and  death,  and  l)v 


was  he  able  to  liberate  hi 


no 

ni- 


l  corrupti 


itrefacti 
he  loathed,  an( 

It  was  to  this  form  of  punishment  that  St.  Paul 
refers    when    he    cries    out    and    says:    "Oh 
wretched  man  that  I  am,  who  shall  deliver  me 
from  this  body  of  death  ?"  or  dead  body.     As 
the  spiritual  nature  of  Paul  cries   out  in  these 
words  for  deliverance  from   the  corruption  of 
the  unregenerated,  natural,  sinful  man,  in  like 
manner  will  every  man  who  is  married,  like 
Socrates,  to  a  regular  Xantippe,  long  to  be  de- 
hvered  from  that  to  which  he  is  bound  in  an  in- 
separable marriage  union.     Be  warned  by  the 
sad  experiences  of  such  men  as  James  Fergu- 
son,  John  Milton,  John  Ruskin,  Frederick  W. 
Robertson,  and  scores  of  men  who  may  be  found 
in  almost  any  considerable  community. 

While  most  men  are  what  their  wives  make 
them,  and  secure  only  that  amount  of  success 
in  life  which  th«ir  wives  make  possible,  there 
are  exceptional  men  who  have  risen  above  un- 
favoring  conditions  and  have  become  great, 
and  good  and  useful,  in  spite  of  adversities  and 
domestic  infelicities.  To  this  class  of  men 
difficulties  have  not  been  an  impediment,  but 
seem  to  have  constituted  a  pedestal  which  has 
elevated  them  above  the  great  mass  of  comnion 
humanity.  John  Wesley,  one  of  the  world's 
great  and  good  men,  was  married  to  one  of  the 


214     H7/.ir.l   yOiWU  MAS  OUGHT  TO  KXOW. 


\\  ! 


most  unreasonable,  outrageous,  and  scandalous 
of  women.  While  he  preached  in  City  Road 
Chapel  his  wife  sat  in  the  audience  niakinjj 
mouths  at  him.  On  one  occasion,  when  he 
spoke  of  the  slanders  which  had  been  uttered 
against  him,  and  declared  that  he  had  been  a  j- 
cused  of  every  sin  and  crime  except  drunken- 
ness, his  wife  arose  in  the  audience  and  accused 
him  of  having  been  drunk,  when  the  gieat 
founder  of  Methodism  exclaimed:  "Thank 
God,  the  catalogue  is  complete."  One  day 
while  James  Ferguson,  the  philosopher,  was  lect- 
uring, his  wife  entered  the  room  and  wilfully 
upset  his  astronomical  instruments.  Turning 
to  the  audience  the  great  philosopher  said  : 
"  Ladies  and  gentlemen,  I  have  the  misfortune 
to  be  married  to  this  woman." 

What  we  have  said  has  not  been  with  the 
thought  of  turning  the  mind  of  any  properly 
qualified  young  man  from  entering  the  marriage 
relation,  but  to  awaken  thought,  to  arouse  cau- 
tion, to  put  you  well  on  your  guard,  to  save  you 
from  making  a  fatal  mistake.  When  you  find 
a  pure-minded,  noble,  whole-souled  woman,  of 
suitable  age,  with  good  physical,  mental  and 
spiritual  qualifications,  one  who  is  affectionate 
in  her  nature,  loves  you,  is  sympathetic  with 
your  work,  and  responsive  to  your  great  pur- 
poses in  life,  and  is  appreciative  of  that  which 
is  purest,  noblest  and  best  in  you ;  if  you  are 
yourself  pure  in  thought  and  life,  and  can  bring 
a  similar  contribution  of  excellent  qualifications, 
your  duty  is  plain,  your  joy  is  complete,  your 


I 


miATA   YOiyu  MAS  OIGIIT  TO  O'OH'.      215 

futMrc  is   assured,  your   happiness   will  be  as 
nearly  perfect  as  is  possible  to  frail  humanity. 
Thousands  of  the   best,   the  most   gifted,   the 
most  successful   me-^    in   the  world  owe  their 
well-being,  their  usefulness,  their  success  to  the 
noble,  devoted,  godly  women,  whom  they  call 
wife,  and  their  children  call  mother.     In   the 
midst  of  many  worthless  wonv^n,  who  are  weak 
worshipers  at  the  altar  of  fashion   and   folly, 
there  are  multitudes  who  yield  themselves  to 
the  nobler,  higher  and  holier  instincts  of  their 
nature,  and  who  are  worthy  of  the  noblest  and 
best  men  who  live  upon  the  earth.     There  are 
courageous  Deborahs,  faithful,  trustful  Esthers, 
praying  Hannahs,  prophetic  Huldahs,  serving 
Marthas,  loving  Marys,  and  ministering  Dor° 
cases  not  a  few— and,  thank  God,  they  have  a 
rapidly-increasing  line  of  descendants  in  this 
closing  portion  of  the  nineteenth  century. 


I 


CHAPTER   XIII. 

EARLY    AND    LATE    MARRIAGE. 

Many  different  views  are  held  re-arding  the 
age  best  suited  for  marriage.     We  have  even 
read  one  writer  of  some  repute,  who  holds  the 
theory  that  the  period  for  marriage  is  indicated 
when  the  individual  arrives  at  the  age  of  puberty  • 
while,  upon  the  other  hand,  many  authors  hold 
that  men  ought  not  to  marry  until  they  are  at 
least  twenty-six  or  twenty-eight  yea.  3  of  age. 
What  one  writer  means  by  "  eady  marriage '• 
IS  a  very  different  thing  from  that  which  another 
author  means  by  the  use  of  the  same  term. 
We  believe  in  eariy  marriage,  but  by  the  term 
"  eariy  marriage  "  we  do  not  mean  the  marriage 
of  mere  children.    The  sad  consequences  of 
marriage  at  too  eariy  an  age  are  cleariy  seen  in 
India,  where  giris  are  married  at  the  age  of 
twelve  and  fourteen,  and  boys  at  a  correspond- 
'ly   eariy   period.     In    conversation   with    a 
i.ighly-educated    Brahmin,    who    was    in    this 
country  pursuing  a  course  of  medical  study  in 
one  of  our  universities,  he  seriously  deprecated 
these  eariy  marriages,  and  named  it  not  only 
as  the  cause  of  the  small  stature  and  undevel 
oped  physical  proportions  of  their  men   and 
women,  but  as  having  a  similar  effect  upon  the 
mtellectual  development  of  the  nation,  which  is 


/  ... 

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I) ' 


¥ 


218    WHAT  A  roiyo  man  ovuiit  to  kxow. 

• 

evidenced  by  the  fact  that,  instead  of  ^'overning 
themselves,  they  are  the  subjects  and  vassals 
of  a  foreign  power.  vVhether  the  ([iiestion  is 
studied  in  India  cr  China,  or  any  other  country 
where  marriage  occurs  at  a  very  early  period 
in  the  development  of  men  and  women,  the 
result  is  that  the  people  are  dwarfed  m  stature, 
in  intellect,  and  also  in  moral  power. 

The  same  principle  has  been  noted  in  Nor- 
way, where  all  the  cattle  of  certain  varieties 
have  become  small  and  inferior  as  the  result  of 
mating  at  too  early  an  age.  breeders  of  do- 
mestic animals  in  this  country  have  found  that 
if  they  desire  to  improve  their  stock,  the  sexual 
impulse  of  the  animals  must  be  restrained  until 
such  time  as  they  have  attained  th'iir  fullest 
bodily  maturity. 

The  reverse  of  what  is  found  in  India  is  seen 
in  the  period  in  which  men  and  women  marry 
in  England.  There  the  men  marry  at  a  mean 
age  of  about  twenty-six  years,  and  the  women 
at  about  twenty-five.  Not  only  do  Englishmen 
generally  attain  to  a  goodly  stature,  but  to  a  well- 
rounded  physical  manhood,  and  their  intellect- 
ual powers  are  well  exhibited  in  the  intellectual 
strength  of  the  English  race,  and  the  world- 
wide influence  of  the  English  nation. 

In  order  that  they  may  acquire  and  main- 
tain the  greatest  bodily  strength,  the  sportsmen 
and  hunters  of  England  are  said  by  Dr.  T.  G. 
Kornig  to  have  largely  adopted  the  laws  of 
their  Saxon  ancestors,  that  youths  lught  to  be 
continent  until  they  were  twenty-five  years  of 


WIIATA   YOVNQ  MAS  OIV/IT  TO  hWOW. 


a;:e,  in  (,rcler  that  they  might  attain  a 


219 


perfect 
so  be- 


staturc  and  great  muscular  power,  an 
come  tlie  fathers  of  a  splendid  progeny. 

When  a  woman  is  married  at  too  early  an 
age,  she  soon  loses  her  bloom  and  vigor,  and. 
after  dragging  out  a  miserable  existence,  unable 
to  bear  her  burdens  and  discharge  her  duties, 
she  oftentimes  sinks  into   a  premature  grave.' 
With  men  the  results  are  no  less  injurious  and 
disastrous.     The  physical  powers  are  gradually 
undermined,  the  mind  loses  its  grip  and  grasp 
the  man  becomes  dispirited,  loses  heart  in  busi- 
ness, is  cross  and  irritable,  and  in  his  entire  life 
and  bearing  evinces  the  fact  that  the  burden 
prematurely   assumed,    and    the    cares   which 
steadily  increase,  are  cheating   him  of    man'y 
maturity  and  preparing  him  for  premature  decay 
and  possible  death. 

Healthy,  robust  children  are  begotten  and 
born  of  parents  whose  physical  and  intellectual 
faculties  are  completely  developed  and  fully 
matured.  Nature  thus  manifests  her  demands 
for  complete  abstinence  from  all  effort  at  repro- 
duction until  fullest  maturity  of  all  parts  has 
been  attained. 

When  we  say  that  we  advocate  early  mar- 
riage, we  must  therefore  be  understood  to  mean 
that  marriage  may  be  properiy  entered  into,  from 
a  physical  standpoint,  when  the  body  and  mind 
have  fully  matured  and  the  judgment  and  char- 
acter  have  attained  an  advanced  stage  of  devel- 
opment. By  early  marriage  we  mean  that  a 
young  man  who  is  normally  prompt  in  his  de- 


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if  ' 


220   WHAT  A  roiyo  mas  olgijt  to  kwoh- 


i|  I 


velopment,  and  one  with  wliom  other  consider- 
ations do  not  stand  in  the  wa\ ,  may  marry 
between  the  ages  of  twenty  two  and  twenty- 
five,  and  of  the  young  woman,  th.it  she  may 
marry  between  the  ages  of  twenty  and  twenty- 
three. 

Where  the  man  and  the  woman  have  a  nor- 
mal development,  the  man,  as  a  rule,  should 
be  three  years  the  senior  of  his  wife.  Physioally 
and  mentally  a  woman  at  twenty  is  the  equal 
of  a  man  at  twenty-three.  And  a  man  at  seventy, 
if  he  has  conformed  to  the  laws  of  health,  re- 
tains as  much  vigor  as  a  woman  at  sixty.  If  a 
woman  is  of  equal  age  with  her  husband,  or  is 
of  greater  age  at  the  outstart,  she  enters  the 
marriage  relation  at  a  serious  disadvantage. 
As  the  years  roll  on,  this  disparity  must  con- 
stantly increase,  not  only  as  the  result  of  the 
ordinary  course  of  nature,  by  which  a  woman 
naturally  lives  faster  than  a  man,  but  also  as 
the  result  of  family  cares,  confinement  within 
doors,  and  the  unnatural  life  to  which  so  many 
women  cheerfully  subject  themselves.  There- 
fore the  wife  who  is  older  than  her  husband  is 
destined  some  day  to  awake  to  the  fact  that  she 
is  an  old  woman  while  her  husband  is  yet  com- 
paratively a  young  man. 

Where  both  parties  to  the  marriage  contract 
have  arrived  at  the  age  of  full  maturity,  so  far 
as  the  j)hysical  questions  are  concerned,  they 
have  attained  that  period  when  they  may  prop- 
erly and  profitably  marry.  It  oftentimes  hap- 
pens that  where  a  man  is  preparing  himself  for 


WHAT  A    roi-yo  MA>'  OUOUT  to  AAOH'.    221 


iiome  ^TCAt  life-work,  or  finds  it  to  be  his  duty 
to  support  dependent  parents,  or  afllictcd  broth- 
ers or  sisters,  or  where  he  is  without  a  reason- 
able means  nf  support  for  a  wife,  and  for  m.iny 
other  sufficient  considerations.  marriaj,'e  may 
not  only  be  profwrly  but  wisely  deferred.  The 
mature  man  or  woman,  however,  who  defeis 
marriage  until  he  or  she  shall  have  acquired 
6uch  an  accumulated  wealth  as  will  enable 
them  to  live  in  splendor,  or  who  prefers  to  live 
alone  from  the  simple  standpoint  of  economy, 
will  usually  find  that  no  amount  of  money 
which  they  may  }>e  able  to  amass,  and  no  posses- 
sions which  they  may  acquire,  will  ever  be 
worthy  of  being  compared  with  the  blessings  of 
married  life  which  they  have  missed.  The  man 
who  prefers  his  selfish  pleasures  and  perso::al 
luxury  to  the  blessings  of  the  estate  which  God 
has  or<!.uncd.  not  only  deserves  our  personal 
pity,  but  is  sure  to  find  out  his  sad  mistake 
when  it  is  forever  too  late. 

The  young  man  who  proposes  to  marry 
should  have  a  settled  purpose  in  life,  a  steady 
employment,  an  adequate  income,  and  a  high 
and  inspiring  ambition  to  accomplish  some- 
thing worthy  of  himself  and  of  the  woman  whom 
he  asks  to  share  his  fortunes  vith  him. 

There  are  dangers  in  the  doctrine  of  early 
marriage.  The  man  who  advocates  early  mar- 
riage will  have  the  approval  of  all  immature 
and  injudicious  young  people  who  wish  to  aish, 
without  thought,  preparation  or  qualification 
into  a  premature  or  il'  -advised  marriage.    An 


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222     WHAT  A    YOiyo  MAS  OtHIlT  TO  KSOW. 

advocate  of  early  marri.»;;c  has  an  easy  time. 
It  is  like  rolling'  a  stone  down  hill— it  is  only 
the  direction  in  which  it  tends  to  ^'o  even  with- 
out aid-or  to  row  a  boat  down  the  stream,  it;- 
btead  of  across  or  i  oiintcr  to  the  current. 

Most  men  and  women  Und  themselves  moved 
hy  impulse  and  personal  consideration  to  a  fa- 
vorable conclusion  upon  the  snl;ject  of  marriage. 
There  ;ue  many,  however,  who,  be(  ause  they 
seek  absolute  personal  perfection,  are  over-cau- 
tious, or  are  seeking;  for  a  fortune,  or  because  of 
personal  unchastity  and  unclcanness  decline  to 
marry  at  all,  or  hesitate  until  advancing,'  life 
finds  them  the  uncoveted  possessors  of  single 
misery. 

Both  revelation  and  nature  teach  us  that  it 
was  clearly  meant  by  our  Creator  that  both  men 
and  women  should  marry,  and  those  who  either 
miss  or  avoid  this  divine  purpose  will  fail  to  be- 
come the  possessors  of  the  largest  blessing  and 
good  which  the  Creator  has  designed  for  them. 
The  man  v/ho  declines  to  marry  not  only  wrongs 
himself,   but  tiooms  to  celibacy  some  woman 
who  has  a  just  and  rightful  claim  upon  him  for 
sympathy,  love  and  support.      The  man  who 
declines  to  marry  defrauds  himself  of  all  the 
blessings  which  cluster  around  the  home  life, 
and  also  of  that  mental  and  moral  development 
which  is  only  possible  in  the  normal  condition 
for  which  Cod  created  us.     Such  a  man  delib- 
erately dwarfs  his  manhood,  denies  to  '.'s  heart 
and  brain  the  strengthening  influence^  which 
CK)d  has  provided,  and  strangles  the  holiest  and 


WHAT  A    VOISO  M.iS  OlQllT  TO  KSOW.     223 

iwectest  out^joings  of  his  soul.  To  himself  We 
may  ap|)car  like  a  wise  fox  that  dctc(  ts  the 
trap,  while  as  a  matter  of  fact  he  is  more  ( or- 
re(  tly  set  forth  in  the  parable  of  the  unfaithful 
steward  who  took  his  talent  and  hid  it  in  a  nap- 
kin, only  to  find  at  last  that  he  neither  had  re- 
ward nor  approval,  but  was  devoid  of  both. 

An  able  writer  says:  "  When  <  clibary  mean* 
anything  but  chastity,  no  matter  by  wh<  n  or 
for  what  reason  assumed,  then  is  it  that  viola- 
tion of  the  hijjhest  physical  and  moral  law, 
than  ich  no  one  is  more  blameworthv  or 
frauj,'ht  with  heavier  penalty." 

It  is  doubtful  whether  any  man  can  pass  the 
a^'e  of  thirty  without  beinjj  justly  regarded  as 
amonjj  those  who  marry  late  in  life.  Late  mar- 
ria>;cs  have  their  own  peculiar  disadvantages, 
and  in  proportion  to  the  extent  to  which  the  in- 
dividual departs  from  the  manifest  purpose  of 
his  Creator  in  delaying  beyond  that  period  in 
which  it  was  designed  he  should  marry,  he 
must  necessarily  suffer  to  ihat  extent  in  some 
one  way  or  another.  Where  a  man  does  not 
marry  until  forty  or  forty-five  years  of  age,  he  is 
likely,  because  of  the  greater  drain  upon  his 
nature,  and  the  fact  that  his  physical  and  nat- 
ural powers  do  not  respond  as  promptly  and 
gratefully  to  the  new  demands  which  are 
then  made  upon  them,  to  suffer  .n  his  own  per- 
son  the  consequences  of  his  undue  delay.  If 
he  is  in  good  bodily  vigor,  and  all  his  powers 
have  been  well-guarded  and  are  well-preserved, 
his  children  may  possibly  not  suffer  in  the  physi- 


i 


'  i 


A\ 


l\  • 


224     nil  AT  A   YOISU  MAS  01  OUT  T()  k\OW. 

ral  inh<!it.in<  c  they  re(  cive  fr<>m  tnr  father; 
hut  thry  arc  sine  to  sudct  in  the  (.ut  that  thcif 
father  IS  hkely  cither  to  he  over  iiuhil:.;cnt  with 
them  or  not  suffiriently  in<lul>,'cnt,  hcrausc  he 
himself  has  [)as^ccl  on  so  far  hoyuul  his  earlier 
years  that  he  is  entirely  out  of  s\  inpathy  with 
the  rhiUl-nattire.  and  tiic  cxpcrirnt  cs  thriai^^h 
v^hith  all  chiUlrcn  must  pass  hcforc  they  attain 
that  maturity  of  judgment  and  that  more  settled 
condition  which  onl)  romes  with  developed 
manhoo<l  and  worn  inhood.  In  f-irn  the  father 
will  suffer,  in  that  he  is  likely  to  he  an  old  man 
heforc  his  children  have  attainetl  to  the  years 
of  maturity  and  are  ahle  to  assume  not  only 
their  own  support,  hut  to  atTord  their  parents 
any  assistance  or  protection. 

After  a  man  has  passed  the  ape  of  thirty  he 
.•■ill  .liso  find  that  his  manner  of  life  has  become 
somewhat  fixed  and  unyielding.  It  will  then  he 
difficult  for  him  to  tear  away  from  his  selfish 
bachelor  habits.  Married  peojile  each  have 
something  to  pive  up,  and  each  have  to  yield 
their  personal  preferences  for  mutual  benefits. 
This  is  more  easily  done  in  the  earlier  years. 

If  you  have  ever  noticed  the  rounded  sym- 
metry and  beauty  of  two  trees  which  have 
grown  up  together,  with  their  limbs  adjustc  ' 
each  to  the  other,  and  together  rounded  out 
into  the  completeness,  syrr.metry,  and  beautv 
of  a  single  tree,  you  will  have  seen  in  its  com- 
pleted state  what  is  being  done  in  hundreds 
of  lives  where  young  people  grow  up  together 
with  common  tendencies,  united  purposes,  and 


I 

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UtIAT  A   YOlWa  MAS  oKllIT  TO  AAOW.    225 

mutual  .i<l.iputions,  dcvelopinj^'  ;i  home  life  that 
is  l)()th  l>eautiful  .ind  ',ul)lime.     When  one  of 
these   trees   is   rut    down,    the    |)crfe«  tion   and 
hcauty  aie  «k-stn)ycd.  and   no  art  or  device  of 
num   (an    restore   that    pc-fi^rtion   which   once 
existed,  nor  can  it  Ik;  suet     .,fully  imitated  by 
thrusting;  the  unyiehlinv  hmhs  of  lar^'er  trees 
into  a  union  which  c^.        |y  |)c  elTcctcci  by  per- 
mitting the  two  trees  in  their  growth  to  modify 
themselves  to  th^  developin^j  r.  (|uir<  inenls  of 
each  other.     The  marriage  of  peoj)lr     Ivanccd 
in    life,    with   tastes  and   habits   un(  .  -n^'ingly 
fixed,  is  seldom  the  source  of  as  Tjuch  joy  and 
blessing   as   the    marriage  of  younger   people. 
The  probabilities  of  a  hai>;,y  marriage  rapidly 
decrease  after  a  man  passes  the  age  of  thirty. 

Marriage  should  not  be  unadvisedly  o-  has- 
tily entered  info  by  the  young  and  immature, 
nor  should  it  be   unnecessarily  deferred  until 
those  yea's  win n  the  probabilities  of  a  happy 
union  are  greatly  dimin;,^  d.    'ITic  largest  hd\>- 
piness  and  bic  sing  in  '  .e  married  state,  as  in 
every  other  condition  of  life,  is  to  be  secure*, 
when  we  conform  in  our  conduct  to  the  pur- 
pose and   plan   which   God   had   in   mind    in 
our  creation.     Cod   has   created   us  men   and 
women.     He  has  designed  that  at  the  age  of 
maturity   we   should   enter  into  the    marriage 
relation  under  such  conditions  as  will  secure 
not  only  the  largest  blessing  and  happiness  of 
the  two  persons  thus  united,  but  He  has  de- 
signed  that  by  this  intimate  relation  of  husband 
and  wife,  healthy  and   happy  children  should 


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226     WHAT  A   YOIWG  MAS  OWUT  TO  KNOW. 


IM 


come  to  bless  the  heart  and  home  of  then 
parents,  and  thus  the  earth  be  repeoplcd  and 
the  r.ice  of  man  perpetuated. 

And  any  man  or  woman  who  loses  sight  of 
this  divine  purpose  degrades  his  God  given  and 
sacred  n -wers,  and  debases  himself  to  ihe  level 
of  the  brute.  No  young  man  has  a  right  to 
exercise  this  God- given  power  during  the  years 
of  his  immaturily,  and  thr.s  beget  an  '■-•rioi 
offspring,  nor  has  he  a  right  to  av,  .,  for 
sordid,  selfish,  or  sensual  ends,  the  purpose 
which  Ciod  has  contemplated,  and  iu.-r,,  later 
in  life,  cn*er  a  relation  in  which  he  calls  into 
being  an  unoffending  and  innocent  offspring 
that  must  share  the  penalty  of  his  mistake  and 
sin. 


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chai'ti:r  XIV. 


WEDDINCS. 

Perhaps  in  no  othe-  events  do  the  customs 
of  society  so  greatly  differ  as  in  those  which  ac- 
company  weddings  P.nd  funerals.  If  the  cus- 
to  of  different  nations,  or  even  of  different 
sections  of  country  in  the  same  naiion  were  the 
same  in  character,  it  would  not  be  so  difficult 
to  understand  why  so  few  people  are  willing  to 
break  away  from  prevailing  customs  in  these 
matters.  Kven  where  the  customs  are  absurd 
or  ruinously  expensive,  only  people  of  character 
or  independence  feel  free  to  do  what  their 
judgment  de.:ides  to  be  most  appropriate  a  id 
most  in  harmony  with  their  own  means  and 
wishes. 

Marria^  is  a  g^reat  event  in  the  life  of  any 
individu;...  It  might  be  called  the  entrance 
upon  real  life.  Other  events  may  have  their 
importance,  but  th-^  is  the  most  important  of 
ail.  It  is  esrentiai,  therefore,  that  a  young 
man  and  a  ycing  woman  should  start  aright. 
Men  find,  perhaps,  greater  pleasure  in  woo- 
ing, but  wnh  many  women  their  mar- 
riage io  regarded  as  the  greatest  occasion 
m  their  life,  simply  because  it  affords  an 
opportunity  for  elaborate  dressing  and  expen- 
sive   display.      Indeed,    k    oftentimes    makes 


I 


I   |i 


228     WHAT  A  VOL  SO  MAN  OUGHT  TO  KSOW. 


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one  sad  to  see  how  the  cjreat  purposes  of  mar- 
riage are  wholly  forgotten  in  the  all-absorbing 
effort  for  empty  show.  If  these  things  were 
wholly  confinefi  to  the  rich,  or  those  whose 
lives  have  always  been  hollow  and  empty,  it 
would  not  be  so  sad  ;  but  the  poor  so  often 
think  that  thr'v  must  imitate  the  follies  of  the 
rich,  and  in  their  efforts  they  are  plunged  into 
wasteful  extravagance  and  hopeless  ruin.  The 
Hindoos  are  not  the  only  people  in  the  world 
who  make  marriage  the  occasion  for  the  con- 
tracting of  debts  which  require  the  entire  re- 
mainder of  their  lives  to  pa^' 

This  preparation  for  display  is  attended  with 
its  own  sad  resuhs.  It  surely  is  strange  that  an 
intended  bride  should  be  expected  to  deprive 
herself  of  air  and  exercise,  and  all  the  invigora- 
tion  of  her  ordinary  duties  for  days  and  weeks 
before  her  marriage.  Then,  if  ever,  she  needs 
the  strength  and  health  which  these  alone  in- 
sure. Every  minister  has  witnessed  the  pallor 
and  nervousness  which  have  come  after  en- 
forced seclusion  and  idleness  upon  the  part  of 
the  rich,  and  the  weeks  of  largely  needless  toil 
upon  the  part  of  the  poor — sev.  ing  early  and 
late  to  decorate  with  unnecessary  needle-work 
nn  accumulation  of  garments,  which  usually 
prov  c  oi  little  value  after  they  are  all  done.  Who 
has  not  seen  brides,  with  pallid  cheeks  and  col- 
orless lips,  whom  the  white  wreath  and  the  long 
veil  made  appear  more  like  the  bride  of  death, 
than  like  a  woman  who  was  about  to  assume 
the  sacred  duties  of  wife  and  mother  ?    If  there 


miAT  A    }Ol\\G  MAX  OVGllT  TO  KSOW.    229 

is  any  time  in  the  life  of  a  young  woman  when 
=\\c  needs  the  largest  siore  of  physical  endur- 
ance and  glowing' health,  it  is  when  she  would 
enter  heartily  into  the  festivitiesof  her  marriage, 
and  would  begin  her  married  life  with  such  a 
store  of  health  as  gives  promise  of  years  of 
blessing  and  influence. 

The  custom  of  giving  wedding-presents  has 
led  to  the  issuing  of  a  large  numljer  of  wedding 
mvitations.     If  these  presents  were  inexpensive 
to  the  donors  or  useful  to  the  recipients,  there 
might  seem  to  be  some  excuse  for  this  useless 
extravagance.     Those  who  purchase   presents, 
however,  often  seem  to  have  in  mind  no  other 
thought  than  that  of  display.     It  never  seems  to 
occur  to  some  people  that  useless  presents  are 
generally  more    of  a   curse  than    a  blessing. 
Wedding  presents  seem  usually  to  be  selected 
with  a  view  of  pleasing  the  vanity  of  the  pur- 
chaser  rather  than  with  a  view  of  being  service- 
able or  helpful  to  the  recipient.     If  those  who 
desire  to  give  wedding-presents  would  give  car- 
pets,   furniture   and  dishes   for   daily  use,  the 
newly-married  couple    might  have  something 
with  which  to  set  up  housekeeping.     But  where 
means     are     limited,   and    relatives   and    ac- 
quaintances numerous  and  wealthy,  young  peo- 
ple often  start  with  an  accumulation  of    solid 
silver  or  plated-ware,  which  is  entirely  out  of 
harmoi.y  and  out  of  keeping  with  the  humble 
home  and  mcdest  furnishing  which  their  hmited 
means  is  only  sufficient  to  supply.     These  pres- 
ents are  oftentimes  of  no  practical  value,  but 


,r 


i' 


.  1: 


-I 


Ijo     nil ».T  A  YO UNO  MA S  0 UQHT  TO  KSO \\\ 

since  they  were  weddinp-^ifts,  the  recipients, 
because  not  able  to  pay  for  their  safe  storaj^e, 
are  compellctl  for  ^ears  to  remain  at  home  that 
they  may  stand  guard  over  an  accumuhition  of 
matter  which  mi  ,ht  hive  lx?cn  stolen  the  first 
week  with  actual  Ixjiv.tit  and  blessing  to  their 
owners. 

Not  only  are  ine  presents  often  worthless,  but 
as  the  years  come  and  go  and  marriages  occur 
in  the  families  of  those  who  have  bestowed 
these  gifts,  wedding-j^resents  will  be  expected 
in  return,  and  the  consequent  outlay  for  a  series 
of  ten  or  fifteen  years  often  imposes  a  serious 
burden  upon  the  newly-married,  who  find  in- 
creasing demands  upon  thtir  purse  as  the  years 
go  by. 

If  the  parents  of  the  bride  would  take  thf 
money  expended    in   flowers,  carriages,  feast- 
ing and  display,   and  use  it  in   supplying  the 
actual  needs  of  the  newly-married  couple,  their 
outlay  would  be  productive  of  lasting  good. 

Sensible  young  people  may  also  properly  give 
some  thought  and  consideration  to  the  subject 
of  bridal  tours.  Nearly  every  newly-married 
couple,  however  limited  their  means,  seem  to 
think  it  necessary,  in  order  to  maintain  their 
position  among  their  friends,  that  they  should 
go  to  the  expense  of  an  extended  "  bridal  tour," 
The  original  intent  in  such  a  journey  was  doubt- 
less to  remove  the  nev/ly-married  couple  from 
♦''6  midst  of  their  daily  surroundings,  and  to 
enable  them  to  become  familiar  with  their  new 
conditions  while  removed  from  the  staring  gaze, 


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WHAT  A  rOVNO  MAS  OLUIIT  TO  A  VOW. 


231 


unpleasant  remarks  ami  unwise  interference  of 
those  with  whom  they  ordinarily  came  in  con- 
tact. The  thought  of  quiet  and  retirement, 
which  usually  characterized  this  brief  period  of 
absence,  has  been  wholly  lost  in  the  conven- 
ti<inal  bridal  tour  of  the  present  day.  Instead 
of  seeking  relief  from  the  public  gaze,  the  new- 
ly-married couple  generally  start  out  for  the 
most  crowded  places ;  and  instead  of  avoiding 
observation,  attract  universal  attention  and  re- 
mark by  their  new  clothes  and  unusual  atten- 
tions to  each  other. 

If  the  intending  bride  would  insist  upon 
enjoying  her  accustomed  liberty,  and  refuse  to 
endure  a  period  of  seclusion  prior  to  her  mar- 
riage, ard  decline  to  be  jaded  and  wearied  by 
long  .rneys  and  uninteresting  sight-seeing, 
and  iecline  to  be  made  the  object  of  public 
attention  and  remark,  a  very  wise  change  could 
easily  be  brought  about.  The  fatigues  of  travel 
and  the  weariness  of  sight-seeing,  v.hen  added 
to  the  nervous  and  physical  excitement  attend- 
ant upon  her  new  experience,  detract  greatly 
from  the  pleasure  of  the  tour,  and  oftentimes 
add  greatly  to  the  sum  of  her  physical  ills. 

Where  the  parties  have  large  means,  the 
question  of  expense  need  not  necessarily  enter 
into  the  consideration ;  but  the  amount  of 
money  usually  spent  by  the  large  majority 
of  young  people  would  go  far  towards  provid- 
ing the  necessary  furnishings  for  their  new 
home,  and  render  it  unnecessary  that  for  a 
period  they  should  take  refuge  in  the  unfavor- 


^ 


232     WHAT  A   roVXa  .VAS  OUnilT  TO  hSOW. 


able  surrounclin^js  of  a  boardinjj-house.  The 
fact  is,  that,  after  havinj,'  provided  for  the  h-irj;e 
extr.ivaganrc  i>f  a  wedding',  and  the  expenses 
of  an  extended  tour,  newly-married  people 
generally  find  themselves  greatly  embarrassed 
with  debt.  \nd  bc^in  life  with  a  burden  which 
is  destined  to  harass  them  for  years,  and,  la 
many  instances,  results  in  greatly  marring  both 
their  happiness  and  their  usefulness.  In  many 
cases  wedding  waste  leads  to  worry  and 
want,  and  blights  the  lives  of  those  who  are 
brought  under  the  dominion  of  an  i.bounding 
pride  and  a  love  of  empty  display. 

In  most  instances  the  bride,  and  especially 
the  bride's  parents,  rre  to  blame  for  the  display 
and  extravagance  which  attends  the  ordinary 
wedding.  In  arranging  for  these  matters  for 
your  own  wedding  be  manly,  and  brave  too, 
if  that  is  necessary,  and  exhibit  such  a  reason- 
ableness as  will  lead  not  only  to  moderation  in 
the  outlay,  but  which  will  secure  for  yourself  the 
esteem  of  all  who  learn  the  honorablenes^  of 
your  motives  and  the  reasonableness  of  your 
desires  and  suggestion.  Unreasonableness  upon 
the  part  of  the  young  woman  or  her  parents 
should  lead  to  serious  apprehension.  There  is 
no  reason  why  you  should  be  needlessly  and 
deliberately  impoverished  in  the  very  beginning 
of  your  married  life. 

In  reference  to  the  fee  which  you  should  pay 
the  officiating  clergyman,  it  is  only  necessary 
to  say  that  this  should  be  in  proportion  to 
the  displays  and  expenditures.     Some  people 


i 


WJl.lT  A  YOiyO  MAS  OiaUT  TO  A'.voir.    233 

will  cx[)cn<l  five  hundred  (Inllars  in  display  and 
outward  hhow,  and  then  hand  the  minister  a 
sealed  envelope  which  contains  only  a  l)c>j- 
garly  fee.  When  people  are  lavish  in  all  their 
other  expenditures,  there  is  no  reason  uhy  they 
should  be  mean  with  the  officiatin^j  clergyman. 
But  in  no  respect  should  it  ever  be  expensive 
either  to  be  married  or  to  be  buried,  and  yet 
both  are  often  made  the  occasions  of  most 
unreasonable  extravagance. 


'  if 


f 


'\   i 


CHAPTER  XV. 

HINDRANCES   TO    I!F.    AVOIDED. 

If  a  youn^'  man  desires  a  healthy  and  pur« 
body,  there  are  several  su^,'j,'ebti()ns  which  are 
important  to  him  in  the  attainment  of  these  de- 
sirable ends.  A  very  limited  observation  of 
the  lives  of  the  vicious  and  corrupt,  to„'ether 
with  a  little  reflection,  should  be  sufficient  to 
disclose  to  any  young  man  such  important  prin- 
ciples as  are  necessary  for  his  own  guidance 
and  t,'overnment. 

One  of  the  most  dangerous  influences  to 
which  all  young  men  are  exposed  is  that  of  bad 
companionships.  Not  only  is  a  man  "  Known 
by  the  company  he  keeps,"  but  his  compan- 
ions will  be  quite  sure  to  mould  and  fashion  his 
character  into  conformity  with  their  own.  Bad 
men  take  great  pleasure  in  plunging  the  inno- 
cent and  unsuspecting  into  the  iniquities  with 
which  they  themselves  have  become  familiar. 
The  depraved  seem  to  find  great  satisfac- 
tion in  helping  others  to  become  as  bad  as 
theniselves.  Your  greatest  danger,  however, 
will  be,  not  that  you  would  be  likely  to  seek  or 
even  accept  the  company  of  those  who  appear 
to  you  as  superlatively  bad,  but  that  actuated, 
as  most  young  men  are,  you  may  greatly  prefer 
the  company  of  those  of   your  own  age  who 

(235) 


iiH  n     1 


II 

m 


«i,y^ 


2j6     WHAT  A    VOlSd  MAS  0\  <illT  TO  KSOW. 


_i  Pi  ti 


h.-ivp  taken  ihrir  tir^t  (ic;.;rrrs  in  sin,  ;in<l  \\lin«;e 
stil)tle  infhicniL-s  may  move  yen  to  Mt  your 
fate  in  the  wronj.:  (Iite<  tion.  until  ^;iailually  you 
hhall  havclnrncd  to  love  the  soi  i<t\  of  those 
who  have  lo^t  the  relish  for  the  purity  and  t|uiet 
of  home,  are  strangers  to  k'>(»(1  Ixjoks,  ami  with 
false  iilcas  of  life  are  ready  to  he  led  of  evil 
into  all  forms  of  dissipation  and  vice.  The 
danj^er  is  that,  like  many  others,  you  may  re- 
solve that  as  you  are  to  live  hut  once,  therefore 
you  are  determined  to  have  "  a  ^n>od  time."  Is 
it  not  rather  true  that  because  we  are  to  live  but 
one  e,  therefore,  we  should  live  wisely  ?  Mis- 
takes made  cannot  be  corrected,  and  wrongs 
done  can  never  be  wholly  ri^dUed.  As  you  are 
to  live  but  once,  you  cannot  afford  to  let  the 
earlier  year-  pass  without  laying  the  necessary 
foundations  broad  and  deep,  in  order  that  you 
may  build  upon  them  a  noble,  successful  and 
glorious  manhood. 

Avoid  those  whose  companionship  and  inllu- 
ence  silence  the  admonitions  of  conscience,  de- 
stroy your  reverence  for  the  IJible,  your  fiiith  in 
r,od,  your  dread  of  j^idL^ment.  Avoid  those 
who  would  help  you  to  such  a  course  of  conduct 
as  would  destroy  your  reputation,  dc^^rade  your 
character,  waste  your  substance,  undermine 
your  health,  defeat  the  grc.it  purpose  of  your 
life,  and  take  from  you  all  liopc  of  eternal  sal- 
vation. Avoid  the  profane  man,  th*.  social 
drinker.  .Shun  the  libertine,  and  turn  a  deaf 
ear  to  the  cynic  and  the  unbeliever.  "  F'  '.sake 
the  foolish  and  live,  and  go  in  the  wav  of  un- 


f" 


WHAT  A    Vol  sa  J/.J.V  or  <;IIT  TO  kWOW.    2J7 

dcrstandinfj."  Remember  that  the  fncnilship 
of  the  vorld  is  just  as  much  riunity  with  (ioci 
in  the  ninctrfnth  tcntury,  and  in  your  own 
nei^'hboihootl,  as  it  w.is  in  the  tirst  century,  and 
in  the  (juict  towns  of  Judea  and  fialilce.  It  was 
true  then,  and  it  is  true  no  / :  "  He  that  walkcth 
with  \s  i'.e  men  shall  be  wise  ;  hut  a  tom[)anion 
of  fools  shall  he  destroyed."  The  advice  w  hich 
Solomon  i^HLve  nearly  three  thousand  years  a^;o 
is  cijually  applicable  to  young  men  of  the  pres- 
ent day : 

Knter  not  into  the  path  of  the  wicked, 

And  walk  not  in  the  way  of  evil  men. 

Avoid  it,  pass  not  by  it ; 

Turn  from  it,  and  pass  on. 

For  they  sleep  not,  except  they  have  done 
mischief; 

And  their  sleep  is  taken  away,  unless  they 
cause  some  to  fall. 

For  they  eat  the  bread  of  wickedness. 

And  drink  the  wine  of  violence. 

But  the  path  of  the  righteous  is  as  the  shining 
light. 

That  shineth  more  and  more  unto  the  perfect 
day. 

The  way  of  the  wicked  is  as  darkness  : 

They  know  not  at  what  they  stumble. 

You  will  notice,  also,  that  the  wicked  gener- 
ally begin  thtir  downward  career  by  wasting 
the  evening  hours.  Instead  of  using  the  even- 
ing for  the  acquisition  of  knowledge,  the  devel- 
opment of  the  physical,  intellectual  and  moral 
powers,  under  the  cover  of  night  they  plunge 


^'1 


n.HH 


ajS    i»y/.!r,i  vol  sa  m.ks  omiiT  to  kso\*. 

into  siK  h  cxrcsscs  a    iindcrmine  i'  ,  ilp- 

ha  >•  t'le  m.inliooil,  and  |).iuj)cti/.c  i.  e.     It 

was   I'lulcr  cover  c'"  ni^'ht  thav    ]  rsook 

an«l  betrayed  his  Masfr  And  .Nolon..  .  s  ob- 
servation C()n(ernin>;  the  "  youn^  pu*  *.  void  of 
u^dcr^tandin^,'"  who  was  met  hy  ,\c  stran^;e 
woman  with  nattering  words  is  of  one  wh<»  was 
Koinj,'  wrong  "In  the  twilight,  in  the  cvcnin^', 
in  the  black  and  dark  night."  At  night  the  ser- 
vants of  sin  are  busy  in  the  harvest-fields  of 
de.uh.  When  the  great  rush  of  busmess  has 
swcot  past,  and  the  rumble  o<"  wheel,  has  died 
away  in  the  quiet  of  forsaken  streets,  then  it  is 
tl  I  colored  transparencies  and  tinselled  saloons 
and  cheap  music  '  old  high  carnival  in  the  de- 
seited  stic'-'t;  and  out  from  the  hovels  and 
ha.  nts  of  vice  stalk  forth  the  forms  of  those 
who  would  gladly  hide  their  shame  under  the 
shadow  of  the  buildings  which  skirt  their  way  to 
death. 

Then  it  is  that  many  of  our  young  men  go 
forth  to  Ix;  lured  by  enticing  company  into  bil- 
haid-halls  drinking-saloons,  gambling-dens, 
seraglios  (  f  ice,  and  r-,  and  on,  to  physical, 
moral  and  e  eriial  ruin.  The  ni-ht-life  of  the 
young  men  <  .  y-  -yreat  cities,  and  even  of  our 
smaller  towns,  is  a  perplexing  problem.  The 
night  accomplishes  the  ruin  of  the  day,  and  un- 
dermine th.i  man  jrcver,  and  as  God  "  set  a 
mark  upon  Cain,"  so  upon  the  forehead  and 
ui)on  the  faces,  and  ever  the  entire  frame,  God 
brands  these  lepers  of  lust  so  that  none  can 
conceal  their  sin  from  thos(    who  are  tau<'ht  in 


WHAT  A    vol  Mi   V.iy  01  OUT  TO  kWOW     239 

the  lan^jiiaKC  in  whi.h  is  writfeii  the  penalty  of 
thfirKuilt.  Determined  to  have  "  a  k'""<1  ume." 
we  have  known  yountj  n>cn  in  .1  hip>.jle  hour  to 
bli^;ht  .ind  blast  the  possibihtics  of  an  entire 
life,  ami  to  receive  in  place  of  their  virtue  a 
curse,  into  which  was  condensed  the  quintes- 
scnc  c  of  all  the  aches  and  ills  and  :nisery  that 
flesh  is  heir  to. 

Voun^'  m.in,  be  warned  in  the  bc^'inning 
against  the  fatal  delusions  which  seek  to  blind 
you  to  the  perUs  of  the  darkness.  Spend  your 
evening's  with  ^ood  books,  in  the  companion- 
ship of  the  pure,  in  the  midst  of  refining'  and 
elevating'  surroundinj;s.  In  the  darkness  do 
not  ^o  where  you  would  be  ashamed  to  be  seen 
in  the  light.  Have  no  companion  to  whom,  if 
Jesus  were  upon  the  earth  in  bodily  form,  you 
could  not  introduce  Him  without  shame  or  em- 
barrassment. 

While  speaking  of  the  proper  use  of  the  even- 
ing hours,  it  may  not  be  out  of  place  to  add  a 
word  of  counsel  concerning  the  too  prevalent 
custom  of  remaining  until  an  unseasonable 
hour  when  calling  to  spend  the  evening  in  the 
comp-  ly  of  young  ladies.  All  parents  should 
have  tne  rule— upon  which  many  insist— that 
theii  sons  and  daughters  arc  nut  permitted  to 
keep  company  after  ten  o'clock,  i  i.is  t  istoni 
of  late  hours  not  only  disturbs  the  peac* 
and  rest  of  other  members  of  the  family,  but 
unfits  the  young  people  themselves  for  the 
duties  of  the  ne'  -;ay,  often  becomes  injurious 
to  h'    1th,  and  throws  around  such  relations  the 


f^ 


240     WHAT  A  YOl'NG  MAS  01  OUT  TO  KSOW. 


W    ' 


air  of  suspicion,  and,  by  affording  easy  oppor- 
tunities  for  violating  the  proprieties  of  life,  tais 
custom  often  leads  to  such  temptations  as  be- 
come a  serious  menace  to  virtue  and  honor. 

A  young  mi^n  who  desires  to  remain  pure 
needs  also  to  be  warned  against  bad  books  and 
lewd  pictures.     The  influence  of  books  cannot 
be  over-esiimated.     It  is  stated  upon  good  au- 
thority that  "  Cervantes  laughed  away  the  chiv- 
alry of  Spain,"  for  "  Spain  produced  no  heroes 
affer  Don  Quixote."  If  a  single  book  can  change 
the  character  of  an  entire  nation,  how  much  more 
easily  may  a  young  man  be  beguiled  and  mis- 
led by  an  author  who  has  the  ability  to  make 
virtue  appear  disgusting  and  vice  attractive? 
And  how  can  young  men  associate  with  such 
authors  without  imbibing  their  thoughts  and 
principles?     Much    of  what   is    called    "light 
literature"   is   pernicious,  and  even   immoral. 
Show  us  the  books  and  the  papers  which  you 
read,  and  it  will  not  be  difficult  to  portray  your 
character  or  to  predict  your  future.     Eyes  that 
weep  so  easily  over  fiction  and  fancy  seldom 
have  tears  for  the  perils  and  sorrows  of  real 
life ;  and  the  young  man  whose  heart  is  filled 
with  the  imagery  of  sin  is  likely  to  be  found 
sooner  or  later  actualizing  in   his  own   expe- 
rience the  pictures  which  he  has  cherished  in 
his  mind.     The  ycung  man  who  clings  to  right 
principles  and  keeps  his  mind  pure,  may  be 
regarded  as  reasonably  safe  from  the  defile- 
ment    of  vice;    while  any  young   man  whose 
mind  is  brought  into   contact  with  the  vices 


WHAT  A    njiWG  MAX  01 1. II T  TO  KSO 


H'.    241 


and  the  corruption  of  those  books  which 
wiih  iiionil  rottenness  is  hkelv  to  1 


'■ek 


natcd    by  the    cv 


lis    \\ 


hich 


and 


are 


cnnta-ious    in  this   at 


e  «.:ontaini- 
sw    iK-r\a^i\e 


'nosphcie   of  death. 


')  youii-  man  can  read  an  impure  book  with- 
out havin-  Kr;iv-d  upon  thea  J-cstos  of  lus  soul 
pictures  wliich  time  cannot  erase  nor  fire  efface. 


Our   bodies  are   Hk 


e  a  ca>'e   that  end 


OSes  a 

110  youn^f  man 

arouse  the  bcibt.  a;ul  thus  dchb- 


bcast,  an  an>;el  ..nd  a  devil,  and 
can  afford  to 


e.-ateiy  deliver  himself  into  the  hands   of  the 
devih     ].etmc  urge  ujton  you,  young  man,  as 
an  accountable  being,  by  all  that  gives  saiistac- 
tion  in  life,  by  all  that  is  worth  living  for  in  this 
world,  and  which  is  attractive  in  the  world  to 
come,  that  you  shun  any  and  every  book  which 
holds  up  vice  for  your  admiration  and  imitation. 
No  young  man  can  look  upon  obscene  pict- 
ures without  the  danger  of  photographing  upon 
his  mind  that  which  he  might  subsequently  be 
wdling  to  give  thousands  of  dollars  to  obliterate. 
Rev.   Dr.  Leonard,  in  an  address   before   the 
New  Ycrk  Society  for  the  Prevention  of  Vice, 
said:  "  I  remember  to-mght  an  instance  in  my 
loyhocd.  when   I   was   not  more   than  twelve 
years  of  age,  and  was  shonn  a  book— a  vile 
bo<  k— by  a    German    shoemaker   who    came 
through  the  region  of  country  where  I  lived, 
and  the  pictures  that  were  in  that  book  are  now' 
1:1  my  mind  to-night  as  clearly  as  when  I  fir.t 
looked  upon  them.     Other  pictures   of  beauty 
have   faded   out,  but  those   pictures  somehow 
have  remained,  and  I  have  said  to  mvself  a-ain 

16  " 


242    WHAT  A  yoryo  mas  ovgiit  to  ksow. 


and  again,  '  I  will  turn  that  picture  away  from 
my  mciuory,  and  won't  think  of  it  again.'  \'ct, 
as  often  as  I  think  of  that  Cerman  shoemaker, 
that  vile  book  stands  out  again  Ijcfore  my 
mind."  Those  who  years  ago  had  the  pleasure 
and  privilege  of  listening  to  the  elocjuent  words 
of  John  H.  (lOugh,  the  distinguished  temper- 
ance lecturer,  will  remember  his  reference  to 
his  early  life  and  the  experiences  through  which 
he  had  passed.  They  will  remember  his  refer- 
ence to  the  sins  of  his  earlier  years,  and  recall 
how  impressively  he  said:  "That  he  would  to 
God  he  mij,ht  forg  ^f  the  impressions  which 
they  had  left  upon  his  mind ;  that  he  had  tried 
to  banish  them  from  him,  but  they  would  not  be 
banirbed." 

The  Society  for  the  Suppression  of  Vice  has 
done  much  to  rid  the  country  of  this  kind  of  de- 
filement, but  a  single  picture  which  escapes 
their  search  and  destruction  may  defile  the 
minds  of  a  hundred  young  men  who  behold  it. 

No  modest  young  man  can  aff"ord  to  display 
pictures  of  actresses  with  unbecoming  expo- 
sures and  suggestive  postures  without  endanger- 
ing the  esteem  in  which  he  desires  to  be  held. 
And  no  young  man  who  desires  to  have  a  strong 
body  and  a  pure  mind  can  affoi  .1  to  harljor 
such  pictures,  either  displayed  .  .  his  room  or 
concealed  in  a  secret  drawer. 

The  purpose  which  w^  have  sought  to  keep 
in  mind  in  the  preparat  .  of  these  pages,  and 
the  limitations  within  which  we  are  compelled 
to  work,  render  it  impossible  for  us  to  consider 


WHAT  A   rorSf;  MAX  orciIT  TO  KSOW 


-+J 


separately  the  various  kind.  „f  questionable 
amuse-  nt.  lU.t  it  m.iv  be  s.ifdv 'stated  as  a 
principle  that  no  youn-  man  should  enga-e  in 
any  amusement  whirh  is  c.xtiava- int  of  money 
wasteful  of  time,  undcrminin-  t.,  tlie  health  or 
subversive  of  the  best  standards  of  moral  recti- 
tude. 

There  are.  however,  two  fowns  of  amusement 
of  which  ue  must  speak  particularly,  because 
they  are  f.au-ht  with  more  than  u.ual  attract 
iveness  and  danger.     We  refer  to  dancin-  and 
theatre-going.     Th  a  danciug  deserves  to  be  re- 
garded as  one  of  tl>e  rmusements  which  arb 
most   dangerous  and   destructive   to  virtue    is 
attested  by  the  fact  that  recently  a  bishop  in  the 
Roman  Catholic  Church,  in  conversation  with  a 
bishop   of  the    Protestant    Episcopal    Chu:   h 
stated   that   the    work   of  the  confessional  re- 
vealed the  fact  that  nineteen  out  of  every  twenty 
women  who  fall,  co   .ess  the  beginning  of  their 
sad  state  to  the  modern  dance.     Late  hours,  ex- 
pensive dressing,  violent  and  protracted  exer- 
tion, and  other  -easons  might  be  named  as  a 
sufficient  array  of  arguments  against  the  objec- 
tionable Chan:   ..t  cf  this  amusement.     To  our 
mind,  howevc-    the  insurmountaMe  objection 
and  that      "    ^h  constitutes  its  real  and  by  far 
Its  great     .  .attractiveness,  consists  in  its  appeal 
to  the  i:ciisual  nature.     The  insufficient  dress- 
mg,  the  u"  \  Q  exposure  of  the  persons  of  the 
females  .,  the  dance,  the  suggestive  altitudes, 
.ne  personal  contact,  the  passionate  cxciiement 
and  the  undue  license  allowed  while  whirling 


244    n7/.ir.i  I'or.w;  max  oii.iit  to  ksow 


'M 


^11 


upon  the  floor  to  the  strains  of  music  are  su(fti 
as  cannot  help  but  arouse  in  any  stron.;^,  vij;or. 
ous,  normally-developed  >  oun;^^  man  the  strong- 
est sensual  tendencies  and  propensities  of  his 
nature. 

No  man  would  be  likely  to  admit  that  he  is 
so  cold  and  j)assionlcss  that  his  sexuality  is  not 
consciously  (piickened  by  the  close  conta<  t  and 
inspiring  inthiencc  of  the  round  dance.  There 
are  women,  however,  who  declare  that  there  is 
nothing  in  the  dance  which  appeals  to  their 
sexual  nature;  and  yet,  strange  to  say,  these 
very  same  women  are  passionately  fond  of  this 
form  of  amusement.  If  we  are  to  credit  their 
declarations,  we  would  b-j  forced  to  believe  that 
they  are  devoid  of  tn>it  vvhii  h  characterizes 
other  members  cjf  their  sex,  or  that  they  do  not 
imderstand  or  correctly  interpret  that  which  is 
awakened  in  them,  and  which  causes  them  to 
become  such  devotees  of  the  dance. 

The  following'-  quotation  from  a  letter,  written 
by  a  lady  who  nas  obtained  a  wide  reputation 
in  literature,  and  who  has  abandoned  the  dance 
forever,  constitutes  a  frank  confession,  and  may 
reasonably  be  expected  to  interpret,  at  least  to 
some  dcgr»:c,  the  emotions  which  are  experi- 
enced by  other  women,  who  so  much  enjoy  the 
wait/.. 

"  In  those  times  I  cared  little  for  polka,  and 
still  less  for  the  old-fashioned  money  musk  or 
Virginia  reel,  and  wondered  what  people  could 
find  to  admire  in  these  slow  dances.  But  in  the 
soft   floating   of  the  waltz    I  found  a   strange 


till  AT  A  yor.\(7  MA.y  m  chit  to  A'.vow.   245 


pleasure,  rather  ditiicult  to  intelligibly  descr-he. 
The  mere  anticipation  tluttercd  my  pulse,  and 
when  my  paitner  appn  ached  to  claim  my 
jiromibed  hand  for  the  dance  I  felt  my  cheeks 
kIow  a  little  sometimes,  and  I  could  not  look 
him  in  the  eye  with  the  same  frank  gayety  as 
before.  lUit  the  climax  of  my  confusion  was 
reached  when,  folded  in  his  warm  embrace  and 
j;nidy  with  the  whiil,  a  stran};e,  sweet  thrill 
uould  shake  me  from  head  to  (<'<>{,  leaving  me 
weak  and  almost  powerless,  and  really  obliged 
to  depend  for  support  on  the  arm  which  en- 
circled  me.  If  my  partner  failed  from  igno- 
rance, lack  of  skill,  or  innocence,  to  arouse  these 
(to  me)  most  pleasurable  sensations,  I  did  not 
dance  with  him  the  second  time.  1  am  si)eak- 
ing  openly  anrl  frankly,  and  when  I  say  that  I 
did  not  understand  what  I  felt  or  what  were  the 
real  and  greatest  pleasures  I  derived  from  this 
so-called  dancing,  I  expect  to  be  believed.  But 
if  my  cheeks  grew  red  with  uncomprehendcd 
pleasure  then,  they  grow  pale  to-day  with  shame 
when  I  think  of  it  all.  It  was  the  physical  emo- 
tions engendered  by  the  magnetic  contact  of 
strong  men  that  I  was  enamored  of,  not  of  the 
dance,  not  even  of  the  men  themselves.  Thus 
I  became  abnormally  developed  in  my  lowest 
nature.  I  grew  bolder,  and  from  being  able  to 
return  shy  glances  at  first,  was  soon  able  to 
meet  more  daring  ones,  until  the  waltz  became 
to  me,  and  whomsoev  er  danced  with  me,  one 
lingering,  sweet,  and  purely  sensual  pleasure, 
where  heart  beat  against  heart,  hand  was  held 


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in  hand,  ;i;u!  fy.-  I  K.kc-l  !)iirr.inij  ^'^rinU  which 
lips  (larc.l  imt  spc.ik.  All  this,  while  ri)  one 
said  to  nir,  '  Wnn  d^,  wrnnj;.'  So  I  dcaincd  cf 
sweet  WMid^  whispered  durin-  the  d.uuc,  and 
often  folt  while  alone  a  thrill  (  f  joy,  indcscril). 
aMe  yor  overpowerin,:.  \^lK'n  my  ni;nd  would 
turn  from  my  study  to  rcmemli(r  a  piece  of 
temerity  of  uniisn.d  ^-randeiir  on  the  part  of  one 
or  .-mother  of  my  r.i\a!iers. 

"  Married  now,  with  hoine  and  (  hildren  aroui  d 
me,  I  can  at  lea.t  thank  Cod  fv)r  the  experience 
which  will  assuredly  be  the  means  of  prevent- 
ing; my  little  dau-hters  from  indnl-in-  in  any 
such  dan^'erous  pleasure.  F.ut  if  a  youn;;  ^''rl, 
pure  and  innocent  in  the  be^Mnni;l^^  can  be 
brought  to  feel  what  I  have  confessed  to  have 
felt,  what  must  l>e  the  e.xperience  of  a  married 
woman  ?  She  knows  what  every  <;lance  of  the 
eye,  every  bend  of  the  head,  every  close  clasp, 
means,  and.  knowing  that,  reciprocates  it,  and 
is  led  by  swifter  steps  and  a  surer  path  down 
the  dangerous,  dishonorable  road." 

Another  form  of  amusement  against  which  it 
IS  important  to  warn  young  men  is  the  theatre. 
Through  its  debasing  influences  more  young 
men  are  every  year  undermined  in  their  moral 
principles,  and  plunged  into  vice  and  sin.  than 
it  would  be  possible  accurately  to  estimate.  At 
one  time,  when  preaching  to  a  large  congregation 
of  young  men.  l^r.  Lyman  Beecher  said :  "  If 
any  man  can  invent  a  more  speedy  way  for  sin- 
ners to  go  to  hell  than  the  theatre,  he  ought  to 
have  a  patent-right  for  his  infernal  ingenuity." 


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t\  HAT  A    YOiyii  .U.I.V  OVOIIT  TO  hWOU-     247 


It  mi;^ht  be  hoped  that  i:i  si\ty  or  seventy  years 
the  theatre  WDuld  have  h'.'on  purified  aiul  pie- 
pared  to  take  a  nmre  cxahcd  p.-^itinn  in  .1  pro 
pres-iive  civih/at  ;in,  hut  the  portra'.  al  of  \ice 
and  CI  line  lias  been  its  chic-f  attraction  (or  cen- 
turies, and  every  effort  to  eliminate  tlicse  o])jec- 
tinn.dile  features  has  re-iuhed  in  financial  failure. 

If  the  theatre  is  to  draw,  virtue  n  :si  he 
clothed  in  sable  garments,  \vlule\ice  parades 
it -elf  in  attractive  robes.  Licentiousness  must 
be  thinly  veiled,  and  the  appeal  must  ever  be 
to  latent  passion. 

The  debasing'  intluences  of  the  theatre  pro- 
duce quick  results  in  the  lives  of  youn;,,'  men. 
Mo  :  principles  which  have  cost  Christian 
J)  ;>ts  months  and  years  of  care  are  banished 
in  an  hou  Here  youn;;  men  are  asked  to  loik 
upon  the  stimulating  intluences  of  drink,  while 
the  iie<;rading  effects  of  the  dre;;s  are  carefully 
concealed  from  view.  Here  they  are  brought 
under  the  influence  of  those  who  have  learned 
to  abhor  home,  who  look  upon  e/erything  as 
dull  and  worthless  that  is  not  sufficiently  stimu- 
lating to  arouse  their  depleted  and  stupefied 
sensibilities.  Here  the  low,  the  drunken,  and 
the  sensual  hiss  at  what  is  pure  and  holy,  and 
applaud  that  which  appeals  to  their  basest  pas- 
sions. Here,  under  the  influence  of  exposures 
and  postures  which  )ring  the  blush  of  shame 
to  the  check  of  delica^-y,  previously  pure  young 
men  feel  the  awakening  power  of  ungovernable 
passion,  and  thousands  of  them,  dazed  and  be- 
wildered every  night,  fall  an  easy  prey  to  the 


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24S    uv/.ir.i  yor.\u  mas  oiaiiT  m  a.wxi 

b.ir-roonis.  the  K-^mhlin;,'  dens,  and  tlu-  hrnthclj 
whi.  h  (  Iu-.tfr  under  the  -huidw  dfcvery  theatre. 
Here  tlie  stian;^'e  woman  hiiks  for  the  ilevtnic- 
ti.in  of  tho  e  who,  in  no  other  Imnr  of  their 
lives,  can  so  e.ibily  he  led  into  the  path-,  (.f  vice 
and  vin. 

To  m.).st  yoiint::  nicn  the  appeal  of  the  theatre 
to  the  bensual,  and  tlic  easy  temptations  which 
follow,  seem  (piite  irresistihlc.  I  hit  even  if  these 
saddest  and  most  serious  results  do  nut  imme- 
diately i"()llow.  the  (lehasement  (.f  tin-  mind,  the 
lowering' of  tlie  moral  ^taiulards,  ami  the  break- 
In;,'  down  of  all  the  |)rinciples  aial  imhic-iices 
which  can  mc  st  safely  be  relied  upon  to  keep 
a  youn;;  man  from  inward  dttilement  and  phys- 
ical weakness,  are  yet  very  j;reatly  to  be  die  idcil. 
Dancip.j,'  and  theatre -^oin^^are  as  hostile  to  vir- 
tue, and  as  destructi'  e  of  moral  character,  as 
water  to  fire,  salt  to  iron,  oil  to  rubber,  death 
to  lift;. 

Xo  young  man  nee»l  deny  himself  any  ^afe 
form  of  recreation  and  amusement,  but  there 
are  many  reasons  why  he  should  not  cn-atye  in 
those  which  are  either  questionable  or  danger- 
ous. Closely  related  to  ('  mcing  and  theatre- 
goin^j  is  card-playinp^,  and  other  captivating 
games,  which  are  liable  to  entice  those  who  en- 
gage in  them,  and,  as  a  consequence,  the  valu- 
able time  which  should  be  devoted  to  healthful 
recreation,  reading,  mental  improvement,  social 
fellowship  and  mc^r  d  culture,  is  likely  to  be 
wholly  devoted  to  these  beguiling  pastimes. 
Many  who  learn  to  play  at  games  of  chance 


H7,M7,1    vol  Mi  M.i\  nt  (HIT  TO  hWOU:    2\<) 

become  so   cntirt.  ly  <  aptix  ,i;i-,l  tli.if   cvfii  Ixisi- 
ness  CHKa-cmcnts  .uul    d.uly    diitii-,    arc     n«;- 
^'Icrtcil  for  passinj;  |)kM',urf.  until,  throii^jh  ( (.n- 
se(|iiiTit  gamhliiiK'  and    dissii.ation.  tlu-y    li.uc 
ncillicr  lionorahlc  Ijusiiicss  nor  prolitahlc  diiti.  s, 
and  that  which  l)f-an  as  a  diversion  h  is  cnd.d  in 
dissij)ati()n.    <  lamin;;  tcmls  lo  piodm  ca  di-,cM^fd 
rotiditioii  of  the  mind,  \vhi(  hunlits  for  real  life. 
Vonn-  nicii  who  en^a-c  in  it   are  lial.le  to  he- 
conie  inrrcasin;.dy  unfitted  for  hii-iiie-^s,  to  ne- 
glect  their   duties,   InHoine  unfaithful  to  their 
engagements,   and    sii-ht  all  they    do.    except 
such  amusements  as  minister  to  a  !'e\ereil  mind. 
We  all  need  relaxation  and  diversion,  l.ut  like 
the  -seasonings  which  arc  put  in  our  food,  they 
shouUl    be  judiciously    ch(jsen    and    sparingly 
used.    Life  is  not  a  holiday,  a  mere  joke  or  jest, 
and  no  one  can  lightly  regaril  it.  manifold  obli- 
gations, or  turn  a  deaf  ear  to  the  voice  <jf  duties 
which    call    in    all    directitms.     "Life    is    real! 
Life  is  earnest !" 

Tlic  young  man  who  indul;.,es  in  games  of 
cliance  is  in  danger  or"  being  led  into  l)ad  com- 
pany. (Gambling  and  licentiousness  generally 
go  hand-in-hand.  Skill,  or  even  knowledge  of 
how-to  play  cards  successfully,  is  likely  to  bring 
you  into  companionship  with  indivic'uals  fn.m 
whom  you  should  be  sei^ratcd  by  every  possi- 
ble barrier.  "  If  sinners  entice  thee,  consent 
thou  not."  The  inducements  of  the  wicked 
will  be  less  potent  if  you  "  Walk  not  in  the 
counsels  of  the  ungodly." 

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250     IVJIA  T  A   YOiSti  MAS  01  './//•  1"  A.\'/li 

US  coun-icl  soil  to  avoid  v)  (laii.';oroiis.-i  p.i^imp. 
Shoukl  N '111,  lidui  \  ff,  (Ictci  mine  to  ii^ivirc  this 
su^Jijcstion  aiul  t  ikc  the  fir^t  lesson,  VMur  «'\|)c- 
rience  v-ill  |)i(.I)al)l\  ln>  somcwliat  a-^  lollous: 
At  tir  i  \()iir  (  on  .(  icii' e  uill  di  apiiroNc,  .iiul 
for  a  time  \  011  will  he  at  unri->t.  \\'\i  wull, 
hou(,\er.  likely  (■(iiitiiuie,  and  seek  to  Idiint 
your  moral  sen-ihilities  Iiy  nr;juiii„'  with  sour- 
self  that  \oii  aie  not  to  la-  shut  out  from  all 
enjoyment,  or  to  he  sin^'iil.ir  hy  heiiiL;  diileient 
from  other  youn^'  tnen.  Instead  of  nti  oci  a- 
sion.il  game,  you  will  soon  hecome  .1  fie<iiient 
player.  The  em  hantment  will  hec  ome  stron^^er, 
and  then,  "just  ti)  make  it  more  intereslin;^',"' 
you  will  likely  consent  to  j)lay  for  jjri/es— possi- 
bly  somelhinj;  more.  Sacred  things  will  fir^t 
lo.-.e  their  hold  upon  you,  business  and  daily 
duties  will  he-in  to  grow  irksome,  the  emhaiu- 
ment  w  ill  continue  to  grow  stronger,  and  before 
you  are  aware  you  will  be  upon  the  swift  cur- 
rent which  rages  among  the  rocks  of  dissipation, 
dishonesty,  ileceit,  and  then  sweep  on  to  eternal 
destruction. 

The  same  principle  which  makes  stealing  a. 
crime  exists  in  gambling.  Money  is  exacted 
without  giving  an  eqaivalent;  the  only  differ- 
ence being  that,  in  the  latter  case,  the  loser  con- 
sents to  that  which  is  none  the  less  a  ciime  on 
that  account.  No  man  has  a  right  to  take  the 
money  of  another  without  j^iving  him  an  equiva- 
lent. If  upright  young  men,  and  especially 
Christian  young  men,  are  not  to  draw  the  line 
at   dancing,   theatre-going    and    card-playing, 


n 7/  I  ,    .1    )7;/  .V(,-  ,l/.|.v  ()!  >IIIT  TO  KSDW 


251 


thrti  uhcre  .uv.  tlu-y  f  0  ih\'x  the  lint  ?  If  these 
t!;m,:-,  (|(»  not  .  r)rriii.t  t!ie  uioi.iK,  (h--r;i(le  the 
man,  .111(1  jjcspoil  of  nioal  f  ,e  and  nianlv 
th.-iiartrr.  then  what  ihtic  and  insidious  intlu- 
ciin-^  do  ar«()ni|)li^,li  thee  ruitio;!,  results  "" 

'nie  of  the  j^Tcatest  hindram  es,  one  of  the 
n>  '^t   destru(ti\c  c\  iU  to    he   avoided    i!i    tliis 
worl  1,  is  intoxicatin  ;   drink.     When  we  th;nk 
of  tliis  subject  in  all  of  it.,  vastne-.s  and  fearful 
conscciucnres,  its  treatment  demands  an  entire 
V'hime,  rather  than  a  few  j)ara;;rai)hs  in  a  sin^dc 
chapter.      How   can   we,    in    a    few    nord-.,   say 
somethinj;  that  would   he  ade(|uatc  to  the  im- 
portance of  this  suhjert?     If  it  were  not  that 
every  day  Iwfore  our  very  eyes  is  bcin^'  enacted 
the  fearful  drama,  in  w  hirh  |)oMtion  and  money, 
health  and  reputation,  homes,  broken  hearted 
parents,  pauperized  wives  and  children  are  ^'o- 
in.^  down  in  the  wreck  and  ruin  whi(  h  attend 
the  destruction  of  sixty  thousand  w  ho  are  an- 
nually slain  by  this  j^reat  monster  of  evil— I  say 
were  it  not  for  the  fact  that  we  become  some- 
what f imiliar  by  what  we  see  and  by  our  con- 
stant contact  w  ith  these  terrible  results,  a  few 
declarations  concening  this  evil  would  be  suffi- 
cient to  move  the  mind  and  to  persuade  any 
young   man   never  to   touch  the    intoxicating 
cup,      15ut    familiarity    with     this     stupendous 
initjuity  seems  to  render  the  mind  indifferent, 
and  thousands  toy  with  the  danger,  which  is 
destroying  multitudes  of  others  before  the  very 
eyes  of  those  who  take  their  firsc  glass. 

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liquors  in  this  country  alone,  more  grain  is  de- 
stroyed  than  would  be  necessary  to  feed  a  con- 
tinent-     The   money   annually   expended    for 
liquors  e\cecds  m  amount  the  cost  of  all  the 
bread,  meat,  hoots  and  shoes  used  in  the  ent,  e 
country  during  the  same  period.     It  is  equal  to 
twice  the  value  of  all  the  church  buildings,  par- 
son:\gesand  school  buildings,  and  ground  upon 
which  all  these  buildings  stand.     It  is  said  that 
:f  the  money  spent  annually  (51,500,000,000)  by 
the  English  and  American  people  for  intoxi- 
cating drinks  was  converted  into  silver  dollars, 
and  these  piled  one  above  another,  this  monu- 
ment to  our  sin  and  shame  would  extend  2959 
miles  above  the  earth— a    distance  about  as 
great   as   from   New   York  to   San    Francisco, 
This  vast  expenditure  not  only  pauperizes  in- 
dividuals, but  impoverishes  the  nations. 

If  this  vast  outlay  were  used  for  food,  cloth- 
ing, or  comfort,  it  would  not  be  so  sad.     But 
alcohol  is  not  a  food  in  any  sense,  but  consti- 
tutes an  enemy  to  the  human  system  wherever 
it  is  found.     Alcohol  cannot  be  digested,  and, 
when  taken  into  the  stomach,  the  lungs  seek  to 
throw  it  off  in  the  bieath,  and  every  organ  of 
the  body  seeks  to  eject  it  from  the  system.     If 
It  is  taken  into  the  stomach  in  any  considerable 
quantities,  it  passes  into  the  circulation  of  the 
blood,  permeates  the  entire  bod>,  enlarging  and 
diseasing  the  liver,  deranging  all  the  natural 
functions  of  the  body,  and  appearing  upon  the 
surface  in  great  red  blotches,  blear  eyes,  and 
many  forms  of  human  disfigurement. 


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*r//j  TA  Yoi  yo  MA  y  o  i  an  t  to  a'.vo  n\  253 

If  you  take  even  the  best  of  liquors  and  apply 
a  match,  the  akc^hol  will  take  fire  and  burn  with 
that  lurid  flame  which  is  an  unmistakable  evi- 
dence of  its  presence.  Mix  alcohol  with  water 
and  apply  the  match,  and  you  will  find  that 
the  alcohol  will  burn,  leaving  the  water  behind 
it  in  the  bowl.  Take  from  the  arm  of  an  in- 
veterate drinker  a  small  quantity  of  blood  and 
apply  the  match,  and  the  presence  of  alcohol 
is  immediately  indicated  by  the  same  lurid 
flame,  which  continues  to  demonstrate  its  pres- 
ence until  the  alcohol  is  all  burned  out  of  the 
blood. 

But  in  addition  to  the  alcohol  which  is  pres- 
ent in  pure  liquors,  most  of  the  alcoholic  drinks 
are  poisoned  by  drugs  which  introduce  other 
agencies  that  are  destructive  to  human  life. 

When  a  young  man  begins  to  tamper  with 
liquor,  before  he  is  aware  of  it  he  has  cultivated 
a  taste  for  strong  drink,  and,  as  the  appetite  has 
grown  stronger,  the  will  has  grown  weaker,  and 
in  an  incredibly  short  period  of  time  the  young 
man  finds  himself  a  helpless  victim,  bound  hand 
and  foot  by  a  destroyer  from  whom  he  is  unable 
to  break  looso.     We  have  frequently  spoken  at 
the  Sunday  Breakfast  Association,  in  Philadel- 
phia, before  an  audience  of  five  or  six  hundred 
tramps,  vagabonds,  and  outcasts  of  every  class, 
anv?  have  frequcndy  seen  as  many  as  forty  and 
fifty  who  have  been  brought  under  the  influence 
c  f  the  truth,  and  who  have  presented  themselves 
for  a  word  of  counsel  and  prayer.     In  passing 
from  one  to  another  of  these  young  men,  ask- 


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254    Hv/^ r  A  Yoryo  Ar.iy  olgi/t  to  awow. 

ing  one  after  another  what  influences  brouehr 
them  there,  the  answer,  which  does  not  vary  in 
one  case  out  of  f.ftccn  or  t^.  nty.  will  quite  uni- 
versally be  •  •  d^.nk.  •  •  These  young  men  do  not 
all  come  from  the  slums,  but  among  them  are 
to  be  found  sons  of  the  wealthy,  graduates  of 
colleges  and  universities,  professional  m-n  Inv 
yers.  physicians,  and  even  some  who  have  pro- 
cla.med  life  and  salvation  to  others,  but  who 
Have  themselves  become  castaways. 

If  you  desire  to  preserve  your  bodily  virror 
and    virtue,  be    wained    against    intoxicating 
drink.     Of  those  who  are  given  to  the  intoxi- 
cating cup.  Solomon  says  :    "  Thine  eyes  shall 
behold  strange  women,  thine  heart  shall  utter 
perverse  things."     Liquor  and  prostitution  in 
our  large  cities  go  hand-in-hand .    Every  brothel 
IS  a  saloon,  and  the  influences  which  are  exerted 
in  every  saloon  tend   to  people  and  perpetuate 
the  houses  of  prostitution. 

The  words  of  Solomon  written  hundreds  of 
years  ago  are  just  as  applicable  and  impressive 
to-day.  and  deserve  the  thoughtful  considera- 
tion of  every  young  man  : 

Who  hath  woe  ?  who  hath  sorrow  ?  who  hath 
contentions  ? 

Who  hath  complaining.?  who  hath  wound, 
without  cause  ? 

Who  hath  redness  of  eyes  ? 
They  that  tarry  long  at  the  wine  ; 
They  that  go  to  seek  out  mixed  wine 
Look  not  thou  upon  the  wine  when  it  is  red 
When  it  giveth  Its  color  in  the  cup, 


fi'iiAT  A  rovya  ma\  ova  in  to  ksow. 


*5S 


When  it  goeth  down  smoothly  : 
At  the  last  it  biteth  like  a  serpent, 
And  stingeth  like  an  adder. 
The  stimulation  and  exhilaration  with  which 
an  intemperate  life   begins  soon  result  in  the 
dethronement  of  the  will,  the  enslavement  of  the 
man,  and  the  debasement  of  all  that  is  noblest 
and  best  in  human  nature.     It  speedily  blights 
and  blasts,  and  ruins  a  man  or  a  woman,  both 
for  this  world  and  for  the  world  to  come,  for 
the  Bible  says  "  That  nc  drunkard  can  inherit 
the  kingdom  of  God." 

The  use  of  liquor  destroys  health,  disfigures 
che  body,  ruins  the  nervous  system,  dethrones 
the  reason,  produces  insanity,  becomes  the 
parent  of  idiocy  ;  it  blunts  the  finer  feelings  and 
sensibihties,  it  fills  our  poor-houses  with  paupers 
and  crowds  our  prisons  with  criminals  ;  it  breaks 
the  hearts  of  parents  and  pauperizes  helpless 
women  and  innocent  children  ;  it  leads  to  vice 
and  violence,  and  plunges  its  victims  into  tem- 
poral and  eternal  ruin. 

There  was  a  time,  years  ago,  when  men  of 
intemperate  habits  were  found  in  many  posi- 
tions of  trust  and  responsibihty ;  but  to-day 
railroad  and  transportation  companies  of  all 
kinds,  the  various  departments  of  business,  the 
professions,  and  every  other  seful  walk  in  life 
are  being  more  and  more  closed  r,  ainst  young 
men  who  use  intoxicating  Hquors.  In  these 
days  of  fierce  competition  and  struggle  for 
place  no  young  man  can  afford  deliberately  to 
close  to  himself  every  avenue  of  usefulness  and 


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2S6     n-ITATA   yOi\Wo  MAX  OlOUT  TO  kWOW 


all  hope  (.f  livelihood.  The  i)reservat^)n  of 
your  heahh.  dclixcrance  from  vice,  and  the 
hope  of  success  in  life,  to  say  nothing  of  the 
destinies  of  your  immortal  soul,  should  warn 
you  against  the  influences  of  this  monster  vice 
which  digs  the  graves  of  thousands  of  young 
men  every  month  in  the  year. 

We  trust  that  before  reading'  another  para- 
graph you  may  be  constrained  to  take  a  sheet 
of  paper,  or  to  write  upon'  the  fly-leaf  of  your 
own  Bible  this  simple  pledge:  "  I.  the  under- 
signed, do  pledge  my  word  and  honor,  God  help- 
ing me,  to  abstain  from  all  intoxicating  liquors 
as  a  beverage,  and  that  I  will,  by  all  honorable 
means,  encourage  others  to  abstain."  and  then 
sign  your  name  and  attach  the  place  and  date 
and  forever  after  adhere  to  your  recorded  pur^ 
pose. 

^    What  we  have  said  with  reference  to  liquor 
IS  also  measurably  true  with  regard  to  tobacco. 
The  statistics  of  the  Government  show  that  more 
money  is  spent  each  and  every  day  for  tobacco 
than  is  expended  for  bread.     For  every  dollar 
that  is  contributed  for  sending  the  gospel  to  all 
parts  of  the  world,  one  hundred  and  twenty 
dollars  are  spent  for  tobacco  in  this  country 
alone.    It  would  be  difficult  to  show  that  tobacco 
is  beneficial  for  a  man  in  any  period  of  his  life 
although  there  are  some  few  men  who  seem  to 
use  It  m  moderation  without  seemingly  serious 
results.       Medical    authorities    are,    however 
agreed  that  the  effects  of  tobacco  upon  one  who 
has  not  attained  hi?  full  bodily  maturity  is  inju- 


rf7/.ii  A  roL-yo  jf.i.v  OUGHT  to  kwow.  ^57 

rious  in  the  extreme.     To  one  who  has  not  at- 
tained his   entire   growth,  the   use  of  tobacco 
stunts  the  body  and  dwarfs  the  muscles,  makinij 
them  flabby  and  weak.     When  used  in  excess, 
tobacco  ;,'rcatly  affects  the  vision.     I'hysicians 
who  make  the  treatment  of  the  eye  a  specialty 
tell  us  that  when  they  use  the  magnifying  lens, 
and  throw  the  light  in  upon  the  retina  of  the 
eye.   they   can  tell  immediately  when  one  is 
addicted  to  the  excessive  use  of  tobacco.     It 
also  deadens  the   hearing,   greatly  affects  the 
heart,  producing  palpitation,  and   when   u^ed 
regularly,  in  large  quantities,  results  in  produc- 
ing what  is  called  "  tobacco  heart."     The  re- 
sults of  either  smoking  or  chewing  can  often  be 
noticed  in  its  effects  upon  the  nerves,  rendering 
the  individual  both  nervous  and  irritable,  even 
to   small  provocation.     Surgeons   tell  us  that 
their  experience  in  the  operating-room  has  de- 
veloped the  fact  that  men  who  are  addicted  to 
the  use  of  tobacco  quite  generally  suffer  a  lack 
of  manly  fortitude,  and   are   noticeably  cow- 
ardly under  the  severe  trial  of  a  surgical  opera- 
tion.    Tobacco  discolors  the  teeth,  makes  the 
breath  offensive,  excites  the  glands  which  se- 
crete the  saliva,  and  tends  to  produce  dyspep- 
sia, low  spirits,  a  pale  face,  and  an  emaciated 
form.     It  also  tends  to  produce  dizziness,  rush 
of  blood  to  the  head,  palpitation  of  the  heart, 
loss  of  memory,  and  a  diseased  condition  of 
the  liver.    Its  tendency  to  produce     mcer  of 
the  mouth  is  generally  known,  and  such  results 
have  been   noted  in  the  death  of  prominent 

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258     WHAT  A   VOl'SO  MAS  OVdllT  TO  KSOW. 

persons,    such    ;is   (icncral   ("irant,    ami    many 
others. 

While  many  bad  effects  are  e£.sily  traccal)le  to 
the  use  of  tobacco,  it  is  also  a  ..ourcc  of  consider- 
able personal  expense,  and  even  smokinjr  ren- 
ders the  habits  of  some  persons  very  disagree- 
able. The  custom  of  smoking  cigarettes,  and 
taking  the  smoke  into  the  lungs,  and  then  blow- 
ing it  out  through  the  nostrils  is  especially  inj". 
rious,  and  speedy  results  are  oftentimes  visited 
up<m  its  unhappy  victims. 

Smoking  does  not  always  terminate  in  intem- 
perance, but  on  account  of  the  dry  and  parched 
condition  of  the  mucous  membrane  whi  oil  smok- 
ing produces,  its  Lndrncyx'^  to  inlempcrar.'-e.  to 
convivial  companionships,  and  the  young  man 
who  does  not  use  tobacco  in  any  form  surely 
abides  in  great«;r  security. 

When  (iod  created  man  he  crowned  hi.n 
with  honor,  and  gave  him  dominion  over  the 
e.irth  and  over  the  animals.  It  is  sad  that 
the  whole  race  should  have  been  uncrowned 
and  dethroned  by  sin,  but  the  saddest  of 
all  is  that  so  l.irge  a  proportion  of  the  hu- 
i.ian  race  should  not  even  now  have  do- 
minion over  themselves,  but  are  slaves  to 
the  basest  appetites  and  most  ungovernable 
passions.  Instead  of  avoiding  the  influences 
which  debase  them,  and  bring  them  more  and 
more  under  the  dominion  of  sin  and  make 
them  the  mere  helpless  slaves  of  passion,  they 
so  often  seek  out  the  very  influences  which 
minister  to  their  ruin,  and  covet  vhe  help  of  such 


mur  A  Yoisa  mas  ouonr  to  kwow.  2s<} 

Satanic  influences  as  will  the  more  speedily 
crowd  them  over  the  precipice  to  inevitable 
ruin. 

We  are  often  amazed  to  see  the  thoughtless 
micegodehberatcly  intoa  trap,  ind  while  the 
presence  of  their  dead  companions  shouUl  be  a 
sutficient  warning,  yet  deliberately  submit  their 
necks  to  the  same  inevitable  death  ;  yet  these 
thoii-btless  mice  are  only  doing  what  is  being 
deliberately  done  each  day  by  hundreds  and 
thousands  of  young  men  whom  (iod  has  en- 
dowed with   reason,    but  who   look  upon   the 
wrecks  of  their  fellows  and  then  turn  calmly 
and  submit  themselves  to  the  same  inevitable 
(destruction.     If  the  effects   of   bad   company. 
Vile  books  ana   pictures,  questionable  amuse- 
ments, dancing  ^nd  gambling,  the  intoxicating 
cup  and  the  use  of  tobacco,  were  not  easily 
to   be  seen,  the  folly  of  young  men  in  plung- 
ing  into  these  evils,  which  all  should  desire 
to  shun,  would  not  seem  so  strange.     Surely  no 
Christian  young  man  can  sincerely  offer  up  the 
petition,    "  Lead    us  not  into  temptation,   but 
deliver  us  from  evil,"  and  then  turn  and  deliber- 
ately plunge  himself  into  the  very  evils   from 
which  he  has  prayed  to  be  delivered. 

Even  if  you  desire  only  physical  strength, 
you  cannot  hope  to  acquire  it,  or  to  retain  it 
when  once  acquired,  if  you  pile  up  in  your 
pathway  these  hindrances  which  every  young 
man  should  seek  to  avoid. 

There  are  many  other  hindrances  which 
might  be   named,  but  those   which  we  hav» 


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a6o   H'li^TA  vol  Mi  MAS  oruiiT  TO  h'.vonr 

enumerated  arc  amon^'  the  most  prolific,  and 
to  some  youn>j  iiicn  become  insurmoimfahle. 
If  theNC  thin^js  stand  in  the  way  of  i)hy>ii<  al 
acquisition,  much  more  do  they  als(»  stand  in 
the  way  of  intellectual  and  moral  acquisitions 
and  abiding  st;  ength. 


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HF.LPS   TO    BK    ISF.D. 

The  strujj^lc  for  mastery  in  life  is  ho  fierce 
with  every  person,  that,  whether  the  principal 
effort  he  for  bread,  I'or  success,  or  for  mastery 
over  the  sexual  nature,  no  one  can  afford  either 
to  court  the  hindrances  or  to  ne^'lect  the  helps 
which  stand  so  closely  related  t'^  the  result. 
The  ^'ravity  of  the  hindrances,  and  the  value 
of  the  helps,  are  not  always  duly  appreciated 
in  early  life,  and,  even  in  later  life,  there  are 
many  who  seem  fully  unable  to  understand  why 
they  should  have  failed  while  others  have  suc- 
ceeded. lUit  most  men  who  succeed  are  able 
to  look  back  and  discover  hov/  different  would 
hive  been  the  eventual  outcome  if  their  prin- 
ciples and  metVods  had  been  such  as  have 
brought  defeat  to  others. 

If  you  desire  to  accomplish  anything  in  life, 
you  must  have  a  purpose  in  the  beginning.  An 
aimless  life  is  never  a  successful  life.  Live  with 
a  purpose.  Have  a  high  and  holy  ambition. 
"  Let  all  the  ends  thou  aimest  nt  be  thy  coun- 
try's, Cod's,  and  truth's."  "S'our  purpose  should 
take  in  not  simply  this  life,  but  should  compre- 
hend, also,  the  great  object  of  life,  and  should 
be  a  purpose  worthy  of  an  immortal  being. 
Have  an  aim,  anrl  let  that  aim  be  high  and 

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♦<'»3     n/M  T  .1    vol  so  MAS  OVUIIT  TO  k.SOW 

holy,  anil  then  -iirivc  for  cminenrc  in  that  work. 
No   >ounK'  t\\.\n   can  accomplish  njuch  in  this 
world  of  (limcultica  who  docs  not  aim  for  cmi- 
.cn(  c.    Many  with  good  phy^tical  and  intellcct- 
lul  powers,  withlar^'e  possil)iHtiM  and  oppor- 
tiinitics.  accomph^h   little  or  nothing;   because 
they  lack  an  endowment  of  power  which  is  only 
possible  to  one  who  has  an  enduemcnt  of  pur- 
pose.    Stand  steadily  on  tho  plane  of  your  bc5t 
endeavors   and    K'-in<lcst    po,sibilitie8.     If  you 
are  surrounded  by  diff..  uliics  which  seem  in- 
aurrnount.iblc.  ;.nd  arc  dishe.irtened  by  the  out- 
look, study  the  life  of  J„hn  Milton,  the  blind 
poet,  dictating  the  imi>crishablc  lines  of  "  I'ara- 
dise   Lost"  and  "  I'aradisc  Regained;"  be  in- 
spired by  Robert  Boyd,  the  paralyzed  preacher, 
writing  for  coming  generations  the  truths  which 
he  was  unable  to  spe.ik  into  the  cars  of  those 
who  lived  in  his  own  time.     Learn  indomitable 
perseverance   from    Sir  Walter   Raleigh.  John 
Hunyon.  Richard  Baxter.  Martin  Luther.     Cast 
into   prisons,    languishing   in   dungeons,  these 
men  rose  victoriously  above  their  difficulties, 
and  the  mighty  forces  which  they  marsh.dlcd 
in   the   "History  of   the   World,"    "Pilgrim's 
Progress."  "  The  Saints'  Rest."  "The  Call  to 
the   I'ncon verted,"  and  the  translation  of  the 
Bible  into  the  language  of  the  Great  Reformer, 
came  trooping  forth  like  invincible  armies  from 
behind  the  bars  where  their  writers  were  held 
as  captives. 

Many  fail  in  life  who  secure  the  end  which 
they  seek.     Their  purpose,  even  if  not  low  oi 


nil  A  r  A  lot  y<i  j/.j.v  01  mir  to  km:  n:    26  j 

cfcspic.ihlc.  ii  yrt  ^.TCitly  hcnc.ith  their  powers 
arul  p()SM))ilitic .. 

Aim  hi^jh,  and  shoot  promptl>,  ir  you  will 
mi<i\  your  ma.k.  If  you  have  not  mailc  a  larj^o 
bcK'inn  n^j  and  have  not  pretty  well  attained 
y<»ur  life-purpose  at  forty,  you  will  n»o^t  likely 
fail  of  it  .ilto^'fthcr. 

Never  he  ashamed  of  honest  induslrv,  or  run 
uway  from  h^rd  work.  He  industrious.  With- 
out it  you  cannot  he  cither  permanently  health/ 
or  happy.  Industry  ronfcis  a  good  appetite, 
good  di.;t  ..on,  sound  sleep,  and  tends  to  per- 
fect health.  "  In  the  sweat  of  thy  face  shalt 
thou  c.it  bread."  Labor,  even  in  man's  fallen 
state,  is  more  a  blessing  than  a  curso.  Indus- 
try v.ill  secure  profit,  peace  and  plenty,  (iod 
gives,  but  we  must  do  the  getting,  (lod  gives 
gold,  silver,  copper,  and  all  the  metals,  but 
man  must  dig  for  them,  (iod  gives  rye  and 
wheat  and  corn,  but  we  must  plow,  and  sow 
end  reap.  Weeds  will  grow  of  themselves,  but 
corn  and  potatoes  must  be  planted ;  and  the 
«ame  law  holds  good  in  every  realm  of  activity. 
There  is  no  acquisition  or  growth  until  indiiTer- 
ence  and  idleness  are  vanquished.  Industry 
strengthens  character  and  credit,  secures  the 
approval  of  conscience  and  the  respect  of 
others.  An  industrious  young  man  will,  in  a 
surprisingly  short  period,  outstrip  the  man  who 
may  in  the  beginning  be  known  as  a  genius. 
The  man  who  is  at  it  early  and  late  is  sure  to 
outstrip  the  man  who  abides  in  his  sense  of 
natural  endowment,  and  expects  good  fortune 


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264     hllA  T  A   YOISG  MAS  OVGIIT  TO  KNOW. 


to  crown  his  efforts.  \\y  early  rising  a  J  active 
energy  some  men  accomplish  more  before 
breakfast  than  others  accompHoh  between 
breakfast  and  bedtime. 

If  you  are  ever  to  do  anything  great  it  must 

be  in  the  constant  doin-  of  good  in  httle  things, 

for  hfe  is  made  up  of  little  things.     Only  one 

man  in  a  million  ever  has  an  opportunity  to 

achieve   greatness,    or  even  distinction,    by  a 

single  deed.     We  must  do  the  best  little  thing 

we  can  now,  then  that  which  follows  it  next, 

and  so  on  to  the  end.    Only  in  this  way  shall 

we  ever  be  able  to  accomplish  anything  great. 

The  young  man  who  is  industrious,  economical, 

cautious,  benevolent,  and  who  knows  how  to  be 

abased,  a^  well  as  how  to  abound,  has  already 

laid  the  foundation  for  a  life  of  real  usefulness. 

Every  young  man  who  strives  for  the  mas- 
tery should  seek  to  bring  to  his  help  the  com- 
panionship  of  the  wise  and  good.     Solomon 
says,  "  He  that  walketh  with  the  wise  shall  be 
wise."     In  such  a  companionship  we  secure  the 
approbation  of  others,  the  approval  ot  our  own 
conscience  and  judgment,  and  we  are  delivered 
from  the  great  danger  of  being  led  into  temp- 
tation.    Such  companionship  will  inspire  us  to 
nobler    endeavor,    will  awaken    the    intellect, 
quicken  the  perceptions,  and  brighten  and  im- 
prove one's  entire  manhood.     Instead  of  drag- 
ging us  down  they  will  help  to  lift  us  up,  and 
inspire  us  in  turn  to  become  helpful  to  them  in 
the  attainment  of  more  exalted  purposes.  With 
the  pure   and  good   as   our  companions,  the 


WHAT  A  youyo  .i/.i.v  ov<.iit  to  kwoiv.  265 

moral   character  will   constantly  be   strength- 
ened and  benefited. 

The  acquaintance   and    companionship    of 
pure-minded,  irreproachable,  noble  women  will 
be   found   most,   helpful.     Thousands   of   men 
look  back  to  the  earlier  period  of   life  and 
remember  with  pleasure  and  profound  gratitude 
the  influence  exerted  over  them  by  the  acquaint- 
ance of  some  pure-minded  young  woir«an.   The 
desire  to  be  and  become  what  such  a  young 
woman  would  be  sure  to  recognize  and  most 
hi^'hly  appreciate  in  her  future  husband   will 
exalt  the  purpose  and  inspire  the  energy  of  any 
young  man  who  is  possessed  of  the  elements  of 
a  true  manhood.     It  is  both  natural  and  right 
for  the  thought  and  affection  of  a  young  man 
to  go  out  toward  young  women,  and  perhaps 
the  best  results  are  secured  when  his  affections 
are  bestowed  upon   a  single    individual  who 
seems  worthy  of  him,  and  who,  upon  a  sufficient 
acquaintance,  may  prove  to  be  an  acceptable 
and  suitable  companion  for  him  throu:;h  life. 
A  young  man  should  constantly  guard  himself 
against  the  danger  of  falling  in  love,  or  giving 
undue  expression  to  his  admiration  or  affecdon, 
and  especially  against  entering  into  any  formal 
or  implied  alliances  until  the  time  has  arrived 
when  he  may  properly  feel  justified  in  contem- 
plating an  early  marriage. 

Every  young  man  should  seek  to  acquire  all 
the  information  and  knowledge  possible.  Any 
one  v.ho  will  go  through  this  world  with  his 
eyes  and  cars  open,  and  be  given  to   thought- 


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266   niiA  T  A  vo  vyo  max  0  vout  to  kso  w. 

ful  consideration,  may  becoir-  intelligent  and 
possessed  of  a},'re.it  fund  cf  useful  information 
and  kno\vledv;c.     /.  wise  man  L'arns  something' 
fnan    those    who    know    nothin;;    themselves. 
When  you  meet  a  farmer  ycu  have  an  opportu- 
nity l)y  thou-httul  and  considerate  ([ucstions  to 
secure  from  him  a  fund  of  information  concern- 
ing that  which  most  interests  him,  and  upon 
which  he  wiil  be  able  to  talk,  not  only  to  your 
profit,  but  to  his  satisfaction  and  pleasure.     Re- 
member that  convcr:.ation  is  not  simply  an  art, 
but  it  is  even  a  greater  art  to  know  how  to  listen 
well.     Peonlt.  are   always   pleased   with   those 
who  know  how  to  inquire  of  them,  and  then 
listen  attentively.     When    you   meet  the  me- 
chanic, or  the  manufacturer,  or  the  merchant, 
whether  simply  in  a  passing  moment  or  in  a 
prolonged  journey,  you  can  easily  find  an  op- 
portunity  for  the  acquisition  of  large  and  valu- 
able information.     Do  not  despise  that  which 
you  may  learn  from  the  humblest  person.     The 
messenger-boy,  the  servant,  the  man  who  keeps 
a  little  stand  on  the  corner  of  the  street,  the 
conductor  on  the  street-car,  the  hostler  at  a  hotel, 
a  mail-driver  ;  any  one  engaged  in  any  special 
department  of  work,  will  be  able  to  impart 
informatio..  which  will  prove  valuable  to  you  at 
some  future  time.     Do  not  fear  that  the  infor- 
mation which  you  secure  may  prove  of  no  value 
to  you,  for  knowledge  is  power.    Learn  to  think, 
and  to  use  the  information  which  you  acquire. 
The  youHL,^  man  who  desires   to  possess  a 
well-poised  sexual  nature,  a  strong  body,  a  well- 


WJUTA  YOlWa  MAN  OUGHT  TO  KSOW.    267 

Stored  n..nd,  and  to  start  in  life  with  such  prin- 
ciples, aims  and  ai.ibitions  as  will  secure  suc- 
cess, will  find  in  ^uod  books  one  of  hiij  j^^andcst 
helps.  Do  not  waste  your  moments,  and  espe- 
cially your  evenings— particularly  thclonj,' even- 
ings  of  tb;;  winter.  These  evenings  are  of  great 
value. 

In  the  larger  towns  and  cities  dissipations  of 
every  kind  tempt  many  .0  squander  the  only 
opportunity  they  can  ever  have  for  such  read- 
ing and  study  as  will  fit  them  to  laj  the  founda- 
don  for  subsequent  success.  The  boy  in  the 
country  is  therefore  often  the  best  situated. 
Some  of  the  most  useful  men,  from  the  time 
of  King  Alf-ed  until  now,  have  appreciated  the 
value  of  the  evening  hours.  Even  where  larger 
opportunities  are  imposs'ble,  the  young  man 
who  knows  how  to  usc  his  spare  time  and  his 
winter  evenings  will  soon  secure  the  equivalent 
of  a  college  education.  Select  some  good  books, 
and  give  yourself  to  reading ;  but  you  should 
select  them  judiciously,  and  then  read  them 
thoughtfully  and  studiously. 

Books  were  never  so  numerous,  so  cheap, 
and,  for  the  most  part,  so  worthless  as  to-day. 
A  man  in  India  picked  up  a  book  in  his  library 
and  was  stung  by  a  scorpion,  from  the  results 
of  which  he  died.  Books  are  full  of  danger, 
and  the  young  man  who  is  poisoned  by  their 
venom  may  be  poisoned  beyond  remedy.  The 
flying,  f  y  serpents  in  the  camp  of  ihe  Israel- 
ites were  not  more  numerous  or  more  deadly. 
But  there  are  many  good  books,  and  nj  young 


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man  can  he  well  informed  who  is  not  much 
Riven  to  rcailiriK.  l^ooks  are  a  means  of  bring- 
ing us  into  contact  with  the  best  thoughts  (,f  the 
best  men  upon  the  be-t  bub,jerts.  Ordinary  con- 
vc'sation  is  often  wasted  time,  but  conversati(;n 
with  a  wise  man  upc-n  a  well  chosen  subject  is 
always  helpful  and  protitable.  We  car.not  al- 
ways escape  from  those  whose  conversation  is 
worthless,  nor  always  command  those  whose 
thoughts  and  words  are  full  of  wisdom.  I]ut 
among  authors  we  may  alw.-ys  choose  the  great- 
est  and  best,  and  have  their  very  best  thoughts 
upon  subjects  the  most  useful  and  profitable. 

An  important  inquiry  with  every  young  man 
IS  Tv/iat  to  read.     Perhaps  we  can  be  most  com- 
prehensive  by  suggesting  first  of  all  what  not  to 
read.     Spend  no  time  upon  the  ordinary  daily 
newspaper.     The  most  of  them  are  thoroughly 
unreliable  and  unworthy  even  of  time  or  at'ten- 
tion.  ("let  //.r  best  druly,  and  read  only  sparingly. 
To  keep  infoi-med  on  current  events,  read  a'^re- 
liable  weekly.     The  prevalent  desire  to  know 
the    news    of    the    very    latest    minute    leads 
editors  to   publish   .umors,  to  write  accounts 
of  events  before  they  take  place,  and  to  tell  of 
sensational  things  which  never  happen  at  all. 
We  have  come  vpon  the  tini  ■  when  a  morning 
paper  is  regarded  as  ancient  three  hours  after 
breaklast.     The  evening  papers  are  now  pub- 
lished at  eleven  o'clock  in  the  forenoon. 

No  young  man  or  young  woman  can  afford 
to  read  fiction  before  they  are  t\vcnt>-five  years 
of  age.    There  is  too  much  that  is  indispensable 


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rUAT  A   I  OIWO  MAS  OLOIIT  TO  KSOW.    269 

for  intelli^jence.  for  l.iyinjr  of  foundation  prin- 
ciplcs  for  study,  for  business,  health  and  morals, 
that  need  to  he  read  first.     If  fiction  is  b-^'iin 
before  a  correct  taste  is  formed  and  foundation 
principles  laid,   the  best  books  will   never  he 
read  at  all.     The  haliit  of  reading'  rapidly  for 
the  simple  sake  of  the  story  will  destroy  the 
J)0wer,  and  even  the  wish,  to  read  thouj^htfully! 
and  seriously.  The  power  to  concentrate  thought 
will,  as  a  consequence,  never  bo  acquired.     A 
vitiated  taste  is  the  inevitable  result.     If  it  is 
important  that  the  body  should  be  fed  upon  the 
most  nourishing  food,  the  same  is  also  true  of 
that  upon  which  the  mind  is  to  be  fed. 

Kead  only  the  best.    Few  books  have  enough 
of  merit  to  enable  their  publisi.  rs  t-.  sell  the 
first  edition.     The  book  that  lives  five  years 
has  some  merit;  those  that  live  ten  have  more; 
but  many  of  the  best  books  are  twenty-five  and 
fifty  years  old  or  more.     In  science  begin  with 
the  simple  and  intelligible  books,  and,  if  you 
desire,  let  th-  more  abstruse  follow  later.     In 
the  realm  of  history,  the  standard  authors  are 
always  to  be  preferred.     There  have  been  too 
man/  great  and  good  men  to  devote  any  time 
to  reading  the  biographies  of  any  others.     Give 
much  time  and  careful  study  to  books  in  which 
men  of  eminence  and  character  give  wise  coun- 
sel to  young  men.    The  principles  discussed  are 
such  as  must  form   the  foundation  for  every 
manly  character  and  successful  career.    The 
Dooks  which  start  a  young  man  aright,  which 
■mpart  the  right  principles,  inspire  with  high  and 


270     WHAT  A   YOUSQ  MAN  Ol'OIIT  TO  KSOW 


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holy  .-imbition.  and  give  a  dauntless  and  undying 
puri)ose,  are  the  best  books. 

Next  in  importance  to  wl:at  to  read  is  how  to 
rcatl.  Never  read  rapidly.  Always  thoughtfully. 
Take  up  a  single  subjec  t  and  study  it  carefuliy. 
Take  notes,  analyze,  outline  what  you  read,  re- 
view what  you  have  read.     The  chapter  or' the 
bf^ok  that  contains  no  information  or  thought 
that  is  worthy  of  being  fixed  more  permanently 
by  summoning  a  second  time  before  the  mind. 
is  not  worth  reading  at  all.     In  reading,  as  in 
other     things,   give     yourself    absorbingly    to 
what  you  are  at.     "  VVhac  is  worth  doing  at  all, 
U  worth  doing  well."     You  cannot  read  every' 
thing,  and  do  not  be  so  unwise  as  to  attempt  it. 
Read  only  as  much  as  you  can  read  thoroughly! 
More  than  that  is  never  helpful,  but  is  often 
hurtful. 

The  young  man  who  fails  to  secure  for  him- 
self a  large  fund  of  knowledge  with  increasing 
mtcllectua!  and  moral  culture  cl.uring  the  first 
ten  years  after  entering  upon  life.  will,  more  than 
likely,    fail  eventually.     The    cidy  leisure  for 
young  men  is  dunng  the  first  ten  years,  and 
after  that  they  are  either  absorbingly  busy,  or 
persistently    idle    and     increasingly    ignorant. 
Many  men  who   have  nev'er  been  inside  the 
walls  of  a  college  have  acquired  more  informa- 
tion and  a  more  useful  fund  of  knowledge  than 
thousands   who  have  pursued  the   prescribed 
course  in  our  colleges  and  universities,  but  this 
is  not  the  character  of  all  who  go  to  colleije  or 
attend  the  universities. 


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!  ! 


njrii  A  i<t!.\(,  HAS  oKiiir  n>  ksow    271 

There  is  a  mcntnl  discipline,  strcn^'th   and 
grip  which  can  be  .-xciuired  in  a  Ion;;  course  of 
intellectual  training,  which  cannot  be  acquired 
in  any  other  way.     We  would  recommend  every 
young  man  lo  whom  such  a  cours:^  is  possible 
to  take  a  thoroui^h  college  training  in  the  very 
best  institution   possible.      To  those    w'lo  are 
poor,  the  idea  of  expense  may  at  first  seem  a 
formidable  obstacle,  but  this  can  be  overcome 
when  deliberate  judgment  and  indomitable  per- 
severance determine  upon  securing  this  desir- 
able re-.ult.     Many  of  the  most  useful  men  in 
the  world  are  those  who  have  saved  their  small 
earnings,  taught  school  during  vacation,  sold 
books,  or  engaged  in  some  profitable  employ, 
ment,  and  never  allowed  any  discouragement 
to  turn  them  aside  from  their  purpose  to  enjoy 
the  best  educational  advantages  which  our  in- 
stitutions of  learning  afford.     Most  of  our  col- 
leges and  universities  have  free  scholarships, 
and  oftentimes  funds  with  which  to  aid  young 
men  who  are  struggling  in  this  way  to  acquire 
an  education.     If  your  exchequer  is  low,  your 
aim  high,  and  you  greatly  desire  a  college  train- 
ing, enter  into  correspondence  with  the  presi- 
dent of  some  institution,  and,  sooner  than  you 
think,  you  rnay  be  successfully  on  the  way  to 
the  attainment  of  a  thorough  college  education. 
The  young  man  who  desires  a   useful  and 
successful  lite  makes  a  fatal  mistake  if  he  does 
not   conscientiously  and    reverently  keep  the 
Sabbath  and  reverence  the  Sanctuary.     "  The 
Sabbath  was  made  for  man  ;"  not  to  be  wasted 


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272     H'HA  T  A    vol  Wd  MA  .V  o I  t;n T  TO  A'AO »' 

in  idleness  or  devoted  t)  pleasure,  or  j^iven  to 
recreation,  Diit  to  be  dcvf?ted  to  man's  moral 
nature  and  needs.  After  six  <lays  of  labor  and 
business  afti\  ity,  the  Sabbath  is  ncvcssa:  y  for 
the  physical  well-bein^'  and  for  the  nurt;ire  and 
tlevclupment  of  the  moral  nature — to  round  nit 
and  perfect  the  entire  man.  The  man  who  c 
moral  nature  is  dwarfed  is  as  truly  deformed  as 
the  man  who  is  deficient  in  any  of  his  physical 
parts. 

Those  who  f.ul  to  observe  the  command, 
"  Remember  the  Sabbath  day  to  keep  it  holy." 
inflict  upon  themselves  a  great  wrong.  The 
man  wno  lives  to  be  seventy  years  of  age  will 
have  had  ten  solid  years  for  moral  development 
and  spiritual  j;rowth,and  yet  there  are  multitudes 
at  that  age  who  are  more  famdiar  with  the 
names  of  the  cards  in  a  euchre  deck,  than 
with  the  names  of  the  books  of  the  Bible.  Use 
your  Sundays  in  harmony  with  the  purpose  of 
the  institution  of  the  Sabbath,  and  you  will  be 
intelligent  and  upright. 

If  you  are  intelligent  you  will  respect  the 
Church.  No  other  institution  of  the  world  has 
so  moulded  and  shaped  the  destiny  of  tl  na- 
tions as  the  Christian  Church.  To  this  agency 
more  than  to  any  other  do  we  owe  the  blessings 
and  prosperity  which  we  enjoy  in  this  country 
to-day.  Close  tlie  churches  and  you  would 
have  to  double  the  police  force  inside  of  thirty 
days.  Proiic-ty  would  soon  depreciate  i  i  value, 
and  inside  ot  twelve  months  purchasers  couM 
not  be  found  at  any  price.     If  you  war.:  to  see 


WHAT  A  YOVXa  MAN  OiOIIf  TO  kWOW.    373 

what  this  country  would  be  without  the  influ- 
ence  of  the  Christian  Church,  you  have  simply 
to  cross  the  seas  and  jjo  to  Africa  or  China  and 
penetrate  into  the  interior,  and  vou  would  see 
tl;e  picture  of  what  would  be  true  in  this  roun- 
iry.  in  the  course  of  a  shorter  period  than  most 
men  suppose,  if  the  inlUjcnce  of  the  Christian 
Church  could  be  arrested. 

And  now  there  is  yet  one  helpful  aj,'en:y  thai 
I  desire  to  ronimcnd  to  your  thought.     It  asso- 
dates  itself  naturally  with  the  Church,  and  yet 
I-  distinct  from  it.     It  is  the  I5ihle-a  hook  which 
separates  itself  from  all  other  books,  and  de- 
serves to  be  spoken  of  alone.     It  is  a  book  which 
has  wielded  a  greater  influence  than  all  other 
l>«)oks  combined.     This  book  was  begun  some 
thirty-four  centuries  ago.  and  in  the  comple- 
tion of  it  some  thirty  or  forty  men   were   en- 
gaged  in  various  times  during  a  period  of  six- 
teen centuries.      Upon  it   prince  and  peasant 
sovereign  and  slave,  scholar  and  novice  each 
wrought  the   part  which   Cod  assigned  them. 
Men  in  various  conditions,  in  different  states  of 
society,    separatf^d   by  sea   and    land   in   ages 
widely  apart,    helped   to    complete   this   book 
which  records  the  remotest  past  and  reveals  the 
most  distant  future,  beginning  at  creation  and 
stretching  away   to  judgment-a   book    in  it:^ 
sccpe  and  design  transcending  any  human  pro- 
duction, and  with  its  methods  of  composition  at 
variance  with  all  human  authorship,  yet  em- 
bodying in  itself  an  individuality  which  brings  all 
this  diversity  into  one  essential  unity.    It  is  the 

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most  wonderful  book  In   the  whole  realm  of 
literature— the  atonement  its  central   thou^jhl, 
and   Llirist   its    central    fij^'ure.       Here    Dante 
found  the  theme  for  his   "  Divine   Comedia," 
and  Milton  the  theme  for  his  "  Taradisc  Lost" 
and   "  I'aradise   Regained."      Here   the  k^c.xX 
Sf  ulptors  found   the  subjects  for  their  chisels, 
;i ml  the  great   painters  the  inspiration  for  their 
p.v:ti"res.     Michael   An^elo's  Moses,   Leonardo 
lia  Vinci's  picture  of  The  I^st  Supper,  Rubens' 
Descent    from    the    Cross,   ant'    many  of    the 
choicest,  richest  and  rarest  treasures  of  the  art 
galleries  of  the  world  here  find  their  inspira- 
tion; here  Handel  comes  to  sinp  of  the  Mes- 
siah, and  musicians  come  'o  touch  their  sweet- 
est notes.      While  human  books  have  been 
shaped  by  the  opinions  and  spirit  of  the  a^je 
and  the  countries  which  produced  them,  this 
exceptional  book  antagonized  the  countries  and 
the   peoples  which  gave  it   birth.     Its  purj)ose 
was,  and  still  is,  to  set  up  a  kinj,'dom  of  truth 
and  righteousness,  not  only  in  the  hearts  and 
hal)it  itions  of  men,  but  among  the  nations  of 
the   cirth.      Its    plain   teachings    and    saving 
truths  are  suited  alike  to  rich  and  poor,  old  and 
youn;^',  learned  and  unlearned  bond  and  free. 
It  is  not  written  for  one  age,  or  for  one  nation, 
but  for   all  nations  and  for  all  ages  alike.     In 
sorrow  or  joy,  in   sickness  or  health,  in  life  or 
death  this  book  fits  into  the  needs  of  the  human 
soul  like  a  key  into  the  intricate  wards  of  the 
lock  whose  bolt  it  is  designed  to  throw  back. 
It  is  the  friend  and  herald  of  progress,  affect 


i*IUTA   yoiyoMAyoioilTTOK.SOU'.    275 

f.  I  en   and  by  sp.uual  ra^cncr.u.on  makes  .Ic- 
K.iclc.l  man  to  stand  up  in  the  likeness  of  (-.ocl 

Tc.h    urcver.       I"  .re  and  Hood,  war  and  pes- 
t.lcnce  iK.vc   not  been    su.fic.ent  to  destroy   it 
K.n«do,ns  have  risen,  flourished    and   pa  sed 
away    but  the   D.bic  remains.     Nfen  have  as 
s  ..led  .t  a-Kl  overturned  it.  but  it  has  been  like 

overturn.nK'acubeof,ran„e:Mtisjustas 
»>'^'  one  .ay  as  the  other,  and  wh   n  you  lu.ve 

ui>seUt..tisnKhts:deup.andwhenyouhac 

overturned    U  aga.n    it    is     .,ht  side  up    stdl 

-very  httle  while  somebody  bhms  up  the  U;ble 

Uu  w  hen  .t  comes  down  .t  always  h.hts  on  its' 
a«  ^and  runs   faster    than   ever    throu.d.   the 

Voun^^  man.  this  is  the  book  I  desire  to  com- 
mend to  you  above  all  other  books.  If  vou  dc- 
^re  to  be  intelli.^ent.  this  is  the  book  of'  which 
you  cannot  aCord  to  !,c  ignorant.  If  you  desire 
punty  and  virtue,  if  you  would  overcome  weak- 
.^ess  and  grow  strong  in  body,  if  you  desire  to 
be  the  peer  of  the  best  of  your  fellow-men   this 

.s  the  book  that  w.ll  show  you  the  way.  "f  'u 
would  understand  the  mystery  of  life  and  death 
here  you  will  find  its  greatest  revdntion.    I."  you' 
desire  to  walk  in  the  path  of  honor  and  integ- 
nty,  of  peace  and  prosperity,  this  book  will  be  a 

^a>.     Of  all  book3  this  is  the  best,  and  of  all 
belps  this  IS  the  greatest. 


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7-](>     miAT  A    )()t.\(i  MAS  Olt.in    lo  A.NOM 


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And  n«tw,  my  ilcir  yonn^'  friend,  wc  arc  about 
to  |)art.  In  my  t.ilks  with  \(tii  in  these  pa^'c^  I 
have  not  been  tint on^i  ion-,  of  tlie  iniportancc 
of  the  umlettakin^'  whi(h  I  jiropo-^rd  to  nij'self 
m  the  hc^inninj^'.  Wm  air  in  the  inid-.t  of  your 
formative  yt  ,rs.  I.aih  inthicncc  is  hclpinj,'  or 
hlndcrin^,^  hi.dihiiK'  »'P  '"■  tf-iriiiK'  down.  i->t.d)- 
h  liin^' o!  iinsettlin;,'  your  matd;  pt  ni  ipir-,  and 
iinpcri-%hal)Ic  ( h.»ra<  tor.  1-arh  year  voii  .ire 
niovin^r  onward,  cither  in  the  ri;;ht  or  in  the 
wton^'  (Urcction.  \<nir  acts  arc  forminij  habits, 
and  h.d)its    ..c  forming'  <  h.ir.ictrr. 

I  have  desircil  to  deal  honestly  and  frankly, 
to  impart  such  information  and  ins|)iiation  is 
would  prove  helf)f  il  to  you  in  the  struKK'e 
through  which,  with  other  young  men.  you  .ire 
no-.v  passing.  If  I  have  failed  in  'his,  then  my 
t:ii>c.  as  well  as  yours,  has  been  w.isted,  and  the 
writer  is  without  his  coveted  reward. 

And  now,  in  parting.  I  wish  to  press  upon 
your  thought  the  tact  that  neither  in  this  vvorld 
nor  in  the  world  to  come  ran  you  stand  still. 
Voii  must  ever  move  onward,  cither  upward 
or  downward.  Had  is  ever  hading  to  worse 
while  better  ever  fends  to  best.  One  ye.o- 
from  r  w  yof  will  be  either  more  a  man  or 
less  a  man.  Complete  victory  will  eventually 
be  cither  to  the  monster  or  to  the  man.  Trac- 
tice  will  make  perfect,  and  bad  practice  will 
make  perfectly  bad. 

The  young  man  who  fails  to  bring  lust  and 
passion  into  subjection  and  control  in  the  be- 
ginning has  a  dark  future   before  him.     Thc^e 


ui:.\T  A  rorxo  man  oraiir  to  A\nn:   277 

pa.>.inn-.  will  K'row  st.onK'rr  nnd  stron^'cr,  cwry 
lUi.r.il  .intl  rc.»v>n.il)le  ii.,tr.iint  \\M  he  hrokcn 
(loun.  until  .It  l.i-»t.  whin  cx.civc  itulul^'cnrc 
orati\arr  ir.^f  jcars  W.ix  c  him  wilhoiif  thr  power 
lon;:crto  at*  ..inpli-^h  his  ^  ,1c  purposes.  hi»  mind 
and  his  iina^jinaiKjU  will  (  oiuinu-   to  ^row  more 
and  more  c.irnipt.      I  very  physician  i^  hron^^ht 
Into  fie<iiirnt  c.nta.t  with  ii  -n.  both  old  and 
N'lUMK.  whose  ex<  esses  ai    1  .  „  «>5  have  rohi.ed 
thcni  of  .Iieir  power  to  pcrfi^im  their  vu  ions 
I)iirposes.  hut  whose  lack  of  j       cr  has  no  tffc.  t 
to  modify  or  correct  their  vile  wishes  and  efforts. 
^.  is  this  that  makes  old  men  w  ho  have  led  lives 
of  \icc  e.cn  more  danj^croiis  to  the  virtue  .\nd 
honor  of  the  youn^;  than  those  who  arc  in  their 
c  rlicr  years  and  possc?iscd  of  stron^'cr  passions. 
'I  here  are  multitudes  of  men  to  w  horn  the  sexual 
act  is  impossible,  hut  whose  ima^Mnations.  an<i 
even  their  lives,  continue  to  grow  steadily  worse 
and  Worse. 

Do  not  fail  to  value  and  use  every  aid  that  is 
calculated  to  help  you  onv»rd  in  the  right  di- 
rection, for  these  years  and  these  upporlunitics 
ate  given  you  in  order  to  develop  and  unfold 
tliat  character  which  constitutes  yourself,  and 
which,  even  in  the  world  to  come,  is  simply  to 
go  on  developing  and  developing  unto  perCec- 
lion.  If  in  this  life  you  seek  righteousness,  in 
the  world  to  come  you  will  continue  lO  advance 
unto  the  attainment  of  perfection.  If,  however, 
your  life  here  is  bad,  in  the  world  to  come  you 
will  continue  to  advance  ages  upon  ages,  ever 
becoming  worse  and  worsj.     If  upon  earth  you 


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cherish  si.i  in  your  heart  and  unfold  it  in 
your  life,  throughout  all  eternity  you  will  -o  on 
developing  in  that  same  direction,  until  you  be- 
come a  hideous  monster  of  iniquity. 

This  thought  is  impressively  presented  by 
Rev.  Dr.  John  Todd,  and  is  printed  in  the  auto- 
biography compiled  by  his  son.  That  these 
companion-pictures,  the  one  so  beautiful  and 
attractive,  the  other  so  awful  and  repellant.  may 
restram  from  sin  and  inspire  to  holiness  of  heart 
and  life,  we  present  them  here. 

"  Suppose  in  a  darkened  room  there  are  Ivincr 
the  remains  of  two  men-immortal  men-who 
lived  and  died  under  the  full  light  of  the  Bible 
They  have  both  just  breathed  their  last,  and 
both  are  just  about  commencing  that  life  and 
that  journey  which  will  neve:  end.     The  one 
was  a  converted,  prayerful  man.  who  lived  the 
life  of  a  Christian;  the  other  always  intended 
to  become  a  Christian,  but  lived  and  died  with- 
out any  interest  in  Jesus  Christ.    They  are  both 
dead,  and  have  finished  their  probation  on  earth 
They  died  at  the  same  moment.    As  soon  as 
they  have  left  the  body,  they  are  met  bv  a  cr,n- 
aucting  angel,  and  are  told  to  stop  a  few  minutes 
on  the  threshold  of  eternity  and  look  oti'  into 
the  future.     They  both  pause,  and  both  look 
onward  m  the  way  they  are  to  travel. 

"What  dost  thou  see.?'  says  the  guardian 
angel  to  the  Christian. 

••  •  I  see  a  land— oh,  how  beautiful !  Mountain 
and  valley,  lake  and  trees.  I  never  saw  any- 
thing so  fair !     I  never  saw  ^een  fields  before ' 


WHAT  A  YOVNQ  MAN  OUOUT  TO  KNOH'.    279. 

I   never  saw  ^(Kvcrs  before !     I  never  saw  a 
g-ar^/^n  before!   and.  as  my  eye  st.dchcs  off 
It  grows  fairer  and  fairer.     I    can   see  farther 
and  farther!     Oh,    I   can   see  off  in   the  dis- 
tance,   so   far   that   it   would   take   ages   and 
ages  to  reach  there;  and.  what  is  wonderful 
the  farther  I  look,  the  taller  are  the  trees,  the 
more  brilliant  the  skies,  the  fairer  the  llow'ers! 
Wonderful,  wonderful  glory ." 
''  •  But  why  dost  thou  start  ?*  says  the  angel. 
" '  I  see— I  see  ^  form  there— off  ages  hence ; 
oh,  how  large,  how  fair,  how  beautiful !     What 
an  angel  that  must  be'     uh,  teU  me,  whose  is 
that  form— say,  angel,  whose  ?' 

"  But  the  angel  is  gone.  He  is  now  standing 
by  the  side  of  the  other  soul— the  unconverted 
man. 

"  •  What  seest  thou !' 

"  •  Oh.'  says  h-,  •  I  am  looking  off  over  those 
dreary,  barren,  parchcc  .ields.  over  those  burn- 
ing mountains,  over  tLose  rivers  like  ink,  over 
those  dark,  dark  openings  that  yawn  like  cav- 
«-ns  in  the  far  distance!     Alas  !  there  is  not  a 
green  spot  in  nil  the  vision,  not  a  single  flower 
in  all  the  landscape,  not  a  star  in  all  the  dark- 
ened heavens,  not  a  restmg-place  for  the  foot  in 
all  the  journey !     And  the  farther  I  look— and 
I  can  see  farther  than  I  can  travel  in  ages— 
an-^  the  farther  I  look  the  more  dreary  it  be- 
comes, the  more  awful  and  gloomv  the  open- 
ings.    Oh!  oh!' 
"  •  Why  dost  thou  start  back  ?'  says  the  angel 


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280     WHA  T  A  YO  USQ  MA  N  0  VOIIT  TO  KNO  h'. 

"  '  OV,  I  see  in  the  far  distance  a  most  horrid 
creature !  What  a  form  !  What  self-made  scars 
does  he  bear  !  What  a  mouth  of  blasphemy  ! 
What  a  terrible  sinner !  What  a  horrid  ere?*  - ! 
Oh,  an^'cl,  can  a  created  being  ever  becor  e 

him  ?• 

"  '  Watch  and  see,'  says  the  angel. 

"  Again  the  angel  stands  by  the  side  of  the 
Christian. 

"  '  Hast  thou  found  out  who  that  being  is?' 
says  the  angel. 

'•'No,  no;  but,  oh,  how  beautiful  his  gar- 
ments :  how  elastic  his  step !  how  swe^t  his 
songs  !  How  g!,.rious  a  being  how  tall  how 
wonderful !     Oh,  that  I  could  see  his  face  !' 

"  '  There,  now,  he  is  about  to  withdraw  the 
veil ;  dost  thou  know  him  ?' 

"  '  O  angel,  it  is— it  is'  myself!  myself  f  Ten 
thousand  ages  hence  I  shail  be  that  being!  It 
is.  oh,  it  is — myself!' 

"  '  Hast  thou  learned  who  tiiat  horrid  creature 
is  ?'  says  the  angel  to  the  sinner. 

"  '  No,  oh,  no !  I  have  watched  him,  and 
have  wanted  him  to  withdraw  that  veil,  and 
yet  have  shuddered  to  have  him  !  I  don't 
know  why." 

"  '  There,  now,  he  is  about  to  withdraw  it.' 

'•'Myself:  iiiyse/ff  myself!  O  angel,  take 
away  the  vision  !  I  shall  sink  under  it  1  Ages, 
ages  hence,  I  shall  be  like  /lim,  nay,  shall  be 
him,  shall  I  ?     I'm  coming  to  that,  am  I .?    I 


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must  tread  over  that  dreary  region.  I  must 
climb  over  those  burning  mount.Kns,  I  must 
stalk  on,  and  on,  and  on,  growing  great,  awful, 
hideous  in  sin,  till  I  become  that  monster  of 
guilt !  What  an  eye  !  what  a  forehead  !  what  a 
being !  and  that's  me!  that' sine  /  that's  me  I*  " 


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BY  SYLVANUS  STALL,  D.  a 

C>acleased  Table  of  Cooteots 
PART  r. 
Ood'i  puiTX)^  in  cndowinK  plantn.  animali  and  man 
with  rcprcKluctive  power—  I  he  <iiit!siion  of  the  origin  of 
life  a  natural  and  proper  one— DifTerpnce  between  creat- 
ing and  malcinK—Iluw  God  now  creates  or  reproduce! 
the  flowers,  insects  fishes  and  animals— The  mamma 
•nd  papa  plants  and  the  Iwihy  planfH—Thr  mamma 
and  papa  nature  in  the  sUIk  of  corn— The  two  naturei 
united  in  the  same  flower— Separated  in  other  plants— 
The  otfict  of  the  wind  and  insects  in  fertiliziiiK  the 
nowera — The  mamma  and  papa  natures  united  iii  the 
«ai»^  oyster—The  life  of  the  i>a(>y  oyster— The  two  na- 
tures separated  in  the  fishes— The  eg^s  and  the  baby 
fishe»— 'How  seeds  are  made  to  grow  and  how  eggs  are 
hatched— The  beautifid  lives  of  parent  bircrr— The 
urd's  nest,  the  eggs  and  the  baby  birds— Why  the  eggs 
of  animals  may  not  be  exposed  in  a  nest— The  nest 
which  God  has  prepared  for  them— The  hatching  of  the 
egg  or  the  birth  of  the  animal— The  creation  <>?  Adam 
»nd  Kve— God  created  man  with  power  s'milar  to  his 
creativv  power— The  purity  of  parentage. 

PART  II 
The  manner  In  which  the  reproductive  organs  are  in- 
jured in  boj-1  by  abuse — Comparativeanatomy,  or  points 
of  resemblance  between  bodies  of  bi'ds,  auimuls  and 
man— Man  the  only  animal  with  a  perfect  hand— With 
the  hand  he  constructs,  builds  and  blesses— With  the 
hand  he  smites,  slays  and  injures  others,  and  degrades 
himself. 

PART  III 
The  consequences  In  boys  of  the  abuse  of  the  repro- 
uctive  organs— Need  of  proper  information— The  moral 
effects  first  to  manifei-.  themselves— How  secret  sin  af- 
fects the  character  of  boys— Hffects  upon  the  body  and 
the  nerves— Effects  upon  the  brain  and  mlud— The 
pbyaicpl  effects  that  follow. 

PARTS  rv  and  V 
How  boys  mav  preserve  their  bodies  in  purity  and 
strength — Our  duty  to  aid  others  to  avoid  pernicious 
habits,  and  to  retain  or  regain  their  purity  and  strength. 

PARTS  VI  and  VII 
How  purity  and  strength  may  be  measurably  re- 
gained—The age  of  adolescence  or  puberty  and  Us  Wi 
fendant  changes — its  significance  and  its  dangers, 

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WHAT    EMINENT    PEOPLE    SAY 
Theodore  L.  Cuyler,  D.D. 

"•Wh«t  a  Younfc  Hoy  OiiRht  to  Know'  ought  to  be  in 
every  home  where  there  is  a  boy." 

Lady  Henry  Somerset 

*•  Calcnilated  to  do  nn  immense  amount  of  good.  I 
•Incercly  hope  it  may  5nd  its  way  lu  many  homes." 

Joseph  Cook,  D.  D.,  LL.  D. 

"It  is  everywhere  lUKjrestive,  inspiring  and  strateRic 
in  a  deg^ree,  as  I  think,  not  hitherto  matched  in  litera- 
ture of  its  class." 

Charles  L.  Thompson,  D.D. 

"  'tVhy  was  not  this  book  written  centuries  ago  ?  *' 

Anthony  Comstock 

**  It  lifts  the  mind  and  thoughts  upon  a  high  and  lofty 
plane  upon  delicate  subjects." 

Edward  TT.  Bok 

"It  has  appealed  to  me  in  way  which  no  other  book 
of  its  kind  has." 

Bishop  John  H.  Vincent,  D.D.,  LL. D. 

"You  have  handled  with  great  delicacy  and  wisdom 
an  exceedingly  difficult  subject." 

John  Willis  Baer 

"  I  feel  confident  that  it  can  do  great  good,  and  I  mean 
that  my  boys  shall  have  the  contents  placed  before 
them." 

Mrs.  Mary  A.  Livermore,  LL.  D. 

"Full  of  physiological  truths,  which  all  children 
ought  to  know,  at  a  proper  age  ;  will  be  read  by  boys 
without  awakening  a  prurient  thought." 

Josiah  Strong,  D.D. 

"  A  foolish  and  culpable  silence  on  the  part  of  most 
parents  leaves  their  children  to  learn,  too  often  from 
vicious  companions,  sacred  truth  in  an  unhallowed 
way." 


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BY  SYLVANUS  STALL,  D.  D. 
CMdeoMd  Table  of  Contenti 

I'AKT  I 
WHAT  HE  OroiIT  TO  KNOW  COI*CE»NINO  HIMSELF 

The  true  foundalion  for  hnpplneM  in  marrrd  lifi^ 
cT^^n'^e^' rr  "^T.^l'l -r^e--'^' to  the  othe^rnd 


complete  only  whc„~„;aecd::iTWe"VhV;VVhVoriT;^^^^^^^ 
coition-   the   correct   theory-The   phy.icnl  cof?  of 
creat  on— tlliistrni^l   i„    i.,.L-..   _..i*:    X  '^"' .'^°"  °' 


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PART  II 

WHAT  HE  ODGHT  TO  KNOW  CONCER^  IWO  HIS  WIF» 

I  THE   1IUII>K 

«.J^H,"V''^^*.*'t"°u '^'"«  vent  in  a  woman's  life^ 
F?w  in.  lV*"*^'= ''*''^'?- "'"*' P'"""?  hu.band,  makel 
Hnr.iV^ir'''^*""/  J^"*--'''*"'  or  thefr  brides-VhreefoW 
clasaificaUou  of  women— Causes  of  differences.    "* 

II  TlIK  WIKB 

r  ,11  ^^''''i^''^.  'J"''^r'  "?  ^'^*'  "Other  and  housekeeper 
— (.od  has  fitted  her  for  her  sphere— The  mother-natOre 
-Uarrenncssand  sterility-Physical  social  intHli^tufll 
and  moral  benefits  of  iiiothe^rho^  a^d  VatherSd- 
Aversion  and  evasion-Gods  purpose  in  raarr^aR^U'^ 
itat.on  of  offspnng-Marital  excess-The  wroiT^r^^hich 
b^.nd'J^K.'.Lr^"''*  of  ignorant  and  unthrnkinrhui 
bands-  Kcpcllant  periods  in  the  life  of  woman. 

in      THE    MOTHER 

Purposed  and  prepared  parenthood— Conceotion—Th*. 
marvels  of  fcjctaflifeand  growth-^hanfi  •»  .?i.rin7T!!! 
months  of  gestation-The^'husband-s  d  i?y  to  w  f.?  and 
offspnng-What  the  wife  has  a  right  to  exoeTt^efor^ 
svmi"th:!.rT^r'"T"'^',«"°^^"t  ""tfi^nki^g  LnS  S^^^^ 
symiwthetic  busbands-The  child  in  the  home— Reel 
life  and  gennine  happiness-The  mother  while^rshfJ 
-Protection  of  chilclVrom  impure  nurses  """^suig 

PART  III 

WHAT  HE  OUGHT  TO  KNOW  CONCERNING  HIS  CHILDREW 

«^"f'^''>7^''^''«tal    influences- Physical    conditions 

L^d  ^fl^nrfn  ^"°'^'PV°°-^^"-P«'^"'t"^^Essenrik Is  of 
seed,  soil  and  care— "Longings,"  markings  etr  r^r, 
sex  Of  Offspring  be  Rovernedicause  of  °5i^f^-^,^d° 
ness.  etc.-Vhe  right  to  be  well-born-R-rental^iscinHM 
during  first  two  year^Duties  during  childhwKJur! 
sery  influences-Honest,  answers  to  Lnest  i^irie^ 
How  to  secure  punty  in  thought  and  life  of  cSrl^ 

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WHAT  EMINENT  PEOPLE  SAY 
Chat.  M.  Sb€\doa,  D.  D. 

"I  b^HcTc  the  book  will  do  iTTt"    Kood  and  I  hon^  li. 

R-v.  F.  B.  Meyer,  B.  A. 

-Hi.''^'"*?"^/.''"""*"'*  ^f"'*  ««'^e»  of  tnanualii  which  »ri> 
P-Mirn  ••  "'  pandering  to  unholy  and  ieDBu.! 


Hon.  S.  M.  Jones 

h-.'ve'b«n"l^J°»"^'*"''  my  study  of  It  Indicates  that  you 
of  the  mnJhlil^J^  ?  P"Z*^  ^":''  for  vour  kind  to  write  one 

mVpriv"JSe^'•cl^i:;^rl^„'^••3.Ts."  '''"^ ''  '"^" 

Bishop  John  H.  Vincenf,  D.  D.,  LL,  D. 

AwDvLi.ah?';'''"''^'  ^.'r*"*'  ^*'"^-  '^''^^  »"d  convincing 
A  copy  ought  to  go  with  every  marriage  certificate  " 

Rev.  Newell  Dwlght  Hlllia 

diffio,!u\rKi°'^'*""5  '?"*'  helpful  contribution  to  a  most 
difficult  subject,  and  Us  reading  will  help  to  make  tliV 
American  home  happier  and  more  safely  ^ardJ^' 

Rev.  A.  C.  Dixon,  D.  D. 

and  ofd'*  ^rh^'lJ.v  '"/^9'nra^nding  it  to  husbands,  young 

fmt.Aant  subwf,*'h'^"2''"""  o"  these  delicate  bu! 
iiujjuriant    stiDjects    has   done    much    tn    innr.xic.    ♦»,« 

business  of  divorce  cjurts  and  w"eck  ho^es  "  ^ 

Amos  R.  Wells 

so'Jff^n  hn^Z'f  ^'^  '"fi^i'^'y  stronger  in  body  and 
Us  pre^pti-  '  °     •""  '^'^  ^^^  ^"'l  f°"o'^ 


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to  Know/' 

BY  SYLVANUS  STALL.  D.  D. 
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TART    I 
WHAT  IIR  OUGHT  To  KNOW  CONCKRNIN 
HlMSHi.I' 

turn  of  i....l<irr.lifc-Sad  rc<,uU,o7.ucrgMor,,,*^i™ 

cnangr  or  life    cxcuta  In  men— <:i  nwctcHc  ami  n,l„i— _ 

hc^ualTi^h     .r   '*-;«^""iI»<-"««lo«>l.*»hich   follow 
iiicnrxuai  niisn — l'hvit(ca>  and  mental   rttrft. ci,... 

at  their  best  after  m-xu«I  hu.h-To   them   lime  and  r. 

^lihZln°^?^'^^l'  "*^"»  tr«..ure;^MXr.'ron?n 
Mviiu    *2  *njoi,.„,_s«.,„.,   mo.leration   rnnhasiifH- 

H  J    f^Jj*^/^'^^"^^'  ''"'^  Pr"erve,l-Hff,!^U  of  «er 
clutfo^a^T^Ulr'f    '"'"^ 

.SrJeT.^S«J:.dTfi;^?^K^LTro?;{!'''!^ 

-hTfT,     ''  >""  beyond-  The   man  at  Tur^y  determinV: 

reVp':;;inT.Vd^^;ffir-ri«„!57.-«'-  «^  i^^i^^ 

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WHAT  HE  OUGHT  TO  KNOW  COHCKRNINO 

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active  and  repellent  periods  in  life  of  woma^-^l^a; 
tcricorchanKeof  life  the  most  repJl^TpcrlS'lTi^ 
^f,S"*Th"/t.S^  menstruation  only  an'^utwaX^a^iT.^u^ 
tion-The  phenomenon  explained--Rrason8  for  chnn^,r 
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to  meet  he  menopause-Occupntion.  diet  fresh  aTr^T 
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'  unUs'^hrch  Lu^nd  r,^'"'"" '"  "*"""«  "^"-The  a  h^i 

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I'ART  I 

Th«  origin  of  tlfc— <^n«  plan  !■  ell  forrna  of  life — Ham 

pUnta  gro-w  from  the  •♦ed— Thry  fee<l  on  Ihe  toil,  grow 

I  and    nuiture— lluw    the    pUnt    reproduces   ittrif— Th« 

flower,  the  pollen,  the  po«l,  the  seed— The  office  of  »>««• 

•nd  iiuccta  in  fertilisation. 

PART  If 

PLihea  and  their  young— The  parent  fiahaj  and  th« 
baby  fiahr*— T.:'  aeeda  of  pUnta  and  egga  of  fiahea, 
blrdaand  anlmala — How  fiahea  neve r  know  their  tiaby 
offipriog— 4Varm  Mocded  animal*— '  taaooa  from  birda 
—Their  neata,  egga  and  little  onea. 
PA^T  III 

A  aimala  and  their  young— The  place  which  God  haa 
prr pared  for  their  young— Beginning  their  independent 
life— Human  babiea  the  moat  hrlpleaa  ard  dependent  of 
all  oreaturet- The  relations  of  parent  and  child— Th« 
child  a  part  of  each  parent— Heredity  and  ita  leaaona. 
PART  IV 

Th*  value  of  good  health— The  care  of  the  body— Tb« 
body  a  temple  to  be  kept  holy — Girla  ahould  receiva 
their  inati-uctlon  from  thei'  mothera— The  body  the 
garment  which  the  aoul  weara — Effects  of  thought* 
Bfxm  life  and  character— Value  of  good  companions, 
good  books  and  good  Influencea— What  It  is  to  bccom* 
«  woman. 


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Coadetaed  Table  of  Conteots 

PAKT  I 

CHILDHOOD  AND  GROWTH 

Woman's  worth — Importance  of  care  of  the  body- 
How  to  obUiin  health— Waste  and  rt-pair— Q\iestion9  of 
food— Importance  of  rest  in  sleep— Tho  office  ami  im- 
portance of  correct  breathing— Injuries  from  tight 
clothing— Physical  culture— Kxcrcise  and  recreation— 
The  value  of  the  bath. 

PART  II 

.  ■WOMANnOOD 

The  endo't^ment  of  new  powers— The  conferring  of 
life — Brai  i  building  and  cliaractcr  formation— Soul  and 
self— Special  physiology— Woman's  special  bodily  en- 
dowments—The crisis  in  the  girl's  life— Ovulation  and 
menstruation— Th  ir  significance — Causes  and  cures  of 
disturbed  physical  conditions — Painful  periods  and  dis- 
placements—Special  care  of  1  eaith  at  special  times- - 
Many  healthful  suggestions  suited  to  the  physical  needs 
of  young  .vomen— Secret  vice  and  its  consequences— The 
relation  of  pure  young  women  to  young  men— Friend- 
(liipd. 

PART  in 

What  is  love— Should  include  mental  conjugality, 
spiritual  sympathy  and  physical  attraction— Responsi- 
bility in  marriage— Antecedents,  talents  and  habits  of 
youns  man— The  law  of  heredity— Beneficial— Eflects  of 
^■imulant.supon  ofTspring — Inherited  effects  of  immor- 
ality—Good characteristics  also  transmitted— Requisites 
in  a  husband— Engagements— Benefits  of,  evils  of— 
Holding  to  the  highest  ideals— Weddings— Gifts,  tours 
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BY  MRS.  EMN5A  F.  A.  DRAKE,  M.  D. 
Condensed  Table  of  G)ntents 

HUSBAND  ANO  HOME 

The  choice  cf  a  husl>aiid— One  worthy  of  both  love  and 
respect — Real  characteristics  neccssarj' — Purity  vs.  "wild 
oats  " — What  shall  a  youiift  wife  expect  to  be  to  her  hus- 
band?— His  equal,  but  not  his  counterpart— His  helpmeet 
Wifehood  and  motherhood— Should  keep  pace  with  his 
mental  ((growth — Trousseau  and  weddinff  presents — The 
foolnh  .''nd  ruinous  display  af  weddings — Wedding  pres^ 
ents  and  unhapp'ness — \V*ise  choice  of  furniture — The 
best  adornments  for  the  home. 

THB  MARITAL  RELATIONS 

The  marital  state  shot" Id  be  the  most  holy  of  sanctua- 
ries— Its  influence  upon  character — Movlest'y- Reproduc- 
tion the  primal  purpose — I<ove's  highest  plane — The 
right  and  wrong  of  marriage — The  wrongdoings  of  good 
men. 

rARCNTHOOD 

Preparation  for  motherhood— Motherhootl  the  glory  of 
womanhood — Maternity  pror"  .ctive  of  health— Clothinjir 
— Exercise — Baths,  etc.,  etc.— The  child  the  expression  of 
the  mother's  thoughts — The  five  stages  of  prenatal 
culture. 

PREPARATION   FOR   FATHERHOOD 

Questions  which  test  the  fitness  of  young  men  for 
marriage — Many  young  men  of  startling  worth — Effects 
of  bad  morals  ana  wayward  habits — Tobacco  and  Alco- 
holics— Attaining  th.  best — The  father  reproduced  in  hia 
children. 

ANTENATAL  INFANTICIDE 

The  moral  responsibility  cf  parents  in  heredity — The 
mother's  investment  of  moulding  power- Parents  workers 
together  with  God — Ailments  durinjf  expectant  mother- 
hood— Maternity  a  normal  state — Development  of  the 
foetus — Minuteness  of  the  germ  of  human  life — Changes 
which  take  place — Life  present  the  moment  conception 
takes  place — The  sin  of  tampering  with  the  work  of  the 
Infinite. 

THE  LITTLE  ONE 

Baby's  w.-'-^.robe— The  question  that  comes  with  flut- 
tering signs  I  life — Importance  of  wise  choice  of  materia  1 
and  style  of  dress — Choice  of  physician  and  i:  ■  rse  of  real 
consequence — The  birth  amber — Surr^mndings  and 
afterore  of  the  mother —  i  ae  care  of  the  baby — The  re- 
sponsibilities and  joys  of  motherhood — The  mother  the 
baby's  teacher — Common  ailments  of  children  and  how 
to  treat  them — Guarding  against  vice — The  training  o^ 
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Mrs.  Booker  T.  Washington 

nnH   !P**?^.y";»tcrday  and  Ust  night  reading  yourbor.k 

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u7ii^"?**'"^*L*?"'?.'^"«"  *°  «  manner  a«.  firm  as  it 
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V.  G.  Sperry,  M.  D. 

"Young  wives,  for  whom  this  book  is  intended  will 
receive  great  benefits  from  heeding  its  wise  worui.  It 
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BY  MRS.  EMMA  F.  A,  DRAKE,  M.  D. 
Condemed  Table  of  G>ntenti 

KWOWLKDOK  OF  CLIMACTEUIC  NKCBSAAftT 

Why  women  are  not  prepared  to  meet  the  climacteric 
—The  fear  that  unnerve*  many— Error  of  views  concern- 
ing 'Change  of  Life  "—Correct  teaching  sUted— In- 
fluence of  medical  literature— Three  periods  in  a 
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ills— The  menopauye— Conditions  which  influence  th" 
period  of  the  climacteric— The  age  at  which  it  usually 
appears— Effects  of  heredity— Childless  women- Moth- 
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HERALDS  OF  CHANGE— DISBAaES  AlTD  REMEDIEa 

MenUl  sUtes  during  menopause— Change  in  blood 
currents— Flushes,  chilliness,  dizziness,  etc.— Nervous 
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attentions-Wife's  duty  to  her  husband— Holding  hus- 
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ness. 

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Influence  of  mind  over  body— The  mind  as  a  curative 

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due  to  the  difficulty  of  hastily  selectitH^  Scriptural  pa** 
«.T,es  suited  to  the  service,  it  mi^jht  be  difTicult  to  deter' 
mine.  Hut  fully  persuaded  tli.it  this  is  an  obstacle  of 
I  otisiderabl'- niomeiit,  I)r  Stall,  after  some  three  year's 
work,  has  selected  a  series  of  ^f)S  <1-  votioiial  rea<liin;s 
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